Scorpio watching me, freaking me out!

A Scorpio at my work has been watching me for a few months now. The "watching" opportunities he's creating are increasing and its freaking me out! I only talk to him for work related stuff and currently have absolutely no interest in him. What does it mean and what should I expect in the coming weeks?

Not much info here, but it's probably one of two things: either he's attracted to you or he sees you as a threat. That's usually a reason to study someone, regardless of sign. 😉

Definitely shouldn't be a threat- We have different specialties at work but have to interact from time to time -and the interaction is always cordial and professional. Also pretty much our whole team jives well together. We work in opposite ends of the office - There is another person on his side of the office I interact with more frequently. When over there I would get this "feeling" sometimes I'm being watched...so naturally I look up and literally he would just be looking at me. Then he very casually looks away and go back to what he's doing. Also there is someone on my side of the office he more frequently interacts with, and the same thing...I would get this feeling...look up and yep...looking at me...then casually looking away. Other weird stuff...changing where he sits in meetings such that I can't really see him without turning, but he can see me...and whenever I get that feeling...sure enough...looking..,then casually look away!

I love that song!

Attracted...in a normal way-ok. In a stalking, freaking me out way...not ok. How do get him to stop!

Posted by MellyMel909
You keep working and let him keep on lurking without wondering if it might lead to twerking. Unless you want it to, that is 😉

No don't want it to...and like the rhyme. _??

I'll try. But sometimes I feel like I want to scream "stop staring at me!" LOL.

These are not "I just happen to be looking your way when you looked up" moments. Nor am I wanting him to be staring at like that. They are definitely deliberate acts...God only knows how much he's really watching because I only know of the times I've caught him.

Awwwwwww poor guy. He just thinks you're hawt!

Fine. Ignore him. Or if you really want to throw him off, get up some courage, go over there and tell him in a nice sweet voice that your name is Jane and it really creeps you out when he stares at you like that. If he wants to be your friend (and friend is a safe word, you know), he has to be more tactful. He'll range anywhere from a sarcastic retort to a shy apology.

And, honey, if he actually apologizes, that's worth a real smile. That level of maturity is rare. If he says something nasty he's only protecting himself, and will then mostly leave you alone. If he stammers or says nothing (but doesn't look insulted), he's deciding you're not worth the effort and will also mostly leave you alone.

The eyes... they're not intentional. They spook the shyer types but in reality, underneath all that tough bravado, Scorpios can be just as afraid of you as you are of them. Harsher when confronted, quicker to detect insult, sure. But have you ever noticed how rarely you're approached? Rejection is pretty much a life story.

Posted by Draumstafir
Fine. Ignore him. Or if you really want to throw him off, get up some courage, go over there and tell him in a nice sweet voice that your name is Jane and it really creeps you out when he stares at you like that...

Well...I'm a double Leo sun/moon...so you know I got the balls (LOL)...just have to remember to be sweet about it cause I'm irritated. I know quite a few scorps, but we're just friends so don't get this kind of behavior from them, so I guess I'm just not use to it. But now that I understand it may be a simple crush, I'll relax a little more around him. Thx!

Posted by IrresistableScorp

What are you trying to do? Freak me out more! Feels like I'm being inspected...doesn't he know I've got a lot of insecurity to hide and don't want to be inspected...LOL!!

Posted by MellyMel909
Long story short: you're only gonna know what it means when HE stares by asking HIM what it means when HE stares.

And that's exactly what I'll do if he does it again. I did think about staring back, but thought better of it...figured i would lose that one!

Posted by seraph
OMG YOU'RE UNDER OBSERVATION.

It won't stop. If you can't handle it you'd better change jobs or move out of state.
😛

It better stop or I might roarrrrr on his a--. Yeah, like anyone gonna run me out of MY work place. LOL. Naw, I'll be nice. I hope once I ask him about it in my leo charming way, he'll open up a bit...and maybe I'll gain another awesome Scorpio friend. "Think positive. Positive!", I'll be telling myself as I approach him...I don't want to get stung...that s--- hurts!

Posted by Neurotoxin
I bet he's picked out all of those insecurities by now.

I'm sure he has! DANG!

Stare back.

Posted by DMV
Stare back.

Scuurred!...I'm only good at the eye contact when in my conquering mood _—. Besides I know you scorps, he'll read right through me!

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Posted by Neurotoxin
I bet he's picked out all of those insecurities by now.

I'm sure he has! DANG!

AND I'm guessing he thinks every one of those insecurities is adorable

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OMG

Posted by cunninglinguist
Give him the finger every time you catch him.

I got balls...but not THAT much..LOL!

Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

Posted by Neurotoxin
No, you probably just piqued his interest further.

Good job...

