Scorpio man disappeared in the middle of a conversation. Please help me!!!

Long story short,

I’ve always been into a Scorpio man who began talking to me in the past. We’re long distance btw but we have met in person. The thing is that he’s very distant most of the times and I’ve always felt like he’s not into me. I messaged him one day and we had a good convo. But a part of me told me that he was just being “nice” and he even ended the conversation quickly. I had lost hope.

A long time passed and suddenly one day he messages me out of nowhere. I was shocked but happy 🙂 it was totally unexpected. So when I replied, he took 2 days to respond. Then after that we talked back and forth for almost a week.

He was super nice and DIDN’T want to end the convo this time. At some point I told him I wanted to send him an email telling him some important stuff and that it was kind of long so I preferred by email. And he said: “you can call me, FaceTime me or whatever is more comfortable”. So I sent the email a little late at night and I thought he was going to take a while to read it, but to my surprise, he read it at 3 AM. He told me he had been “waiting for the email”. I mean, like he cared instead of leaving it for later. In the email I said he was special to me and that when he didn’t talk to me I felt sad and missed him. I also shared some personal stuff with him. He told me he never imagined I appreciated him so much and thanked me.

We continued talking for a while after that when suddenly he didn’t replied to my last message and left me on read. He basically vanished in the middle of our convo, which seemed to be doing good. At least that’s what I thought. 😟

Now I’ve heard MANY things about Scorpios. About their head games , that they need space or are just weird. Why did he suddenly leave without even saying goodbye or talk to you later—

Is he playing with me? Why would he reach out, act nice and disappear like a ghost? 👻 or maybe he didn’t like what I wrote on the email 😢😭

I don’t know how to act now because it hurts me when he’s distant and I don’t know if he’ll come back. I don’t want to have false hopes and get hurt. For the LOVE of GOD help me! I’m a Cancer btw.

Girl you're getting attached to a man through texts.

I also want to add that he did read the last message. It showed as “read” but he didn’t reply and just vanished

Posted by GeminiJim

You just have to be cool with yourself. Don't let emotions get the better of you. Make a cool-headed assessment because you don't want to be chasing someone futilely. It's okay to be open to them but don't lower your self esteem. You don't need them, so remember that

EDIT: Oh, just realised you are a Cancer 😅

Where do I sign up for a dating-therapy-session with you, Coach Jim? 😅

Posted by DragonSag

I know this is the last thing you want to read right now but it's the only truth you need to keep in mind - he's just not into you and he removed himself from the situation. He didn't follow your pace and was only trying to be nice to you but you misread signals and at some point he had to put an end to it. And don't worry we've all been there. But after a while you start to realize there really are no excuse and who wants you around doesn't go away. Anyway, don't be sad, I know it's hard not to, but think of it this way - what's not meant for you will never be yours and what's meant for you will never miss you. Things fall apart to make place for better things. Do you really want a guy who you have to figure out why he disappears or doesn't respond back? Or you want someone who will be there for you and happily respond your text and reciprocate your feelings?

Wow. I don’t know why, but this hurt to read 🥲

I sent the email around 11 pm. I thought the Scorpio was going to be sleeping and maybe reply the following day but instead he replied at 3 AM because he said he was “waiting for it”. Then we continued talking for 2 days when he ghosted me. It’s been 3 days since he never replied back and I doubt he will.

But I was surprised he had reached out to me because I was waiting for him to show me a sign that he cares about me. And I believe he already knew I had feelings for him because I told him in the past that I liked when he talked to me.

In the email I had pretty much said the same thing but I also mentioned that I felt sad and missed him when he didn’t talk to me. That was all.

I really don’t know why he vanished like this. I won’t reach out anymore but if he comes back again in the future what the hell am I suppose to do? I cannot waist my time with someone who’s always distant like he is and doesn’t take me seriously. What should I tell him if he decides to come back?? Because honestly I’m mad and don’t want him playing with me like this. I’m sure when I’ll start ignoring his ass and pretending he doesn’t exist, he’ll come around. It happened before.

