Are Taurus Men Full of Bull!

Met a Taurus Guy (5/13) Nov 2014 and after the first date we HIT it off ! Best convo, extreme sexual tension, Utterly refreshing! He explained that he would be relocating the middle of Dec. for his job. Was bummed because he seemed so "perfect". Had sex after 3 dates. Everything was so cool! We were spending tons of time together! He couldn't give a commitment, due to him relocating and having his heart broken! I told him I wasn't looking for one! Was with a moody, manipulative, pessimistic Cancer for 7yrs! His job pushed back his relocation date from mid Dec to Jan. I was excited because we got to spend XMAS & New Year's together. He soon found out that he wasn't going to relocate for a better position, so he resigned from his job and ended up staying. Things were still pretty good from this point. My feelings for him were growing, but I wasn't pushing anything (as an Aries that is extremely hard for me to do because I am so impatient!!). We never really established what we were doing and after about 5 months, I decided to ask him if this was just physical? I wanted to safeguard my feelings at this point! He said, "NO, it's not just physical", but never said anything else. Still I didn't push anything. After 6 months of not knowing what we were doing he says he needs to talk to me! He found a new job and stated that we are going to be on different schedules ( I work mornings and he works nights). He felt like it wouldn't be fair to me because he wouldn't be able to give me the time or attention (I crave attention in relationships), that I need or deserve! Kept saying, "As a woman, you're going to want more and I CAN'T give you that". I was like WTF?? I NEVER asked you for anything. We decided to be cool, he wanted no bad blood between us and he doesn't have time to date anyone right now and has to get used to this work schedule. So after 2 weeks of not talking (hardest thing ever! Hate being ignored or rejected!), he finally texts me to see how I'm doing. I fake like everything has been cool (I've been going Mad Crazy missing him) and tell him I want to have sex (no commitment/ just horny). He thinks that's a great idea. We meet up and it's as if we never broke up, we're talking and then have sex. I left immediately afterwards. I felt as if I had regained control over the situation. 3 days later we haven't called or text each other. So why do I feel like he still has the upperhand? What kinda BULL is this?

Well props to this guy for being very upfront and honest with you. He sounds like he has tons of ambition. Very attractive.

Alas, there is no upper or lowerhand situation. THIS is very black and white.

Hes avoided drama by anticipating your needs and realizing he cant meet them.

Lol what the fuck... hm you just opened yourself as a fuck buddy.. That's it. Don't you know if you want long term.. Taurus take their time. Yeah everyone wants and needs sex.. but Taurus are different and we will just tell you let's be friends, maybe hang out, maybe you pay for dinner and he pays for a movie, and talk....

Hm I work two 12 hour night shift jobs.. This is one shift that you are going to have make time and compromise and communicate...This is why I don't date.. That kind of schedule and many guys have said something about it to me. Like I am sleeping while you are working.. While you are working in the day time.. I am working over time at night..doubles...lol and I am exhausted..and I get moody when I wake up..don't bitch or nag or nothing...just go with the flow on this one.

@DMV I appreciate your time and comment. I feel like after being all up in my world and space for 6 months, he has basically given me a commitment. I just above all value our friendship and wonder if I should even continue trying to be friends or leave it at that?

@busyeyes88 Please don't question my womanhood or morals on this? The thread was not to slash Taurus woman, but to help me understand how to deal with a Taurus Man. I don't believe me having sex with him after 3 dates has anything to do with the fact that has decided not to "date" me 6 months later! Also, I never have to question "what kind of woman I am" because I realize that I alone are responsible for my choices! Which makes a pretty awesome female! I don't think that's something you should be worried about or propose to question either! Good day!

OP......no disrespect but the bull got what he wanted. I have been where that bull is at and I got bored pretty quick. I like hunting for my food. He had the upper hand from the beginning.

You're stupid.

Also, you use too many exclamation points. You sound like a crack head.

Posted by ElleAries
@DMV I appreciate your time and comment. I feel like after being all up in my world and space for 6 months, he has basically given me a commitment. I just above all value our friendship and wonder if I should even continue trying to be friends or leave it at that?

