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So last night on the Housewives, Apollo tried talking to Phaedra but she was really mum and seemed to be caught in a state of paralysis. Almost like she wanted to say alot, but the cat was holding her tongue.

I can surely empathize with being caught in a state of shock and paralysis. Feeling like you want to open your mouth, but the words just dont come. Only later to hit someone with a torrential downpour of ineligible jargon.

I think she has a mercury in scorpio.
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I don't blame her one bit. She was supporting him all those years, while he bragged about using his "money" in strip clubs (HERS!). Hes met up with Kenya behind her back after she told him not to. His obvious attraction to her on television must've been quite humiliating for Phaedra especially because shes been supporting him with nice allowances and gifts $ $ $ $ $ $ . Phaedra leaving will be the end of his posh life style once he gets out. Hes trying to make her look bad by getting everyone on his side on television. Phaedra is my favorite Atlanta wifey... I think shes better off without him, she needs someone to support her emotionally and be there for her. A nice older man Capricorn or Taurus with his own money.
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I don't blame her one bit. She was supporting him all those years, while he bragged about using his "money" in strip clubs (HERS!). Hes met up with Kenya behind her back after she told him not to. His obvious attraction to her on television must've been quite humiliating for Phaedra especially because shes been supporting him with nice allowances and gifts $ $ $ $ $ $ . Phaedra leaving will be the end of his posh life style once he gets out. Hes trying to make her look bad by getting everyone on his side on television. Phaedra is my favorite Atlanta wifey... I think shes better off without him, she needs someone to support her emotionally and be there for her. A nice older man Capricorn or Taurus with his own money.



i agree with everything you wrote. I think shes already embarrassed and doesnt want to add more fuel to the fire. I think she is done fighting or looking for a solution.

Apollo is a liar and fraud. He went to jail 2x for lying. How can you trust that?
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shes frozen because shes hurt and she knows this is all for show-Apollos act, although well mannered the depth is there, she knows shes being played and she doesn't know how to deal with it, shes freezing up also there are her children involved and Im certain shes still in love with him, gotta be a difficult for her. Everyone is quick to jump on her but I feel bad for her now but I intuit shes better off without him in the future. How many of her special events can I watch more with Apollo avoiding her, rolling his eyes, flirting with Kenya, bragging about spending money in strip clubs, not accompanying her home like a decent husband, the list goes on...
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I don't blame her one bit. She was supporting him all those years, while he bragged about using his "money" in strip clubs (HERS!). Hes met up with Kenya behind her back after she told him not to. His obvious attraction to her on television must've been quite humiliating for Phaedra especially because shes been supporting him with nice allowances and gifts $ $ $ $ $ $ . Phaedra leaving will be the end of his posh life style once he gets out. Hes trying to make her look bad by getting everyone on his side on television. Phaedra is my favorite Atlanta wifey... I think shes better off without him, she needs someone to support her emotionally and be there for her. A nice older man Capricorn or Taurus with his own money.



i agree with everything you wrote. I think shes already embarrassed and doesnt want to add more fuel to the fire. I think she is done fighting or looking for a solution.

Apollo is a liar and fraud. He went to jail 2x for lying. How can you trust that?
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yup, wait and see hes gonna try an bring her down from jail and when he gets out.
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So last night on the Housewives, Apollo tried talking to Phaedra but she was really mum and seemed to be caught in a state of paralysis. Almost like she wanted to say alot, but the cat was holding her tongue.

I can surely empathize with being caught in a state of shock and paralysis. Feeling like you want to open your mouth, but the words just dont come. Only later to hit someone with a torrential downpour of ineligible jargon.

I think she has a mercury in scorpio.



I feel like she was extremely uncomfortable with the fact he was doing that in front of people. She made it clear he needs to fulfill his obligations as a husband, she said "you come home only to get clothes and then go back out to the club". She doesn't understand how he isn't devoting all of his time and concern with their children before he leaves for years.

Is what I gathered. I would feel the same way. I am sure she has a lot to say but he isn't wanting to really hear the truth he wants her to be loving and so forth. She looks quite sad and stressed to me in this season. 😢

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she's the type who'd probly do it if she weren't on national tv...LOL!

