Scorpio enters to easy relationships

I had a relationship with a Scorpio guy about a year ago, but due to the distance between us, he was no longer able to carry on. As he said, he could not stand out the jealousy that he felt for me, and it was better for him to split, although he loved me so much. When finally I met him again, he already hooked up on a girl, who was not his type, not just by appearance, but also her way of thinking was far away from him. I could immediately sense when I came back that he got so excited again. He was sending me messages all the time, and saying nice things, that he is so glad that I came back, and hopes I had a nice first day. But by the time he became so cold, I saw that he suffered in my environment, and started to act like a stranger. Finally he ended up not even saying hi to me, and a month later he just catched me on the corridor, behaving like a best friend, and telling me happily that he broke up with that girl due to the differences between them, and he was even scared of being with her in relationship as she had really strict mindset.

His release from that relationship did not make our connection better, since he was still too jealous of me. He told me that he needs some time to spend alone, enjoy life... but 2 fucking weeks after... he got a new gf, who is also, lets say that, she is not the most attractive creature on the planet... as her previous fellow.

These two girls seriously ruined my self esteem. And I can not understand him, since I read several descriptions about Scorpio man, and they always been saying that scorpios have high standards, they go for the best.

By the way I am a Cancer, so even the emotional connection between us was so tight. He was the first man who I could take off my protective shield and show the deepest part of me.

How do you let 2 girls destroy your self esteem? Because he wanted them and not you? How do you know what his type is?

Hmm this is interesting.

Maybe hes not ready for a serious relationship and wants to date around.

He was born on 25-10-1989. Obviously, I can not know 100% what he wants, so in this case, what turns him on, but we have spent a lot of time together and I thought we have the same standards in taste. Well, I would think the same that he might not even wanna be in a serious relationship, but last time when he broke up with the previous one, he said he was afraid to have kids from her, since she is a freak... Why the hell would you go for an insane person, highly influenced by politics, who barely hit the average level in appearance.


I don't know about the new girl, how she is, I only have seen her, but I can tell you, she is not better quality. My friends started to call her Pinocchio, because of her nose. They all told me that I got nothing to do this this guy, if that is what he satisfied by.

It sounds like you were giving him mixed signals. Sometimes if someone is jealous they just need you to either give them space to sort out on their own, or make them feel supported. By supported I don't mean reassuring all the time, because they implies blame and you are not guilty for how someone else feels. But by being supportive, 'i know those feelings of jealousy can come up for you, i'm sorry you have to feel that way from time to time.' or even just asking what would make them feel more comfortable. In a way now you know how he felt since you have jealousy towards those other girls too. If anything, you both need to find a way to let the past be in the past. Because it seems like you're both keep score of past pain? Your connection will always be unique and special, don't doubt that based on who he tried to move on with next. Whether serious or not, those relationships are separate.

Sorry to say but your friends sound awful if that's how they judge someone else on something they cannot change. Something as superficial as looks. Don't be mean about other women because he chose someone else. Be the best you, and work on repairing your friendship with him.

I agree, and that makes it harder, because I don't wanna judge him at all. I really respect him on the way he is, and I won't even like him to change. But I would like him to realize that he should not be afraid of love hard, and he does not need to choose people from a circle that are not on his level, because of his insecurities.

Its been a year now, and I don't know if we ever would find each other again, although he will always remain the one for me, no matter what. I am sure about it, because even after a long time not seeing each other I still had butterflies in my stomach.

Whatu... Haha... but that is nothing for a Scorp, and I don't think that we got issues on that field.

Looks aren't just on the outside or superficial crap. As a scorpio female, good looking men are a dime a dozen that seek me out. It gets boring, old and tired. When I meet someone I connect with on more than one level they become beautiful to me. I can become attracted to someone based on their insides and it last longer than attraction due to outward appearance.

For me, good looking men suffer personality wise, as they feel they don't' have to try hard to actually be a person. So I shock the heck out of them when I let em know I'm not interested or they do NOTHING for me. It's a real blow to their ego and a reality check.

Lastly, you sound like not to "nice" of a person based on your OP that as a Scorp. I wouldn't be interested in someone who judge superficially. At least my scorp can give two craps about looks when it comes to wanting something deep and meaningful. I can always get a handsome guy to have fun with, but it needs to be more than that. You say she's not his type, well it seems you dont' know what his type is, if you can't see why he's with her. Also most likely it's because your judging her when you have no idea what type of person she is, which is probably why you currently are clueless to why he's with her. She could be an amazing person. Anyway, calling a girl ugly or making fun of something she can't control is shallow and says a lot about the people you hang out with and a bit about yourself. I'm almost inclined to say this Scorpio guy is dodging a bullet.