I am not a believer in waiting some specific time to get to know someone b4 you sleep with them. He felt like knocking boots and so did you. Aint no problem with that.

the problem is in you not believing what he said. He doesn't have time to give you what you deserve out of a relationship. But he does havd time to knock some boots.

dont try to make him see differently with a forceful approach. Instead get on with your life and treat him as he treats you.

You can be friends if you can put your emotions to the side.

I totally get you when you say all up in your space and shit. Totally get that one. Take it all with a grain of salt.

Posted by ElleAries
@DMV I appreciate your time and comment. I feel like after being all up in my world and space for 6 months, he has basically given me a commitment. I just above all value our friendship and wonder if I should even continue trying to be friends or leave it at that?

Maybe you should have come to this board 6 months ago to learn about the Taurus men. He's been giving you hints for 6 months and it looks like you refused to acknowledge them. Again, MOST Earth sign men take love and committment pretty darn serious and they usually know from day one if you are committment material, but like most men, if they can GET IN WHERE THEY FIT IN for the moment, they are IN LIKE FLYNN and when their done, THEIR OUT LIKE TROUT..season that is. He's decided that you are better off as friends, so accept that or move on. Like you said, above all else, you value his friendship and if that's a mutual agreement/understanding between you two, then you're good to go. Just try and remove the emotional part of it and see it for what it is.

ElleAries,

I don't think that is exactly what you want - just sex. I can read between the lines that you are falling in love with him.
but sorry- you are now just a sex toy for him. always remember he is a taurus and taking your words seriously. If you are just
playing along and manipulate him so he can spin in your hand well you are bound to fail. It was already a turned off from the very start.
You didn't even allow him to send you flowers and bring you anywhere. I must say you'll get the worst in him.

Gosh, Really I hate women who spread their legs right away and then ranting and blah blah blah. I'm turned off.

Make sure when you spread your legs that means you're just having fun..no more expectation. no more emotion. nothing.

That's why as a female Taurus I can't just open my legs so easily.. I do get emotions and I have Cancer rising.. Like is this the one. The physical attraction is there but there is usually always something missing.. and I don't usually see it until afterwards.. Lol..

Posted by busyeyes88
@DO NOT BLAME THE BULL. You spread your legs open to him ONLY after 3 dates! You then decided you were horny and wanted JUST SEX. . He gave it to you!!! So what do you want from this thread. Do not come here to slag off bulls when YOU are supposed to be in control of opening and closing your legs!!!

He has got the upper hand because you gave it to him. Welcome to his harem. Being a fast masculine dominant Aries, that did not take long!!! I'm sure his 'needs' were met. Don't worry I'm sure he has a 'rota' with yr name on it... He'll be in when he's feeling horny!!

The question is not 'what kinda bull is this' but 'what kinda woman am I?'!

Open/close legs? Women who think that between her legs there is a treasure with which trade are prostitutes and sorry but...you talk like one.
She may not feel like sex? You have to endure to get a better deal ? What is her, an object? It is very unfortunate that still think so.

@Tea- It's not about treasure or prostitution. IF WE choose to wait.. It simply means we will wait for the right vibes and connection, and the right set of questions first....

I don't even understand wtf you are trying to say.. So I am just going along with what I think you just meant..

It's about respecting yourself and being honest.. And making sure you even want to have sex with some strange guy you hardly know. I don't care if its someone in the irl or online. You have to be careful with your life.. Because so dudes don't care..

TAURUS people have high standards. And one of them is respecting one self..IF you don't respect that rule. Then move on till you hear someone say I'm looking for something serious and long term and monogamous.. because right now alot of people are getting out of relationship or marriages. So they won't be ready..

And when people aren't ready they will play the field..Everyone needs to reevaluate themselves when this happens and focus on yourself...It will automatically be fwb or NSA...Gemini people are the only people to move on quickly and Sagittarius and Aries..and heck Taurus are the least to jump into anything after break up.. but then again.. sex is just sex right..

