saggirlius
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Scorpio girl and Gemini man, I need advice please
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If you really want a meaningful relationship, you need to develop patience. He said he needs to move slow. How would you feel if he proposed right now and started planning children with you?
Two months is a lot of time for some and not much time for others. Get to know him and don't seek labels just yet. Let the courtship play it's course.
Two months is a lot of time for some and not much time for others. Get to know him and don't seek labels just yet. Let the courtship play it's course.
Amen Elle. I've got a duck too. 😛
...and my duck said "ILY" for the first time yesterday. Heh. Still being a duck though. *snicker*
...and my duck said "ILY" for the first time yesterday. Heh. Still being a duck though. *snicker*
Posted by ellessque
(I screwed up the last post, sorry 🙂)
You have to ask yourself a few questions and be has honest as you can to yourself.
Do you ever go anywhere together?
if no, see below
Do you just hang out at his place?
if yes, see below
Have you met any of his friends? family?
if no, see below
Does he openly communicate with you in front of others?
if no, see below
Are you comfortable with a friends with benefits arrangement?
Are you comfortable being a fuck buddy?
If you are not, then you need to decide if this relationship is fulfilling your needs. He may not call it a relationship but if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck...it's a damn duck. It's a duck to *you*. Scorpios do not play well in these situations and can find ourselves in them without even knowing. It's never intent but some people are just shady and dishonest.
He may even *tell* you that you are not fwb or a fb because he can't even commit to *that* label.
You know in your gut what to do. You just have to do it.
I'm going to answer your questions honestly
1. Yes, he takes me out and pays for it. We go out to dinner once a week. Always takes me to nice places.
2. No we don't usually just hang out at his place. We hang out at his place once a week on a weekday. He gets up early the next day to work.
3. I met a couple of his friends and some other friends of him he told me their names and he showed me pictures of his best friends ( they live in another state). I haven't met his family cause they live away from him, in another state.
4. Yes he openly communicates with me in front of others
5. I'm not comfortable with FWB or fb that's why I like to have that label.
I'm thinking of cutting him loose but before I do it I need some feedback from other people if its normal for a Gemini man to act like this. I only know one Gemini and she's a girl. So i don't have a lot of encounter with Gemini people. I have stopped talking to him before for a couple of days cause of some misunderstanding and he kept contacting me to get a response from me. He told me he likes me but why won't he put a label on it?
Posted by DG
Age is a big factor when thinking about gettting serious. If you don't mind me asking, how old are the two of you?
He's 36, I'm 34. Never been married before, no kids.
Posted by DGPosted by saggirliusPosted by DG
Age is a big factor when thinking about gettting serious. If you don't mind me asking, how old are the two of you?
He's 36, I'm 34. Never been married before, no kids.
Ok, just checking cus sometimes people will post then come to find out their very young and the reason for indecsion.
Thats not the case here...yeah two months should be enough IMO...I would bust out with the million dollar question, "So where is this going"?
If he doesn't give you a straight answer, I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket just yet. Also if your going to continue to see him ,make him take you out on a proper date.
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We are exclusive in the sense that were not seeing other people. He doesnt want the label yet. We spend Saturday night together( it's a routine) and a weekday. He takes me out on saturday night pays for it and it's not cheap cause he takes me to nice places.
As I stated earlier, patience. It looks like things are going your way, you just need more time with him in order for him to feel more comfortable calling you his girlfriend. You could give him space and tell him you will give him time while you focus on other things. You are dealing with a Gemini, you are going to have to start dealing with him on a mental level instead of your emotions. As a water sign who has dated an air sign this is very important. Good luck.
Posted by ellessque
okay, if what you are stating is true.....then you need to slow your roll and have some patience, aries moon.
it seems he really does want you to slow down and take your time. Gem's are all about establishing a pretty deep friendship connection before speaking about titles, commitment and all that jazz.
however, don't put all your eggs in one basket (no pun intended...LOL) and DO NOT let him hoard all your attention and time when you are away from each other. keep doing you, enjoy life and keep yourself open to other opportunities. If he clearly doesn't want a committment then you are free to date whomever you want.
Yeah, that's completely FUCKED UP to a scorpio (at least the females) and we DO NOT care to date more than one person but don't just give yourself to him....he has to claim you. Until you are claimed....you are a free agent.
where is TIKI OR NEFER——?? They are so much better at this than I am. 😕
What should I do then? I don't want to see other people cause I want to be true to my words. We said were only gonna date each other. I have noticed too that if I don't give him much attention, that's when he craves for it like if I take forever to text him back he would be worried why I don't respond to his text. Sometimes I feel like his playing games. Should I stop hanging out with him and make him wonder why? We spend Saturday night together it's a routine unless he has to go visit his family out of town or he has an event he has to attend but he tells me ahead of time. Like I said before, he treats me well when we're together..my gut feeling tells me he's into me..but when were not together, it tells me the other way cause I don't hear from him much. When he contacts me, I don't want to respond back cause usually it's very short conversation and leave me wanting to talk to him more. And sometimes I respond and he won't respond back so I figure better to just not respond.
Base on his chart, is this guy a player? I don't know a lot about astrology but does his chart tells something that I should just walk away? Thanks for your help.