However, if your not truly like that and your just upset he's not pursuing you. It's probably because you haven't been giving him hints that you are interested. Also if he is too jealous when it comes to you then its best if he is with someone else at the time. A jealous scorpio man is hell to deal with and not even worth it at times, unless your willing to put up and work on that behavior together.

Posted by Whatu
Maybe they give good head.

Basically... Or free ass...

Well it is kinda sad what you gave me as a feedback. I absolutely can not relate myself to this description, since for me the look takes a small percentage from the total opinion of mine about another person. What I meant with the expression that he chooses people from the group below him.. I was not referring to their look, but I know he has so great values, which are not even respected by these people. As many of the Scorp guys he also had bad experiences from past relationships, and he is cautious to open up, but my concern is that, he feels more relaxed with someone who he is able to manipulate and so he can enjoy the leadership, which is fine. But in the end of the day, he will realize that not taking risks is even a bigger risk. His friends, brother told me that they have tried to convince him to not enter to this relationship again, if he does not attract to this person that much, just because of his loneliness. 2 days ago, he told me that he tried to stay alone, but he needs someone, even if it only last for a while.

and last, he is jelous, because he did not have the chance to look around my "house" if you know what I mean. I am loyal person in general to everyone, but mainly to the ONE.

"he got a new gf, who is also, lets say that, she is not the most attractive creature on the planet... as her previous fellow. These two girls seriously ruined my self esteem. And I can not understand him, since I read several descriptions about Scorpio man, and they always been saying that scorpios have high standards, they go for the best."

Why the hell would you go for an insane person, highly influenced by politics, who barely hit the average level in appearance


I don't know about the new girl, how she is, I only have seen her, but I can tell you, she is not better quality. My friends started to call her Pinocchio, because of her nose.


As you can tell, the above is all what your wrote regarding the people he has dated or closely associated with that have to do With Appearance and can easily read as if your talking about her looks and nothing else. My response wasn't a sad one, but an accurate one based on what you wrote. Be honest you think the girls are beneath him physically. If you didn't think that, you wouldn't have wrote it or mentioned anything about what they look like, as it doesn't matter.

Lastly, you like this guy. You seem to have some sort of relationship/history with him. You should be able to speak to him on a friend level at first to get him to realize you care about his wellbeing and want to help him. If he's jealous because he didn't get in your pants well that's silly. I can't tell you anything about that ten he needs to grow up and that's what I would tell him.

It sounds like he is totally way too insecure and immature. I get the need to be in control. The need to stay on top to keep from being hurt, but he's obviously not a master at his scorpioness lol or w.e. you want to call it. As if he is, he'd be able to be with who he WANTS to be with and still be ABLE to exert enough control to keep his relationship solid and protect himself from w.e. he feels needs to be guarded.

Sure, I did write that. But I just wanted to illustrate what the situation is on a physical level. I talked to him 4 months ago about it, how much I felt the connection between us, and how much I actually miss him. But that was a mistake to admit. Because the reason why I got rejected was that.... he wanted to she how the new relationship goes. Yes, he is immature... but I can not blame him forever. I was so determined that I will focus on myself and not care about him anymore...

I have improved on different fields, which I am so glad about, but in case of love, I just returned to my shell. There are people who have interest in me, but I just avoid them. And on a subconcious level I still think about him, which is sick.

Posted by Nicole99
Sure, I did write that. But I just wanted to illustrate what the situation is on a physical level. I talked to him 4 months ago about it, how much I felt the connection between us, and how much I actually miss him. But that was a mistake to admit. Because the reason why I got rejected was that.... he wanted to she how the new relationship goes. Yes, he is immature... but I can not blame him forever. I was so determined that I will focus on myself and not care about him anymore...

I have improved on different fields, which I am so glad about, but in case of love, I just returned to my shell. There are people who have interest in me, but I just avoid them. And on a subconcious level I still think about him, which is sick.

I would move on and stay friends. There is no harm in that. I guess I wouldn't have admitted my feelings, but that is my scorpio way.. PROTECT THE WALL that is my emotions, dignity, pride and self respect.

He doesn't seem like much of a catch either, based on what you say.

Thats right. although I am still wondering why he acts nice with me and not with the other girls... Anyway thanks for the advice... I think I will keep it as I did it so far, and not showing my emotions to him at all.

Hmm nice to you and not to other girls...him, it can mean something or nothing. Oddly enough I am nicer to the people I do not like like because it's easier for me to let my guard down and be myself. However, when I like a guy, I stumble and in fear of rejection clam up and can seem uninterested.

However, you guys have a rapport. He's familiar and comfortable around you. Go off that and be merry. Friends first and everything else can come later is my motto!!!!!

