shortii
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Scorpio sun, rising and venus..
Posted by ArriusSide eye respected but not necessary here. My scorpio had a porn issue. . Major one. Hides it from me but not the rest of the world. That's issue #1.
My goodness, you do have a problem. Seriously. The pat answer when you are not being treated well is to swim away, but here you have gotten yourself involved with a Scorpio. Not so easy.
1. Scorps are manipulative, but so are we. I suspect that with Venus in Aries (and Cancer ascendant) you want to "lead" in the relationship and have him "follow." That's certainly not going to happen. Narcissistic? Hmmm. They're very self-absorbed. Usually not obnoxiously so, but it's there.
2. He's a man. He's a fixed sign. He's a Scorp.
3. Yes, and herein lies the problem. It's no excuse for his behavior, but because you are a Pisces I'm giving you the "slant eye," wondering what else is going on?
I actually don't want to lead in the relationship, as my venus would predict, just be an equal really. Problem for him. He wants to lead and then does nothing. ..i.e. control. He wants what he wants when he wants it but does nothing to support it.
This one is a narcissist. It's his way or no way. He wants to me to do what he wants to make his life better when he wants it..but again..does nothing to support it. Wanted me to start a business that he could take over. When I told him to start it himself...I was the blame. He gets jealous that I make more money than he does. He got mad when he was the sole bread winner. And did I mention that he's never wrong? He's not.
3. There are deeper issues here..mostly with trust. I don't trust him. Did but he's worn that down over time. There are some issues th at I caused...as well. I have asked for forgiveness and changed those issues. He refuses to do so.
Posted by FrostAndBiteThis one I'm married to with kids . Only reason why I've wasted time on this d*ckbag. Otherwise I wouldn't have.
After all these years it still stupefies me when women come on here and list nothing but terrible qualities of a man and then ask for help in understanding them or affecting their behavior. Why do women waste time on dickbags?
Posted by ImpulsvAgreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
Posted by Rabbitcorrect , rabbit. I should have.
Should have led with the married part...
Didn't want that to skew the responses that I got.
Posted by ImpulsvLOLPosted by shortiiHe has no Scorpio in his chart lolPosted by ImpulsvAgreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another signclick to expand
seriously, the other guy you know like this has no Scorp in his chart at all?
What is he? Lol what's in his chart? —
Posted by GetMistedTruePosted by shortiiThat's exactly what leaving out information does.Posted by Rabbitcorrect , rabbit. I should have.
Should have led with the married part...
Didn't want that to skew the responses that I got.click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvIs he dealing with it or just still in denial?Posted by shortiiTaurusPosted by ImpulsvLOLPosted by shortiiHe has no Scorpio in his chart lolPosted by ImpulsvAgreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
seriously, the other guy you know like this has no Scorp in his chart at all?
What is he? Lol what's in his chart? —
Cap moon
Venus Aries cancer Mars
Porn addition addiction as wellclick to expand
I have two of those placements and I can relate with
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Posted by WynterWynter- what is the loss that is terrifying that it's easier to alienate a partner than just admit fault and heal? Why is it so impossible?
I have two of those placements and I can relate with
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Posted by FrostAndBitetorture— 😕
After all these years it still stupefies me when women come on here and list nothing but terrible qualities of a man and then ask for help in understanding them or affecting their behavior. Why do women waste time on dickbags?
Posted by Nemiliciousscorpion pride?
it´s not fear - it´s pride. something you might want to read about.
Stubborn pride. 🙂
Posted by busyeyes88Soo attracted to Taurus too.. LOL maybe I should run the other way? LOLPosted by ImpulsvThat sounds like taurus. Taurus love their porn.Posted by shortiiTaurusPosted by ImpulsvLOLPosted by shortiiHe has no Scorpio in his chart lolPosted by ImpulsvAgreed. Im sure that it's not just this placement. But others too.
Well u know the answer, walk away.
I've met men as u described in another sign
seriously, the other guy you know like this has no Scorp in his chart at all?
What is he? Lol what's in his chart? —
Cap moon
Venus Aries cancer Mars
Porn addition addiction as wellclick to expand
Posted by WynterThank you.. I will for sure.
Stubborn pride. 🙂
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.
Posted by Taniwhanah...not this tone around. Very few can see through Scorp bull but we can. When we pisces are done...it's a wrap. Especially when. We know that there's no hope or that the person isn't going to change.Posted by shortiiYou'll be back, they always come back.
