Scorpio male confusion

I have been talking with this Scorpio male on the internet/phone texting, I've known him for a few years, just never really talked till now. Sometimes he talks a lot, and sometimes he will write a word or just not respond back at all. It's super frustrating, I can't understand if he's interested or if he's not! Sometimes he'll just write 'hey' and i'll respond and then won't hear anything back.. I'm wondering if he's just more into face to face conversations, or if he's confused, or if I'm just not saying what he wants to hear?? help me.
For instance, this morning he texted me at 2am saying that he's thinking about running of to cali with 'some girl' he knows?...then I text him that I have family out there and ask if he's ever been there before and he never writes back... i dunno if he was seeing if I would react to him and this 'girl he knows' or what his motive was..
SO would it be ok to tell him he's driving me nuts because I don't understand him? I don't want to upset him, but I'm a very honest straight forward person and I like to talk things out and understand whats going on. I just want to know where I stand?

Nope don't tell him, typical behavior from the lesser evolved Scorp males, do nothing, never let a Scorp make you sweat, never let a Scorp male see he has full control and power over you, if he sense you are weak and can't control yourself he'll dig into you even deeper and torture you mentally and emotionally.

Hold your cards close to your chest, don't let him think you're weak and the best way to appear secure and confident is to not respond to any of it, appear apathetic, appear as if you don't see any of it and if he's doing one of his ignore her spells, ignore him right back, take your time, MIRROR him, you might feel weak but he don't have to experience that from you.

If you have no real emotional strength/mental strength, leave now, you are out of your league.

Great advice, thank you 🙂

Tiki33 makes a few good point. Don't let him see you sweat nor let him know he's rattling you. How old is this guy, how old are you and whats your sign? If I sense weakness in a girl or she's head over heals about me, in my younger years I would most def, walk all over her. He will make it clear if he's interested in you. If I were to do what he's doing to you. I am seeing how interested in me she is. Can I text her and she'll text me right back. So does that mean, I can call her and she'll drop what she's doing for me... ETC Shit like that...Sounds like he's fishing to me.

I am a 23 year old leo and he is a 22 year old scorpio. I was definitely trying to not be reactive because I didn't even know where this was going, but today I was just really like wtf is going on?? sometimes hes there, sometimes hes not, and I wanted to say something, but it makes perfect sense what you all are saying he is doing. So I will just stay calm and relaxed and not react like I have been doing. But I do really like him, so is it enough for me to talk to him to let him know i'm interested but not desperate? cause I'm definitely not desperate. I'm very strong on the outside, definitely may have emotions but I can hide them without letting him know he's getting to me, no problem. The only thing is I may be seeing him in person in a week or two for this family christmas thing, what do you think he will try in person??

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Posted by PP
...Sounds like he's fishing to me.

Agreed.

I typically don't inform you that I'm interested unless I know for sure, that you are. I'm not proud of that, but a fear of rejection leads me to those actions.

The bait has been casted. Him talking about another women and running off with here, makes me want to say... "Don't take the bait."

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I'm a little confused by this. My insinct when my scorp was baiting me was to let it ride-but then he was hurt I "didn't care". When I act a wee bit jealous (not psycho - just playful) it delights him 0.o. It was obviously a bait. Do you like him? Would the course of action then be to make him continually fear rejection?

Posted by tiki33
Nope don't tell him, typical behavior from the lesser evolved Scorp males, do nothing, never let a Scorp make you sweat, never let a Scorp male see he has full control and power over you, if he sense you are weak and can't control yourself he'll dig into you even deeper and torture you mentally and emotionally.

Hold your cards close to your chest, don't let him think you're weak and the best way to appear secure and confident is to not respond to any of it, appear apathetic, appear as if you don't see any of it and if he's doing one of his ignore her spells, ignore him right back, take your time, MIRROR him, you might feel weak but he don't have to experience that from you.

If you have no real emotional strength/mental strength, leave now, you are out of your league.

THIS is The TRUTH!!!!

Posted by DazedScorp
Nice to see Tiki back on the Scorp board 🙂

Not much more I can add to that, with the limited amount of information from the OP.