Posted by LunarMaiden
As I stated earlier, patience. It looks like things are going your way, you just need more time with him in order for him to feel more comfortable calling you his girlfriend. You could give him space and tell him you will give him time while you focus on other things. You are dealing with a Gemini, you are going to have to start dealing with him on a mental level instead of your emotions. As a water sign who has dated an air sign this is very important. Good luck.
How? Please give me some ideas how to deal with him? I don't show a lot of emotions when I'm with him. I have some Sagittarius traits in me cause Im a Scorpio-saggiarius cusp. We both like being adventurous. We always have fun hanging out.
Posted by ellessque
I'm not going to give my opinion on his chart. That isn't fair for you. I've had my own experiences and my opinion on his chart would be unbiased. For me, I would run, far far away.....but you are NOT me and I'm am NOT you. 😄 😛
Under no circumstances do I suggest you start playing games or assume that he's playing gaimes....that is a horrible way to throw away two months worth of honesty. We aren't very good at those types of games anyways...a gem will beat you hands down in the game department. You don't even want to go there.
Let me ask you this......
You spoke the words of *you* being exclusive. Did he also agree to be exclusive?
If you both agreed to be exclusive.....leave it there and grow together and takes small steps forward with each other. Just enjoy each others company. Learn more about each other. Hell, you don't even know for sure if you can tolerate him for long periods of time...what's the rush?
There isn't any reason to start the push/pull game because you can't have what you want RIGHT NOW (I have an aries moon too....I know exactly what it feels like to sit in a puddle of grey and throw a fit because I can't get what I want)
Keep doing what you are doing and don't "push" for anything more, let it happen on it's own. If you get to a point where you are uncomfortable with that....tell him. You are allowed to change your mind (heavens knows HE does it 9,435 times a day). Tell him you enjoy the exclusivity but you are looking for a deeper commitment and if he is not looking for the same than you suggest it's time to see other people.
However, DO NOT do this if you can't stay true to your words. DO NOT attempt it as a move in game playing. You have to MEAN it and PRACTICE IT.
He said he's not seeing anyone else just me since we started seeing each other.
Can you tell me your opinion about his chart please. It will help me somehow to make a decision if I should stay or walk away. I m not saying I will base it solely on his chart but it will guide me somehow. I don't want to be more attach to him it's better if I leave now if it's gonna head towards that direction anyway atleast now I won't be that much hurt. I don't want to waste more time if it's telling me now we have no future together. I appreciate your help. Thanks.
Posted by ellessque
I'm not going to give my opinion on his chart. That isn't fair for you. I've had my own experiences and my opinion on his chart would be unbiased. For me, I would run, far far away.....but you are NOT me and I'm am NOT you. 😄 😛
Under no circumstances do I suggest you start playing games or assume that he's playing gaimes....that is a horrible way to throw away two months worth of honesty. We aren't very good at those types of games anyways...a gem will beat you hands down in the game department. You don't even want to go there.
Let me ask you this......
You spoke the words of *you* being exclusive. Did he also agree to be exclusive?
If you both agreed to be exclusive.....leave it there and grow together and takes small steps forward with each other. Just enjoy each others company. Learn more about each other. Hell, you don't even know for sure if you can tolerate him for long periods of time...what's the rush?
There isn't any reason to start the push/pull game because you can't have what you want RIGHT NOW (I have an aries moon too....I know exactly what it feels like to sit in a puddle of grey and throw a fit because I can't get what I want)
Keep doing what you are doing and don't "push" for anything more, let it happen on it's own. If you get to a point where you are uncomfortable with that....tell him. You are allowed to change your mind (heavens knows HE does it 9,435 times a day). Tell him you enjoy the exclusivity but you are looking for a deeper commitment and if he is not looking for the same than you suggest it's time to see other people.
However, DO NOT do this if you can't stay true to your words. DO NOT attempt it as a move in game playing. You have to MEAN it and PRACTICE IT.
Can you also tell me if we're somehow compatible. I'm a Scorpio -sag cusp. Thanks
You gave excellent advice, Elle. You don't need me or Tiki at all :p
I read this thread (before I was summoned) but I wasn't sure how to respond, or if I'd be wasting my time. I wanted to say what Elle already said.
Adding my $ 0.02 to the pot.. two months is a short time for a lot of people. It's a LONG time to a lot of Scorps (ESP Scorp Venus).. and it's literally a blink of an eye to Gemini/Sags. I bet he literally feels like you've been dating for mere minutes.
Opinion on his chart? I wouldn't say "player".. I would certainly say a guy who relishes his freedom and doesn't like labels NOR rushing... but YOU, Scorp woman with a Scorp Venus, you need more security/reassurance than this guy can supply this early on. The problem is this.. while you're so caught up in worrying about labels and if he really likes you as much as you like him.. you can't REALLY enjoy the present with your eye on the future and what he's not giving you yet. It's going to jack your vibe, what it FEELS like to be around you and talk to you, turn you into something you don't like. Turn you into something that HE won't like. You'll start smothering (even WANTING to smother is a no-no, guys aren't dumb and he'll FEEL it) and he'll balk and put more space between you to stop it.. lather, rinse, repeat.