Good. I wasn't trying to be a smart a--... just felt playful today. _??_

Posted by SunMoomLioness
Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

He got u hook line sinker

Posted by DMV

Posted by SunMoomLioness
Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

He got u hook line sinker

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What? How? Where did I go wrong—

Posted by Nemesis

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Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

He got u hook line sinker

What? How? Where did I go wrong—

there is a huge difference in actually being naive or playing naive ......

from what i have read i gather you??re not really creeped out by the stare. in fact i think it may be blowing up you??re ego a bit.

also i??ve never heard or seen - in a professional surrounding - colleagues use such terms as "hey handsome" or "hey beautiful" -

something is off.

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Bingo

Posted by Nemesis

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Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

He got u hook line sinker

What? How? Where did I go wrong—

there is a huge difference in actually being naive or playing naive ......

from what i have read i gather you??re not really creeped out by the stare. in fact i think it may be blowing up you??re ego a bit.

also i??ve never heard or seen - in a professional surrounding - colleagues use such terms as "hey handsome" or "hey beautiful" -

something is off.

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"Hey hansome, hey beautiful..." simply my way , part of my personality. Wouldn't say it to my boss, but definitely used to co-workers and friends-especially if I'm feeling particularly upbeat and happy.

I have to admit, at first, I was flattered (attention and all)... But when it kept happening without anything else being said, I went from flattered to uneasy to being freaked out. I also started feeling pissed b/c he was beginning to feel...well...inspected...which in turn made me feel uncomfortable in a place I'm generally happy...

But catching him off guard was like taking back control over *my* domain so to speak. Not sure if that makes sense.

I can also say, when he *almost* smiled, what went through my head was...maybe this will all turn around after all and go from weird to normal...hmmm maybe even friends even...

Yup, cut it out.

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Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

He got u hook line sinker

What? How? Where did I go wrong—

there is a huge difference in actually being naive or playing naive ......

from what i have read i gather you??re not really creeped out by the stare. in fact i think it may be blowing up you??re ego a bit.

also i??ve never heard or seen - in a professional surrounding - colleagues use such terms as "hey handsome" or "hey beautiful" -

something is off.

"Hey hansome, hey beautiful..." simply my way , part of my personality. Wouldn't say it to my boss, but definitely used to co-workers and friends-especially if I'm feeling particularly upbeat and happy.

I have to admit, at first, I was flattered (attention and all)... But when it kept happening without anything else being said, I went from flattered to uneasy to being freaked out. I also started feeling pissed b/c he was beginning to feel...well...inspected...which in turn made me feel uncomfortable in a place I'm generally happy...

But catching him off guard was like taking back control over *my* domain so to speak. Not sure if that makes sense.

I can also say, when he *almost* smiled, what went through my head was...maybe this will all turn around after all and go from weird to normal...hmmm maybe even friends even...

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...b/c I

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Okay, it took all day, but Staring Scorpio was at it again. I had " planned" to say "hey dude, what's up"...but what actually came out of my mouth was "hey handsome"...a friendly greeting I tend to give my male friends when in an upbeat mood....along the lines of "hey beautiful" to my female friends...anywhoo

Well I'll be...I think I caught him off guard with that one and I swear I *think* he *almost* smiled! _—

Then it was *I* who casually went back to what I was doing! Didn't even give him a chance to respond...HaHa! Loved it!... That is until now...now I'm wondering...did I piss him off?

He got u hook line sinker

What? How? Where did I go wrong—

there is a huge difference in actually being naive or playing naive ......

from what i have read i gather you??re not really creeped out by the stare. in fact i think it may be blowing up you??re ego a bit.

also i??ve never heard or seen - in a professional surrounding - colleagues use such terms as "hey handsome" or "hey beautiful" -

something is off.

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there is a huge difference in actually being naive or playing naive ......

Huh? That deep mind of yours has got me lost...feel like I missed a part of the conversation somewhere. I went into panic mode when I read 'he got u hook line and sinker..' B/c it said to me that I might be misleading him?? NOT something I want to do. Are you saying he thinks I'm interested in him or something else? Please clarify.

Posted by Nemesis
don't be pissed off - but telling a scorp "hey handsome" (especially if there is so much as a possibility of him liking you - is going to initiate and kick off a whole new plethora of moments. be prepared.

OMG! No! How do I back paddle out—? Damn. I hate my personality sometimes. Feel like I wanna cry now. How to handle— Please—

I'm not by any means. But I thought I had done good by my response...and was feeling particularly proud of it...but your post was like something I didn't see coming. I was like..wait a minute...who am I...where am I?...how did I get here...like emotionally confused out of now where.

