Scorpio man returns with stronger feelings

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Back in mid to end january i started seeing a scorpio man. Things went well, we saw each other every week or so for almost 2 months then a little less the 3rd month. He got busy with working 7 days a week. And then things just went bad and it ended. More of him ending it with no explanations after i said what i needed to say. A month goes by and he contacts me again, asking to work things out, telling me he stopped working as much (i assumed to spend more time with me), saying he was "serious about wanting to work things out", and even said he loved me. Things went well a few days ago when i saw him again and seemed like he was very serious about working things out. We planned on seeing each other today but now its a disappearing/cold act with him again, and turns out i'm not going to see him today like he said. Whats happening? Why do scorpio men confess these feelings then act so distant?
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i know it's not good. i've dealt with it probably because i've read that's just how they are. 😢
but. i thought he already made his decision. when i kept saying i didn't know if i wanted to start back up again he kept saying he was serious about working it out, even said he LOVED me. i can't just forget that he said that. why say serious things like that then disappear and not be sure anymore
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well i texted him two days ago trying to make conversation, he didn't reply much. i left him alone for a day. and yesterday when i tried confirming to see him today he would avoid when i was asking if he's still serious about us. one word texts or just avoiding anything i said. still hasn't replied to what i said last night. i'm worried it's going to be a repeat of how he acted a month ago
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true, maybe not. when he contacted me a week ago it seemed like he was going to stick around for good this time. he just acted so different. maybe he is busy, but true, this is why i was so hesitant about starting things up again with him. when i wasn't so sure that's when he seemed like he was giving me alot for me to stay by the way he sounded, and also by his actions when i was with him. it was a different feeling than before. but why contact me again if he's not as interested in me? i left him alone and thought things were over, he initiated it, not me
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no the libra has nothing to do with the scorpio. different time. the only day i saw the libra was january 1st, never saw or spoke to him again after that day. this scorpio became interested and started talking to me at the end on the month. i was never seeing another guy at the time this scorpio started talking to me, i wouldn't do that, i even told this scorpio when he asked if i was seeing anyone else that i wasn't

i am a gemini
my Venus is Leo
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More of him ending it with no explanations after i said what i needed to say.



What had you said to him?
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i just basically told him he acts like he doesn't want to see me, and he keeps telling me i can come over whenever i want, but when i ask him he is usually busy or doesn't answer, i have had a feeling he hasn't wanted to see him for a little while, and he should've just told me, and that i really really tried with him but he keeps ignoring me, and him saying what he said is coming from no where. because the day before i told him i can come the next day, when i asked to confirm, he said he was sleeping. so i left him alone, then the day i said i could come, i guess he was just expecting me to show up, without ever giving me the OK to go there
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More of him ending it with no explanations after i said what i needed to say.



What had you said to him?



i just basically told him he acts like he doesn't want to see me, and he keeps telling me i can come over whenever i want, but when i ask him he is usually busy or doesn't answer, i have had a feeling he hasn't wanted to see him for a little while, and he should've just told me, and that i really really tried with him but he keeps ignoring me, and him saying what he said is coming from no where.
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There is a strong chance that he interpreted you saying"Tell me directly if you don't want to see me but don't ignore me" as you wanting to not see him anymore.

He thought about whether or not he wants you when he hid and came back when he made his decision.

If he did not want you in his life, he would have cut you out and told you to leave in no uncertain terms.

Watch what you say and how you say, he is sensitive and might get hurt easily.

If there is anything bothering you/you don't like, point it out,communicate clearly but avoid using harsh words and give him time to reflect on it and change it.

Be patient and understanding ,support him and show that you care.

Leave it at that for now.

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There is a strong chance that he interpreted you saying"Tell me directly if you don't want to see me but don't ignore me" as you wanting to not see him anymore.

He thought about whether or not he wants you when he hid and came back when he made his decision.

If he did not want you in his life, he would have cut you out and told you to leave in no uncertain terms.

Watch what you say and how you say, he is sensitive and might get hurt easily.

If there is anything bothering you/you don't like, point it out,communicate clearly but avoid using harsh words and give him time to reflect on it and change it.