Posted by Nicole99
He was born on 25-10-1989. Obviously, I can not know 100% what he wants, so in this case, what turns him on, but we have spent a lot of time together and I thought we have the same standards in taste. Well, I would think the same that he might not even wanna be in a serious relationship, but last time when he broke up with the previous one, he said he was afraid to have kids from her, since she is a freak... Why the hell would you go for an insane person, highly influenced by politics, who barely hit the average level in appearance.


I don't know about the new girl, how she is, I only have seen her, but I can tell you, she is not better quality. My friends started to call her Pinocchio, because of her nose. They all told me that I got nothing to do this this guy, if that is what he satisfied by.

Of course your friends are going to tell you that. Her friends are probably telling her you are nothing compared to her. Friends do that for each other. Also, if you're not his type, get over it. You don't get to decide what is attractive to him. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Do you think you are in his "group" or attractiveness? Or do you place him above yourself as well?

it seems like I made a bad impression on the public with this statement. Alright, I don't think that anyone is better than the other... but as everyone is different... most of the human being feel more comfortable within a certain circle... the people who you have something in common. me and him always got to destinations where we were pretending to wear others skins. one day we were hiking with the backpacks, wearing trashy clothes, but in the other we just entered to a luxury hotel rented a room for a long weekend, ordered all the nice food and did not even move out from bed.

So me as a type of person... i think I am interesting and surprising, he was too and thats what I liked, that I could never know what his next step would be.

For me it was also a surprise that he ended up twice in a relationship where both of the girls were way too simple.

Posted by Nicole99
it seems like I made a bad impression on the public with this statement. Alright, I don't think that anyone is better than the other... but as everyone is different... most of the human being feel more comfortable within a certain circle... the people who you have something in common. me and him always got to destinations where we were pretending to wear others skins. one day we were hiking with the backpacks, wearing trashy clothes, but in the other we just entered to a luxury hotel rented a room for a long weekend, ordered all the nice food and did not even move out from bed.

So me as a type of person... i think I am interesting and surprising, he was too and thats what I liked, that I could never know what his next step would be.

For me it was also a surprise that he ended up twice in a relationship where both of the girls were way too simple.

"I don't know about the new girl, how she is, I only have seen her"

You already said you don't know the girl. How do you know she's simple? What if she's everything he's been looking for?

hehh... i just hear it from his brother... that she does not have the brightest mind. She is unemployed for some years now... so... enough said

but have you heard what he's said about her.

She could be unemployed and not the brightest star in the sky, but she could be fulfilling a need that he feels someone else cannot, at the moment.

Family, ay times, doesn't see what the person in the relationship is seeing in their significant other, which can be a red flag or it could just be that family is too harsh.

For all we know the brother could no diddly squat. She can be unemployed, but what if she didn't need money? So she isn't the brightest, but whose judging and by what interaction. People who only know me superficially don't know how smart I am. I only reveal my intellect when I am comfortable that others can handle it. In the mean time, I'm regular and just show my ditsy goofy side.

well yes, but as I said previously 2 days ago he came to me and had an upset expression on his face while telling that, "I got this girl, I know ... but what can I do? I can not be alone" and when I asked how is it... he said "lets see".

Does it sound like an excited man, who is fulfilled even at the moment... ?

I swear to you it is not me who is trying to disorient you in the story and deform the situation.

I don't care about these woman, I just try to understand him... and yes, it is hard to close out all the factor. I am not a superhero. I also can be emotionally effected by the circumstances. And it hurts me seeing someone who you like with others who don't deserve him. But it also puts the question up to me... did I deserved him— Or am I also just a case where I only supplied him with temporary feelings? Was it special at all, or is it me who just made it up too much?... thats what is cause when you see someone satisfied by people who you would never ever thought about.

pffff...... i got nothing to say...

Posted by Nicole99
well yes, but as I said previously 2 days ago he came to me and had an upset expression on his face while telling that, "I got this girl, I know ... but what can I do? I can not be alone" and when I asked how is it... he said "lets see".

Does it sound like an excited man, who is fulfilled even at the moment... ?

I swear to you it is not me who is trying to disorient you in the story and deform the situation.

Honestly, it doesn't seem like the woman is the problem. but the man. It seems tat he is in a relationship for the hell of it and he's seeking fulfillment from the wrong source. He's empty and thinks being in a relationship is his ticket.

Trust me that if he wanted to be in a relationship with you he wouldn't' have said what he said to you. If he wanted you, he would have made it his business to seek you out. If he wanted to date you, as opposed to this random chick, he would have not said let's see where this goes. He would have said something that would have told you he is interested and as soon as you give the ok, he'd dump the other girl.

Right now he'd rather be with this girl, but his unhappiness and unfufillment isn't due to the women but himself. I advise, based solely on what you have written to stay away from him romantically as of right now.