Elle is right.. enjoy time with him BUT keep your full and busy life WITHOUT him.. he is NOT the be all and end all.. he is JUST A MAN.. ONE MAN... and two months isn't that long, and certainly not long enough for most men to decide how they feel about a woman. I won't tell you to date other guys (though I wish you would, until this man actually CLAIMS you to take you off the market), I've found Scorp women CAN'T.. even when their "man" hasn't yet claimed them.. if a Scorp woman has her sights on you, that's it, she's not seeing other men. The problem with this is if it's early on (say.. two months).. when she basically hands her heart over to him UNASKED, UNCLAIMED.. it backfires.. cuz why would he work hard to WIN her love/affection/intimacy if he doesn't have to? Men save their energy, they do the minimum required work to get what they want. Period.
I read this thread (before I was summoned) but I wasn't sure how to respond, or if I'd be wasting my time. I wanted to say what Elle already said.
Adding my $ 0.02 to the pot.. two months is a short time for a lot of people. It's a LONG time to a lot of Scorps (ESP Scorp Venus).. and it's literally a blink of an eye to Gemini/Sags. I bet he literally feels like you've been dating for mere minutes.
Opinion on his chart? I wouldn't say "player".. I would certainly say a guy who relishes his freedom and doesn't like labels NOR rushing... but YOU, Scorp woman with a Scorp Venus, you need more security/reassurance than this guy can supply this early on. The problem is this.. while you're so caught up in worrying about labels and if he really likes you as much as you like him.. you can't REALLY enjoy the present with your eye on the future and what he's not giving you yet. It's going to jack your vibe, what it FEELS like to be around you and talk to you, turn you into something you don't like. Turn you into something that HE won't like. You'll start smothering (even WANTING to smother is a no-no, guys aren't dumb and he'll FEEL it) and he'll balk and put more space between you to stop it.. lather, rinse, repeat.
Elle is right.. enjoy time with him BUT keep your full and busy life WITHOUT him.. he is NOT the be all and end all.. he is JUST A MAN.. ONE MAN... and two months isn't that long, and certainly not long enough for most men to decide how they feel about a woman. I won't tell you to date other guys (though I wish you would, until this man actually CLAIMS you to take you off the market), I've found Scorp women CAN'T.. even when their "man" hasn't yet claimed them.. if a Scorp woman has her sights on you, that's it, she's not seeing other men. The problem with this is if it's early on (say.. two months).. when she basically hands her heart over to him UNASKED, UNCLAIMED.. it backfires.. cuz why would he work hard to WIN her love/affection/intimacy if he doesn't have to? Men save their energy, they do the minimum required work to get what they want. Period.
So if you can't date other men, date YOURSELF. Treat YOURSELF with all the love and care you can.. do things that FEEL GOOD to you, regardless of what he is or is not doing. This is about YOU, NOT HIM!
DON'T:
Obsess or worry about when he'll call, why he hasn't called.. why he hasn't answered your last text, when you'll see him again. If it feels stressful and yucky, DO NOT DO IT. Do something else!
DO:
WHATEVER feels amazing and wonderful and pampering to YOU! Read a good book.. rent a chick flick you were dying to see.. Take long bubble baths.. get a new haircut or color/highlights.. a mani/pedi.. go window shopping.. hell, BUY yourself that amazing little summer dress that makes you look and feel like a Siren, find/buy the perfect flirty little sandals to go with it.. LAVISH yourself with love and care and attention... go to the gym, go to a museum, an art gallery, the zoo.. whatever YOU LOVE... take yourself out for coffee.. and smile, smile, smile.. interact with everyone you see.. hold eye contact for FIVE FULL SECONDS with men (it FEELS much longer than it sounds, trust me!) and watch their faces light up, and watch how your self-esteem goes up... flirt, smile, talk, engage... feel happy and busy and full of lovely light... ALL BY YOURSELF.
If you find yourself overthinking, obsessing, worrying again.. STOP.. go do something that feels good, not bad. And then, when he comes back around, your vibe doesn't FEEL all stressed and worried and (yikes) clingy... it feels relaxed, happy, full of feminine grace and power.. and he'll be knocked flat.. he'll want MORE of that.. cuz being around a happy girl who loves her life and herself and FEELS GOOD.. sooo much more enticing than a needy little stressball who may or may not be a little bit pissed at you right now.
YOU are the one who will teach him how to treat you.. and if YOU don't treat you like a Queen, if you accept poor treatment and make excuses for him.. then you obviously don't feel you deserve Queenly treatment.. and you know you better than anybody.. so therefore he won't feel HE needs to step up his treatment of you to WIN your love and respect - esp if you're handing him everything UNEARNED and UNASKED. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOU ABOVE ALL ELSE.. and that's the only way a (healthy, mature, non-psycho) guy CAN fall in love with a woman.
DON'T:
Obsess or worry about when he'll call, why he hasn't called.. why he hasn't answered your last text, when you'll see him again. If it feels stressful and yucky, DO NOT DO IT. Do something else!
DO:
WHATEVER feels amazing and wonderful and pampering to YOU! Read a good book.. rent a chick flick you were dying to see.. Take long bubble baths.. get a new haircut or color/highlights.. a mani/pedi.. go window shopping.. hell, BUY yourself that amazing little summer dress that makes you look and feel like a Siren, find/buy the perfect flirty little sandals to go with it.. LAVISH yourself with love and care and attention... go to the gym, go to a museum, an art gallery, the zoo.. whatever YOU LOVE... take yourself out for coffee.. and smile, smile, smile.. interact with everyone you see.. hold eye contact for FIVE FULL SECONDS with men (it FEELS much longer than it sounds, trust me!) and watch their faces light up, and watch how your self-esteem goes up... flirt, smile, talk, engage... feel happy and busy and full of lovely light... ALL BY YOURSELF.
