Married Taurus Male

I've known this man for almost 10 years (before he got married in 2007). Last year in October, (we're coworkers) he confessed his love for me and I was shocked because I felt the same way!! He said he wished he knew how I felt before he got married because he would have married me. He said I intimidated him and he was always so nervous around me. Cheating has never been OK with me but we are so connected emotionally, mentally and now physically that I just don't know what to do anymore. He is the sweetest man ever...always taking care of me and making sure I'm ok. There hasnt been a single day since last October that we havent talked...no lie. He says we are like ying and yang. I know I'm going to get a lot of hate for being a home wrecker blah blah blah....but my question is....are taurus men cheaters? I've always read that they are the most loyal of the zodiac. He told me he asked his wife (aries) for a divorce and she flipped out on him. Threatened to take his kids away from him. He's told me how controlling and unstable she is....has a very bad temper...acts like a little kid. He doesn't want to be with her but doesn't know how to end it.

Has any other scorpio women felt this type of connection with a man? I'll be 31 this year and I've had my fair share of partners but no one comes close to him. He is so patient with me, loves every once of me, tells me everyday how he misses me and loves me, how he wouldn't know what to do without me. Told me he'd take a bullet for me. He once told me he wishes he was my daughters father...who says that?? He is a typical taurus in so many ways, slow, stable financially, loves good food and music, hard working but lazy at the same time lol but then he's so loving and expressive...tells me how he's feeling or what he's thinking.

I don't know...I guess I just need to vent and maybe talk to someone who's been in the same situation? I don't like being the other woman at any means...but I can't live without him. I don't think I will ever find someone who makes me feel the same way like he does. I'm such a water sign...I go with how I FEEL.

Actually...we haven't had sex. Just kissing and hugging. He is very respectful.

It took him almost a year to kiss me

Lol. You are late in posting about your chemistry with that married taurus man.. I had that.. no sex and the feelings were so strong.. and It took me time to quit my job. Where is the * respect * if you both already lapsed each boundary. You have dignity then enough to tell him that it must be *NO* kissing etc.

I know impulse...I'm so lost. I stay up at night thinking about everything and it drives me crazy. Sometimes I want to walk away but I can't.

Posted by Rabbit

Posted by JadeMonroe
Actually...we haven't had sex. Just kissing and hugging. He is very respectful.

Of who?

Certainly not his wife.

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Amen.

Why no kissing? Emotional cheating is far worse than physical cheating. I know we've crossed the line...but there's no going back now...we have both agreed about this. We've tried to just be friends but it's just not possible.

People are so judgmental...my goodness 🙂 not everyone is perfect... we all sin in different ways

and now you are trying to defend the wrong things you did and threw people here that we are judgemental - Shame on you...

I'm just trying to vent and maybe get some sort of clarity. I'm not defending the wrong things I've done because I haven't done anything wrong. You may think I have

Lol Rabbit...that's funny since I haven't had sex in 2 years

If he really wanted to be with you he would get a divorce. If he wanted you a long time ago he wouldn't have married his wife. He is making up excuses so he can have you and his wife. This has nothing to do with astrology. Believe what you want but you both are not good people. You CANNOT date someone who is already married. If you were to ever be his, he will do the same to you when the passion wears off.

Not bashing...just life experiences talking.

Posted by JadeMonroe
I'm just trying to vent and maybe get some sort of clarity. I'm not defending the wrong things I've done because I haven't done anything wrong. You may think I have

Fool cannot accept the truth. Believe me there is more hope to a bitter woman than a fool.

He hasn't had any of this ass and won't...it's not about sex with us

My question was are taurus men known cheaters?

Trust me once he gets "that ass" you will see his true colors. Pine away sweetheart!

Posted by Impulsv
Ill stop commenting because u dont get. Waste of my time

This I suppose to say but read your comments Impy. Yeah I agree. She don't even understand. I called her Fool already. sorry to say.

I've been celibate for 2 years so sex is out of the question

Does calling me a whore make you feel better about yourself?