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83Not really in the classic / text book sense. BUT.. he does find it very hard to confront her on anything. She did NOT baby him growing up. In fact, just the opposite. but he will not call her out on things that she does wrong. If she says jump.. she will ask it in such a way that he eventually asks how high.
I know what it is.
Is he a mommy's boy?
Posted by Arielle83I can count on one hand how much porn i watched in the past 10 years. Not my thing... no disrespect to you or your hubby.. just not my gig.
I'm married to a scorp with Taurus rising and Venus scorp. He likes porn as well, but I prob watch just as much, if not more than him.
He's had his lazy moments and his self involved moments. I just see men as all being little boys and they expect wifey to think the moon shines out of their ass just like mommy did.
Him? Sheesh you would think he's quitting meth.
Moments of self involvement and laziness are fine.. but as a habit.. no.
@Arielle
yes. She's very much a manipulator and he doesn't see it. He's passive agressive because of it. I don't give in so he goes back and complains to her and his sister about me.. and they stick up for him to me. They want to get involved ..I don't allow it.
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why. It's almost as if he creates excusea to justify his reasons. Then hides it. I dont look for it at all too see what he's doing. I usually just come across it doing things that I need to on our computer. And come across it. I think he leaves it discoverable to start a fight and then justify his reasons for going to it again. I'm sure it's gotten pretty deep and I'm not impressed at all.
But overall, I see your point. He does have mommy issues. Well he can work them out on his own. I've spent enough time.
yes. She's very much a manipulator and he doesn't see it. He's passive agressive because of it. I don't give in so he goes back and complains to her and his sister about me.. and they stick up for him to me. They want to get involved ..I don't allow it.
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why. It's almost as if he creates excusea to justify his reasons. Then hides it. I dont look for it at all too see what he's doing. I usually just come across it doing things that I need to on our computer. And come across it. I think he leaves it discoverable to start a fight and then justify his reasons for going to it again. I'm sure it's gotten pretty deep and I'm not impressed at all.
But overall, I see your point. He does have mommy issues. Well he can work them out on his own. I've spent enough time.
Posted by GetMistedlol...Posted by shortiiThat's exactly what leaving out information does.Posted by Rabbitcorrect , rabbit. I should have.
Should have led with the married part...
Didn't want that to skew the responses that I got.click to expand
Posted by shortii....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.
Posted by LetltBHold on there.. Arielle is right. I wasn't aware of how deep his porn situation was until much later. MUCH MUCH later. Most of it was hidden away from me. Even after we were married. He didn't even give an honest reason for many years.Posted by shortii....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.click to expand
Posted by Arielle83ABSOLUTELY. very very calculating.
You don't learn all this shit on your wedding day.
It comes out months and years later when they know they've locked you down!!
Posted by shortiiSo what are you saying? There are laws in your state that say you can't leave with the kids and divorce him? Or do you feel your kids seeing you miserable and being married to a pervert is the answer?Posted by LetltBHold on there.. Arielle is right. I wasn't aware of how deep his porn situation was until much later. MUCH MUCH later. Most of it was hidden away from me. Even after we were married. He didn't even give an honest reason for many years.Posted by shortii....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.click to expand
Posted by shortiiGreat...how many times have the kids "come across it"?
I usually just come across it doing things that I need to on our computer. And come across it. I think he leaves it discoverable to start a fight and then justify his reasons for going to it again.
Posted by Reincarnationyou just might be, reincarnation. Your just might be. Lol
So am I the only Scorp man who dislikes pornography?
Posted by LetltBneverPosted by shortiiGreat...how many times have the kids "come across it"?
I usually just come across it doing things that I need to on our computer. And come across it. I think he leaves it discoverable to start a fight and then justify his reasons for going to it again.click to expand
Posted by LetltBNeither but it seems to have struck a cord.Posted by shortiiSo what are you saying? There are laws in your state that say you can't leave with the kids and divorce him? Or do you feel your kids seeing you miserable and being married to a pervert is the answer?Posted by LetltBHold on there.. Arielle is right. I wasn't aware of how deep his porn situation was until much later. MUCH MUCH later. Most of it was hidden away from me. Even after we were married. He didn't even give an honest reason for many years.Posted by shortii....and YOU MARRIED HIM without bothering to find out why. Let's discuss that.