If you find yourself overthinking, obsessing, worrying again.. STOP.. go do something that feels good, not bad. And then, when he comes back around, your vibe doesn't FEEL all stressed and worried and (yikes) clingy... it feels relaxed, happy, full of feminine grace and power.. and he'll be knocked flat.. he'll want MORE of that.. cuz being around a happy girl who loves her life and herself and FEELS GOOD.. sooo much more enticing than a needy little stressball who may or may not be a little bit pissed at you right now.
YOU are the one who will teach him how to treat you.. and if YOU don't treat you like a Queen, if you accept poor treatment and make excuses for him.. then you obviously don't feel you deserve Queenly treatment.. and you know you better than anybody.. so therefore he won't feel HE needs to step up his treatment of you to WIN your love and respect - esp if you're handing him everything UNEARNED and UNASKED. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOU ABOVE ALL ELSE.. and that's the only way a (healthy, mature, non-psycho) guy CAN fall in love with a woman.
Posted by seraphPosted by saggirlius
Can you also tell me if we're somehow compatible. I'm a Scorpio -sag cusp. Thanks
Well I ran the numbers a few times, based on both charts.
Compatibility rates at 64.7% , on average.
Not bad, but not that great, either. My advice would be to get involved but not lose yourself. This'll take some work, but just make sure you know how far you're willing to go. Anything below a 70% rating can be tricky, at least in my experience. Judging by what you said in your first post, you're already having problems and second thoughts. Put as much effort into keeping a cool head about the matter as you do about *forcing* this to work.
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Hi thanks for responding. Im going to take some steps back, not walking out yet but I will just take it slow and see how it goes. Can you give me some ideas about his chart? Base on how the other people respond about it, it gives me some hints that it's bad and it makes me more curious to know. Thanks.
If you are that curious, how about you make a synastry chart at astro.com and post it here? I could help you but I'm kind of a visual person and it's difficult to spot aspects when people don't post a wheel. Just make sure to reduce orbs to 30% and delete any personal info. You should be able to make a synastry chart if you have both yours and the gem's time of birth.
Another way to check compatibility is making a composite chart. You can also make one of those at astro.com.
Another way to check compatibility is making a composite chart. You can also make one of those at astro.com.
Posted by Nefer
You gave excellent advice, Elle. You don't need me or Tiki at all :p
I read this thread (before I was summoned) but I wasn't sure how to respond, or if I'd be wasting my time. I wanted to say what Elle already said.
Adding my $ 0.02 to the pot.. two months is a short time for a lot of people. It's a LONG time to a lot of Scorps (ESP Scorp Venus).. and it's literally a blink of an eye to Gemini/Sags. I bet he literally feels like you've been dating for mere minutes.
Opinion on his chart? I wouldn't say "player".. I would certainly say a guy who relishes his freedom and doesn't like labels NOR rushing... but YOU, Scorp woman with a Scorp Venus, you need more security/reassurance than this guy can supply this early on. The problem is this.. while you're so caught up in worrying about labels and if he really likes you as much as you like him.. you can't REALLY enjoy the present with your eye on the future and what he's not giving you yet. It's going to jack your vibe, what it FEELS like to be around you and talk to you, turn you into something you don't like. Turn you into something that HE won't like. You'll start smothering (even WANTING to smother is a no-no, guys aren't dumb and he'll FEEL it) and he'll balk and put more space between you to stop it.. lather, rinse, repeat.
Elle is right.. enjoy time with him BUT keep your full and busy life WITHOUT him.. he is NOT the be all and end all.. he is JUST A MAN.. ONE MAN... and two months isn't that long, and certainly not long enough for most men to decide how they feel about a woman. I won't tell you to date other guys (though I wish you would, until this man actually CLAIMS you to take you off the market), I've found Scorp women CAN'T.. even when their "man" hasn't yet claimed them.. if a Scorp woman has her sights on you, that's it, she's not seeing other men. The problem with this is if it's early on (say.. two months).. when she basically hands her heart over to him UNASKED, UNCLAIMED.. it backfires.. cuz why would he work hard to WIN her love/affection/intimacy if he doesn't have to? Men save their energy, they do the minimum required work to get what they want. Period.
Hi thank you for replying. I don't mind waiting but at the same time I don't want to waste my time if he's a player. If its a typical Gemini traits that they take their time then I have no problem with tha
Posted by seraphPosted by saggirlius
If its a typical Gemini traits that they take their time then I have no problem with tha
Really? Good.
Gemini Sun
Gemini Venus
Taurus Merc
Sagittarius Moon
If you're built for waiting, and waiting, and waiting, then this guy is for you.
Hopefully you can keep your frustrated, seething Venus in Scorpio from sending your Aries Moon on a crazed rampage.
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Lol. I made a mistake posting he has Scorpio moon. I'm not sure if it makes any difference tho.
He has Scorpio moon 29.57
Posted by BlueSandCacoon
If you are that curious, how about you make a synastry chart at astro.com and post it here? I could help you but I'm kind of a visual person and it's difficult to spot aspects when people don't post a wheel. Just make sure to reduce orbs to 30% and delete any personal info. You should be able to make a synastry chart if you have both yours and the gem's time of birth.