Shes probably sits up at night thinking of Aiden and Mr. president visiting their father in jail and seething...

though she has a good heart we all know nothings beyond a scorpio done wrong, to be honest Id still love her though.



yeah she said she was worried that that he sons will fall into the same trap.
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shes frozen because shes hurt and she knows this is all for show-Apollos act, although well mannered the depth is there, she knows shes being played and she doesn't know how to deal with it, shes freezing up also there are her children involved and Im certain shes still in love with him, gotta be a difficult for her. Everyone is quick to jump on her but I feel bad for her now but I intuit shes better off without him in the future. How many of her special events can I watch more with Apollo avoiding her, rolling his eyes, flirting with Kenya, bragging about spending money in strip clubs, not accompanying her home like a decent husband, the list goes on...



I agree!! ^ I feel for her..

I wouldn't go hug that man if he was leaving me and my children every night to go to the club.
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So last night on the Housewives, Apollo tried talking to Phaedra but she was really mum and seemed to be caught in a state of paralysis. Almost like she wanted to say alot, but the cat was holding her tongue.

I can surely empathize with being caught in a state of shock and paralysis. Feeling like you want to open your mouth, but the words just dont come. Only later to hit someone with a torrential downpour of ineligible jargon.

I think she has a mercury in scorpio.



I feel like she was extremely uncomfortable with the fact he was doing that in front of people. She made it clear he needs to fulfill his obligations as a husband, she said "you come home only to get clothes and then go back out to the club". She doesn't understand how he isn't devoting all of his time and concern with their children before he leaves for years.

Is what I gathered. I would feel the same way. I am sure she has a lot to say but he isn't wanting to really hear the truth he wants her to be loving and so forth. She looks quite sad and stressed to me in this season. 😢

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i think it is a ploy, with what Coco was talking about. Hes trying to put himself in the best position possible. So when he gets out, he still got a car and a place to live.
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So last night on the Housewives, Apollo tried talking to Phaedra but she was really mum and seemed to be caught in a state of paralysis. Almost like she wanted to say alot, but the cat was holding her tongue.

I can surely empathize with being caught in a state of shock and paralysis. Feeling like you want to open your mouth, but the words just dont come. Only later to hit someone with a torrential downpour of ineligible jargon.

I think she has a mercury in scorpio.



I feel like she was extremely uncomfortable with the fact he was doing that in front of people. She made it clear he needs to fulfill his obligations as a husband, she said "you come home only to get clothes and then go back out to the club". She doesn't understand how he isn't devoting all of his time and concern with their children before he leaves for years.

Is what I gathered. I would feel the same way. I am sure she has a lot to say but he isn't wanting to really hear the truth he wants her to be loving and so forth. She looks quite sad and stressed to me in this season. 😢

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yup, you could see the stress on her WWHL interview. Her face changed. Shes so private, it must be terrible for her to have deal with this on national television especially with everyone taking apollos side on top of having to deal with this divorce, money, kids and all the drama divorce brings on.
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shes frozen because shes hurt and she knows this is all for show-Apollos act, although well mannered the depth is there, she knows shes being played and she doesn't know how to deal with it, shes freezing up also there are her children involved and Im certain shes still in love with him, gotta be a difficult for her. Everyone is quick to jump on her but I feel bad for her now but I intuit shes better off without him in the future. How many of her special events can I watch more with Apollo avoiding her, rolling his eyes, flirting with Kenya, bragging about spending money in strip clubs, not accompanying her home like a decent husband, the list goes on...
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I agree!! ^ I feel for her..

I wouldn't go hug that man if he was leaving me and my children every night to go to the club.
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So last night on the Housewives, Apollo tried talking to Phaedra but she was really mum and seemed to be caught in a state of paralysis. Almost like she wanted to say alot, but the cat was holding her tongue.

I can surely empathize with being caught in a state of shock and paralysis. Feeling like you want to open your mouth, but the words just dont come. Only later to hit someone with a torrential downpour of ineligible jargon.

