Pisces Man [me], Scorpio Woman [her]

Hey everyone, I'm looking for some advice about the whole pisces/scorpio mixture.


Recently (3 weeks ago) I've started talking to a scorpio woman, who happens to be my friend's sister. I've known her for about a year, but haven't done anything romantic with her. We hit it off very well (no sex) and spent a lot of time together in the first couple weeks, which included just me going to her house and sleeping over. We didn't have sex but we definetly want to, yet we've expressed the desire to wait until we're actually dating and in a relationship. BUT, I've noticed 2 things: Drunk texts, and maybe (i can't tell if it's true) a change in behavior.

1. Lately I've been getting drunk texts from her confessing her love and that she's only felt that about her ex, no one else, who is out of the picture (can confirm). about the texts: I know she's drunk but It's kind of messing with my head, and I don't know if she really means that or is just saying it because she's thinking about me at the time. She's been doing this for a couple of days now, and I don't know if she just pretends like it didn't happen or actually means it (probably not fully).

2. I could be wrong, but I feel like she acting different now. I've been trying to distance myself the best that I can and not be clingy (I hadn't seen her in the last four days due to being out of town, save for today, about 1hr for lunch). I want to give her space, which I believe she appreciates. She has told me flat out that she likes me, she missed me a lot over the weekend, and that she feels like she can say anything and just be herself around me, and that the silences that we share aren't awkward at all. However she kind of killed the mood at lunch with a reality check (that frankly I needed) by saying that while we are talking, we can go and do whatever we want. we're not in a relationship (true), and we can't hold it against each other when they do something with someone else for a night (also true). She had a rebuttal to this when she mentioned she went out one night and was talking to some other guy, but she refused to do anything with him because she couldn't stop thinking of me. While all of what she said was true, it DID visibly upset me (became quiet and slightly distant. This was a no-no on my part), mainly just because of the unexpected gut-check. She was right. We aren't currently in a relationship, but we are talking to each other and trying. I texted her afterwards saying that she was right about it and not to worry about me being mad, it was just unexpected but we're on the same page in terms of friends/talking/relationship and where it's headed, and lastly that I was really happy to see her.

I've read a lot about scorpio/pisces combo and i understand how deeply these two connect and get eachother. I feel it every time i'm with her, and she does too, I feel like we like eachother very much. Am I overreacting/Do i need to chill? Is there anything I can do better? Thanks for the ad

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Posted by Infinite8
You should have been honest with her so that she could cut the BS.

You should have told her straight - "no, I'm not comfortable with that and you are confusing me".

I bet you she would have respected and appreciated it.

Now you are both being dishonest andsaying things you actually don't feel.

I think she wants to be with you just as much as you with her and she was just testing waters and now it's scaring you away.

I should have said this, you're absolutely right. I don't quite have a grip on what you mean by the last part on "testing the waters". Why test them when they're just fine?

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She should be better to you. She should just be a better person. She should just be more honorable.

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She's been great, this just seemed to be something different. I'm glad she told me how she felt about everything, but I just didn't see it as necessary. Unless I'm missing something..

It seems she's still unsure about your true feelings and what you describe at 2.) is her insecurity speaking. I have to admit I've done the same in the past to some guys, just to hear that they really have feelings for me and just for me... I know it's silly, I've changeg since then and wouldn't pull this stuff anymore. But for me it seems, she's really into you. You guys should try to be honest with each other and share your true feelings, then see what happens...

The thing is that I DID tell her that I liked her a lot. I let her know also that she makes me really happy. Maybe it could be that I'm taking too long, but she mentioned to me also that she didn't want to jump into things either which is super confusing. I'm fixing to ask her out for later in the week and try to start a relationship with her, but I'm wary of what she told me about jumping into things. Should I just go for it?

I'm tired of thinking what if too. I feel like we've been needing to move further as well, but I've just been waiting for the right time (availability due to schedules) and the right moment if that makes sense. I didn't think I was being vague, but possibly because I HAVEN'T made a move yet is what's causing her to say things like that...