Another way to check compatibility is making a composite chart. You can also make one of those at astro.com.
I don't know his exact time of birth 😢.
Posted by saggirliusPosted by BlueSandCacoon
If you are that curious, how about you make a synastry chart at astro.com and post it here? I could help you but I'm kind of a visual person and it's difficult to spot aspects when people don't post a wheel. Just make sure to reduce orbs to 30% and delete any personal info. You should be able to make a synastry chart if you have both yours and the gem's time of birth.
Another way to check compatibility is making a composite chart. You can also make one of those at astro.com.
I don't know his exact time of birth 😢.click to expand
No I don't have a birth time . I just put unknown when I looked it up.
moon saggitarius wasn't a good experience for me. he just had too much women on the side. he was a scorpio though.
with your man though, sun in gemini, i can take, but venus in gemini and moon sag, would be careful. dont have good memories on that one.
with your man though, sun in gemini, i can take, but venus in gemini and moon sag, would be careful. dont have good memories on that one.
Posted by redlippy
moon saggitarius wasn't a good experience for me. he just had too much women on the side. he was a scorpio though.
with your man though, sun in gemini, i can take, but venus in gemini and moon sag, would be careful. dont have good memories on that one.
He' has a Scorp moon I made a mistake posting it. But I don't know he's exact time of birth so I just put unknown when I looked it up. Can u tell me more. I just want to know if I should stay or run away now if he's a player and will break my heart later.
Posted by seraph
Hopefully you can keep your frustrated, seething Venus in Scorpio from sending your Aries Moon on a crazed rampage.
+1
That's what we're seeing the start of.. it's been two months, which is plenty long enough for HER to know what SHE wants, getting a little impatient and a little insecure, wants to know right now if she's "wasting her time" .. her Venus wants security/reassurance, WANTS the label that the Sag-flavored, freedom-loving, label-hating Gemini can't or won't give her right now... cuz to HIM.. that two months is practically nothing.
I myself would never suggest nor even agree to being exclusive with a man who is not ALREADY having his actions match his words and meeting my basic relationship needs, whatever those might be.. if I want the label, I want the label and it's non-negotiable.. if you want me all to yourself, then you must ALREADY be giving me what I need in terms of.. contact, intimacy, commitment, labels, time together, everything. I'm not prepared to take on a grown man as a "fixer upper".. I will not agree to give him whatever he wants and agree to be exclusive and then WAIT for him to get his shit together and want to see me as often as I need, for him to show me the affection I need, for the I love you's or the meeting friends/family. ALL of my BASIC relationship needs MUST be met before I'll put all my eggs in your basket, let you tie me up, before I'll be able to FEEL GOOD about holding myself out to be exclusive to you and only you.
I don't cheat, ever. I don't lie. I TELL you what I want/need and SHOW you who/what I am.. my actions match my words, and therefore so must yours. And until you are consistently meeting my needs, and I FEEL GOOD about being bound to you by a label/title.. I won't be. I'll be willing to date you and spend time with you and give you time to get it together and decide what you want.. but you CANNOT have me all to yourself until you make up your mind and are meeting my very basic non-negotiables about what I want in a relationship... cuz to me, THAT is "wasting my time."
Posted by saggirliusPosted by BlueSandCacoon
If you are that curious, how about you make a synastry chart at astro.com and post it here? I could help you but I'm kind of a visual person and it's difficult to spot aspects when people don't post a wheel. Just make sure to reduce orbs to 30% and delete any personal info. You should be able to make a synastry chart if you have both yours and the gem's time of birth.
Another way to check compatibility is making a composite chart. You can also make one of those at astro.com.
I don't know his exact time of birth 😢.click to expand
Well, that's too bad.
And scorchedearth is right. You are not really sure what his Moon sign his if you don't know his time of birth.
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I think we should roll Nef in chocolate and dip her in jellybeans
omg seraph! you have created the ultimate confectionary with that idea!! are there such things as chocolate coated jellybeans cos i wanna try that out for sure!! sounds like it could be up there with the legendary donut!
Posted by saggirlius
I posted on here a few years ago and got a lot of help..This time I need help figuring out a Gemini boy. Me and him have been going out for two months. We talked about being exclusive meaning not seeing and having sex with other people. My concern is, he doesn't want to put a label on what we have. He said I needed to be patience and he wants to move slow but I think two months is enough time to know if you want to be with someone or not. I'm thinking of dropping him cause I don't want to waste time and I dont want to get hurt if he's not serious. We see each other twice a week, one weekend and one weekday and I spend the night at his place. When we're together he gives me his attention and treats me well but when we're apart I barely hear from him. We don't talk on the phone or text often. We usually communicate in person. At first, I felt it was weird cause I'm used to guys calling and texting everyday but Im used to it. Please I need some advice. Should I cut him loose for not committing? Do Gemini men don't like phone communication? is this guy a player? Are we compatible? Our charts are below. Thanks very much.
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I'll ask this(as a fellow Scorp) sort of already knowing what the answer will be, but why does it have to be all or nothing for you? "Let's take it slow" does not mean he's not willing to commit, it means exactly that "take it slow". If you want a commitment and he's not ready, who says you have to "drop him"? Why not date other men while he's figuring things out. If you so happen to meet someone else while he's d*cking the dog, hit it off with them and that person is willing to commit then say goodbye to your Gem. I wouldn't be cheating because hey, he's doesn't want to be exclusive right now right? I also don't know if him not liking phone communication is a Gem things, or an any sign thing. Some people don't know how to communicate effectively, or have different ideas about "staying in touch". It doesn't mean he's a player, it means YOU need to be clear about what YOU want from him in this--um romantic exchange? I can't help you out with the compatibility stuff, I'm lost with all that stuff, and prefer to be...