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Gosh, Really I hate women who spread their legs right away and then ranting and blah blah blah. I'm turned off.

Thank you! I was beginning to feel like an "alien"!! That's why 6 months later my legs are still shut and this taurus treats me like a queen!! He gets plenty of "offers" but has declined and declares "I am the One" but I am still holding out until I feel comfortable as his Venus is in Gemini and he has a sag moon both of these signs can be "flighty" but he tells me that he is not like this and will not be like this when we are a "couple" but I still keep legs shut and "observe" his habits!!! While he "waits" for me and has the "urge" he has no hesitation of using someone else for his pleasure!! But I think that is men in general. Although mutables are more flexible!!! Taurus is fixed so better to wait it out...!!!

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Whoa... I was nodding my head until the bit about 'when we are a couple' along with 'while he waits for me and has the urge he has no hesitation of using someone else for his pleasure'... After six months? What am I missing here Busy, that just doesn't sound good?

FirstDecan....I think u and Tea both are right in a sense. I understand what Tea to mean as the value we as humans, particularly women, attach to "sex". Some people put alot of value on it and some don't as much as others. In general it is women who tend to put more value on it than men. However, women still wanna play in that arena and some of us think we can and still stay emotionally detached w/out realizing that for most of us it is extremely hard, and dam near impossible, to do. Hence to ur point.....women will often "wait" until they think they found someone they can "attach" those feelings to and have them reciprocated. Like you FirstDecan, I have Cancer rising & moon, however, my Virgo sun and Mars Aquarius, are dominant so therefore its a bit easier for me to detach and play if I choose to being very discriminative & cautious when & "IF" I do. Most women do value what's between there legs mainly because they can't detach and are not trying to get hurt and expose themselves to all the other risks associated with playing like men sometimes do. I love Taurus men to death.....don't mind the slow walk because it works with me needing space & doing my own thing which is not necessarily moving to the next. I just love being by myself alot and meeting different people, men & women both. It's just always best to set very very clear rules/boundaries up front before jumping in & being aware that those rules most likely won't bend if left up to the "man".

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Posted by busyeyes88
@DO NOT BLAME THE BULL. You spread your legs open to him ONLY after 3 dates! You then decided you were horny and wanted JUST SEX. . He gave it to you!!! So what do you want from this thread. Do not come here to slag off bulls when YOU are supposed to be in control of opening and closing your legs!!!

He has got the upper hand because you gave it to him. Welcome to his harem. Being a fast masculine dominant Aries, that did not take long!!! I'm sure his 'needs' were met. Don't worry I'm sure he has a 'rota' with yr name on it... He'll be in when he's feeling horny!!

The question is not 'what kinda bull is this' but 'what kinda woman am I?'!

Open/close legs? Women who think that between her legs there is a treasure with which trade are prostitutes and sorry but...you talk like one.
She may not feel like sex? You have to endure to get a better deal ? What is her, an object? It is very unfortunate that still think so.

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You have the right vibration or does not, at any time and andy situation. The time is not going to take that and deal with the moment for "open your legs" (LOL) expecting the best course is not a good vibration.

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Posted by busyeyes88
@DO NOT BLAME THE BULL. You spread your legs open to him ONLY after 3 dates! You then decided you were horny and wanted JUST SEX. . He gave it to you!!! So what do you want from this thread. Do not come here to slag off bulls when YOU are supposed to be in control of opening and closing your legs!!!

He has got the upper hand because you gave it to him. Welcome to his harem. Being a fast masculine dominant Aries, that did not take long!!! I'm sure his 'needs' were met. Don't worry I'm sure he has a 'rota' with yr name on it... He'll be in when he's feeling horny!!

The question is not 'what kinda bull is this' but 'what kinda woman am I?'!

Open/close legs? Women who think that between her legs there is a treasure with which trade are prostitutes and sorry but...you talk like one.
She may not feel like sex? You have to endure to get a better deal ? What is her, an object? It is very unfortunate that still think so.

Its unfortunate your statement makes no sense!!! Am I right in thinking that English is not your first language?!