Go for it! We Scorpios like directness and genuine feelings. And even if she seems a little unsure again, dont give up. She will sense your honesty and eventually open up 😉

One of my sister said me "Bro I think u r one women man,dunt u ?
I replied, "Ya ,of course, one at a time.." 😉
Atleast I cant plan night out with another girl if I m thinking abt her...

I m already in confusion by one of scorpio girl..
Bt if she can search for another guy when u two are planing with each other.. big no for me..
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My sugestion I know u r pisces and how u r bt again dunt be too slow.. 😄
Decide man; u need to do it fast... Either choose her or loose her... 😉

I have asked a while ago and she told me that she would let me know. I guess the waiting game begins, but I'm getting kind of a bad feeling about this right now.

I am 24, she is 23 right now, i forgot to mention that.

Posted by Infinite8
You should have been honest with her so that she could cut the BS.

You should have told her straight - "no, I'm not comfortable with that and you are confusing me".

I bet you she would have respected and appreciated it.

Now you are both being dishonest andsaying things you actually don't feel.

I think she wants to be with you just as much as you with her and she was just testing waters and now it's scaring you away.

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Posted by urbane101
I have asked a while ago and she told me that she would let me know.

Geeze. I'd move on then. She sounds like she needs to get herself sorted.

I am pretty sure its because of what happened yesterday if anything :/

It obviously bothers you that she could be talking to other guys. So make it official!

Be exclusively dating, don't put a bf/gf title on it yet, but agree to only see each other.

Well, I'm still waiting for a reply, I even checked up on her today with no reply. It seems like she's gone underground because she feels rejected, which was not my intention at all... I'm open to any suggestions, really...

Look, just ask her to see a movie or something and then hold her hand and cuddle during the film. She'll probably melt into you. And then makeout after if she lets you which she probably will. No talking needed. Its really that simple. After that, keep in touch consistently or if you are going underground for a bit, let her know.

Get her into the flow of the relationship without the pressure of making huge declarations. Let your actions show it. We Scorpios can pick up on intention. Make it easy.

Posted by BrightLight
Look, just ask her to see a movie or something and then hold her hand and cuddle during the film. She'll probably melt into you. And then makeout after if she lets you which she probably will. No talking needed. Its really that simple. After that, keep in touch consistently or if you are going underground for a bit, let her know.

Get her into the flow of the relationship without the pressure of making huge declarations. Let your actions show it. We Scorpios can pick up on intention. Make it easy.

I am trying to do that but I've already asked her out with no reply yet... I don't want to play games or anything. You're right to let my actions show that I want her and I have. I most certainly have and she knows it. I don't know what's changed with just the sudden disappearance. The way things are looking is that I WON'T be going out with her tonight, at which point there's really not much I can do but actually call her in a few days and see how she is, sit and wait with agonizing patience, or disappear myself. I'm pretty lost.

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We are going dancing tonight with some friends. As unexpected as that is, I don't think I'll be able to fit in a word about this, but I'm going to try.

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Posted by BrightLight
Look, just ask her to see a movie or something and then hold her hand and cuddle during the film. She'll probably melt into you. And then makeout after if she lets you which she probably will. No talking needed. Its really that simple. After that, keep in touch consistently or if you are going underground for a bit, let her know.

Get her into the flow of the relationship without the pressure of making huge declarations. Let your actions show it. We Scorpios can pick up on intention. Make it easy.

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Perfect advice! When you see her tonight, be confident that she wants you but just has her ego crushed. So, you just step up - say nothing and make a move on the girl.

She will love it. If something needs to be said, just say you feel the same way she feels.

Whatever you do, don't overthink and over question.

Good luck!!

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Thank you! I'm gonna have to be bold since we're going dancing instead of the movies, but I'm definetly going to try. I don't want to force it but I have to find some way of letting her know what I want.

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Posted by BrightLight
Look, just ask her to see a movie or something and then hold her hand and cuddle during the film. She'll probably melt into you. And then makeout after if she lets you which she probably will. No talking needed. Its really that simple. After that, keep in touch consistently or if you are going underground for a bit, let her know.