Text him: "Why do you ignore me? I care about you, but do you want me to move on?"

No need to play games with a Scorp man. Ask him. You Crabs are so shy.

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I know this is the last thing you want to read right now but it's the only truth you need to keep in mind - he's just not into you and he removed himself from the situation. He didn't follow your pace and was only trying to be nice to you but you misread signals and at some point he had to put an end to it. And don't worry we've all been there. But after a while you start to realize there really are no excuse and who wants you around doesn't go away. Anyway, don't be sad, I know it's hard not to, but think of it this way - what's not meant for you will never be yours and what's meant for you will never miss you. Things fall apart to make place for better things. Do you really want a guy who you have to figure out why he disappears or doesn't respond back? Or you want someone who will be there for you and happily respond your text and reciprocate your feelings?

Wow. I don’t know why, but this hurt to read 🥲

I'm sorry...idk what else to say. But sometimes we just need to realize we're making excuse for people who don't care about us enough. Being Scorpio is not excuse. They know very well how to show love and be affectionate with the ones they care for and who they love. I know several of them who are ordinary and affectionate people like anyone else. But in forums you usually see people justify someones ignorance by being Scorp or Cap (two most notorious signs for that) and that's just not what it is...

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True. People be “hanging by a moment” to that last glimpse of hope. Like that Lifehouse song 🎵

If someone wants you, they will somehow find the time. It really is as simple as that.

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Posted by Rainbow87

I sent the email around 11 pm. I thought the Scorpio was going to be sleeping and maybe reply the following day but instead he replied at 3 AM because he said he was “waiting for it”. Then we continued talking for 2 days when he ghosted me. It’s been 3 days since he never replied back and I doubt he will.

But I was surprised he had reached out to me because I was waiting for him to show me a sign that he cares about me. And I believe he already knew I had feelings for him because I told him in the past that I liked when he talked to me.

In the email I had pretty much said the same thing but I also mentioned that I felt sad and missed him when he didn’t talk to me. That was all.

I really don’t know why he vanished like this. I won’t reach out anymore but if he comes back again in the future what the hell am I suppose to do? I cannot waist my time with someone who’s always distant like he is and doesn’t take me seriously. What should I tell him if he decides to come back?? Because honestly I’m mad and don’t want him playing with me like this. I’m sure when I’ll start ignoring his ass and pretending he doesn’t exist, he’ll come around. It happened before.

Listen, I haven't read the email or your conversations but if you went kind of heavy in them, he might still be processing the information/feelings in them.

You have to see past your emotions and be very patient.

My only questions for you: has he told you he is fond of you as well? How deeply has he expressed it?

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A Scorpio man flirted with me in an online forum. We haven’t spoken in 3 months though. How deep is his love?







Lol, I kid, I kid! 😛

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Posted by Rainbow87

I sent the email around 11 pm. I thought the Scorpio was going to be sleeping and maybe reply the following day but instead he replied at 3 AM because he said he was “waiting for it”. Then we continued talking for 2 days when he ghosted me. It’s been 3 days since he never replied back and I doubt he will.

But I was surprised he had reached out to me because I was waiting for him to show me a sign that he cares about me. And I believe he already knew I had feelings for him because I told him in the past that I liked when he talked to me.

In the email I had pretty much said the same thing but I also mentioned that I felt sad and missed him when he didn’t talk to me. That was all.

I really don’t know why he vanished like this. I won’t reach out anymore but if he comes back again in the future what the hell am I suppose to do? I cannot waist my time with someone who’s always distant like he is and doesn’t take me seriously. What should I tell him if he decides to come back?? Because honestly I’m mad and don’t want him playing with me like this. I’m sure when I’ll start ignoring his ass and pretending he doesn’t exist, he’ll come around. It happened before.

Listen, I haven't read the email or your conversations but if you went kind of heavy in them, he might still be processing the information/feelings in them.

You have to see past your emotions and be very patient.