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Yes, you 're right . Let's say I'm European, perhaps here we are not so puritanical and hypocritical as the American society to these issues . The term "spread legs" has damaged my liver.

A man who will appreciate it ( open or not open legs) does not interest me at all. I like most natural people. People for whom sex is a natural and legitimate desire not a bargaining chip or something to judge a person or relationship. Sex is circumstantial , the important thing is people. Waiting 100 years does not make you interesting, good persona or a saint woman, may be the stupidest prostitute in the city.

Negotiate with sex is negligible .

Thanks Love- Appreciate your outlook on it. Idk what TEA is talking about but our private part is privacy owned and we don't use it as a bargaining thing or power trip..

Knowing I have Aquarius moon and Cancer rising I can just say oh this is going well.. MAybe it's time to become a freak in the sheets. I value myself and I don't think my shit is better because I wait. I really just can't be all about sex and most guys are nowadays. So I am just cautious. And I do love sex and lovemaking when there is a connection. I lose sight and just go for it. So I can deeply fall in love fast or slow or emotional detached just in case of heart break or sensitive feelings rather..

@Busy,

I get it now, platonic mates, with a view to maybe something more if it happens etc later on, makes sense.

You're English, where are you based? I'm west London!

OH YEAH I knew I was missing someone RB..Thanks for your outlook. Finally another male bull take on it. Only two males replied

How's it going RB?

Alot of woman on here. Yeah I focus on myself and I don't like making eye contact as much. Because I will be like ohh my who is this handsome fellow.. and then I have to snap my Aquarius moon and Venus in Taurus keep it in check.. if I make eye contact I unfortunately forget the entire universe and focus on you. Which is bad...because I don't have time to do anything right now either. And it's just not fair to that other person.

Damn you guys live far. I am in California..IE..

What did you say Champ?

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Posted by busyeyes88
@DO NOT BLAME THE BULL. You spread your legs open to him ONLY after 3 dates! You then decided you were horny and wanted JUST SEX. . He gave it to you!!! So what do you want from this thread. Do not come here to slag off bulls when YOU are supposed to be in control of opening and closing your legs!!!

He has got the upper hand because you gave it to him. Welcome to his harem. Being a fast masculine dominant Aries, that did not take long!!! I'm sure his 'needs' were met. Don't worry I'm sure he has a 'rota' with yr name on it... He'll be in when he's feeling horny!!

The question is not 'what kinda bull is this' but 'what kinda woman am I?'!

Open/close legs? Women who think that between her legs there is a treasure with which trade are prostitutes and sorry but...you talk like one.
She may not feel like sex? You have to endure to get a better deal ? What is her, an object? It is very unfortunate that still think so.

Its unfortunate your statement makes no sense!!! Am I right in thinking that English is not your first language?!

Yes, you 're right . Let's say I'm European, perhaps here we are not so puritanical and hypocritical as the American society to these issues . The term "spread legs" has damaged my liver.

A man who will appreciate it ( open or not open legs) does not interest me at all. I like most natural people. People for whom sex is a natural and legitimate desire not a bargaining chip or something to judge a person or relationship. Sex is circumstantial , the important thing is people. Waiting 100 years does not make you interesting, good persona or a saint woman, may be the stupidest prostitute in the city.

Negotiate with sex is negligible .

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I completely agree with you. The term is so degrading and women beat down other women who dont act in accordance with what they would do. Very high and mighty.

Posted by Redbull
One thing i do is not get involved with anybody in any capacity as far as meeting women in a dating. Its not time for that I have no room right now. The requirements for patience the last year or so have been substantial. Now Im working on relocating to start school in a new city next semester. Its a couple months away Im renovating a house i bought there. Long process because i have to be frugal with limited funds and i work and everything here so going back and forth is a challenge. Im still working out the logistics. Plus i have numerous people in my life and things going on as it is.
When here I dont make eye contact with women. As long as i make it to the store or wherever and home its a success. I feel im outta here soon and not trying to even bother meeting women here. Now in my new city I dont make eye contact either because i have a lot of things to do before im comfortable enough to meet women. I just dont have time to date correctly right now.
It seems that there are others who arent in that space either for whatever reasons but they still dip in that arena regardless then try to dip out. I think its just better to focus on what you need to rather than try to bounce back and forth all over the place. I dont want to live like that. For whatever reason women re one area i have a lot of discipline. While not so much in some other things.

so you are my twin. lol. Redbull, My house is almost done. My target will be on december to make it fully furnish. Balance is all we need.
We don't let our pocket empty. Life must be simple. There are 2 kinds of people in this world those who Dream big and establish or those who just love to Sleep and chase their dreams.