Get her into the flow of the relationship without the pressure of making huge declarations. Let your actions show it. We Scorpios can pick up on intention. Make it easy.

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Perfect advice! When you see her tonight, be confident that she wants you but just has her ego crushed. So, you just step up - say nothing and make a move on the girl.

She will love it. If something needs to be said, just say you feel the same way she feels.

Whatever you do, don't overthink and over question.

Good luck!!

Thank you! I'm gonna have to be bold since we're going dancing instead of the movies, but I'm definetly going to try. I don't want to force it but I have to find some way of letting her know what I want.

Dancing?!?! That's SO EASY!! Don't worry!!

Just look at her and let your eyes tell her how you feel. When her eyes soften... Approach her and either ask her to dance or just softly grab her hand to take her to dance. Then let your hands do the magic!! It will be fine... I promise! 😄

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I will keep this in mind. However, thanks to modern social media (snapchat), I believe she MIGHT be bringing another guy when I specifically asked for this to be a date... We ARE going with other girls too but I'm a bit pissed she went out shopping with this guy. I could be overreacting but that's kind of low IMO.

I know they are friends, she's told me that before. That's all i know however. I may go over to her house when I'm supposed to and play it out from there. I don't know if she's bringing him for her, or for her sister, or if he asked, or what. I'm like. wow. I haven't said anything yet, I'm waiting right now.

Posted by Infinite8
Believe it or not, she still likes you. She is just playing games because her ego got shot...smh.

Well, I don't know what to say. Dancing with other girls might literally be like kicking myself in the face. How do I get her to stop playing games?

Edit: Question Answered. I'm surprised she is still bringing him since I asked her out on a date in the first place, and let a DAY and a reminder pass by before answering me.

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Posted by urbane101
I know they are friends, she's told me that before. That's all i know however. I may go over to her house when I'm supposed to and play it out from there. I don't know if she's bringing him for her, or for her sister, or if he asked, or what. I'm like. wow. I haven't said anything yet, I'm waiting right now.

If you react to this, the game will continue. Please stop the games... They will destroy the goodness.

Not sure if she is doing this on purpose or is just bringing her friend for support because she doesn't know where she stands with you.

Try not to get upset. Pretend it doesn't exist and just focus on what you both deeply want. It will cut the games and you won't regret it. It will be a relief.

Don't overthink.

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This helps a lot. When I was young and dumb I did this once and realized I was just trying to get a rise out of someone, and I stopped for good.

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Believe it or not, she still likes you. She is just playing games because her ego got shot...smh.

Well, I don't know what to say. Dancing with other girls might literally be like kicking myself in the face. How do I get her to stop playing games?

Edit: Question Answered. I'm surprised she is still bringing him since I asked her out on a date in the first place, and let a DAY and a reminder pass by before answering me.

Why don't you call her now and ask her point blank?

Ask if she is bringing others while you specifically asked her out as a date. Be clear and put your foot down on your needs. No BS. If she doesn't like it, you aren't going.

It also teaches her not to walk all over you. She is testing her limits with you.

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Well, I don't want to show that I freak out about something that I could still be wrong about...

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Posted by Infinite8
Believe it or not, she still likes you. She is just playing games because her ego got shot...smh.

Well, I don't know what to say. Dancing with other girls might literally be like kicking myself in the face. How do I get her to stop playing games?

Edit: Question Answered. I'm surprised she is still bringing him since I asked her out on a date in the first place, and let a DAY and a reminder pass by before answering me.

Why don't you call her now and ask her point blank?

Ask if she is bringing others while you specifically asked her out as a date. Be clear and put your foot down on your needs. No BS. If she doesn't like it, you aren't going.

It also teaches her not to walk all over you. She is testing her limits with you.

Well, I don't want to show that I freak out about something that I could still be wrong about...

Oh... Your not sure if she's bringing others?

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No, lol sorry. I'm not sure if she is bringing others for her sister to be with. I know he's coming. I just don't know why. I don't want to just start calling her out on a false alarm, does that make sense?

Posted by Infinite8
You are confusing me.