My only questions for you: has he told you he is fond of you as well? How deeply has he expressed it?

A Scorpio man flirted with me in an online forum. We haven’t spoken in 3 months though. How deep is his love?







Lol, I kid, I kid! 😛

He knows about you and is keeping his options open - for now.

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Good. So am I.

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Posted by Rainbow87

I sent the email around 11 pm. I thought the Scorpio was going to be sleeping and maybe reply the following day but instead he replied at 3 AM because he said he was “waiting for it”. Then we continued talking for 2 days when he ghosted me. It’s been 3 days since he never replied back and I doubt he will.

But I was surprised he had reached out to me because I was waiting for him to show me a sign that he cares about me. And I believe he already knew I had feelings for him because I told him in the past that I liked when he talked to me.

In the email I had pretty much said the same thing but I also mentioned that I felt sad and missed him when he didn’t talk to me. That was all.

I really don’t know why he vanished like this. I won’t reach out anymore but if he comes back again in the future what the hell am I suppose to do? I cannot waist my time with someone who’s always distant like he is and doesn’t take me seriously. What should I tell him if he decides to come back?? Because honestly I’m mad and don’t want him playing with me like this. I’m sure when I’ll start ignoring his ass and pretending he doesn’t exist, he’ll come around. It happened before.

Listen, I haven't read the email or your conversations but if you went kind of heavy in them, he might still be processing the information/feelings in them.

You have to see past your emotions and be very patient.

My only questions for you: has he told you he is fond of you as well? How deeply has he expressed it?

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The email was actually very long. Literally 5 paragraphs. I talked to him about some things about my life because I just trust him. And I said some things about my ex being an asshole. Then after he read the email he asked questions about my ex and what was his name. Then he disappeared…. Maybe he wants to stalk my ex? Or process things? Do you think that could be the reason why he just left? Or maybe he got jealous— But I never said I loved my ex. I said I hated him.

The email was actually very long. Literally 5 paragraphs. I talked to him about some things about my life because I just trust him. And I said some things about my ex being an asshole. Then after he read the email he asked questions about my ex and what was his name. Then he disappeared…. Maybe he wants to stalk my ex? Or process things? Do you think that could be the reason why he just left? Or maybe he got jealous— But I never said I loved my ex. I said I hated him.

What a weak, pathetic bitch.

Why do you care so much about some loser you've been texting? Because subconsciously you know he's not that into you and you're used to putting up with all sort of horseshit from men because your self-esteem is in the trash.

The crazy thing is that you're forcing your conscious mind to deceive you and convince you that he is in to you so you can keep this absurdity going.

So here you are, forcing your conscious mind to find answers/justifications that will silence the fear of what you already know deep down; that he is not into you.

Work on your shit self-esteem and quit agonizing over aloof men. You're in your 30s, get a grip on life.

Online dating ... the perfect breeding ground for illusion/delusion 🥴

@Rainbow87 "Then after he read the email he asked questions about my ex and what was his name. Then he disappeared…. Maybe he wants to stalk my ex? Or process things? Do you think that could be the reason why he just left? Or maybe he got jealous—”

I am so over this shit I can’t see straight. Listen, I am not attacking you in any way but I have gone through this enough times on my own that I’m mad on your behalf.

Who gives 2 fucks about what his “motive” is? Fuck his motive! He’s not into you. Because people who are don’t act like this. Don’t waste another second trying to read the tea leaves and wonder what’s in his head. What’s in his head is disinterest and you deserve better than that. Put him in the “fuck him” bin.

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Posted by Rainbow87

The email was actually very long. Literally 5 paragraphs. I talked to him about some things about my life because I just trust him. And I said some things about my ex being an asshole. Then after he read the email he asked questions about my ex and what was his name. Then he disappeared…. Maybe he wants to stalk my ex? Or process things? Do you think that could be the reason why he just left? Or maybe he got jealous— But I never said I loved my ex. I said I hated him.