And honestly, how many times have I found myself dealing with someone who likes me because I gave them the wrong impression. Don't want to hurt or mislead anyone...if he does have a crush on me, then wouldn't he know that I say "hey handsome..beautiful" around the office all the time...so why would he not know its my way of speaking—

What is it about me that always get it wrong!!?? When involved with someone it seems I can't get them to give me any kind of attention!!! Men I'm not interested in...the wrong impression, feeling like such a failure right now. Probably emotional b/c of what I'm going through with my ex-cancer. But damn. Can a lioness get a break!

This is already doomed imo. You say your scurred, cant stare back, canget give him the finger, but you can walk up to him and smile and say hey handsome??

I dont think your prepared to handle a scorp, not too many can. Your going to be miscommunicating all over the place.

I speak from experience.

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Posted by Draumstafir
Fine. Ignore him. Or if you really want to throw him off, get up some courage, go over there and tell him in a nice sweet voice that your name is Jane and it really creeps you out when he stares at you like that...

Well...I'm a double Leo sun/moon...so you know I got the balls (LOL)...just have to remember to be sweet about it cause I'm irritated. I know quite a few scorps, but we're just friends so don't get this kind of behavior from them, so I guess I'm just not use to it. But now that I understand it may be a simple crush, I'll relax a little more around him. Thx!

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You got the balls..be real

He has you bc now your on DXP going nuts about him. Mission accomplished, he is now very well rooted deep in your thoughts.

Posted by DMV
This is already doomed imo. You say your scurred, cant stare back, canget give him the finger, but you can walk up to him and smile and say hey handsome??

I dont think your prepared to handle a scorp, not too many can. Your going to be miscommunicating all over the place.

I speak from experience.

Pretty much, yelp. But I have a few Scorpio friends...no miscommunication with them (maybe b/c the know me?)
It's not in my nature to be like that (staring back, giving the middle finger...etc...unless I'm really REALLY irritated and pissed off). But being fun loving and friendly comes easy for me.

But I get your point. Seems like I've backed myself into a corner.

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Posted by Draumstafir
Fine. Ignore him. Or if you really want to throw him off, get up some courage, go over there and tell him in a nice sweet voice that your name is Jane and it really creeps you out when he stares at you like that...

Well...I'm a double Leo sun/moon...so you know I got the balls (LOL)...just have to remember to be sweet about it cause I'm irritated. I know quite a few scorps, but we're just friends so don't get this kind of behavior from them, so I guess I'm just not use to it. But now that I understand it may be a simple crush, I'll relax a little more around him. Thx!

You got the balls..be real

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Unfortunately, my balls come and go _??_. If mad or pursuing I've got all the balls in the world. When feeling exposed or transparent...feel like a little mouse.

Just please suggest as what to do to limit the damage please.

I went from irritated when I first posted this...to feeling gentler toward him since it may have been a simple crush...to scared to death I'm gonna get stung and attack by him in the near future! Life. I tell ya.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
The best way to counter the scorp stare is to stare back and think "yeah I see what you are doing". The give that look enough times so that the scorp starts to feel exposed. Well head for the hills on that cane we won't indulge in our observations so obviously anymore. Oh we'll still look but way deep undercover.

Good luck

Too scared to do anything at this point. Think I'll go back in my little corner where there's sunshine, rainbows and butterflies!

I started posting on this topic today to get an emotional break from ex-cancer. Enough avoidance I guess. Let me go back to dealing with the real sh-- going on in my life.
Thanks all for your input. Please post whatever you think might turn this around to the positive. Be gentle please. I'm an emotional mess right now.

Posted by Neurotoxin
Hey handsome to a normal person:
Oh how sweet, she's being nice.

Hey handsome to a immature scorp: I knew it. She wants me. I bet she would want me more if I broke into her house and installed some cameras

Hey handsome to a mature scorp: hmmm...I realize she's simply being nice due to my observations of her past behavior. But still, she's showing some interest. I may need to intensify my intel gathering

Neurotoxin, he definitely appears to be a mature scorp, thank God!

Discussed this with older sister-also a scorpio. LOVE her! Anywhoo...

She said, girl you ain't being nothing but a scaredy cat! You know damn well that man has an interest, else you wouldn't have been keeping track of his stares!!_??_

You're just scared because you just broke up with "ex-bf's name" and don't really want that to be over, but loving that attention scorpio is giving you, with your re-bound a-- ( laughs).

You weren't scared before all this, so why are you all freaked out now?, Girl, go up and talk to that man like you've been doing and stop acting like you're some -damn dumb teenager (joking, but for real too)!

I realize she's right.

Rolled back the history of my "knowing" this Scorpio and did normal Leo analysis:
Before all this, his personality and demeanor was professional, courteous but serious, a bit quiet and to himself but a sense of humor when interacting with co-workers he knew..nothing weird.