So... You ARE sure he's coming?

If SO... Then call her and calmly ask "Hey, I'm excite to see you soon! Just wondering though... Is your male friend going? I just want to make sure I have alone time with you. "

Something like that is just clear communication and being direct in a kind manner.

My fault, Sorry. Yes, I am SURE he is coming, im just not sure why. That's actually a good Idea, I was trying to figure out how to word it.

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You are confusing me.

So... You ARE sure he's coming?

If SO... Then call her and calmly ask "Hey, I'm excite to see you soon! Just wondering though... Is your male friend going? I just want to make sure I have alone time with you. "

Something like that is just clear communication and being direct in a kind manner.

My fault, Sorry. Yes, I am SURE he is coming, im just not sure why. That's actually a good Idea, I was trying to figure out how to word it.

No worries 🙂

Good luck!

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Alright so awesome teamwork @Infinite8, I definetly would not have been able to come up with that to say. Thank you!

She told me he IS coming but he's for the other girls. She almost sounded like she was telling me "He's not for me he's for the others. Duhh." The night hasn't started but so far, It's alright. now I can focus on what matters.

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Posted by Infinite8
You are confusing me.

So... You ARE sure he's coming?

If SO... Then call her and calmly ask "Hey, I'm excite to see you soon! Just wondering though... Is your male friend going? I just want to make sure I have alone time with you. "

Something like that is just clear communication and being direct in a kind manner.

My fault, Sorry. Yes, I am SURE he is coming, im just not sure why. That's actually a good Idea, I was trying to figure out how to word it.

No worries 🙂

Good luck!

Alright so awesome teamwork @Infinite8, I definetly would not have been able to come up with that to say. Thank you!

She told me he IS coming but he's for the other girls. She almost sounded like she was telling me "He's not for me he's for the others. Duhh." The night hasn't started but so far, It's alright. now I can focus on what matters.

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Posted by urbane101
I know they are friends, she's told me that before. That's all i know however. I may go over to her house when I'm supposed to and play it out from there. I don't know if she's bringing him for her, or for her sister, or if he asked, or what. I'm like. wow. I haven't said anything yet, I'm waiting right now.

If you react to this, the game will continue. Please stop the games... They will destroy the goodness.

Not sure if she is doing this on purpose or is just bringing her friend for support because she doesn't know where she stands with you.

Try not to get upset. Pretend it doesn't exist and just focus on what you both deeply want. It will cut the games and you won't regret it. It will be a relief.

Don't overthink.

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ALSO THIS

good news will be coming soon later today, everyone

Alright veryone some news for you; here's the long-story-short version of last night. It started off really rough. The other guy is her best friend, I'll get to that later. Even though I thought I was good at two-stepping and I even mentioned it (I learned a lot in 3 months), she kept correcting me and I couldn't enjoy the time with her and it bothered me, which in turn bothered her. So for about an hour and half it was literally me watching her dance wit her friened while I danced with everyone else until I decided just to sit down. I called her out saying that I came there for her but I felt like the entire time she'd been avoiding me for some reason.

She was upset with me for some reason that I didn't know until about thirty more minutes later where her friends told her to literally SIT THE HELL DOWN and talk to me. She didn't seem to want to do it, possibly because she didn't want to fight which she thought she was going to when we started talking, and we agreed on several things. She started by saying "look. I KNOW I like you (her confirming to herself that she did, not saying it because she knew I wanted to hear it). A lot. But we're pissing eachother off. Lets talk". We proceeded to talk about the night where I basically hit every issue that I had (correcting me, avoiding me and talking to everyone BUT me) and she told me that the main issue that bothered her was that I said that I thought I was good but she felt like I still needed a lot of work. I told her that It wasn't really fair and she agreed (number one: she won't do that anymore).

