Scorpio Possessive and Jealous Nature

Hey folks! Well, I met a Scorpio online and I am already seeing the jealous and highly possessive nature that is a little disconcerting. I love my freedom and I don't understand why this recent widower speaks so freely about his recently deceased wife, but gets jealous when I speak about my online dating experiences. If I speak with the Scorpio once or twice a week and keep a healthy distance, will it soften the blow of his jealous streak. It's a little alarming, as we are strangers. Are theses traits indications that they really like someone? I am trying to understand in order to know how to best proceed - any insight, understanding or feedback will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Double standards...sadly I have seen a few Scorps with this

....including yours truly

Working on it for a while now

there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

I agree.

In fact ill go further and say that it's disrespectful for you to bring up casual dating stories in comparison to him sharing a very important part of his life, his dead wife.

It's disrespectful and low class. You should never mention guys you briefly dated to a potential SO, especially not at the beginning stages. Sheesh!

Posted by butterscotch
Hey folks! Well, I met a Scorpio online and I am already seeing the jealous and highly possessive nature that is a little disconcerting. I love my freedom and I don't understand why this recent widower speaks so freely about his recently deceased wife, but gets jealous when I speak about my online dating experiences. If I speak with the Scorpio once or twice a week and keep a healthy distance, will it soften the blow of his jealous streak. It's a little alarming, as we are strangers. Are theses traits indications that they really like someone? I am trying to understand in order to know how to best proceed - any insight, understanding or feedback will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

For me at least I wouldn't care if you talk about your past relationship cause it's the past but sometimes I do show occasional bouts of jealousy and used to be possessive but as I got older not anymore.

Posted by PeanutButterandElly
Is his wife's death still fresh? Two years or less? I they were married for quite sometime he probably isn't used to being on his own and dating again. That would explain the jealousy and possessiveness. Mine tend to get worse if I'm going through something and especially right after a break up. I can't imagine how a death would affect that. Talking about a marriage is a little different than talking about dating. The amount of investment levels are very different.

Other than address your concerns directly with him or breaking up, I don't see much you can do. If he's already easily made jealous then he'll probably escalate or disappear if you try to ease off and give him space.

Why would he disappear?

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Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

I understand what you are saying and it is different. But she should also be allowed to share her past experiences, however trivial they may seem to someone else

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I can't agree with that. Talking about yr deceased spouse is sharing something very personal and showing that you're ready to bring the other person into a very intimate part of your psyche, whereas talking about online dates will only make the other person feel threatened.

There is really no good thing that can come of you talking to someone about your online dates while you are online dating this person.

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

He continues to refer to her as "my wife." Not my late wife.

Posted by butterscotch

Posted by PeanutButterandElly
Is his wife's death still fresh? Two years or less? I they were married for quite sometime he probably isn't used to being on his own and dating again. That would explain the jealousy and possessiveness. Mine tend to get worse if I'm going through something and especially right after a break up. I can't imagine how a death would affect that. Talking about a marriage is a little different than talking about dating. The amount of investment levels are very different.

Other than address your concerns directly with him or breaking up, I don't see much you can do. If he's already easily made jealous then he'll probably escalate or disappear if you try to ease off and give him space.

Why would he disappear?

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Because he feels offended.

Posted by butterscotch

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

He continues to refer to her as "my wife." Not my late wife.

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And if the situation was revered and you said "my husband", he would be offended

Like i said ... Scorpios and double standards .... I wished more could be honest about this

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

I agree.

In fact ill go further and say that it's disrespectful for you to bring up casual dating stories in comparison to him sharing a very important part of his life, his dead wife.

It's disrespectful and low class. You should never mention guys you briefly dated to a potential SO, especially not at the beginning stages. Sheesh!

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Lady Neptune, I think it's as equally low class for you to be judgmental instead of kind.

Posted by butterscotch

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

He continues to refer to her as "my wife." Not my late wife.

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well she's still his wife, it's a fact, even if you get married with him one day you can't erase the memory of his ex wife he probably has a lot of affection for her in his heart. you can't take that from him, or you'd be the controlling one.

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Posted by butterscotch

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

He continues to refer to her as "my wife." Not my late wife.

well she's still his wife, it's a fact, even if you get married with him one day you can't erase the memory of his ex wife he probably has a lot of affection for her in his heart. you can't take that from him, or you'd be the controlling one.

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Yes you have made me realize I don't want this experience. Thanks. Think in fact I will end it right now.

I decided to not move forward with the Scorpio, yes he does still have deep affection for his wife, and I have met many other potential mates without the baggage of a recent dead wife. Everyone has baggage, including myself, I have had a deep affection for an ex, but enough time has passed for me to be in the dating world without the baggage of a recent heartache and I would prefer the same. I have found it too, so I will continue with the Capricorn. Thanks everyone for your contribution this is a wrap.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by hydorah
there's a difference between talking about your deceased spouse and talking about the people you date online.

Can you not feel the difference?

I agree.

In fact ill go further and say that it's disrespectful for you to bring up casual dating stories in comparison to him sharing a very important part of his life, his dead wife.

It's disrespectful and low class. You should never mention guys you briefly dated to a potential SO, especially not at the beginning stages. Sheesh!

Lady Neptune, I think it's as equally low class for you to be judgmental instead of kind.

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Your putting your business out there to be judged by Internet strangers. Not everyone is gonna kiss your ass.

Get a thicker skin.