Scorpio Man Told Me It's Over (Page 2)

Understood HeartLocket, and thank you for your advice.. Really appreciate it. Phoenix Rising I don't know the games you speak of, but I know who i want. We have had challenging times, everyday ups and downs, sometimes we need a time out but he just goes on with compatibility

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Posted by GeminLibra
I don't know exactly how i wanted him to respond to be honest. Maybe I wanted to prove him wrong, when he said my ex will never return, and show him he did. I don't know..

Hmph. I was on your side Gemmy. You're playing games.

Why the hell would you need to prove this to him if you have in fact moved on and didn't care about your ex? How did that little lesson in needing your self esteem stroked work out for you? Smh.

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o-m-g

Well, he might come back around, he is probably hurting right now, or just feeling very doubtful.

I think that if he does come back around, keep it casual at first. Then admit your wrongs and tell him how important he is to you, and that you only want him, nobody else.
But keep in mind that he might try to bite back at you. Depends on the maturity level, and the amount of hurt he is feeling, really.

Posted by GeminLibra
Maybe I am too honest and talk too much... 😢 I said I am wrong because he is really stinging me with being open and honest.

Don't confuse the two. Scorps need honesty. All the time. This was about your intention, which wasn't genuine. You wanted to manipulate a reaction from him that Is the problem here.

Posted by GeminLibra
Maybe he's just enjoying seeing me hurt with all my status :/

he sure is. i dont mean to laugh but damn.

hmmm

Posted by heartlocket
Well, he might come back around, he is probably hurting right now, or just feeling very doubtful.

I think that if he does come back around, keep it casual at first. Then admit your wrongs and tell him how important he is to you, and that you only want him, nobody else.
But keep in mind that he might try to bite back at you. Depends on the maturity level, and the amount of hurt he is feeling, really.

This!

Posted by GeminLibra
But tell me the way forward... i am just looking for answers from ppl who knows the Scorpio Man.. 😢

*Eh em*:

Posted by PhoenixRising

If he does come back be upfront and honest:

"I'd like to know where we stand" don't manipulate it with "so my ex wants me back 😈"

Scorps smell manipulation a mile away and (depends the Scorp) you may never see them again.

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I guess I will wait for him to heal and after sometime wait to see if he returns

Thank you for all your responses, and you're right. Never I meant to seem dishonest with him. Maybe that's why i tell him everything, a little too much. Dang does this pain 😭

Thanks Phoenix

I think with him I need to not beat around the bush and be clear with what i say.

I am starting to think I should just delete my sad status, maybe he doesn't want to deal with me being emotional, i don't know

Aww op you don't have to delete the status but it's better to tell him you're sad than post about it. Just be honest with how you feel don't be afraid to talk to him

I think I am more scared of him really reminding me that it's really over......... I just don't know how much more pain i can take. I agree, i would love to get the opportunity to talk, to explain, to re-assure. But I can't be done in a text or phone call, It has to be done in person. I just don't want it to be over..

Posted by Impulsv
Why did u feel the need to tell him ur ex called n wanted back.
Reasons for his behavior

1. We don't like competition n word " grown to love u" For us feels forced not ideal.

Or

2 knowing another man loves u perhaps more than him he's setting u free.

exactly

understood

I know, just looking for the right opportunity, and not when he's all upset or hurt. I need to talk to him when he's ready to hear me out and not let it fly over his head. Thank you for your kind suggestions

I am soo confused, hurt and scared at the same time 😢

Honestly I think the Scorpio was/is a rebound and he knows it.
Just because you now have feelings for him does not dismiss that fact.
He knows this too.

he is testing you! scorpios are jealous and possesive, just mentioning another person makes them go crazy... dont worry, its not over... he liked you because you were broken at that time, but now that he fixed you, he wants you to be strong... re-ensure him that he is the only one for you and that your ex is dead to you. go to his door if you have to, scorpios like to be stalked and obsessed over. but smile, and be sexy, dont cry like a crazy person.

Thank you 🙂 As much as I agree, I should not stall any longer, I am scared that he will say to me again, he doesn't want me. I must admit, and I am not sure why, but he was soo beautiful when he was trying to get me, and now I feel as though, since he has, he's neglected me 😢 before I knew everything, he gave me all his contact #'s e-mail addresses so I will always know where he was. Now I don't. I feel as though, he got me, and now he doesn't feel as though he needs to try. I mean don't we all love when it's new, that beautiful feeling when you can't stay away from each other? Because I can't, you think he's obsessive, I am, and I often wonder whether I am a Gemini.

I AM HONESTLY SCARED HE WILL SHUT ME DOWN and I cannot bare to hear it right now.. I don't want to leave things as is, but hoping somehow he may make the first move. Do you think he will?