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by saggirlius
I posted on here a few years ago and got a lot of help..This time I need help figuring out a Gemini boy. Me and him have been going out for two months. We talked about being exclusive meaning not seeing and having sex with other people. My concern is, he doesn't want to put a label on what we have. He said I needed to be patience and he wants to move slow but I think two months is enough time to know if you want to be with someone or not. I'm thinking of dropping him cause I don't want to waste time and I dont want to get hurt if he's not serious. We see each other twice a week, one weekend and one weekday and I spend the night at his place. When we're together he gives me his attention and treats me well but when we're apart I barely hear from him. We don't talk on the phone or text often. We usually communicate in person. At first, I felt it was weird cause I'm used to guys calling and texting everyday but Im used to it. Please I need some advice. Should I cut him loose for not committing? Do Gemini men don't like phone communication? is this guy a player? Are we compatible? Our charts are below. Thanks very much.
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I'll ask this(as a fellow Scorp) sort of already knowing what the answer will be, but why does it have to be all or nothing for you? "Let's take it slow" does not mean he's not willing to commit, it means exactly that "take it slow". If you want a commitment and he's not ready, who says you have to "drop him"? Why not date other men while he's figuring things out. If you so happen to meet someone else while he's d*cking the dog, hit it off with them and that person is willing to commit then say goodbye to your Gem. I wouldn't be cheating because hey, he's doesn't want to be exclusive right now right? I also don't know if him not liking phone communication is a Gem things, or an any sign thing. Some people don't know how to communicate effectively, or have different ideas about "staying in touch". It doesn't mean he's a player, it means YOU need to be clear about what YOU want from him in this--um romantic exchange? I can't help you out with the compatibility stuff, I'm lost with all that stuff, and prefer to be...
I'm thinking of cutting him loose but before I do it I need some feedback from other people if its normal for a Gemini man to act like this. I only know one Gemini and she's a girl. So i don't have a lot of encounter with Gemini people. I have stopped talking to him before for a couple of days cause of some misunderstanding and he kept contacting me to get a response from me. He told me he likes me but why won't he put a label on it?
It sounds like you already made up your mind, so why do you care if this is normal for Gem men? But I'll play anyway. To answer your question:
I have had a few encounters with Gem men, even did a long, emotionally exhausting exchange with one for several years and he was like your Gem (distant). Does that mean all Gems are like that? I could easily say yes based on my experience, but I really don't know, just like no one else can say definitively say that he is doing this (e.g. asking to take it slow, few phone calls) is solely because he is a Gem. His sign can only help you identify certain personality traits, but not tell you about specific behaviors. My Gem has a long messed up history, which spoke to his distance and need to take things slow with me. Does yours? Rhetorical question. What I did find with my Gem was the when I stopped sweating him and lived my life and started seeking what I wanted (while still dating him) he smarted up real quick. However he still wanted to drag his feet, which wasn't acceptable anymore. So I continued to live my life and eventually moved on. In other words, accepted and loved him for who he was, and did not force him to be someone he wasn't. Long life lesson. To this day he still tries to engage me, but I am no longer interested in a romantic relationship because I know he just can't be who I want/need. And if I truly respect/love him I need to let him be who he is as he is--but I digress. I really don't think 2 months is enough time for anything substantial. And clearly neither does he. So if you want what you want now then cut him loose. If you're willing to do something different, see where that road takes you then take a breath and ride it out.
Posted by ellessque
okay, if what you are stating is true.....then you need to slow your roll and have some patience, aries moon.
it seems he really does want you to slow down and take your time. Gem's are all about establishing a pretty deep friendship connection before speaking about titles, commitment and all that jazz.
however, don't put all your eggs in one basket (no pun intended...LOL) and DO NOT let him hoard all your attention and time when you are away from each other. keep doing you, enjoy life and keep yourself open to other opportunities. If he clearly doesn't want a committment then you are free to date whomever you want.
Yeah, that's completely FUCKED UP to a scorpio (at least the females) and we DO NOT care to date more than one person but don't just give yourself to him....he has to claim you. Until you are claimed....you are a free agent.
where is TIKI OR NEFER——?? They are so much better at this than I am. 😕
I wish I read through this tread before my post. I could have save my pearls of wisdom for another person. Well said, and ditto!
i dont trust venus in any mutable sign.
i met a gemini with a venus in gemini. he had a few women on the side and talked way too fast for me.
i met a gemini with a venus in gemini. he had a few women on the side and talked way too fast for me.
Posted by saggirliusPosted by LunarMaiden
As I stated earlier, patience. It looks like things are going your way, you just need more time with him in order for him to feel more comfortable calling you his girlfriend. You could give him space and tell him you will give him time while you focus on other things. You are dealing with a Gemini, you are going to have to start dealing with him on a mental level instead of your emotions. As a water sign who has dated an air sign this is very important. Good luck.