*hug* 😄

To be clear I don't mean be cold as ice, just don't allow yourself to be baited into appearing to be the weak one in the dynamic, it's okay to show you like someone in an empowering positive way but when the Scorp is pulling shit test to pull how you feel out of you without even showing his own damn hand, that's no good, you'll be the only one dangling out there all by yourself.

When you see your Scorp just be yourself and don't allow him to control your feelings through his test, smile as if it means nothing to you, yet here's the thing about being yourself, if you want to display affection because you want to and not because he's passive aggressively pushing you into that position than yes do it, do what YOU want to do and not what you think he wants you to do through his testing. There are other ways to affirm your desire for him without reacting like an insecure little girl that's easy to control.

Posted by ellessque
you've been talking via text/internet/phone for a year and a half?

you are meeting for the first time in a week or so?

no, I've known him for a few years I was dating a relative of his, but we just started talking more over the internet since I broke up with my bf. I am going to see him at a family function in a week or two, thats all.

So wait. You dated one of his relatives? Is that normal? Maybe he's reluctant to start up with you because of the issues it could cause with his relatives.

Questions: After he gave you his number did he call you or did you call him? Are you the one mainly INITIATING contact with him? What is he doing to ensure you know he's into you? Does he initiate calls and emails? Does he plan dates with you? Does he spend quality time with you?

I wonder if you're misconstruing his intentions. He said contact him if you need anything, that's the equivalent of saying "call me if you need sex" "I want sex with you".

You don't have to answer all of those questions, just threw them out there to get your brain juices flowing, you'll figure it all out soon enough.

a taurus with lots of scorp in his chart did this to me, without saying he'd run off with some other chick, and i just dished it right back.

he'd txt and say all these sweet things, then disappear. so eventually i started to mess with him too. fluff his ego and say how special he was to me, then just stop and i'd literally forget about him... not even purposely. then after a few weeks i'd start up contact again with something sweet. he was into it, and then i'd drop it out of nowhere. i'm not proud of it, but i dont regret it.

i guess i'll never quite conquer my vindictive streak. o.o

UPDATE:

So then today he texts me because he finds out I'm going up north with some family to his house, and he ends up telling me he's like super attracted to me, says I'm like his dream girl and wants to make time to 'hang out' or whatever at night. then he got really personal and pretty much implied he like really wants to have sex...which isn't surprising from a male anyways...and then he gets all lovey and mushy and says like xoxo and goodnight sunshine, have sweet dreams...just like whoa...so I still really like what tiki said as far as mirroring him and not letting him know he has any sort of control over me, and just being myself seeing what happens or whatever... but what if this does all go down and we have sex? is he going to become obsessed and like want to see me all the time? cause we like like 4 hours away from eachother.. can scorpios do long distance?...I can't even sleep right now this is all like super shocking to me..

Posted by evance819
... but what if this does all go down and we have sex? is he going to become obsessed and like want to see me all the time?

No, not necessarily. Do Scorps care about sex? Yes. Can they be intense? Yes. But "love", longing or obsession does not come immediately after a nut is busted. Sorry. It sounds like a lot of fluff he's blowing in your general direction... without any real intention.

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Posted by evance819
UPDATE:

So then today he texts me because he finds out I'm going up north with some family to his house, and he ends up telling me he's like super attracted to me, says I'm like his dream girl and wants to make time to 'hang out' or whatever at night. then he got really personal and pretty much implied he like really wants to have sex...which isn't surprising from a male anyways...and then he gets all lovey and mushy and says like xoxo and goodnight sunshine, have sweet dreams...just like whoa...so I still really like what tiki said as far as mirroring him and not letting him know he has any sort of control over me, and just being myself seeing what happens or whatever... but what if this does all go down and we have sex? is he going to become obsessed and like want to see me all the time? cause we like like 4 hours away from eachother.. can scorpios do long distance?...I can't even sleep right now this is all like super shocking to me..

My question to you....is why is this acceptable to you?

You barely speak via text/phone/email, at least that is how you explained it and I perceived it in your post. Now he's talking about meeting up to "hang out" at night, implying sex only.

Is that what you want or were you looking to pursue more of a relationship with him?

...and what is this "What if we have sex?" talk....do you NOT have any control over that happening?

It's highly unlikely he'll become obsessed with anything more than a booty call when you are in the area.

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I see the details have been covered. +1

this is a matter of convenience.