I know how to spot a good bull. I had a fling with one. He was my officemate..and no matter how much I tried to lured him to do something to me.
He always declined. He was smiling to me and said * Patience is a virtue, M*. I didn't even understand him that time. I realized he was one of those good bull who are not just after sex for women. I can sense him.. also, I loved him deeply. I saw him last friday he was viewing my profile @ Linked. It made me smile and I wishing I didn't deleted his number. I missed him that much.

Good bulls are focused. No wonder you don't have time for other stuff. Target your vision and mission. Good luck to your journey.

Busyeyes,

To love like a Taurus is an Education
To be loved by a Taurus is a Blessing
To love a Taurus is something you'll never forget.

Taurus can live without talking to someone he loves but deep inside his heart still loving her - stubborn kicks in.lol

https://www.yahoo.com/health/the-bachelorette-vilified-for-casual-sex-why-are-122257377842.html

after reading this thread and countless others, this article is pretty timely.

Yeah I argee RB..

And yeah Aries and Taurus ohh boy it's work. And it's usually toxic but passionate if Aries likes you.. Lucky me I had two Aries that are very similar...and Aries is also a hard worker like Taurus.So who's giving in to spend time with each other. They don't really like phone calls and the quiet Aries also keeps me on full alert. They're mysterious and quiet but have secrets...

I find the thought funny that a womans value is based on the length of time she waited to have sex. Its also funny that the actions of a man are overlooked when it comes to sex, yet that same man is able to reappear just in time to place value on a woman because she had sex with him during whatever time frame. Thats both enabling, and handing over way too much power to the male.

I am extremely open to the quiet aries friend of mine. I think it's okay to be open. I mean he tell s me everything and I tell him everything..it's a good start.. you know Taurus are full of emotions, spontaneous, and level headed..I do give it to him. I feel if the feelings are mutual then why not step up the heat to the more quiet and shy aries. But then again.. if we were just mere friends. Then I won't open up like that..and neither would Aries right off the bat.

@Inana it's not about sex. Cause really Taurus are the most sexual signs and can do whatever, whenever, and with whoever.. I can wait for sex but it's probably because I work nights and I have no time right now. When I date I want you to be my friend nothing more. Because people need to know if they can handle each other....more so Taurus.. . I definitely can't get along with Gemini or Sagittarius and those are my casual off and on type. As I age I don't like casual because that means I am sharing.

@Aries- at least you can look into this situation OP Is going through on a different approach or aspect about A/T..And maybe you argee to Taurus on why we wait or not.. Sure Aries and Taurus are attractive towards each other. But else?

@Busy- I am old school traditionally with upbringing qualities because I seen some shit with my parents.. They taught me well.. So well I can wait for marriage and wait for kids. It was horrible. They are Virgo and Sagittarius.. but still I grew up with not rushing into anything or dating alot because my mom had me at 21 and I made a vow.

I would never be like that and have a kid. Because of alcohol..and partying. And opps mistakes happens. Nope not me. This is my experience..This is why I wait. Oh and because I put some much love into it all I get hurt because I am supposed not question you about trust, loyalty, and honesty and if I don't get it through friendship..Then how are you in a relationship...CAncer rising and Capricorn descendant

Posted by ElleAries
@busyeyes88 Please don't question my womanhood or morals on this? The thread was not to slash Taurus woman, but to help me understand how to deal with a Taurus Man. I don't believe me having sex with him after 3 dates has anything to do with the fact that has decided not to "date" me 6 months later! Also, I never have to question "what kind of woman I am" because I realize that I alone are responsible for my choices! Which makes a pretty awesome female! I don't think that's something you should be worried about or propose to question either! Good day!

