Scorpio and Aries parents

I don't know if I should have posted this in the libra section or Aries but I thought it'd be best here. I have a Scorpio father and an Aries mother. My dad is the typical immature Scorpio who dislikes compromising and everything has to go his way and he's really stubborn. My mom is also the typical Aries that likes to start a fight and has issues losing.

So here's the problem.
Today is black Friday and as a libra I planned to go out and camp near a bestbuy to buy a new laptop. I talked to my mom a week before this day and told her if I could partake black Friday and she asked who I was going with. I told her it would be either friends #1 or friends #2 (labels for name issues). Her reply was that I can't with #1 because they're a bad influence but #2 yes. Well truth is they don't influence me cause I choose what I want to do usually and they dont really pressure me to do bad things. After I told her that it wasn't fair to judge my friends like she knows them all she changed her excuse to "their parents aren't strict like friends#2 parents." well I told her that she wouldn't know cause she dooesnt know any of them. She then said nope and plus I'm not allowed to sleepover cause it's dangerous and I can't go back to my daily routine the next day. Me being 17 years old thought that was pretty obscured.

Well today comes and we went over to our relatives for dinner. I decided to lie to my parents that I was going to my neighbors house to sleepover because I'm allowed apparently to sleepover at peoples houses that my parents fully trust. I understand that they're worried but i think it's a bit hypocritical to let me sleepove and do blackfriday with my neighbors other than my other friends cause I thought the rules were sleepovers are dangerous and they f up my daily schedule. So I tell them but secretly my friend was gonna drive over and pick me up. Right before we were leaving our relatives my dad the obsessive one calls my neighbors to see if the plans are legit. Of course I get caught by mr.investigator and he gets furious. I realize how emotional scorpios can get when they're lied at but I didn't have a choice. They weren't going to let me go even if I did tell them the truth caus I told them I might be going over to friend#1s house maybe and they give me a instant no. I tried telling them that it wasn't fair at all and asked if we can some how make some agreements but my dad wouldn't even Bother listening. Do all scorpios have a tendency to be close

Is it just my dad and 9 of my close friends who are always so closed. Also what's a way to some how have a Scorpio to try and cooperate with you cause it pisses me off that they're super stubborn (or at least the ones I know) and won't ever understand me or at least even try to. My dad saids everything he does for me is cause he wants me to grow up good and I'm thankful for that intention that he has but I have a feeling that I won't turn out to be an adult that thinksand has the same perspective that he does. As a libra Im dieing to hang out with my friends right now as I'm typing this but I feel very unbalanced since this situation I'm in has no room for me to have a say in. Plus I'm an only child so I don't feel to happy when I'm home cause there's no one to talk to since my dad only wants to watch tv or chill by himself when he's home. My mom always has something to start shit about when I talk to her so I always try to stay away from her so I don't create a hastle since any argument that starts is always going to be my fault and my dad will always support her only saids him.

So what can this lonely libra that can't breathe do to have a little bit of the things that I need? They tell me to waitone more year since I'll be out but I've always had a mindset as a child that I will cut connections with them once I'm out of the house since I feel like I'm being tortured. I'm 17 and still bitching about a small problem that's been going on forever now since it's been killing me. I want to have my parents be at my wedding, I want to feel proud that my parents are my parents, I want them to see their grandchildren, I want them to be at every family reunion later in life but it kills me to say that I don't think I want them there. My dad saids I can live happily without having many friends or a harmonious life. He saids that if he can do it then I can too so he leaves me with no other options than to be like him. I don't want to be like him or live a life like our family does right now. It's too boring, unfair, prison like, basically I hate it. Sure I can choose to forget about cutting conections but part of me wants to really do that cause I don't feel like their son.