Next we talked about our needs. I told her straight up that I wanted a relationship with her. We both kept fantasizing about our dreams, and she admitted that she legit has thought about a future with me. I told her that I thought the same way. (She's telling me emotionally how she feels, I'm returning it with the same magnitude. It is truly how I feel too, no B.S.) number two: She told me that she wanted to see me care more in terms of doing small things for her. It holds true that scorpios are materialistic sometimes from what I've read, and she has told me that she really wants me to start doing cute stuff for her like leaving lettersflowers houghtful gifts for her randomly as surprises. I REALLY wanted to do this at the beginning, but I didn't want to seem clingy and I also wanted to give her space, at which she told me she didn't want to appear clingy either. I know she had a passion about joining the military, but she was also weighing moving with me for my training instead. I asked her why not both, that I'll help her with her dream. It'll be hard, but she was worried that the distance would be really hard.

that we try and if it happens (its still too early for a relationship but we still like eachother a LOT. We have the connection, we get along GREAT, the physical attraction is there) we get into a relationship and she comes with me and we get engaged. I listened to every fantasy or wish or dream and looked her in the eyes and said "let's do it. I'm all in." I couldn't kiss her because we got interrupted and had to go home and take care of drunk people. But we finished the night extremely Connected, agreeing that we NEED to communicate more. I asked her once more if she still wanted to try with me and she said "of course. Yes."


So I'm going to have to start proving that I want to be there and show my loyalty. It sounds to me like she wants proof that She can trust me, although she has enough to keep dating me. I'm going to start with a surprise letter telling her how great I feel about different aspects of her (I'll write several, I know that she likes to hear my emotional desires), but that also I want her to be more visible to me and be around more so that I'm not doing ALL of the work (is that a good idea?). All in all, a great night in the END. What do you guys think? I did my best, and if i need to explain more I certainly will.

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It sounds to me like she wants proof that She can trust me, although she has enough to keep dating me. I'm going to start with a surprise letter telling her how great I feel about different aspects of her (I'll write several, I know that she likes to hear my emotional desires), but that also I want her to be more visible to me and be around more so that I'm not doing ALL of the work.

Sounds like you've turned a corner. 🙂
I think you do need to follow your own advice above. It's a two-way street and there needs to be a balance of effort on both sides.
Happy for you. Please keep us updated!
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seconded

I received a tipsy text message yesterday asking "when are we going to get into a relationship. [she] knows we need to date more, but [she] wants to be [mine] and only [mine]". This made me feel really good, because she told me the day before she talked to her girlfriends about me too. I told her basically that I would rather have THAT conversation in person rather than text, but I feel EXACTLY the same way she does. What I am thinking however is that she is telling me these things while she isn't sober, so she either A). is afraid of telling me sober but truly feels that way or B). Doesn't know how to tell me when she's sober but truly feels that way. I have no doubt she likes me a LOT. This gives me the impression that she's basically waiting for me to ask her to start a relationship, but we both know we need to date more too... what should I do? this is the weirdest "good" problem i've ever had hahaha

You really sound like a great guy with a lovely personality, she still seems to be a little insecure and maybe even immature. I'd say just continue to tell and show her that you really like her. Spend time with her!!!! If she starts acting strange again or doing hurtful things to you, tell her right away that this bothers you, but in a gentle, calm and friendly manner. I'm wishing you guys all the best :-)

Thank you, everyone this makes me feel a lot better about this situation. I'm approaching this with an open mind and am going to start trying to be around her more. The only thing that I'm concerned about at this point is giving my all and receiving nothing in return. I've been cautious about that before but I'm comfortable enough to actually do this. I wrote her a letter and left it on her desk after talking with her sister, it described our connection (it wasn't TOO deep, i'm saving that for later) and how when I look in her eyes I just get lost in how great it feels, etc. It also stated that this whole idea of me being more open to being around her and doing cute things for her is a two way street that I have no problems sharing with her. Basically stating that I want us to put equal amounts of effort into it (it was worded very friendly, in a calm and gentle manner though, so I think she'll get the hint 🙂 ). Seriously, I'm ready for it to happen, but SOMETHING seems to be holding her back. She's been hurt before in the past and i'm wondering if she expects me to do that to her too, the idea of which I completely abhor. I really just want to hold her and not let go for a while.