Be patient and understanding ,support him and show that you care.

Leave it at that for now.


Thats what i figured too. If he was really done why would he talk to me again trying to work things out after not talking at all for a month? I sent him a last message saying i know hes been stressed and if he needs to talk im here and that i wanted to see him today cuz i missed him.
The last time i sent him a message like that about 2 months ago he responded a few days later with "i want to see you but my schedule is crazy now 😢 i miss everything about you.."
I was being patient with him. I realize now that i will have to do the same again and always be patient with him

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Can you please let me know what the outcome was like?

I'm going through almost exactly this except I was only fuck buddies with my Scorpio and he's pretty much doing exactly this, and I'm doing exactly what you were doing. Only thing I can mention was that when I asked him to tell me how he feels he said "he's too embarrassed" and a couple of text exchanges later he told me to sleep with other people and that he doesn't want to treat me like a sex object but I said that's ok because we were mutual about the sex buddies and that was algood but at the same time he said its not like THIS will never happen, just not now. And somewhere along the lines he said he doesn't want to lead me on. Tons of mixed messages. I told myself for now I'll let it go, see where it heads on its own and move on from it. But it would be good t get a clear understanding of what he wants from me. All of these comments above were as a result of me telling him I'm starting to get feelings.
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"he said its not like THIS will never happen, just not now."

Lord, have mercy. nop?


"get a clear understanding of what he wants from me"

dark side people : clear understanding is something for cowards.

light side people : you are wasting God given gifts which are time and happiness.

dark side people : next.

light side people : lesson learned. Venus and Jupiter cannot rule where Pluto rules.
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Posted by wateryram80
from my experience, when scorpio's are deeply in love, they don't disappear. they try to give as much as they can to make sure the person they are interested in sticks around. it seems like he's not that interested in you as you are in him.



This has not been my experience at all. I've only dealt with one scorpio, and people are different. However, my scorpio really does love me and he disappears and does the hot/cold routine quite often (after being hurt). He literally has gone from being mad at me and refusing to hug me goodbye (before he was leaving for vacation) to texting me 30 minutes later and confessing his feelings for me and saying he wants to work things out and be together. COMPLETE 180 degree change in 30 minutes. So...who knows.

Also, from my experience, whenever I felt he was giving short answers, avoiding seeing me (even after we had made plans), all the other things you mentioned--I ended up being right. He would admit it to me later when he didn't have such a huge wall up. Basically, he would get scared and protect himself.

My advice is to trust your gut instinct. Mine has always been right. If something seems amiss, it probably is. If he seems genuine in expressing his feelings for you, he probably is. If he seems to be playing games, he probably is.

If you really want a relationship with him, the only thing you can do is express your feelings very gently and be patient with him. For me, my relationship with my scorp never got much easier and I ended up being heartbroken time and time again. So...just know what you're in for.

Good luck!
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There is a strong chance that he interpreted you saying"Tell me directly if you don't want to see me but don't ignore me" as you wanting to not see him anymore.

He thought about whether or not he wants you when he hid and came back when he made his decision.

If he did not want you in his life, he would have cut you out and told you to leave in no uncertain terms.

Watch what you say and how you say, he is sensitive and might get hurt easily.

If there is anything bothering you/you don't like, point it out,communicate clearly but avoid using harsh words and give him time to reflect on it and change it.

Be patient and understanding ,support him and show that you care.

Leave it at that for now.


Thats what i figured too. If he was really done why would he talk to me again trying to work things out after not talking at all for a month? I sent him a last message saying i know hes been stressed and if he needs to talk im here and that i wanted to see him today cuz i missed him.
The last time i sent him a message like that about 2 months ago he responded a few days later with "i want to see you but my schedule is crazy now 😢 i miss everything about you.."
I was being patient with him. I realize now that i will have to do the same again and always be patient with him



and patience you will need a lot. wait. if you want to wait. it is all or nothing.
you've entered crazy love world of Scorpio and Gemini.
got to wait or quit. do not freak out. they don't like it.
good luck.
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After how much time would you say that waiting is pointless?