Scorpio man has a gf but obsessed with me?

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AriesAngel92
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I liked this scorpio man a few years ago. We had instant chemistry and I felt like he was my soulmate the moment I met him. Never felt that way about anyone else. He felt the same and called me his puzzle piece but then I ended up coming on way too strong and scared him away.

Few years later I’m living in ny now and he’s still in Cali. He’s dating someone and never posts anything with or about her. He never talks about her either. She made him delete me on fb when they first started going out which was ridiculous cuz I was into just girls at the time. But yea.. he snapchats me all the freaking time, and it’s almost never sexual, mostly just really deep personal questions. At first I thought this was insane because why is he all about me when he’s dating someone, and also why does he think he can continue to be mysterious and expect me to just divulge all my secrets?

But lately he’s started to open up to me a lot more. He’s even asked to come visit this summer and texts me almost every single day. I almost never text him first. I’ve been trying to ignore him and push him away even though I still love him, because I don’t wanna get hurt. But he just tells me “I know you tend to isolate yourself but I care about you a lot, blah blah blah “ . Idk. I truly think this man is my soulmate but is he just dating this chick because he’s bored or does he actually see a future with her? Is she his placeholder? Is he reaching out to me because he regrets not choosing me? I definitely feel like if we were just friends he wouldn’t feel the need to know every detail of my life or care so much about my feelings. His girlfriend is a Taurus and I’m an Aries woman. Can anyone offer some advice on how to handle this situation? Should I ask about the gf? Continue to not say anything? I mean honestly it doesn’t really make a difference cuz I doubt anything’s gonna change seeing as I’m 3,000 miles away. I just want some insight as to what’s going on here. We have an insanely deep connection. But I’ll continue to keep my distance until someone advises me what to do.
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You already posted this story.

At least this time you toned down the whole "I decided to be gay" thing.

You'll probably end up devolving into ranting again and juvenile rhetoric. But the only reason you would ask about his girlfriend is with the purpose of having an avenue to judge her, and undermine their relationship for your benefit. Your motives aren't pure. You have ulterior motives. You're a game player.

And no matter what anyone says, you'll likely verbally attack them simply for not feeding into your delusion and validating your neuroses of whatever theory your over analyzing of him, has come up with.

If he wanted you, he would be with you. You just cant accept it.
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AriesAngel92
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Posted by nikkistar
You already posted this story.

At least this time you toned down the whole "I decided to be gay" thing.

You'll probably end up devolving into ranting again and juvenile rhetoric. But the only reason you would ask about his girlfriend is with the purpose of having an avenue to judge her, and undermine their relationship for your benefit. Your motives aren't pure. You have ulterior motives. You're a game player.

And no matter what anyone says, you'll likely verbally attack them simply for not feeding into your delusion and validating your neuroses of whatever theory your over analyzing of him, has come up with.

If he wanted you, he would be with you. You just cant accept it.
I’m gonna ignore your personal attacks on my character and the fact that you’re talking down to me but I will say, that’s a very close minded way to go through life, and you’re probably wrong.
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AriesAngel92
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Posted by tiziani
Let's be real, you do sound like every other person with no boundaries that is just seeing what they want to see.

Especially the part about how you "came on too strong". More like you acted crazy amirite.
Came on too strong definitely means acting crazy. I never denied that. I do have a genuine connection with this man, and it’s not about pushing boundaries because I was still interested in him when he was single.