
Eris
@Eris
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Posted by Shruikan
He verbally, needs to punch her in the mouth. She has no right to talk the person that bringing his child into the world that way. Fuck that.



Posted by ErisPosted by Shruikan
He verbally, needs to punch her in the mouth. She has no right to talk the person that bringing his child into the world that way. Fuck that.
I keep insisting if he does that he do it when she's sober because she has a terrible time listening to anything anyone says (if her opinion differs) at the best of times. But catching her sober is a hefty task.
Think he still should while she's drinking?
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Posted by ErisPosted by Shruikan
He verbally, needs to punch her in the mouth. She has no right to talk the person that bringing his child into the world that way. Fuck that.
I keep insisting if he does that he do it when she's sober because she has a terrible time listening to anything anyone says (if her opinion differs) at the best of times. But catching her sober is a hefty task.
Think he still should while she's drinking?
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Posted by Eris
She's a Gemini with a Leo Moon. Like I said, before this we got along. I don't understand. We have lived together on a previous occasion as well.
Btw, in his opinion she def. isn't mommy dearest . Now I'm picturing that movie and the whole metal hangers thing lol

Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by ErisPosted by Shruikan
He verbally, needs to punch her in the mouth. She has no right to talk the person that bringing his child into the world that way. Fuck that.
I keep insisting if he does that he do it when she's sober because she has a terrible time listening to anything anyone says (if her opinion differs) at the best of times. But catching her sober is a hefty task.
Think he still should while she's drinking?
LET HIM AT HER. he needs to make her ass feel bad and cry seriously. but be ready for her response. dont know her sign but she could be like "dont like it? get out!" but its better to let him deal with it head on with his mother rather than you probably.click to expand

Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by Eris
She's a Gemini with a Leo Moon. Like I said, before this we got along. I don't understand. We have lived together on a previous occasion as well.
Btw, in his opinion she def. isn't mommy dearest . Now I'm picturing that movie and the whole metal hangers thing lol
ack! gem leo moon mom for a bull.... i cant even imagine lol leos in general seem to try to bully me or are very harsh verbally with me. idk why is there anything major going on in her life to make her maybe project onto you bc... idk...you're just there?click to expand

Posted by ShruikanPosted by ErisPosted by Shruikan
He verbally, needs to punch her in the mouth. She has no right to talk the person that bringing his child into the world that way. Fuck that.
I keep insisting if he does that he do it when she's sober because she has a terrible time listening to anything anyone says (if her opinion differs) at the best of times. But catching her sober is a hefty task.
Think he still should while she's drinking?
I guess it would be for the best to wait till she's sober. I wouldn't be able to wait. I'd just go after her because that's not right. Knock the drink out of her hand, sit her down and tell her how she is going to act from now on. Period.click to expand

Posted by Unwording
She sounds frustrated due to the lack of privacy she has to drink herself into a stupor. Venting it out on you shouldn't be an option, especially in your condition.



Posted by Eris
Thank you, Shruikan.
I think I'm going to tell him to go ahead and he can use his Aries moon and mercury and just give her the talking to that he wants to.


Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by Eris
She's a Gemini with a Leo Moon.
I guess now we know whatever happened to Gemcandle.
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Posted by Unwording
Exactly, at this point whether you singlehandedly ran that house, or stayed in bed all the day-- wouldn't make a difference. If your diplomacy doesn't work, cut the Bull loose, and step out of the way. Just saying. lol





Posted by Eris
"...also, expect a big blow up right before you move out. you'll get the "Nobody loves meh!" speal from her for sure...to make the taurus feel bad."
I'll keep that in mind! I think she's already working towards that because her husband talked to my guy about how she is stressed with her OCD because she is used to her house being clean (even though we are the ones keeping up the housework lol).

Posted by e11ePosted by Eris
Also, at this point I'm sure there is nothing she can say that will make Taurus pity her. He is pissed.
he doesn't have to actually pity her....it's all about her oscar winning performance.
she will be extremely dramatic.
if you know it's coming in advance.....you can change her nomination from best dramatic actress...to best comedic actress...and actually enjoy watching the show. 😛click to expand

Posted by e11e
I have a story.....*aries moon*
A few holidays ago, I had my mother, father and brother at my house. First time the four of us had been together in years. My father is sickly...and it was quite the effort for him to get to my house (I'm eight hours away). I knew it was going to be a drama infested event....so I prepared myself in advance (breathing in a paper bag does wonders for anxiety)
Well, sure enough....the even of Thanksgiving she started. Geminis do not understand how deep their words go when they are being nasty and then later they blow it off with "I was just kidding!".
She was going on and on, sitting at the dining table, getting nastier and nastier....nobody was paying her no mind (my dad is a scorp with aqua moon....he's learned to just let it roll off his back and he's not really paying attention half the time anyways...lol)
I was in the kitchen loading the dishwasher and I overheard her say she was going to break the dishwasher because I wasn't listening to her. She was living with me at the time.....and things did have a mysterious way of 'breaking' when she got pissed off.
I calmly went into the dining room after hearing that.....walked over and quietly said...."If my dishwasher breaks, you will need to find a new place to live." and gave her a big bear hug (LOL).
She froze....I swear that woman was so stiff she could have shattered into a million peices if I would have squeezed a little tighter (I probably shoudl have 😛). Then the waterworks began and how nobody understood her and that we were all just 'jealous'.
It was completely irrational....but that's just the way they are when they are pissed. Mean, nasty, cutting words and just downright intolerable.
She never did say she was sorry. *shrugs*

Posted by Rambunctious76
What does your husband say to all this?
Posted by Eris
He is pissed and hoping to catch her when she isn't drinking.
Posted by Eris
He kept getting angry and ready to tell her when she gets home from work, but I kept telling him not to say anything. I am trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict.click to expand


Posted by AbbyNormal
he needs to make her ass feel bad and cry seriously.