Tell me more about the Scorpio man, if anyone can, please

He is NOT a rebound guy, I grew to love him over time, and I have always told him I loved him as he did. It took some time but we got here, together. I never had any intentions of hurting him or leaving him. You see, we not only spoke of relationships, but school, work, current affairs so it's not only about our relationship. I really never thought of him as such. And don't intend too.

Posted by scorp222
scorpios like to be stalked and obsessed over...

*anticipates several "My Scorp Got a Restraining Order Against Me--What Went Wrong?" threads in the upcoming weeks.*

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Posted by GeminLibra
am not sure why, but he was soo beautiful when he was trying to get me,

I here it all the time but what about us don't u think we want to
Feel like this as well. It's fine when
We give it our 110 percent but when it's your turn ur afraid. Do u think it was easy for us no!! U take that for granted don't value it until
It's gone. U say u want fix it than man up I say I'm sorry go after him. U think when he was trying to get u ur words didn't cut when u said will ex come back. They did! yet he pushed through n continued despite fear u might not fall for him or reject him. Then u go on to make him jealous with ex want back.
U know what don't go after him ur not at his level n that's all We want someone to reciprocate equally. That's why he's gone.

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TRUTH

I can see you mentioning the ex shit in the beginning when you're dating and still casual, getting to know each other BUT you said this to him after you guys were already "an item" as you put it. I would feel so threatened and insecure. And what was the point of mentioning it, I would wonder? He probably thinks you were considering getting back together with him. Or you wanted to see his reaction. Those are the only two possibilities. Either one would make us feel insecure, hurt, unloved. Because if this ex was really a nobody you would of ignored your ex's comments and saw no need to tell your Scorp.

This would take some time apart to fix and then reassurance to him that you really do love him.

GeminLibra,

Just give him space. He is attached to his emotions of anger and jealousy.

It takes year for you to wait... so just move on now while he is healing his wound.

wait.. did you chase him?

lol. PhoenixRising that's hilarious video.

Impulsv, that's true the *ex thing* making us feel jealous and less valued..

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Posted by scorp222
scorpios like to be stalked and obsessed over...

*anticipates several "My Scorp Got a Restraining Order Against Me--What Went Wrong?" threads in the upcoming weeks.*

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lmao

Posted by Whatu
How many cats do you have? Not enough I suspect.

yas bich yas

i have to get my guy back 😢

i understand my mistakes, and i am paying for it. Is it wrong for me to feel scared to talk to him now? I am not sure whether he will give me the opportunity to hear me out. Maybe he's soo upset/hurt that he doesn't care about me anymore 😭

I never wanted him to feel less valued, or loved, or wanted, or less needed. I have and always told him I want no other.. I just need guidelines on approach. I know what I've done already.

no no I have never done anything.. I honestly don't think he still wants me and i feel as though he has given up. He spends more time on other social media and not a word to me. I just don't know if he still cares. I understand some of you all saying I am on games, I am not in his league give him up. But I am not ready too 😭

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Posted by GeminLibra
I never wanted him to feel less valued, or loved, or wanted, or less needed. I have and always told him I want no other.. I just need guidelines on approach. I know what I've done already.

Are you sure about that? Because it seems like you believe you done some kind of crime here when really from everything you've describe, you haven't really done anything at all. Just said a lot of things that contradict each other.

Hmph. Depends on the Scorp, but that's more than enough to lose trust.

Posted by tiziani

They're not like us, as much as words hurt, they get over words pretty quickly actually from my experience.

Did the Scorp have a lot of air in their chart?

Posted by tiziani

What they need and what they gravitate to is the real - things of substance. You're there talking about making facebook posts like that's a big risk in your life but it probably means 0.0000000001% in his world.

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This. I wouldn't even be reading that nonsense, which may be why he's not responding.

Posted by GeminLibra
no no I have never done anything.. I honestly don't think he still wants me and i feel as though he has given up. He spends more time on other social media and not a word to me. I just don't know if he still cares. I understand some of you all saying I am on games, I am not in his league give him up. But I am not ready too 😭

I'll be straight with you. I would find the passive status updates insulting. I would be fully aware that you are trying to get my attention, but I would think you're too much of a coward to come to me straight. I wouldn't respect it. Period.

As it was pointed out in another post, he was willing to come to you straight knowing you could have rejected him at any time. Knowing you longed for someone else, he put himself out there and when things get hard for you emotionally now you want to come at him with "I feel so bad" status updates? Gemmy, cut that sh*t out.

Get yourself together. Think long and hard about what you would like and when you feel like you can convey that to him (not your 1,000,000+ facebook friends) in an honest way, spit. it. out.

