Miss you like the desert rain

I have recently read that all the fixed signs need to take some distance from the ppl they love in order to feel like they miss them.
Is that a way to test smbd's love?To be apart for say 2 months?Doesn't that make the feeling dilute?

I suppose if it is love it will never disappear! Will it!?

Yup,but they are so secretive,they could miss you like hell and not say a word.Some relations with them tend to be very difficult because they keep the other part in a thick fog about their feelings,and so the whole thing is at risk of dieing before it starts,with them being so reserved.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It may make love even stonger. I know if I am in love with you, it is forever and I will always be there for you and all you have to do is ask me and I will do anything you want me to. My heart is yours!!!

Please don't worry at all! What you consider uncemented heart is in reality stuck like glue and is in NO risk of coming apart! Trust me I know this is true!

Gracias for putting me at ease!
This is so conforting!
I was thinking about how close two persons can feel even if there's an ocean between them and there are times when you don't know the people you meet everyday!

scorpios -don't they feel the longing,don't they have a soft spot for the persons they like,don't they feel the urge to call and say "i miss you!!!"?
i decode the lack of those love-prooves as a lack of love.
could it be that they feel all of these and choose not to say a word?but why would they do such a thing?
i am so unsure of his feeling because he won't tell me a thing!sometimes i think that it is all in my imagination!

That's exactly how I feel sometimes - like it's just in my imagination and that
they don't like me at all.

So, all you scorpios out there - how does one REALLY know where they stand with you—

You will see a little smoke and then you will be in the middle of an intense inferno. Things will heat up rather fast and it will be hot hot hot!!! you may also be burned beyond recognition. Either way you won't forget it!

Speaking of smoke, I see a little but where is the fire—?

S.

"Absence is to love what wind is to fire,
It extinguishes the small;
It inkindles the great." (can't recall who said that)

As a fixed water sign, scorpios are known to pull away and create distance, then all of a sudden smother you with passion. Perhaps this is necessary for us. Too much passion...hmm, is there such a thing? lol. I do think there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. In order to be appreciated for our passion and intensity, you must feel the loss of us from time to time. Otherwise you would have nothing to measure our love for you against, and even passion if never rested and refreshed can become stale I think.

Ooohh! Thank you! Perfect quote, and ties in nicely to my own thoughts!

S.

In these moments of pulling back-do they need to be left alone for a while or would they appreciate being looked for?
I have just read that they only fall for the one imune to their charm!How can you be imune to their charm and show them the affection they require in the same time?I am clueless.Maybe you can clear this one for me.Obligado.

Personally I prefer being left alone when I go through those pulling-back stages. Although on the other hand, sometimes if I'm upset with the person, it is almost imperitive to me that they do the tracking down. A lot of times I'll think, "okay, if he/she doesn't make an effort to get in touch with me to apologize, then it's over". That must be a pride thing? lol. But anyway, I think scorpios are generally far more attracted to the unattainable (within reason), the slightly distant, the "challenge". We are not usually as satisfied with the typical, cuddly, cozy, calling every five minutes, cutesy-wootsy relationship.

Or maybe that's just me! lol.

Hope this helps, ask ask away of you have more questions! : )

phoenix

That should say "if" you have more questions

P.S. I would say the best way to strike a balance between being immune to our charm yet giving us the affection we need, would be to act like we do. Seriously. Be mysterious, because scorpios are mysterious and are attracted to mystery. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve (but, as a sidenote, don't worry, eventually down the road we get more and more comfortable expressing our feelings for you). Even if you want to tell your scorp, "I love you so much! You are perfect and fabulous and handsome...(etc)"...don't say that yet. For some freaky reason we like someone who is as mysterious as we are, someone who makes us wonder. I don't know why this is.

Hope that helps a little more : )

phoenix

Just be yourself #80 and don't worry so much about it. You will know when the feelings are there!