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. His actions have given you your answer! If your 6 month 'relarionship' is over and you had a proper friendship with him why the thread? There's obviously some doubt?! He has already dealt with you via his actions but you refuse to see it!!

Some people argee and disagree with what you said.. I argee.

Posted by Curiousram
OP take my advice and just delete him out of your life. Thats the only thing you can do to get "back" at him and to save yourself anymore pain. You need yourself a nice strong Leo man or someone with fire placements. Male bulls are known for being very fickle with love and having multiple love interests. Aries and Taurus are a very bad match. Sure they get along and have similar interests but with love its a whole different ball game. The only thing you can do is play with him and make him think he wants you by being coy and taking control.

I feel like all I attract are Taurus' and Cancers. Never dated a Leo or Sag before. I really don't like playing tick for tat and would rather just not talk to him. I guess maybe we were destined to be just friends. But I have noticed that since I'm not calling him, he's "checking up on me".

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Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. His actions have given you your answer! If your 6 month 'relarionship' is over and you had a proper friendship with him why the thread? There's obviously some doubt?! He has already dealt with you via his actions but you refuse to see it!!

What I see is that there was not relationship if being exclusive was never discussed. His actions are showing her that it is what it is right now without a commitment. I still say she slept with him too fast. Didn't make him work for it nor really tried to get to know him to see if he is right for her but now that she went from A to Z after 3 dates, she wants to back peddle to find out why he is not responding the way she'd like him too. It doesn't work that way.

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There is a lot of focus on the fact that I slept with him after 3 dates. However, in the beginning, we were just interested in hanging out and yes sleeping together. He was supposed to be moving to a different state and I had just gotten out of a 7 year relationship. We were not thinking about a commitment. But the longer he stayed and when it became apparent that he wasn't leaving, yes, I started seeing just him "exclusively". I wouldn't say that I'm trying to back peddle, but if I had known that he was going to stay and that I would have feelings for him, then I might would've done things differently.

Posted by lnana04
I find the thought funny that a womans value is based on the length of time she waited to have sex. Its also funny that the actions of a man are overlooked when it comes to sex, yet that same man is able to reappear just in time to place value on a woman because she had sex with him during whatever time frame. Thats both enabling, and handing over way too much power to the male.

un huh

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Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. His actions have given you your answer! If your 6 month 'relarionship' is over and you had a proper friendship with him why the thread? There's obviously some doubt?! He has already dealt with you via his actions but you refuse to see it!!

What I see is that there was not relationship if being exclusive was never discussed. His actions are showing her that it is what it is right now without a commitment. I still say she slept with him too fast. Didn't make him work for it nor really tried to get to know him to see if he is right for her but now that she went from A to Z after 3 dates, she wants to back peddle to find out why he is not responding the way she'd like him too. It doesn't work that way.

There is a lot of focus on the fact that I slept with him after 3 dates. However, in the beginning, we were just interested in hanging out and yes sleeping together. He was supposed to be moving to a different state and I had just gotten out of a 7 year relationship. We were not thinking about a commitment. But the longer he stayed and when it became apparent that he wasn't leaving, yes, I started seeing just him "exclusively". I wouldn't say that I'm trying to back peddle, but if I had known that he was going to stay and that I would have feelings for him, then I might would've done things differently.

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Posted by busyeyes88
@DMV. Thanks for the article. That's was pretty informative. I appreciate that. I sometimes wish I could be that way... But I old school, conservative and way way too protective of my heart that I very rarely form relationships and when I do... Boy it's total complication!! I am deemed to be single the rest of my days!! Lol lol

I totally respect it.

Taurus male here, and I have to agree. I (and we) don't enjoy meaningless sex as much as you've been led to believe by the media... Any girl who made me think she was interested in me and then wanted to screw around on the first date never heard from me again, unless you count the one that tried keeping tabs on me via a friend and ended up getting her feelings hurt.