I think she has a mercury in scorpio.



I feel like she was extremely uncomfortable with the fact he was doing that in front of people. She made it clear he needs to fulfill his obligations as a husband, she said "you come home only to get clothes and then go back out to the club". She doesn't understand how he isn't devoting all of his time and concern with their children before he leaves for years.

Is what I gathered. I would feel the same way. I am sure she has a lot to say but he isn't wanting to really hear the truth he wants her to be loving and so forth. She looks quite sad and stressed to me in this season. 😢



i think it is a ploy, with what Coco was talking about. Hes trying to put himself in the best position possible. So when he gets out, he still got a car and a place to live.
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I hadn't thought of that, I think Phaedra will be charitable when he gets out, she wont want her kids seeing him on the street or anything.. Im sure shed prefer if he was just dead and gone though....lol
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to be a fly on their wall. when it was hot & heavy and when its mean & cold.

i bet he dishes it out just as well as she does. She needs a man with a good name and maturity.



Yes, last season Apollo was talking about how they are both Scorpios and they had really hot sex... I could see that. He always seemed like a Cancer to me (with his venus conjunct Kenya). His recent shady behavior is just so much and how hes unaware hes being manipulative all the while trying to make his wrongs right, very immature. Yes I see a nice older Capricorn (sexy) with his own money and a good name, be a good fit for her.
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to be a fly on their wall. when it was hot & heavy and when its mean & cold.

i bet he dishes it out just as well as she does. She needs a man with a good name and maturity.



Yes, last season Apollo was talking about how they are both Scorpios and they had really hot sex... I could see that. He always seemed like a Cancer to me (with his venus conjunct Kenya). His recent shady behavior is just so much and how hes unaware hes being manipulative all the while trying to make his wrongs right, very immature. Yes I see a nice older Capricorn (sexy) with his own money and a good name, be a good fit for her.
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He seemed like a snake oil salesman to me. So both scorpios. interesting.
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I wouldn't go hug that man if he was leaving me and my children every night to go to the club.



I'm really outing myself here, but this show used to be on my television for reasons outside of my control, so I was forced to sit through a couple of episodes.

I'm pretty sure they had an open relationship with regards to strip-clubs/strippers. I remember one episode where she provided the male strippers for some birthday party. She knew them personally, had some sort of history with them, and she was definitely enjoying the show - giggling about one in particular with his special gifts and talents (giant shlong, etc.) Is she that weak, that if she really had a problem with him going to the strip club and spending her money, she couldn't influence him or do anything about it? I doubt it. Maybe I missed an episode or 50, but from what I saw on that particular one, I don't think that was an issue for them. If it was, its a bit of a double standard.
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I wouldn't go hug that man if he was leaving me and my children every night to go to the club.



I'm really outing myself here, but this show used to be on my television for reasons outside of my control, so I was forced to sit through a couple of episodes.

I'm pretty sure they had an open relationship with regards to strip-clubs/strippers. I remember one episode where she provided the male strippers for some birthday party. She knew them personally, had some sort of history with them, and she was definitely enjoying the show - giggling about one in particular with his special gifts and talents (giant shlong, etc.) Is she that weak, that if she really had a problem with him going to the strip club and spending her money, she couldn't influence him or do anything about it? I doubt it. Maybe I missed an episode or 50, but from what I saw on that particular one, I don't think that was an issue for them. If it was, its a bit of a double standard.
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Yes, saw the memorable episode which was made to be a big joke for the cameras and that's all. The fact of the matter is women, we don't spend our spare time patronizing strip clubs, sorry. Did you see what she got for Candy's bachelerotte party...funny looking female strippers as parody.

It came to light at the end of last season Apollo was spending ALOT of Phaedras cash at the clubs. They may have agreed to an "open" marriage like that and that would be on Phaedra, or she just may have not said anything about his ways, she is a mysterious scorpio.
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Its interesting though, that she's a Scorp, has a bachelor's in Mortician Science, and opened that business as a funeral director (and really seemed to enjoy it), given the alleged Scorp fascination with death.



yes, I noticed that too. Funny coincidence, she certainly has the charm to make a wonderful Funeral Experience, bet she has planets in Libra.
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Yes, saw the memorable episode which was made to be a big joke for the cameras and that's all. The fact of the matter is women, we don't spend our spare time patronizing strip clubs, sorry. Did you see what she got for Candy's bachelerotte party...funny looking female strippers as parody.