Phoenix,I welcome your analasys!🙂
It is very practical and helpful.You are really helping me ( and I am sure - others ) a lot !
Sometimes,when the mistery is too thick,it reseamblence with indeference.So you can mistake aloofness and calculated distance with indefereance,and therefore to pull back in defence.Which is exactly what I'm about to do,put only to see if he will come after me and will stuggle for my feeling as I would .

"Sometimes,when the mistery is too thick,it reseamblence with indeference"

80,

I know you like to try and analyze this situation until it works out, but I will tell you from experience that if what you are feeling is indifference, then it is not love! Love is about trust and caring for anothers persons feelings. It leaves no room for second guessing! But I will tell you what does, Lust!
If you love someone, you care how they are feeling, and you just don't leave them hanging, not even when you are angry, hurt or indifferent! If it was love or someone capable of love, they would have enough feelings in their heart to give you the answers you are searching for!

I wish you Peace and I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to!

80-

I am so glad I was able to help you! I will continue to as long as you need it my dear. : )

Susan-

Well I see what you're trying to say, but remember that even Love can become a game (at least that's my opinion). I think sometimes, in some cases, there can be true love even with games. Love is a dramatic thing so I think it's inevitable that there will be drama, whether consiously created or unconsciously manifested. That is only my opinion though! : )

phoenix

P.S. 80-

Yes I understand how too much mystery comes across as indifference and causes you to pull back. It's natural to do that; you want to protect yourself, and you don't want to be made a fool of in case it really is indifference the scorp feels for you. He needs to realize that his 50% is just as important as yours, and he needs to compromise a little in order for anything to progress. You can either spur him to clear action by pulling back as you said, or you can state what I just said, to him. Though it may be clearer on your part to just tell him, look, I need from you what I give to you...capish? -(lol)-you may prefer to further protect yourself by simply playing his game and seeing if the absence of you knocks some sense into him.

phoenix

I would play the fool. If I love someone I would not even think twice about looking stupid. No pride here!

I am a leo and my carburant in love is to feel that I am unique,special,worshiped and admired and the scorpio would never give that,even if I would give that to him.Somehow,Scorps are tougher than us Leos.I don't want to surrender to anybody,I want to have a balanced relationship and not to depend of other's moods.It makes me feel very insecure.I like giving so much,but when the "return on investment" is negative,I become frustrated.

Why do you have to depend on anothers moods to make you happy? Isn't that up to you? And are there other things about the person that give you happiness? I agree with you in that the Scorpio personailty for some is hard to live with. If you like going out all the time and being flattered and alots of lip services paid to you and constant company and conversations, they are not going to do it for you. They are not like that. It is smart to find out what you require in a partner before you surrender your heart. Lust and Love are not the same, we know that and still the line becomes blurred. Friendships should be made first and then if you hit it off, maybe continue on to something more committed.

CU later

What is a carburant? I looked it up but couldn't find a def. for it! Or is that just a typo?

Carburant is fuel.
I can not live by myself,so when I find someone I enjoy being with,I want to see a lot of that person-it's like this person becomes the center for my univers,like the Sun is for our galaxy.The water is extinguishing the fire,I guess.

80,

You left me wondering why about something?
What did you mean "you can't live by yourself?" You can't because you are afraid, or you can't do without the attention?? I am curious because I have a similiar problem.

and (80) I understand about meeting someone you really like and then they become your total universe. I think that is natural in the beginning because of the fascination and attraction to the person. But some people need a little breathing room later on. I like to give alot of attention and love too but it can become excessive. I try to remember that too much is smothering someboday and is just as bad as being too distant, I guess? Maybe a little balance? What do ya think?

I meant to say, what about a little compromise so you're both taken care of?

I need to communicate all the time-that's why I cannot live alone.I need social life like I need air.
Totally agree with you an the balance thing.But the issue here is that there is no such balance:altough we have a connection,he keeps on dissapearing "like the donkey in the fogg".And my ego doesnot let me be the one that has the communication inittiative all the time.Maybe we both have insecurity issues ...