I got all insecure and paranoid because I was being "inspected" by a Scorpio and I know how much y'all can see through a person. In my experience, until you get to know a particular Scorpio, you never know if they're cool with you or secretly hating your guts! LOL Since I don't *know* him, and since his stares never materialized to conversation, I assumed the worse.

Big sis is right...I'm being silly and drama queen. See why I love you scorps?! _—

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Posted by SunMoomLioness
I went from irritated when I first posted this...to feeling gentler toward him since it may have been a simple crush...to scared to death I'm gonna get stung and attack by him in the near future! Life. I tell ya.

Your sun and moon might be in Leo, but I'm sensing some Cancer placements as well with all the zig-zigging, side stepping, bob and weave motions you're going through when it comes to this guy..

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Don't know...I just know my sun and moon is in Leo...and I must say, I'm particularly proud of that for some reason. _— You very well may be right, because my emotions shift around a lot and I seem to struggle with them immensely for some reason when circumstances shift. So maybe it's time to get a full chart done? _??

Posted by Neurotoxin
Yeah...you need to Leo-up and go talk to this guy.

I'm just sayin, sounds like he's got a crush on you.

Go sink some claws and teeth into him.

Think for now I'm going to keep it cordial and won't use *hey handsome* again so not to give wrong signal. Also won't be looking up when my antennae indicates he is staring.

If my current situation was different, I probably would be more "Leo" about it. But as it stands right now, I'm still in love with my very recent ex-cancer and I'm not even sure if I'll be able to hold on to my guns about this last breakup. Inside I'm still hoping things will work out between us, but also feeling like it needs to truly end and then see if it comes back around-so torn.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Don't be so sure it was a crush. He may have picked up on something about you and is now in observation mode as an experiment to see if his powers are honed c

I highly doubt you should be scared. Wth? He's just looking. Please

I'm not sure what it is. But it really doesn't matter, cause I only want friendship (right now atleast _— )

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Don't be so sure it was a crush. He may have picked up on something about you and is now in observation mode as an experiment to see if his powers are honed c

I highly doubt you should be scared. Wth? He's just looking. Please

I'm not sure what it is. But it really doesn't matter, cause I only want friendship (right now atleast _— )

I read your Cancer thread. I would not doubt if he is picking up some of your obvious emotions right now. Scorps aren't always scary, sometimes we can be quite sensitive to other people pain/drama.

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Well not sure how my ex- could be doing that, I only spoke with him once since the breakup and only then to assure him we would remain close I (do care for him deeply)...Never even mentioned Scorpio or made a referenced him.

But in past break ups with ex-cancer, his insecurities come out more -But he was aggressive and accusatory today, where in past he was more manipulative (like he could understand why I would move on, etc). But I am trying harder to stick to my guns this time and maybe that's why he's acting this way? Idk.

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Posted by Neurotoxin
Yeah...you need to Leo-up and go talk to this guy.

I'm just sayin, sounds like he's got a crush on you.

Go sink some claws and teeth into him.

Think for now I'm going to keep it cordial and won't use *hey handsome* again so not to give wrong signal. Also won't be looking up when my antennae indicates he is staring.

If my current situation was different, I probably would be more "Leo" about it. But as it stands right now, I'm still in love with my very recent ex-cancer and I'm not even sure if I'll be able to hold on to my guns about this last breakup. Inside I'm still hoping things will work out between us, but also feeling like it needs to truly end and then see if it comes back around-so torn.

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Now if you doont use hey handsome hes going to wonder what changed n u.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Sorry. I meant Scorp that is staring may have picked up on your pain and emotions. I reread what I wrote and that part was confusing.

Interesting

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Posted by Neurotoxin
Yeah...you need to Leo-up and go talk to this guy.

I'm just sayin, sounds like he's got a crush on you.

Go sink some claws and teeth into him.

Think for now I'm going to keep it cordial and won't use *hey handsome* again so not to give wrong signal. Also won't be looking up when my antennae indicates he is staring.

If my current situation was different, I probably would be more "Leo" about it. But as it stands right now, I'm still in love with my very recent ex-cancer and I'm not even sure if I'll be able to hold on to my guns about this last breakup. Inside I'm still hoping things will work out between us, but also feeling like it needs to truly end and then see if it comes back around-so torn.

Now if you doont use hey handsome hes going to wonder what changed n u.

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Well hell, I can't win then! If say it, it's misleading, if I don't say it, he might get offended!

Im tellin u girl, theyre an interesting bunch.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Sorry. I meant Scorp that is staring may have picked up on your pain and emotions. I reread what I wrote and that part was confusing.

Oh, ok that makes sense. And probably so then, because it has been a tough week, emotionally.

Posted by DMV
Im tellin u girl, theyre an interesting bunch.

kinda feeling like I should have just kept my big mouth shut! But nawwww, I just couldn't keep it simple!!!