Sorry for some typing issues, I had to use my iTouch since they took away everything else that I had. Any comments are appreciated
Thanks

awwwwwwwwwwwwww man that horrible i always tell people restriction only makes the situation worse or rebellious ur time will come if u can get a good job save some money and move out that will be tha best option if that can't happened use ur Libra charm to compromise with them 2 come 2 a agreement.

i'm blessed dat my moms was not over protective and open minded but yet i was raised to be a good person my moms trust my judgement and kno i wont bring crazy people 2 her house or hang around bad people.

good luck

Well... you stuffed up by lying as that lost trust in you.... and even though I DO get what you are saying about it not making sense... to your parents it makes sense... and they have the last word. The best way to deal with parents I think, is to agree with everything they say,,, even if you dont agree..., because this makes them happy.. and happy parents usually let you do more things... but now you have done what you did... its done now. Try not to worry too much about the future weddings etc etc. As you get a bit older and start your own life, your relationship with your parents will change, I promise... so you just have to be patient and try to be extra nice to them,,, because in 'their' eyes... you have let them down, and upset them...so now you have to make good, and get their trust back,,, because they will be much easier to live with that way 🙂

I raised a Libra man as that is what society say men are when they reach 21. He is also an ONLY Child.

You have the only child syndrum, my son has it as well.

You should first be thankful that you have both parents together under on roof. You may not see that what they are doing is for your own good but you will as you get older.

My son is 23 and he does not believe half the stuff I tell him when he was your age. He thought everything I did to him or said I was being mean. One day he took my advise "but put up an enormous struggle but finally gave in and since then he has on many occasions thanked me for what I encouraged him to do and I always tell him "I would never tell you to do something that was not good for you"

My only suggestion to you is to listen to them and try to understand what they are saying.and know that they love you enough to tell you what's good for you and what's not.

My son used to complain about being an only child no one to play with no one to talk, used to get mad at christmas because I would buy board game etc for 2 or more players. He is selfish, thanks the world owes him, never want to own up to his faults, and lies.

I get on his last nerves and I don't care, because as long as he is under my roof my rules apply, yes he is 23, and needs to go out on his own, because if he don't want to live by my rules then leave. He ha since started doing something with him self.

You are 17 really What do you really know about life? You are still considered a minor you really don't have no choIce but to listen to your parents. Once you reach adulthood the you step out but in the meantime they are your parents they love and you might what to appreciate what you have.

I don't ask them for anything that I want.. Hell I got nothing for my birthday this year and not even a merry Xmas son on Christmas. They just said it's time for me to grow up and be an adult. Actually yesterday I was talking to them about college and they told me I have to learn to be responsible in life so they're not gonna help pay for it.. Plus they won't even let me go to the DMV cause I don't stop at the stop sign for 3 Mississippis and I've had my permit for a year and a half now. I can't say that I am selfish or I'm not cause there are times when I am but I think there just extreme with there rules. I don't know what the typical onlychild syndrome can be cause as a child I enjoyed sharing and caring with other people cause I felt like I can always connect. I'm not asking much from my parents either.. I just want to experience growing up like all the nononly child kids out there. Although I do sometimes think that they are doing this so that when I become an adult I can do exactly what I've always wanted to do and it was all part of their secret plan to piss me off all those years so i can keep dreaming to make my dreams real. But that's just a cruel way to raise kids imo..

Scorpionlady would you have ever tried raising your son differently if given the oppurtunity cause i feel as if my Scorpio dad was just too strict and controling so I was "forced" to be what I am now. I'm curious as too is he happy now after all those years cause that's what really matters. Out of all the scorpios I know they all think that they know the world (not saying that you don't) like the back of their hands and it's like they made all their decisions as to what happens beforehand and if anything gets in the way, you gotta put em back in the line. Truth is everyone is different so I don't see why scorpios say their always right because you guys are probably right in your perspectives but people don't have the same perspectives as scorpios do and how do I know this? Well every single one of my closest friends have been a Scorpio and they all have that same attitude. They know what they're doing and then when they fail i have to support them even if they tried to prove me wrong.. I have no grudges against scorpios and all i want to know is why are you guys so controling. I understand you guys do it cause you guys care so much about your close ones but why do many scorps including my dad must have it there way even though it's wrong.

wow .... with a Scorpio parent, you have the option open to you in having an ally who is loyal, faithful, protective and understanding ... instead you choose to be closed minded which causes him to be a foe.



But, instead of realizing that what you need is right there, all you have to do is open your mind to the realization that you are not the only person ...... you choose to close your mind to think only about yourself, in which also closes the door to your parents.

I feel sorry for them that they have to deal with an insufferable asshole = you. In all likelihood, they probably can't fucking wait for you to get the hell out ... I know I wouldn't be able to hardly wait.