It came to light at the end of last season Apollo was spending ALOT of Phaedras cash at the clubs. They may have agreed to an "open" marriage like that and that would be on Phaedra, or she just may have not said anything about his ways, she is a mysterious scorpio.



Well, I wouldn't really know the statistics on it. I have been to one strip club myself. Hated it. I'm sure *some* women frequent male strip clubs, and she knew the "talented" stripper personally and had some sort of history with him. I just think there's more to that issue in their relationship, and I doubt any Scorpio woman who is jealous over strippers is going to tolerate her husband frequenting strip clubs - especially one as powerful, attractive, hard-working and successful as that woman. She's a boss.

I agree that maybe she was waiting on that issue, remaining silent. Maybe he was even more of a trophy-type of husband and the connection wasn't that deep. Its personally hard for me to imagine any two people in a committed/loving relationship being ok with the whole strip-club thing but I'm old-fashioned.

Its hard to know how she felt on this issue as she doesn't really reveal much that's personal like that. She's seems to be all about maintaining her public appearance, not that I think she should do otherwise. But I definitely don't think you can assume that was an issue with her.
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Yes, saw the memorable episode which was made to be a big joke for the cameras and that's all. The fact of the matter is women, we don't spend our spare time patronizing strip clubs, sorry. Did you see what she got for Candy's bachelerotte party...funny looking female strippers as parody.

It came to light at the end of last season Apollo was spending ALOT of Phaedras cash at the clubs. They may have agreed to an "open" marriage like that and that would be on Phaedra, or she just may have not said anything about his ways, she is a mysterious scorpio.



Well, I wouldn't really know the statistics on it. I have been to one strip club myself. Hated it. I'm sure *some* women frequent male strip clubs, and she knew the "talented" stripper personally and had some sort of history with him. I just think there's more to that issue in their relationship, and I doubt any Scorpio woman who is jealous over strippers is going to tolerate her husband frequenting strip clubs - especially one as powerful, attractive, hard-working and successful as that woman. She's a boss.

I agree that maybe she was waiting on that issue, remaining silent. Maybe he was even more of a trophy-type of husband and the connection wasn't that deep. Its personally hard for me to imagine any two people in a committed/loving relationship being ok with the whole strip-club thing but I'm old-fashioned.

Its hard to know how she felt on this issue as she doesn't really reveal much that's personal like that. She's seems to be all about maintaining her public appearance, not that I think she should do otherwise. But I definitely don't think you can assume that was an issue with her.
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"Trophy husband" sounds about right...lol.
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i do believe that Phaedra gets down with the get down but i cant fathom an open relationship. too many cameras arouns these days. I dont see her sharing.

i used to go to male strip clubs alot. But then i realized i didnt go because i liked them. I went because of other people.



I was at a male strip club party bachelorette fiascom.. it was disgusting, absolutely vile. All my friends pretending to be all into it at the end of the night all the male strippers that liked females stayed and hit on me and all my friends, we couldn't get rid of them fast enough.

Ive been to a female strip club as well, never seen so much plastic in all my life (both kinds) but it was better, I didn't have to run from anyone at the end of the night.
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I was at a male strip club party bachelorette fiascom.. it was disgusting, absolutely vile. All my friends pretending to be all into it at the end of the night all the male strippers that liked females stayed and hit on me and all my friends, we couldn't get rid of them fast enough.

Ive been to a female strip club as well, never seen so much plastic in all my life (both kinds) but it was better, I didn't have to run from anyone at the end of the night.