How?...I don't show a lot of emotions when I'm with him.click to expand
You may not show emotion, but you are feeling a lot. I believe that is the point. Giving him time and focusing on other things mean don't make this whole situation with the label consume your thoughts (good luck with that ). LM is right about dealing with him on a mental level instead of emotional--again not saying you are getting emotional. It means don't try to connect with him by constantly talking about feelings, future plans or deep connections. Figuratively speaking.
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by saggirlius
I posted on here a few years ago and got a lot of help..This time I need help figuring out a Gemini boy. Me and him have been going out for two months. We talked about being exclusive meaning not seeing and having sex with other people. My concern is, he doesn't want to put a label on what we have. He said I needed to be patience and he wants to move slow but I think two months is enough time to know if you want to be with someone or not. I'm thinking of dropping him cause I don't want to waste time and I dont want to get hurt if he's not serious. We see each other twice a week, one weekend and one weekday and I spend the night at his place. When we're together he gives me his attention and treats me well but when we're apart I barely hear from him. We don't talk on the phone or text often. We usually communicate in person. At first, I felt it was weird cause I'm used to guys calling and texting everyday but Im used to it. Please I need some advice. Should I cut him loose for not committing? Do Gemini men don't like phone communication? is this guy a player? Are we compatible? Our charts are below. Thanks very much.
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I'll ask this(as a fellow Scorp) sort of already knowing what the answer will be, but why does it have to be all or nothing for you? "Let's take it slow" does not mean he's not willing to commit, it means exactly that "take it slow". If you want a commitment and he's not ready, who says you have to "drop him"? Why not date other men while he's figuring things out. If you so happen to meet someone else while he's d*cking the dog, hit it off with them and that person is willing to commit then say goodbye to your Gem. I wouldn't be cheating because hey, he's doesn't want to be exclusive right now right? I also don't know if him not liking phone communication is a Gem things, or an any sign thing. Some people don't know how to communicate effectively, or have different ideas about "staying in touch". It doesn't mean he's a player, it means YOU need to be clear about what YOU want from him in this--um romantic exchange? I can't help you out with the compatibility stuff, I'm lost with all that stuff, and prefer to be...
Posted by ellessque
I agree with everything that Nefer had to say, I would suggest you print that page and keep it in your purse.
I disagree with everything that DG had to say, but you do what you want with it.
Where was she when I met my Gem———— Agreed. Excellent advise.
Posted by PhoenixRising
this website really sucks sometimes ....whatever. My post is there, hopefully you can read it.
I noticed that too, when I live my life and not bother that he exist he's more appreciative of me. I ignored him for a couple of days and he was constantly texting wanting a reply from me. When he went away to see his family for a week and i didnt see him for that long and I didn't bother contacting him at all he was calling and sending text messages often than usual.
Posted by ellessque
I agree with everything that Nefer had to say, I would suggest you print that page and keep it in your purse.
Where was she when I met my Gem———— Agreed. Excellent advise.
Posted by seraphPosted by PhoenixRising
I'll ask this(as a fellow Scorp) sort of already knowing what the answer will be, but why does it have to be all or nothing for you? "
Her Venus in Scorpio is *the very definition* of all or nothing.
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Yup. I asked a lot of rhetorical questions, sort of to get people to look at themselves and reflect than answer me. But you called it!
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by ellessque
okay, if what you are stating is true.....then you need to slow your roll and have some patience, aries moon.
it seems he really does want you to slow down and take your time. Gem's are all about establishing a pretty deep friendship connection before speaking about titles, commitment and all that jazz.
however, don't put all your eggs in one basket (no pun intended...LOL) and DO NOT let him hoard all your attention and time when you are away from each other. keep doing you, enjoy life and keep yourself open to other opportunities. If he clearly doesn't want a committment then you are free to date whomever you want.
Yeah, that's completely FUCKED UP to a scorpio (at least the females) and we DO NOT care to date more than one person but don't just give yourself to him....he has to claim you. Until you are claimed....you are a free agent.
where is TIKI OR NEFER——?? They are so much better at this than I am. 😕
I wish I read through this tread before my post. I could have save my pearls of wisdom for another person. Well said, and ditto!click to expand
Well I am grateful for your pearls🙂 - I've spent (wasted) half my life (literally)(stupidly) waiting for Gemini Guys to pull their finger out.
Wish I had had you girls to smack me back into reality.
I was not aware that Gems felt time like Cancers......2 months to me as an Aries feels like 2 years, but Nef reckons it feels like no time at all to a Gem. I would have thought the Scorp as another water sign would feel time like a Cancer.
But then, factor in her Aries moon and I guess things change. Blew me away about the Gem though. That is not in ANY of the Gemini manuals I have read.
It's like computers or mobile phones - by the time they hit the shops they are already obselete!
Posted by PhoenixRisingPosted by ellessque
Where was she when I met my Gem———— Agreed. Excellent advise.click to expand
*advice
I usually don't rush into putting label on a relationship but if this guy is a player I don't want to waste time and I will move on to date someone else. I don't multi date so I rather end one and date another. My first bf was a Virgo it took us almost 6 months to be exclusive. Then I dated a cancer for a couple of months. I had to end it cause he was manipulating and controlling me that I suffocated. Then I dated an aqua we decided to end it cause of our busy schedule. Then dated a Pisces took 6 months to be official bf/gf. Then me and aqua tried again. He wanted to be in a relationship but i realized i wasn't feeling it anymore this time. Then I met this Gemini guy. I'm not being impatient . I just need some ideas if his chart tells that he's a player Or if I will just waste my time so I can make a wise decision if I should stay and wait or move on. I don't have a lot of encounters with Gemini but base on what I read it's hard for them to commit but I know there's more to it than the sun sign so maybe he's other placements will balance it out . Right now, I'm thinking of not waiting, lessen my intest level but at the same time not cutting him loose. I'm putting him on the side till I make my final decision.