Come on now, Gems and Scorps can work.

confession: i use my facebook posts to make points that only those who can read between the lines get.

Posted by DMV
confession: i use my facebook posts to make points that only those who can read between the lines get.

i know that people read really far into FB posts.

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Posted by DMV
confession: i use my facebook posts to make points that only those who can read between the lines get.

Does it satisfy you?

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yes, the weaker ones go bat shit crazy. the stronger ones, it doesnt affect them.

i replied like this....

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Posted by GeminLibra
Maybe he's just enjoying seeing me hurt with all my status :/

he sure is. i dont mean to laugh but damn.

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Posted by tiziani
DMV, when you do that are you genuinely interest in the person or is it the fact there's an audience that gives it meaning for you?

neither, if im interested in you, i wouldnt toy with you. Once the toying begins, that means i have no respect for the other person. Now i just feel like being a bitch.

Posted by tiziani
So then PR, how the hell do you live with being a Gemini Moon in that case? : P

😛

I think my Moon works different in all my water.

ur right, i should not be hiding behind my feelings. I need to woman up

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Posted by DMV
confession: i use my facebook posts to make points that only those who can read between the lines get.

Does it satisfy you?

yes, the weaker ones go bat shit crazy. the stronger ones, it doesnt affect them.

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Lol. I love when people say "yeah I had it up in my status" then ask "...didn't you see it?"

9 out of 10 times no, I didn't see it. If I did, trust I was thoroughly entertained by what you tried to do. Next move. Go!

So, DMV isn't too far off about the enjoyment piece, but not for the reasons you think.

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Posted by tiziani
DMV, when you do that are you genuinely interest in the person or is it the fact there's an audience that gives it meaning for you?

neither, if im interested in you, i wouldnt toy with you. Once the toying begins, that means i have no respect for the other person. Now i just feel like being a bitch.

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And that is how I would read it too. If you're serious, do something.

It may be about fear for some (e.g. OP). Understood. But if I'm sticking my neck out for you emotionally, do the same or bugger off.

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Posted by DMV
confession: i use my facebook posts to make points that only those who can read between the lines get.

Does it satisfy you?

yes, the weaker ones go bat shit crazy. the stronger ones, it doesnt affect them.

Lol. I love when people say "yeah I had it up in my status" then ask "...didn't you see it?"

9 out of 10 times no, I didn't see it. If I did, trust I was thoroughly entertained by what you tried to do. Next move. Go!

So, DMV isn't too far off about the enjoyment piece, but not for the reasons you think.

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un huh. usually i find the person whos im either toying with or who is trying to coax me into their shenanigans, they block or defriend me because:

1.) They cant take being ignored because i dont react.
2.) I dont reveal my emotions in my FB posts. They want, no, they NEED me to talk about them. they want me to share my emotions badly.

i really laugh when they try to add me back. i accept, and then they think theyve made progress.

fuck off, these are my emotions and i will share them with who i see fit.

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Posted by tiziani
DMV, when you do that are you genuinely interest in the person or is it the fact there's an audience that gives it meaning for you?

neither, if im interested in you, i wouldnt toy with you. Once the toying begins, that means i have no respect for the other person. Now i just feel like being a bitch.

And that is how I would read it too. If you're serious, do something.

It may be about fear for some (e.g. OP). Understood. But if I'm sticking my neck out for you emotionally, do the same or bugger off.

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yup. OP, your Scorp laid his cards out and he got burned in the end. You didnt meet his intensity. NOW you have to find that balance between being genuine and not desperate in your reply to him.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
my facebook posts mean nothing.

seriously.

they are just random thoughts and they are never intended to be about or for anyone in particular......

my partner doesn't even have facebook, so if I am thinking about them and post a random thought....it still isn't about anyone on facebook.

it's funny though....someone used to think every single thing I posted was about them, some kind of innuendo. I kind of looked at them like they had three heads when I figured it out.

they had a scorpio in venus. LOL

i get that feeling as well. "theyre talking bout me." Like PR said, usually im right because they try to bring up their status again and again to me.

Posted by Rabbit
LOL @ Facebook posts.

He probably only uses Facebook to keep track of his back burner women.

-_-

Exactly. I knew a guy that only added the women that he was sleeping with or has slept with. He never added people that he has been in a relationship with or people that he would consider being in a relationship with. Sad.

Posted by tiziani
I think I know what you mean. What amuses me is when someone ignores you, cuts away from your life assuming you're just sort of vying for their attention. Then they come back, reappear, take a deep breath like "ok I'm ready to talk now".

It's only then they realise there was never really much to say anyway. In fact all their crap really had nothing to do with you in the first place.