Keep talking! Tell him exactly how you feel and keep it simple and to the point!!! And I would refer to him as a 'Donkey' as little as possible. Although, I find them to be incredibly adorable animals, he will know you really just meant an ass, right? What about the fog— Is he a little stupid too? Geez, cut the guy some slack!! There must be something wonderful about him or you wouldn't be on his trail!

"And my ego doesnot let me be the one that has the communication inittiative all the time.Maybe we both have insecurity issues ..."

Love has away of taking care of the ego thing. If you are love crazy you will wish you had an ego because that is just what happens you lose it!!! 10 months is not that long to feel completely secure, but maybe you should ask him where it is going? I love someone too, and I would walk, no I would run, away from everything I have and know just to be with him!! Leo being a fixed sign and Scorpio too maybe someone needs a little prodding!

Like"the donkey in the fog" is an expression.I don't mean that he is an ass-realy-otherwise I wouldn't like him.
I am saying that I have given too much and received too little and I dont't think I deserve that.
It seems to me that not a single rule can be applied to this guy-he is too inpredictible.

I'm sorry to hear that 80! What rules? I don't understand. Anyway, hope you have a great day and I think you are special, unique, and wonderful!!! Here is a big ((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))
and you taught me the meaning of an new word, caburant. Thanks!

Have a great day and be careful out there!

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It may make love even stonger. I know if I am in love with you, it is forever and I will always be there for you and all you have to do is ask me and I will do anything you want me to. My heart is yours!!!

Whoever posted this, you are one of a kind. That was beautifully put.

ML

I forgot to put ".........". The poster knows if they wrote it or not. LOL

ML

Hi ya ML,

Thanks for the flowers, but
I don't think I really now what I am talking about. I was just guessing!!! I have been asking alot of people and they say the opposite about relationships. "Out of sight; out of mind." and not too much was positive about backing off in a realtionship, especially a new one! How are you suppose to get to know someone? I suppose when the bond is created and it has been there for awhile and is strong, then maybe a one week break would be ok! I like to know the other person is ok, everyday! So, don't listen to me; listen to your heart!! I think you can sense these things!

Oh, I can sense things very well. 🙂

I just was refering to your comment. I didn't even bother to read the other posts, which seems strange. I was just skimming through it, until I came across what you had wrote and wanted to reply back.

ML

Thanks ML. I am not TM though, sorry!!!

Thou desirest truth in the inward being; therefore teach me wisdom in my secret heart.

Cast me not away from thy presence, and take thy spirit from me.

Restore to me the joy and uphold me with a willing spirit.

When I am afraid, I put trust in thee.

My heart is steadfast and faithful!!!

Love

and I Love You!

🙂 how sweet, I hope that was directed towards me....🙂 I bring sunshine to EVERYONE. LOL

What made you say you're not TM. You're thinking out loud. It doesn't matter.

PS. I love you too, whoever you are.. 🙂

ML

ME TOO... ME TOO.. Let me in on some of this love... How nice!!!

I need some love! :O

...and I want it right NOW!!! give it to me, please! 🙂

I have to settle for some hersey kisses!!!!!

speaking of hershey kisses, I wish I could send you an e-mail of mine about how hershey kisses are made. LOL really nasty!!!

ML

That is not my preference in candy. Just a kiss is symbol of love, get it? Love and kisses. If I buy anything I like godiva and cadbury is okay and russell stover is probably my favorite! Mostly I stay away from it altogether unless I have a craving, like now!

My days pass away like
smoke,
and my heart burns like
a furnance, smitten and withered
like dried grass.
I forget to eat.
I am beside myself in
a wasted place.
I lie awake ,
I am a lonely bird in distress.
My days are like the evening
shadows;
For you have forgotten me and
gone away.

...and I could need some attention!!!

Thou desirest truth in the inward being; therefore teach me wisdom in my secret heart.

Cast me not away from thy presence, and take thy spirit from me.

Restore to me the joy and uphold me with a willing spirit.

When I am afraid, I put trust in thee.

My heart is steadfast and faithful!!!

Love