A little update, this happened tonight. I was going to go running with her sister, at which point both were coming. I get to her house, and THERE'S The guy again, granted she just got back from out of town. The guy had showed up a little before I did. Instant discomfort. She read the letter and smiled, even chuckled gleefully and gave me a hug, but when we got to the park, she decided to walk with the other guy and basically talk to him the entire time while we ran.

We finish running and drive back home. Everyone leaves the car except me and her and we sit and talk and I lay down some standards, basically i'm not going to put in the effort if she won't. She enjoyed the letter too, which was good but I then asked her about this other guy (I feel like I have the right to, I'm not splitting time with someone else, its seriously very inconsiderate and hurtful) and she told me "i'm not going to put up with it". She meant that she won't put up with me having an issue with her friends, and that I have absolutely nothing to worry about, she has absolutely NO interest in him, but then I told her that she never asks me to hang out anymore, and that I always see them hanging out. She told me "we will" but it sounded so... empty. Kind of like when you tell someone something but its a white lie. She said that she takes care of him because he needed a friend but she still has NO interest in him. I want her to want to talk to me, but it seems like her priorities are mixed up. She has no idea how terrible she is making me feel, but I tried to tell here as described above...

We're going to go on a date Tuesday night, but I'm basically going to tell not to send me drunk texts any more. It's screwing too much with my head. I get them when I'm sober, which makes it worse. I'm not liking this. None of it.

I could Very well be blowing this out of proportion in my own head. They were friends first, but I would expect her to want to be around me. I knid of feel like due to our schedules getting quality time with her is getting harder, and that now that her friend keeps asking her to hang out its starting to worry me.

LOL. These Scorpio female/Pisces Male start-ups are really all the same. ‚

All I can offer you is that you said your piece now let it go and I'll tell you why. If you continue to bring this up your Scorpio is going to dig her heels in and go full rebel on you. We don't like people A) insisting on what we should do, B) trying to change us and C) not trusting our word. She said you have nothing to worry about.

Aw. I remember the beginning with my Fish. Every guy I talked to he imagined that I was setting up a secret rendezvous with for sneaky sex or something. Lol. Not kidding. Even friends I'd known for awhile and had proven to have absolutely no attraction to. I worked with patrons and a lot of them are men. I told him this. Anyway, it got to the point where I suggested that OK I won't talk to one guy today. Okay!? Lol. So I proceeded to ignore every male that said anything to me. That lasted about an hour when the fish and I looked at eachother and laughed our asses off. Yeah. That didn't work.

He was like, ok maybe you have a point. Hahaha. Ya think?

Anyway, secretly I thought it was kind of endearing. He didn't want any guys messing with his girl. But it's not realistic. Besides, Scorpio is 100% devoted and loyal. We hate hate having that questioned especially if there is no reason for it.

Also, please remember that Scorpio women will always have a few men being oddly magnetized to them. It's weird. 99% of the time we don't even see it or do and think it's weird and ignore it. Your typical Scorpio woman it very picky about which man we allow into our orbit. Once a man is there, all other men become obsolete.

Im legit trying to move past it. Honestly its something i need to work on and I WILL change for this. I need to be cool about it but I feel like I myself am ready for a relationship now. It's just all on her, aside from me being weird like i was yesterday. I truly wasnt trying to control her, but I felt like I could be open with my concerns to her (since we both have told eachother that several times). I trust her but I'm at that point where I really want her. I need to be patient. :/ I can continue writing letters (not all the time, but maybe weekly), but i feel like backing off would be the best approach.

Posted by urbane101
Hey everyone, etc.

Scorpio Sun / Pisces Moon?

Do you know your chinese year and your life path?

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Hey everyone, etc.

Scorpio Sun / Pisces Moon?

Do you know your chinese year and your life path?

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my ascendant is Scorpio, my sun is Pisces, my moon is taurus 🙂

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Hey everyone, etc.

Scorpio Sun / Pisces Moon?

Do you know your chinese year and your life path?

my ascendant is Scorpio, my sun is Pisces, my moon is taurus 🙂

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I didn't think so.
A Scorpio Sun / Pisces Moon wouldn't have asked the questions you had asked.
Just checking for clarification.