How old are you? You should really really really not talk about exes to those you're trying to get with or to new bfs. Specially not the shit talk. It gives horrible image of you as a person. Whatever you say about your ex doesn't have good outcome - if you're talking good things - you might still have feelings for them, if you're trash talking them - you are either like that to anyone who dumps you, or you tolerate being mistreated - both of which don't make you a desirable person. Point being - if you talk about exes no good is going to come from that. There is always something a person can read from your words therefor never ever talk about it unless you're explicitly asked too and even then only briefly, a very short version about it.

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Posted by Rainbow87

The email was actually very long. Literally 5 paragraphs. I talked to him about some things about my life because I just trust him. And I said some things about my ex being an asshole. Then after he read the email he asked questions about my ex and what was his name. Then he disappeared…. Maybe he wants to stalk my ex? Or process things? Do you think that could be the reason why he just left? Or maybe he got jealous— But I never said I loved my ex. I said I hated him.

He disappeared because he's processing what you've said. You're naive to think you could trust a guy you hardly know and met only once in person. You should never bash or discuss an ex with a guy you're getting to know unless he asks first but even then I'd keep it brief. It implies you still have ex-bf hangups which can be a turn-off. I also think he's just talking to you when he's bored and it's very clear you're not a priority, but you already know that.

Lol, discussing an ex is a tricky situation. When I was a bit younger iI would have cut that person out asap because of baggage issues, but now it depends on how the ex was portrayed. I do agree. Don't discuss no ex with a Scorpio or anyone you are just barely getting to know unless they ask.

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Yes We let go of some one We loved very much because he’d speak about his ex didn’t want to be second best

Yeah I know talking trash about exes looks bad but I like to be transparent. If my ex was abusive and I suffered in my previous relationship I have to say it. I won’t pretend it didn’t hurt me. And him and I have known each other for a while and I feel like I can open up to him and share personal stuff with him. If I messed up, oh well, I really didn’t mean to. If he’s too jealous, doesn’t trust me, or doesn’t like my personality even when I make mistakes then there’s nothing I can do.

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Yeah I know talking trash about exes looks bad but I like to be transparent. If my ex was abusive and I suffered in my previous relationship I have to say it. I won’t pretend it didn’t hurt me. And him and I have known each other for a while and I feel like I can open up to him and share personal stuff with him. If I messed up, oh well, I really didn’t mean to. If he’s too jealous, doesn’t trust me, or doesn’t like my personality even when I make mistakes then there’s nothing I can do.

Scorps don't want to hear about an ex.

He was obviously kidnapped!

IMO he was chatting to you in bed and feel asleep.

Tbh it seems he messaged you out of boredom and then you sent him a long email that was way too heavy talking about your ex. Yikes.😅

If you feel he isn't into you that means he isn't into you or you wouldn't be wondering. It's that simple but most times people let their own fantasy and hopes cloud their judgement. Like you thinking him going to stalk your ex. I highly doubt it. 🙈

Your first sentence said it all. Your into him.

But in reality it’s not him your into, your into the version of him you’ve built up in your head. It’s long distance and some messaging him here and there does not mean you really know him. Nor he you.

Cringe email is already sent so not much you can do. But don’t fault the guy for not matching your emotional investment. He’s not your bf or even dating you. He’s just chatting with a friend who overshares. That’s probably where it starts and ends.

Part of his appeal is that he is long distance. You don’t want to be hurt again so he seems like a safer option because deep down you know the distance puts up roadblocks that will protect you from giving everything and being truly vulnerable.

Before even reading your post I guess I can tell you why he left the conversation.

•He needs his space

•He is about to explode because you said something or multiple things that pissed him off

•He likes you "too much" and he is scared that he is gonna fall for you which he already did that's why he withdraws.

I'm sun taurus in the 12th house ascendant taurus, moon in leo in the 4th house, but with Pluto in the 8th house, so my very essence, my very being is scorpionic, I even have pholus in scorpio. Pholus in scorpio sees EVERYTHING! So yeah, you can trust my intuition.

How old are you?