I hear you Saggirlius. Even if he is operating on "Gemini time" if he is for real he should be mindful of your feelings too. Courtesy.
If he has a problem with a "label" (FFS - how old is he—?) then I would be cutting him loose.
I too, would not be comfortable 'dating' more than one guy at a time.
So if a guy wasn't happy having my attention all to himself, then that is a problem I can easily fix!
He might man up in time and come sniffing back around - then you will be in the position to take him back into your life or tell him to haul ass because you don't like his label......."THE GUY WHO ARSED ABOUT FOR TOO LONG AND MISSED OUT"
If he has a problem with a "label" (FFS - how old is he—?) then I would be cutting him loose.
I too, would not be comfortable 'dating' more than one guy at a time.
So if a guy wasn't happy having my attention all to himself, then that is a problem I can easily fix!
He might man up in time and come sniffing back around - then you will be in the position to take him back into your life or tell him to haul ass because you don't like his label......."THE GUY WHO ARSED ABOUT FOR TOO LONG AND MISSED OUT"
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
I hear you Saggirlius. Even if he is operating on "Gemini time" if he is for real he should be mindful of your feelings too. Courtesy.
If he has a problem with a "label" (FFS - how old is he—?) then I would be cutting him loose.
I too, would not be comfortable 'dating' more than one guy at a time.
So if a guy wasn't happy having my attention all to himself, then that is a problem I can easily fix!
He might man up in time and come sniffing back around - then you will be in the position to take him back into your life or tell him to haul ass because you don't like his label......."THE GUY WHO ARSED ABOUT FOR TOO LONG AND MISSED OUT"
Thank you. I distanced myself from him before then he came wanting attention from me. I notice that every time I totally ignore him he comes back and makes his presence known. Like if I don't talk to him for a few days he will texts and make me aware he's still around. I think if he feels that he's loosing me he puts effort to not loose me. And it's weird cause he wants immediate attention from me when that happens. He would send me multiple texts if I don't respond right away. He's very attentive and treats me very well when we're together. But when he's away that's when I have problems with him. I see him twice a week but it's like 4days a week cause I spend the night when I see him so I stay till the following day. Weekday till he goes to work, weekend till noon.
Posted by saggirliusPosted by redlippy
moon saggitarius wasn't a good experience for me. he just had too much women on the side. he was a scorpio though.
with your man though, sun in gemini, i can take, but venus in gemini and moon sag, would be careful. dont have good memories on that one.
He' has a Scorp moon I made a mistake posting it. But I don't know he's exact time of birth so I just put unknown when I looked it up. Can u tell me more. I just want to know if I should stay or run away now if he's a player and will break my heart later.click to expand
everyone is really different but in my own experience, i was in a relationship with someone with their sun, mars, mercury, venus in scorpio, but his moon sign was in sag. i found out he cheated in all of his girlfriends, and including his wife. even confronted, he still tried to make it that it's the woman's fault. he didn't own up to anything. denied even when there were proof. i think i believe when they said he was the lowest scorpio because there were other scorp that i also went out with that was just loyal, and loved their women and men completely.
i've gotten myself attached to a cancer, taurus moon, gemini venus but its interest weren't so fixed. it's like fine, you moved on, i'll just moved on to the next interest.
another with a gemini sun, but i forgot his moon sign. he went back quickly to his ex after i left him.. he didn't waste so much time.
another one with sun in gemini but with a moon cancer, leo venus who loves too much and too loyal. can you imagine, she's waiting for someone who is just a memory? every day, she waits, and she wont move on. i said "she" hoping that is how with men in this sign combo as well. she keeps waiting and waiting for her love to happen.
if you're not sure with this person, you should set this person free. occupy yourself with other things or people. i think if you really mean something to this gemini, they will not give you any reason to doubt. if he is a scorp moon, they are somewhat like cancer moon, they get too attached too deeply.
in my experience.
Sounds like gameplaying BS to me.
**waits to be attacked by mob of Geminis**
You can be in a relationship and still have lots of space. I know, I have done it.
I'm not sure what his issue is....is he afraid you won't let him go out with the boys? hang out in his man cave?
**waits to be attacked by mob of Geminis**
You can be in a relationship and still have lots of space. I know, I have done it.
I'm not sure what his issue is....is he afraid you won't let him go out with the boys? hang out in his man cave?
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Sounds like gameplaying BS to me.
**waits to be attacked by mob of Geminis**
You can be in a relationship and still have lots of space. I know, I have done it.
I'm not sure what his issue is....is he afraid you won't let him go out with the boys? hang out in his man cave?
I let him do his thing. He cancelled a date once cause his friend had some issues and needed his help.I was bummed, he knew but I let him go anyway.
I think the reason why I'm asking is not cause I'm being impatient but cause of some things I heard about Geminis that they afraid of commitments and some are players ( not saying all of them tho). So I'm trying to protect myself from getting hurt and wasting my time.
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