I didn't know we couldn't say bad words hahaha

I meant does calling me whorish make you feel better about yourself? 🙂

I know my post may seem like I'm naive and stupid...but I'm not. Just trying to deal with all of these feelings and emotions going on right now. I can't help the way I feel. I know in order for us to proceed he must get a divorce. Which he plans on doing. I don't think I'm ready for the hurt that will come if we end our relationship /friendship

Jade I don't think you are grasping what people are telling you. You have still been emotionally and physically intimate with him, therefore having an affair behind his wife's back, regardless if you have had sex with him or not. You are in the wrong, maybe not as much as him as you hold no responsibility to his wife (it was him that took those vows), but none the less, you are still doing something that is highly frowned upon so you really shouldn't be so surprised by peoples judgemental attitude.

I think you two deserve each other honestly, I feel for his wife though because he's not going to tell her the truth and leave her. She will remain in the dark while he has his cake and eats it too. The excuse he gave you for why he can't divorce her is the same damn excuse you hear a million times from others posting on this site, in movies, books etc and yet you all still bloody believe it.

If he really wanted to be with you then he would make it happen. If he is worried about what his wife will do if he were to be honest and say he doesn't want to be with her anymore, then can you just imagine what she would do if she found out about your little affair? That right there is a tell tale sign that he's just giving you sweet nothings, telling you what you want to hear. Because if he honestly cared about his children, and his wife not letting him see them then he wouldn't be having an affair in the first place, the risk would be too great. Yet he does it anyway, which means he can't possibly really care.

Get a grip and some self respect while you are at it!

Posted by JadeMonroe
.... He is so patient with me, loves every once of me, tells me everyday how he misses me and loves me, how he wouldn't know what to do without me. Told me he'd take a bullet for me....

And yet, he can't even ask his wife for a divorce. Hmph. Okay. Nice words. Lacks sincerity, so they don't amount for very much.

Posted by JadeMonroe
.....but I can't live without him....

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And yet, you manage to live just fine for 30+ years "without" him.

You both seems to deserve each other. Overly dramatic and full of meaningless words in an effort to convince the other this is the real deal and validate what you're doing. Meh.

Btw, you're not "with" him. You're sharing him.

We do deserve each other 🙂

Posted by JadeMonroe
Actually...we haven't had sex. Just kissing and hugging. He is very respectful.

So, when he finally leaves his wife and you're together you'll be cool with him hugging and kissing another woman. How exactly do you define respect?

Well he's cheating on his wife with you, so of course Taurus males can be cheaters.

If they divorce, are you okay with being apart of another woman's heartache?
If the two of you get into a relationship, do you think you would be able to live in peace with him?

I'm just wondering, Scorpio women can already be a little paranoid. Would you not be on edge thinking the same thing can happen to you that happened to her?

I just don't see how this will be a peaceful and happy ending for you, or him. The saying has proved to be true, that you lose them how you get em.

Posted by scorpvixen
Jade I don't think you are grasping what people are telling you. You have still been emotionally and physically intimate with him, therefore having an affair behind his wife's back, regardless if you have had sex with him or not. You are in the wrong, maybe not as much as him as you hold no responsibility to his wife (it was him that took those vows), but none the less, you are still doing something that is highly frowned upon so you really shouldn't be so surprised by peoples judgemental attitude.

I think you two deserve each other honestly, I feel for his wife though because he's not going to tell her the truth and leave her. She will remain in the dark while he has his cake and eats it too. The excuse he gave you for why he can't divorce her is the same damn excuse you hear a million times from others posting on this site, in movies, books etc and yet you all still bloody believe it.

If he really wanted to be with you then he would make it happen. If he is worried about what his wife will do if he were to be honest and say he doesn't want to be with her anymore, then can you just imagine what she would do if she found out about your little affair? That right there is a tell tale sign that he's just giving you sweet nothings, telling you what you want to hear. Because if he honestly cared about his children, and his wife not letting him see them then he wouldn't be having an affair in the first place, the risk would be too great. Yet he does it anyway, which means he can't possibly really care.