Posted by P-AngelPosted by AbbyNormal
he needs to make her ass feel bad and cry seriously.
wow
You pretend not to be nasty very well.click to expand

Posted by Eris
.... I kept telling him not to say anything. I am trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict.

Posted by P-Angel
It's pointless for people to response to the reactions. In telling you that she should do (this) or she should do (that) ... is so pointless, I don't even know why people actually clutter their brains with such stupid things. But, they do.
Why even venture down that road? The only thing you control is you, so what she should be doing is completely out of your control ... so why dramatize over the "shoulds" ?
Posted by Eris
.... I kept telling him not to say anything. I am trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict.
The first thought out of your lips (fingers) came from your rational mind .... listen to it.
A person is feels (what ever it is), isn't going to stop just because you don't like it. You know this. So, you just bite the bullet, and deal with it.
It's her house, her son, her territory .... the only thing your mind should be concerned with is moving forward.
If you want out of a situation, then you put your energy in that direction ..... you're not suppose to exert energy grumbling about something you can't do anything about.
Really ... you had it right the first time. Just let the shit roll off your back, and put your thoughts on your future.click to expand





Posted by Eris
Should be getting into a house within the month *fingers crossed*
@Elle-Thanks, for the warning!


Posted by Eris
For a couple months we have been living with her (waiting to buy a home).
I'm not working at the moment. I was on bed rest for a little while during pregnancy... Also had terrible morning sickness for a while, so for a few weeks there I wasn't doing much.
Normally we get a long very well, but the last couple of months she has been making remarks that make me think she's angry with me.
These are the kinds of comments/actions she has been making...
" what did you do today?.... Oh yeah same thing you do every day nothing"
"Do you think you could turn on the dishwasher?"
This is HER home, if you don't like it, move your ass out. OR..be grateful you have a roof over your head and stop whining. Damn..........

Posted by Eris
Thank you, Shruikan.
I think I'm going to tell him to go ahead and he can use his Aries moon and mercury and just give her the talking to that he wants to.


Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by P-AngelPosted by AbbyNormal
he needs to make her ass feel bad and cry seriously.
wow
You pretend not to be nasty very well.
i believe some people wont learn til they get their ass kicked once either. right now, thatd be my virgo bfs capricorn half bro whos now 18 and boy....
but thats neither here nor there...
im sorry that came across nasty, must be my own personal issues bleeding through as i am in an extremely stressful living condition myself. its just hard all around.
i am the type to let things go and let things go and let things go til...
ok you made me cry, how would it feel?
childish i know...
so usually i hide in the room 😉click to expand


Posted by P-Angel
It's pointless for people to response to the reactions. In telling you that she should do (this) or she should do (that) ... is so pointless, I don't even know why people actually clutter their brains with such stupid things. But, they do.
Why even venture down that road? The only thing you control is you, so what she should be doing is completely out of your control ... so why dramatize over the "shoulds" ?
Posted by Eris
.... I kept telling him not to say anything. I am trying to keep the peace and avoid conflict.
The first thought out of your lips (fingers) came from your rational mind .... listen to it.
A person is feels (what ever it is), isn't going to stop just because you don't like it. You know this. So, you just bite the bullet, and deal with it.
It's her house, her son, her territory .... the only thing your mind should be concerned with is moving forward.
If you want out of a situation, then you put your energy in that direction ..... you're not suppose to exert energy grumbling about something you can't do anything about.
Really ... you had it right the first time. Just let the shit roll off your back, and put your thoughts on your future.click to expand

Posted by MontgomeryPosted by Eris
Should be getting into a house within the month *fingers crossed*
@Elle-Thanks, for the warning!
Congratulations!
Good advice in here-- so don't stress yourself
and that beh-beh... let that martyr crucify herself! 😄
Here's hoping for another Pisces moooon--
lol
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Posted by FixedWater
I really feel for you, I was in a position similar to this many years ago. My ex-husband was terrified of his mother and never stood up to her in my defence. I spent years trying not to rock the boat but she always found something that she could pick on. The proverbial straw that broke the camels back were her comments the day I miscarried our child, Christmas Day some 20 years ago now.
Looking back on it my advice to you would be this: Don't come between him if he chooses to stand up to her whether she is an alcoholic, or not. You are setting ground rules right now and not understanding that these ground rules can have either negative or positive influences on your marriage and your family in future. Let them fight it out and allow him to do what he feels he needs to do.
I assume from what you've said that you have done little to deserve this behaviour from her and my advice is based on that information. If you are enticing her, or drawing her out while under her roof and her rules then you would need to question your behaviour... and make some changes.
Stay focused on getting a house and moving out of there as soon as is feasible. While it is important to save money and buy a house to start your life with it is also important that your health, the health of the baby, and the health of your marriage not suffer because of material desires. You have choices and options ... in the mean time, do your best to ignore her and her negative energy.
Good Luck and Congratulations!

Posted by LetltB
....and what the hell is this horseshit ungrateful 30 year olds living with parents anyway?
WTF? Yet they think they can act like the problem is with the person supplying the roof over their heads...SMFH
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I'm not working at the moment. I was on bed rest for a little while during pregnancy... Also had terrible morning sickness for a while, so for a few weeks there I wasn't doing much.
Normally we get a long very well, but the last couple of months she has been making remarks that make me think she's angry with me.
These are the kinds of comments/actions she has been making...
" what did you do today?.... Oh yeah same thing you do every day nothing"
"Do you think you could turn on the dishwasher?"