That's the thing... I just told her I felt uncomfortable with it... She used to ask me to spend time with her a LOT and now it's kind of quiet. That's what I said, not "you can't see him." To be honest, I didn't know WHEN I was supposed to go run with her sister (who we'll call Libra). Libra just told me she'd let me know. I took a nap, and woke up to a text seeing that Scorpio was coming with us. I have been trying to give scorpio her own space too, so I just asked her sister because Libra asked me. I'm pretty sure she just wanted to hang out with her friend after he came over (who was wearing jeans). Even when I tried to talk to her in the car (no one knew about what) he sat in there until we asked him to leave. It was. weird. To me at least. I don't think I (hopefully 🙂 ) will be her first. She's had two before me, but both weren't too good to her from what I've been told. All of her friends who know about me think I'm a very good choice for her, but she's the one who needs to convince herself.

I don't WANT to have an adult conversation. I just want to "get lost" in a deep connection with her again, but I feel like she either doesn't know (which I have no idea why she wouldn't) or doesn't care (again, I don't see why she wouldn't). The only other thing would be feeling secure. THAT makes sense... Although spending quality time with her means she's gotta try too. Emotions drive me, I can control them somewhat but if I get the impression that I'm not wanted, it scares the ish outta me. The way I feel like I can describe our current relationship: the intensity and passion of a scorpio with the wishy-washyness of a pisces.

I'm not sure what to do. I personally can't convince her, but I want to see her at the same time. I need to disappear for a little bit to get a grip on myself I guess. Falling for someone who doesn't trust me or isn't comfortable around me (anymore for whatever reason) is not good. Should I cancel the date for tomorrow?

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Hey everyone, etc.

Scorpio Sun / Pisces Moon?

Do you know your chinese year and your life path?

my ascendant is Scorpio, my sun is Pisces, my moon is taurus 🙂

I didn't think so.
A Scorpio Sun / Pisces Moon wouldn't have asked the questions you had asked.
Just checking for clarification.

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http://www.antiscia.com/chaos/natal/viewnatal.cfm?name=Urbane101&day=8&month=3&year=1992&timehour=00&timemin=00&m=am&zone=6&longdeg=97&longmin=42&latdeg=30&latmin=18&ns=N&ew=W&place=Austin&place2=Texas

Here you go if you want to know more. My Chinese Zodiac is the monkey.

Inside me right now, I'm anxious. I haven't spoken to her all day, or texted her because I want her to have space, especially after last night. The only overthinking I can do is if she likes me or not, and holding myself back from asking her to be my gf (which now I know is much much too soon 😢 ). She SAYS she likes me, but actions > words. I haven't seen her for longer than 2 hours in the last 5 days so it's pretty tough. I want to correct last night without mentioning it. I want to be good to her and for her, but I also want to be acknowledged for it... Personally, I'm not sure. I texted her last night before going to bed that I couldn't wait to reconnect with her again, to which she replied with "same here 😉". I have no idea what to think of that but it's confusing.

Her stuff:

Asc: Sag
Sun: Scorp
Moon: Taurus
Mars: Scorpio
Venus: Libra

I agree with what you've said. Im not sure by how much she reacts to me, but it could possibly be by a lot. I might just try and take the lead by reiterating what youve said to her and try to go from there, so that in case she doesnt know how i feel or if shes wondering if i feel the same way, she'll know. I really just want to have fun with her.

It's probably a water sign thing but it's realllly hard to tell if you are feeling your own energy or the energy of your partner and this is so true between Pisces and Scorpio. Emotional lines get so blurred. So I would suggest you practice thinking positively about things. Try to move into that energy when around your Scorpio.

Believe me, she will feel any anxiety you have and will no doubt misinterpret it within her own insecurities. That right there is part of the Heaven/Hell dynamic of Pisces/Scorpio. When you are both love vibing it's amazing. It's a little slice of heaven on earth. But when you are vibing insecurities or whatever, it's really hard to remain objective. Such is the nature of water.