Its such a strange tradition to me that people have highly sexualized parties with strippers right before something as sacred as their marriage. My trip to a female strip club was a bit forced, for an aqua friends' birthday party. I've never had the desire to go back after that. I felt bad for the strippers. Coming by the table topless with their giant sweaty breasts, expecting you to put money in your mouth, while they use their boobs smack your face and pull the money out of from in betw. your teeth. My Pisces friend loved that. I just looked away when they came by...lol. Very awkward. At least let's talk a bit and get to know each other before I decide if I want your sweaty boobs in my face...lol.

Then this older female stripper who had apparently worked at the club for a long time, got up on stage. She obviously didn't have the perfect figure anymore but the men were still cheering her on, complimenting her, etc. Everyone except one drunk guy in my party. He actually started heckling her, shouting "cottage cheese ass", etc. She flipped him off from the stage. I was so embarrassed and felt so bad that he did that; I left and our entire group was kicked out bc of that a few minutes later.

I'm in Texas now, and strip clubs are like a way of life here. There is one on every corner in my area.
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I was at a male strip club party bachelorette fiascom.. it was disgusting, absolutely vile. All my friends pretending to be all into it at the end of the night all the male strippers that liked females stayed and hit on me and all my friends, we couldn't get rid of them fast enough.

Ive been to a female strip club as well, never seen so much plastic in all my life (both kinds) but it was better, I didn't have to run from anyone at the end of the night.



Its such a strange tradition to me that people have highly sexualized parties with strippers right before something as sacred as their marriage. My trip to a female strip club was a bit forced, for an aqua friends' birthday party. I've never had the desire to go back after that. I felt bad for the strippers. Coming by the table topless with their giant sweaty breasts, expecting you to put money in your mouth, while they use their boobs smack your face and pull the money out of from in betw. your teeth. My Pisces friend loved that. I just looked away when they came by...lol. Very awkward. At least let's talk a bit and get to know each other before I decide if I want your sweaty boobs in my face...lol.

Then this older female stripper who had apparently worked at the club for a long time, got up on stage. She obviously didn't have the perfect figure anymore but the men were still cheering her on, complimenting her, etc. Everyone except one drunk guy in my party. He actually started heckling her, shouting "cottage cheese ass", etc. She flipped him off from the stage. I was so embarrassed and felt so bad that he did that; I left and our entire group was kicked out bc of that a few minutes later.

I'm in Texas now, and strip clubs are like a way of life here. There is one on every corner in my area.
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You sound like a true gentleman of a bull.
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That's really strange you guys brought this up.i was just looking up today when a relationship is chemically most vulnerable to doing something out of character. My theory was the first few weeks of the relationship, the honeymoon period, and both just before and after marriage. The biggest dopamine highs there are



i can agree to that. Id also add life changing events to that as well; such as births and deaths. Ive seen couples go through it when there is a new baby or someone close dying.
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im usually quiet because i trust ZERO that is coming from the other persons mouth. Especially someone i have a flame for.


Right. I was focused on the last sentence in your post.

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Apollo wasnt being anything but sweet to her but i can totally relate to just wanting to listen to what the other person has to say. Just sit and listen. feeling like my words will only muck up a situation.


I was thinking it's a bit of this:

Posted by CocoKat
...must've been quite humiliating for Phaedra...Hes trying to make her look bad by getting everyone on his side on television.


a dash of this:

Posted by CocoKat
shes frozen because shes hurt and she knows this is all for show-Apollos act...


and this:

Posted by WateryGem

I feel like she was extremely uncomfortable with the fact he was doing that in front of people. She made it clear he needs to fulfill his obligations as a husband... She doesn't understand how he isn't devoting all of his time and concern with their children before he leaves for years.



And she knows this^^^ therefore she showed a lots of this:

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She showed a lot of control....
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If I'm hurt, I wouldn't say one word to him. I've had people go from barking in my face to crying and pleading on bended knees. I will not react/respond. My only response after all the noise stops "did you get that out of your system?" *nod*, "good" and I walk off like you're air.

When my mind is made up and I am done, I am done and I have nothing more to say. Love or not love. I don't want to hear anything you have to say either, and I most definitely won't give you what you want by reacting to you or creating a scene. If we have children I would discuss them, when and if appropriate, but there will be no further discussion about "us".
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