Scorps, how would you react if...

someone you've been seeing for a while confessed his/her feelings to you before you did?
I'm Virgo with Leo moon and Pisces rising, he is Scorpio with Aries moon. We've been dating for a year now, he has never told me how he feels about me therefore I never told him how I feel even though I love him very much. I'm moving abroad next month and before I leave I really want to tell him that I love him. How is he likely to react? To be honest, I'm a little scared..

tell him

what have you really got to lose?

You're right Caper, I have nothing to lose so I'm definitely going to tell him. I'm planning to write everything down and send it to him in a email, or shall i just tell him in person?(my god I'm nervous just thinking about it lol..) I guess if he suddenly disappears on me after that then I really haven't lost anything..

Hi Ferdy, how's your Scorp these days? I heard he made contact🙂

Abbey,

Is your plan to tell him I love you but goodbye I'm leaving?? Are you ending this relationship because you are moving? Maybe you shouldn't mess with his head by telling him you love him unless you think there is a possibility that he will come with you or that you will stay. I'm sure that is why he hasn't told you yet. What is the point to tell him you love him if you are not going to be together? Seems like it would just make things harder. If it was me that was being left I think I would even get kind of pissed off if you told me that you loved me and then just left anyway. Now if he tells you first then that's a different story. Definitely tell him that you love him if he tells you first.

Gslove, thanks for your post. The last thing I want is for our relationship to end but I'm going back to my home country and I know realistically such a long distance relationship with a Scorp is unlikely to last. I would love for him to come with me and for it to continue anyway possible but I can not stay just for him. He has known about my move for a while now but we have never really talked about it. In fact, we've never even talked about our relationship and to this day I don't know what it is that we have.
It's a very strange situation, we are not bf/gf but on the other hand for the past year we visited each other most weekends(we live 3 hours apart)which was fair amount of commitment. I know he cares about me a lot so perhaps by telling him how I feel will help him open up aswell? Someone has to make the first move and if he won't then it's gonna have to be me. If nothing else it's killing me having to hold back my feelings for all this time..

I think if you are going to tell him that you love him that you might as well go the whole way and talk about him maybe moving there with you or you staying here. It just sounds so sad that it would end like that.

I'm trying very hard not to dwell on the leaving part...I think I'll test the water by telling him how I feel first and see how he reacts, if all goes well then hopefully we'll try and work out the rest. If he doesn't feel the same then at least I would know for sure and it would be some kind of closure for me. I'm sad that he hasn't expressed anything yet, it makes me feel that he doesn't care😢

Oh He cares, but you are leaving so what is he supposed to do?? He is trying to keep in his emotions so that he doesn't get too close. He probably does not see a solution for the two of you to be able to work things out.

It's somewhere in south east Asia, about 13 hours flight away from UK.

I really don't see me leaving as the break of our relationship. If we were that serious I would have chose to stay but at this point I don't even know how he feels about me.

I have been living in UK for years because of my ex, moving back home is a very important decision for myself and I feel for once I need to do what's best for me. I can not stay just for him especially not knowing how he feels about me.

Oh O.K. I understand now. So you would stay if he asked you and wanted to get serious. Then by all means go for it and tell him how you feel. You have nothing to lose.

I find it really hard to understand how this has never been talked about. It needs to be! What's the worst that can happen? And how is that worse than never knowing what MIGHT have happened?

Talk to him... good luck. Keep us posted!

Hugs

SAV x

Thanks SAV🙂 I can't understand it myself! I find him really hard to read, his actions tells me that he cares however he hasn't said anything about my moving. Maybe it's because he's not sure of how I feel, for all i know I probably confused the hell out of him..Anyway there is only one way to find out and I'm gonna pounce on him when he gets back from holiday!!lol

hey abbyness, Im Shaka, remember me? Im with a Virgo girl (leo moon too) now, I think we're pretty much nearing the end of the relationship though 😢

Is it because of the beard?

Of course I remember you Shaka!!🙂 I'm sorry about the Virgirl😢**HUGS** Is she the one who nursed you when you were ill?

What's with the name change btw? I could hardly keep up!

yes she is! (great Virgo memory there, Im proud of my kind lol) I guess its never a good sign when things start too quickly and with so much intensity, whats become obvious is that we have much less in common than we originally thought, I guess she's just young too, shes 19 and Im 24 so we have different things in our heads its what it seems to be..

I cant log on with my other nick, no idea why..

Yes! The key is to get to know each other first before getting naked***note to self***

I'm amazed that it's been a year and I'm still seeing Scorp!! Especially considering how we skipped the "getting to know each other" part and decided to get naked first lol

"does he want a serious relationship with you?"

I wish I know the answers to that😢 Sounds crazy but we both were pretty much just enjoying the moment for the past year.(I was separated but still married to my ex when we first met) Apart from getting naked we do have quite a lot in common outside the bedroom though. Anyway it'll probably end with me moving away...whatever happens I want to tell him how I really feel, I'll talk to him about that when he gets back from holiday..

I'm 28 and divorced already, sigh

Exactly Ferdy🙂 I want to say it for myself even if he doesn't say it back. I probably gonna need a few drinks before however...

I hope it all goes well with your Scorp Ferdy, keep it cool and let him come to you..he will be curious to know what you up to..

Thanks and I'll keep you all posted. Hopefully I will still be able to access this site in Hong Kong and it's not one of those sites that are blocked by the government..

Really?! You can do that!! How did you figure out how to do that?..you naughty😛

Thanks and I'm gonna need your help with that🙂..as long as it doesn't land me in jail lol

Good luck abbyness! Keep us updated!