@Arielle
Yes. He's been involved in porn since he was 14 or so. It's not the fact that he views it that bothers me. It's the reasons why.click to expand
Struck a cord with who? you? All I'm seeing here is you whining and playing victim. In fact you've displayed most of what your original post states with your responses. Especially the narcissistic part. One thing about narcissists...always the victim and looking for support. (supply)
You knock him down completely and suggest it's his birth chart, then his family. What aren't you sharing with us about you? What did you expect to gain from this thread other than sympathy I guess is my question.
You knock him down completely and suggest it's his birth chart, then his family. What aren't you sharing with us about you? What did you expect to gain from this thread other than sympathy I guess is my question.
Posted by Arielle83sorry to hear about that, arielle, that he takes it out on you...
If he can't express his issues with mom, I'm guessing she's got a more dominant personality to him. Maybe she's emasculated him in some way. Maybe he needs to ascert his man hood by dominating you. Telling you what to do. Making you do the work. Slacking off makes him feel powerful because he's got other ppl running around for him. That's what these scorp boys want, some sort of power or feeling of being in control. If he's in shambles in his personal life and he can't control it, you'll be the one he tells what to do.
My husband has issues with his mom because she's a manipulator. I see it and ignore it but when she gives him shit he takes it out on me. The frustration is what he expresses. I just walk away and do my thing. 5 hours later he's all cool and respectful. You got to not give in no matter what the brat wants.
The porn thing is something that he's prob been into since he's 13 or whatever. He gets off on hiding it from you like he did with his mommy. That's part of the addiction. If you are more open about it and not look at it as disgusting and feral, he will be more open about it. He might feel shame about it and begin to resent you and then hide more.
You don't have to like it or watch it but he'll prob do it no matter what so better to just accept it cuz the more he hides this shit, the deeper it might go.
due to his frustration with his mother.
it's good you walk away.
Posted by LetltBif I wanted sympathy I would have asked for it. I clearly didnt.
Struck a cord with who? you? All I'm seeing here is you whining and playing victim. In fact you've displayed most of what your original post states with your responses. Especially the narcissistic part. One thing about narcissists...always the victim and looking for support. (supply)
You knock him down completely and suggest it's his birth chart, then his family. What aren't you sharing with us about you? What did you expect to gain from this thread other than sympathy I guess is my question.
If I wanted support, I would have asked for it as well.. I didn't.
I came to this thread seeking opinion. Yours noted as well.
Posted by shortiithing is, why are you trying to force him to be one way?? i dont understand the complaint about porn.
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.
if he likes it, he likes it. you can't make him do anything if he don't want.
Lisa
It ok. Don't worry about it.
Thank you for your time.
It ok. Don't worry about it.
Thank you for your time.
Posted by shortii
Lisa
It ok. Don't worry about it.
Thank you for your time.
oh ok. you're welcome. hope you work things out.
Posted by shortii
And that is why he's lost me for good. Stubborn pride...can't see past self.
well, stubbornness is an automatism. It's intrinsic. He has no control over it.
Full mouth? right? IDK maybe some people think that the stubborn can learn to change himself. I must be too accepting. Or hopeless? IRDK.
Your story reminds me of the one in "The Unbearable Lightness of Being". The man was sleeping each night with another girl. The wife had nightmares every night. That she's nacked and shamefull.
See it positive. Your man does not sleep with other girls. Only with their projections.
See it positive. Your man does not sleep with other girls. Only with their projections.
Ok, it smells of power struggle between the two of you.
When did it start? In the few past years? Or right in the third year of marriage?
Maybe you have a forbidden Moon or Venus (or AC)? Is anyone of them in a fixed sign?
Please, don't get me wrong. I do not try to make you the bad girl. I'm only handling this as an astrology thing. Afterall in a fixed-fixed square/opposition it's nobody's fault if things go wrong. It's just Physics. In other words Chemistry? (Isn't Chemistry the special case of Physics?)
When did it start? In the few past years? Or right in the third year of marriage?
Maybe you have a forbidden Moon or Venus (or AC)? Is anyone of them in a fixed sign?
Please, don't get me wrong. I do not try to make you the bad girl. I'm only handling this as an astrology thing. Afterall in a fixed-fixed square/opposition it's nobody's fault if things go wrong. It's just Physics. In other words Chemistry? (Isn't Chemistry the special case of Physics?)
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