Get a grip and some self respect while you are at it!

1000% agree!!!

Posted by lnana04
Well he's cheating on his wife with you, so of course Taurus males can be cheaters.

If they divorce, are you okay with being apart of another woman's heartache?
If the two of you get into a relationship, do you think you would be able to live in peace with him?

I'm just wondering, Scorpio women can already be a little paranoid. Would you not be on edge thinking the same thing can happen to you that happened to her?

I just don't see how this will be a peaceful and happy ending for you, or him. The saying has proved to be true, that you lose them how you get em.

Exactly...kids are involved as well so his wife will still be in his life on some level.

Thank you Inana04...your comment has made my wheels turn and look at this situation from a different view. I knew I was going to get a lot of animosity from everyone....but was hoping for someone to say something that really made me think.

Posted by JadeMonroe
I've known this man for almost 10 years (before he got married in 2007). Last year in October, (we're coworkers) he confessed his love for me and I was shocked because I felt the same way!! He said he wished he knew how I felt before he got married because he would have married me.

And cheated on you, instead.


This topic can't be real. lol

I do have a vibrator....that's not the problem. Being celibate is a personal choice. I stopped having meaningless sex.

if both of you believe you are each others true love and he made a mistake marrying someone else, then "without" your involvement, he can work on getting his situation corrected while you wait for him. "without your involvement" is important because you wouldn't want the start of your togetherness tainted. maybe one of you should change job so you can leave him be completely until his status changes.

Posted by JadeMonroe
People are so judgmental...my goodness 🙂 not everyone is perfect... we all sin in different ways

Not all of us stick our heads in the toilet, though.

I am a Taurus woman and I am not a cheater, the Taurus’s I know are not cheaters. We are very loyal to the one we are with and will fight to the bitter end to keep, even a bad marriage/relationship, together. That is me speaking for experience. I had opportunity’s in my marriage to cheat, and trust me my marriage was bad, I NEVER did because that is just not an option to me. Even when I found out my ex-husband had cheated I never did, I still tried to work it because to me marriage is for life. I would be a leery of him because of the fact that he feels he can cheat but doesn’t want to leave his wife.

JadeMonroe I think you need to be careful with this one because you are playing with fire. If he is holding on that tight to marriage it maybe that he is like me and won’t give up on it even if the two or you are together, like he isn’t giving it up on it now. I don’t think any of this makes you a bad person, we can’t help the ones we love, but we can walk away from wrong situations and you know this is wrong. I understand the pull between Scorpio and Taurus, my bf is a Scorpio and I thank God every day that we found each other, but what you two are doing is still wrong. Having an affair, which this is even without the sex, is wrong and it isn’t going to get you the guy in the end, and even if it did there would be bitterness and resentment from both sides. Not to mention the fact that if you continue and down the road he leaves her for you, will you even be able to trust him? It is starting your relationship off all wrong. Instead why don’t you do it the right way. If he gets a divorce and the two of you come back together then you know it was meant to be.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/where-did-my-scorp-go-5611969/

It's a cunt fest lol...

Posted by Rabbit

Posted by JadeMonroe
Actually...we haven't had sex. Just kissing and hugging. He is very respectful.

Of who?

Certainly not his wife.

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^5. So this man married and made a promise to a woman to be faithful and be the kind of guy she could trust and you think he's respectful. Humans are just plain weird. lol What is up with people and married people? I just don't get it. To each their own, but fucking around with a married person IS one of the few things that I frown on. I don't find it cute...personally. And like one of the previous posters...I did not, nor do I want to read the entire opening.

I tell you what...let me find a bitch fucking around with my husband. I'll put that ass through something that will quake and quiver every time she thinks a married man is attractive. I once told a friend and I was only early twenties at the time...we were kicking it and she said to me, "Your kids father is sexy"...I laughed and said, "Yep, but bitch, you try it if you want to...I'll set your ass on fire" I laughed so insanely that she had a hard time looking at him after that and I was SERIOUS. I would have set that bitch on fire.