All it takes is one of you to steer the ship toward calmer waters and things get better. I hope you have a good, empathetic Scorpio woman. As long as you are being relatively consistent, she will soon learn about your piscean need for reassurance where your heart is concerned and help protect it. IProtection is sort of hard wired in Scorpio with our loved ones.

Try not to worry about anything, okay? ðŸ'–

Also a side note. Scorpio is an introverted sign. We LOVE our alone time. So does Pisces--you totally get head space time. My only caution here is don't assume your Scorpio needs space and then pull back on communication. Just do you. Communicate when you want to about what you want to. Me and my fish can go days where we text sporadically all day long about hugely random and entertaining things. I'm never bored. So don't think you are boring or imposing or otherwise annoying this Scorpio. She will tell you upfront when she needs a bit of time to herself. Just go swim around sniffing at the sand coral while she's off "finding herself" lol.

Just thought of that...

Here are some updates: The date went really well, but I feel a little confused. Short version: awesome time on the date, got a goodnight kiss too. She had a LOT of fun, she started even behaving silly and playful. Almost The entire time she was like that, it was really cute, because she's rarely ever like that. We went to dinner first then a bar with her friends and I noticed her behavior went back to normal (funny but not silly, talkative and laughs but not playful). I'm trying to build (or keep) a rapport between us, but we dont talk or text everyday and I dont want to come off as clingy or too eager (although @BrightLight has given good insught above). The last few days ive only said hi just because I wanted to since she was on my mind, but it seems like she's backing off a bit, either saying things like "same to you" or what she was about to do. She even ignored one of my texts which was a flat out question, so im a little confused. I guess it happens, but normally you dont ignore people you like?

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Good news is that she relaxes and gets silly when she is with you... She really enjoys being with you and her joy is in a way, exploding. Her creativity is hightened when she is near you... Major PLUS.

She came back to programmed behavior when others joined the picture.

She gave you a kiss? You just stood there and took it? Hmmm... You are too nervous when you are around her and it's working against you. To me, that is a sign that you were too busy trying to read her, you weren't in the moment and just going with the flow at hand.

On your part... If you felt it, you could have prolonged the kiss, put your hands on her or behind the neck or caress her hair... Put some action on your part of you can.

Both Brightlight and I have the same Venus as your Scorp (Libra Venus). Everything that Brightlight has advised has literally felt like she took the words out of my mouth (and many times written what I couldn't properly express but also felt). So, that is a good sign that maybe your Scorp behaves similar to us.

Her not responding or texting - yeah, it's weird if she does that while she likes you BUT... I think she is just enjoying her space and allowing time to weigh in all her thoughts and feelings properly before she responds. Maybe she has mixed feelings - total excitement when with you, but something in your behavior also makes her question you.

Oh no, I didn't just stay there and take it. We were hugging as we were each heading home (she had to take her sister after we met up with her. One too many drinks), and when it was time to actually let go, we each almost instinctively kissed each other. I definitely could have prolonged it, not that it wasn't long enough, looking back but I got a little caught up in the moment.

Her Mercury is in Scorpio, Mine is in Aries. I don't know what her mixed feelings are, but just out of blind intuition I don't think I'll be getting a text back... It looks like she had fun last night though since we did separate things so who knows. IDK what she's questioning either... maybe I'm not doing enough? Maybe I'm doing too much? Maybe if she still even likes me or someone else? I have no idea. I doubt it's the latter, so i'm thinking its that she wants to weigh her emotions.

But thats the thing, the evening was excellent. She even texted me later that night saying that it was wonderful... I picked up on her talking to her friends so i went and talked to other people, but i stayed near her that night. If there was something I ruined I truly dont know.

Sometimes I want to say hey and have a conversation (like today) but I keep thinking im just going to get ignored again, and honestly that kind of hurts. Shes a busy person, but lately... im just getting weird vibes. but I'm seriously trying to be not-clingy but involved in her life. Which is freakishly hard to do. We used to send messages to eachother saying how we're on each other's mind, but that's stopped, for better or worse. I dont know.