No I would not have raised him different. He was raised without a father figure so I had to be the mother and the father. I tried to raise him with the right morals and values that I believe in. I give him confidence and parised him when he does good still. I have given him the necessary tools he needs to make it in this world. To me my life is not promised I tell my son " If I left today or tomorrow everything that I told him will happen and he would say to himself "my mother told me this would happen is I did xyz" Yes I can be controlling but it is for his own good. He will appreciate eventually. I am not a mean parentn my son and I laugh joke and play games together. I have even scooled his friends female and males. They come to me with their problems. I am the cool mom and then sometimes I am the mean mom.

Kids now these days just want want want, again you are not an adult. You need to think about the parts you played on making your parents treat you the way they do. There is a reason and as soon as you live up to your faults you will see things more clearly.

I don't think your father raised you to be like him you probably just have some of his genes as well as some of your moms. My son acts just like his father and because his father was not around and because of that he does not have any respect for him sine he has gotten older because he sees that his father did not hve a hand in raising him. But that is there issue . My relationship with my son is good and I am his best friend no matter how mad I make him. We are very clse he tells me his business whenhe has a problem he comes to me sits on my bed and talk to me. Maybe you should stop complaining and sit down and try telling your father how you feel. My son does it all the time I listen and then let him know how I feel.

I love my son dearly and would protect him anyway I can. If I am guilty of anthing it is trying to get him to be the man that I know he can be. And I don't regret the way that I have raised him.

Parents are not perfect there is no rule book on how to raised a child it is done through love, and intuition, and the need to protect our children and hope that all we have done they will listen and take it with them as they get older.

"Maybe you should stop complaining and sit down and try telling your father how you feel. My son does it all the time I listen and then let him know how I feel."



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I have three Scorpio male adults in my family, and one of them (my brother) has a Libra son .... his Libra son has always known that he has a confidant in my brother, his father, who would lay down and die for his people.



The problem here is selfishness, self-absorbed ....


Scorpios are fucked up in ways, such as we all are in some ways ... however, parenting, they are pros, and a person who has a Scorpio parent is indeed blessed.

Thanks for your input scorpionlady.
Uh pangel I have tried talking to him about this stuff and he saids it's for the better good and no reasoning behind it. It's not that I don't trust him it's just that can't I know what path he's pulling me on? I understand they're one of the most loving signs but as a libra it's just what I kinda don't want. He's one of those extreme parents who likes to take it far. My parents want what's best for me but how can I be open minded if they aren't? They just act on their own impulses. And I guess you're right. I was probably a bit selfish sometimes but then again isn't everyone a little bit selfish at times? I just don't see how they can be understanding when they always refuse to take any of my opinions into consideration and just set ground rules with no exceptions. It's like my words never matter to them.

LOL at your fathers comment I do the same to my son and its only because my sons mind thought can be whack sometimes and when he keeps fighting me on it I say to him "I don't care what you think, feel etc its my decision and I don't want to talk about and tell him to get the hell out my face. One thing I hate is a person that says stupid stuff.

I am sure your father loves you unconditionally but what ever you did to make him treat you that way you will have to fIx it.

Why I have problems with my son is because he thinks he has all the answers and he don't he is only 23 and I know he will not survive in this world and since I am not getting older I want make sure he can survive.

Libras are to much on joke time and dony get me wrong there is a time to joke and play but in my sons case he needs to focus on doing something with his life. I refuse to wake up and find him still at home. I want him to make me proud of him.

My son is lazy he don't want to keep his room clean. He knows I am a clean freak but as a mother in my mind "don't no women want a dirty man" and that is what I teach him.

I am sure if my son had a father figure he would be whinning about the same thing.

Until you are ready to see your faults and own up to them and be the responsible person you are going to have these problems.

You lied to your parents and one thing you apparently don't know about your father is that scorpios don't like to be lied to and then to catch you it hurts . My son has hurt me to the point of me cursing him out and crying at the same time and letting him know that he hurt me. He apologize but it does not go away. He gets so frustrated with me because know I don't trust nothing he says. He says to. Me "me I don't understand why you never believe me and I tell him. He lost my trust and even though I still love him I don't have to trust him.

Let me ask you? Have you ever been close witbh your parents? If so again what ever you did to cause them to treat you like this you need to make a change and get things right again.

You need your parents because you are going to experience somethings in life and will need them. The last thing you want is for you to need them and they turn you down.