Scorps not getting what they want

My scorp friend and I had remained friends and we would do things for eachother etc. Joke around hang out etc.

However, he would press the issue of us being more and I would press back about us being better as friends as a relationship didn't seem to suit us both in the long run, on top of a ton of other issues. We had gotten pretty close. He would tell me everything about everything, kids, family, himself. We were becoming close.

However after I told him the above he has been acting like an ass! I haven't heard from him in a few days and when I did call to ask his advice about something in his field. He was short, cold and mean. Very mean. I am pissed. I haven't done anything but be a good friend to him. He always stress about how much he loves and care about me. What a way to show it!

I don't do this to people. If they are my friend then they are period!

Can scorp men remain friends with people who they were interested in a relationship with and it didn't work out in thier favor? They can be so selfish!

LOL!!! It is just wierd I can be friends with most my exes. He and I were more than friends for a short time. If you can remember the story, but he lost it and we had to end that. LOL!!!

lol QS

I was in the same situation before...

A scorp was trying to get with me and he would blow my phone up constantly, and when I finally answered he would get the yelling and then the 21 questions...it was...scary...

I never experienced that with someone I wasn't even going out with!

Anyway to make a long story short, instead of leading him on(because I couldn't take it anymore) I just told him that we should just remain friends...and then he hung up in my face...

And the thing is I really was going to give me and him a try but he came on WAY to strong for me...

LOL, yeah it is amazing how they think they own you when you aren't or have never even been in a relationship or commitment, what is it wiht the 3rd degree and the thought that you are always with someone else. Coming to your house doing a therough sweep. WTF!!! I had to put him out one day!!! Seriously. Who does he think he is— We even stopped being friends for awhile until he apologized for his craziness and we had gotten pretty close by then. But Dam!!!

QS,

My younger Scorp brother has a much harder time letting go than I do. When a woman turns him down, but wants to Stay Friends, he gets this King Sized burr up his butt. Some times he'll get over / past it, and can attempt friendship with her, but odds are if he's even halfway civil to her, that's about as good as it's gonna get...

Must be that Scorp Intensity & Obsession Thang...

Ah, c'mon Roxi! Aries more possessive than Scorpio? I'd have to see that to believe it - my Scorp gets jealous as hell with little to no cause...

Like: When I told her about DXP (I had to - no secrets between us), she was convinced it was some kind of Chat Room (she's NOT a computer person), and she got supremely p1ssed at me...

StringsAttached actually wrote her a note. She assured her that she had no idea who I was; that we'd never met; that we had no intentions of meeting. Even with that honest & sincere declaration, and my giving her my screen name & password so she could see everything dyrstr8z had ever done on DXP, it took WEEKS to get her calmed down about it.

She came real close to demanding I stop posting here, but saw my honest outrage at her questioning my love & fidelity to her, and she backed off...

Now, she laughs about my silly hobby, and at all us silly Astrology Buffs, but it was some tough weeks way back then...

Aries are fookin' kerazy! At least Scorps know how to make it appear as though they respect your personal space.

Roxi: "oh get over yourself silly ram man."

You still love him.

Completely off topic: I LOVE your new glasses! I've got to break down and get a prescription myself, and I'm leaning towards the John Lennon small round frames...

Watcha think??

"At least Scorps know how to make it appear as though they respect your personal space."

hahahah

Roxi: "i don't still love him either."

Uh-huh. Anyway, I am quite convinced that in her heart of hearts, Debra still loves The Weasel -- even after all the shit he pulled (cheating, lying, mind games). She divorced him, remarried him, and then divorced him for good. And yet... it lingers.

Scorps not getting what they want...

She wanted him. She thought he wanted only her. A Virgo would walk away, and consider it over and done, but not a Scorp...

Y'all can't let go.

I love that about her, and dread that about her at the same time.

Correction. Scorp women CAN let go!!!! The man too eventually but it takes them decades!!!!!

Roxi: "what does debs want with a weasel when she has her virgo sex god"

I don't think she wants The Weasel any more. I don't think she sits around and "pines away" for him, either. But, I do believe that in her heart of hearts she still has a "kernel of love" for him. Not that I blame her. He was her first love, first lover, first husband, and father of her first set of children...

While I'm thinking of it: I've noticed a change in the way Debra regards me since The Twins came home. It's not more intensity, but a different kind of energy, and I think I know the cause. I've evolved from Boyfriend to Husband to now Father Of Her Babies (my stock is going up!), and that gets wound into this big wad of feelings that she has for me. (And what a tangled fur-ball that is!)

Seeing how she is now, I can better understand how it would be tough for her to let go of that other emotional fur-ball she had for him, even though The Weasel is out of her life. Plus, they'll always be connected by their boys...

She's always been able to stop my thoughts with a look. Her New Vibration is even more disturbing -- not unpleasant, just all-consuming. Too much love. Virgs weren't engineered for it...

Here's a Virgo Truth: When a Virgo is speechless or can't come up with words to describe something, it is truly profound & real, versus those things we can talk or write about. Trivia is easy. Heartfelt truth is not. (uh, my Scorp lives for my quiet moments.)

Oh! And don't think for a nanosecond that I missed that little "virgo sex god" barb... In actuality, I'm a pretty typical Virgo baby-maker: At an age when most men can't see their joystick under their beer bellies, I'm a lean, mean, fertility machine! (Got The Twins to prove it!) The Virgic investment in healthy living has finally paid dividends... (Got more stamina than my beloved, too.)

The Weasel is a sex god (who lives to spread the love!). He's slightly shorter than me, but we both have dark hair and mustaches. His heritage is mostly Latin, so he has darker skin and dark brown (bedroom) eyes. He's lean but muscular - almost wiry - and strong. Contrast that with my strange blend of Highland Scot and Low Country German, my massive upper body, millions of freckles, and true blue eyes. And yet... I wondered if part of Debra's interest in me was due to our faint resemblances (and, we're both military men). Had I been a True Aryan (blond haired & blue eyed) I wouldn't have wondered...

The first go round, The Weasel chased her. Then, she chased me. She finally got what she wanted; but then, maybe she finally knew what she really wanted...

***While I'm thinking of it: I've noticed a change in the way Debra regards me since The Twins came home. It's not more intensity, but a different kind of energy, and I think I know the cause. I've evolved from Boyfriend to Husband to now Father Of Her Babies (my stock is going up!), and that gets wound into this big wad of feelings that she has for me. (And what a tangled fur-ball that is!)***

LMAO!!! She sounds like a true scorp.

Dy


Do you realize that you will be 70 yrs....SEVENTY years old when your twins are my age?!?!?


It just dawned on me.

"It just dawned on me."

OK..... no comment!

boooo

hooo... ??

QS,

Debra is very much a Scorpio Woman: Having once achieved closeness with a female Scorpio, you can be positive you're a unique and unusual man. You can also be sure that her love for you is unmatched by any you'll ever experience-and you can take that in sev_eral ways. You'll be the most important interest in her life. If she's a typical Pluto girl, she'll boost you loyally, and try to please you with passionate intensity.

- Linda Goodman, Sin Signs

:: Ooooopppps! Freudian Slip! ::

- Linda Goodman, Sin Signs = - Linda Goodman, Sun Signs

Or, maybe I had it right the first time!!

Yes Dyar. We are very loyal and supportive of our partners. They are our muse.... If I could just get one!!! The stars are not in my dam favor. Shit!!!

"Keep your lovely virgo spirits up at all times..."

That's my Scorp's job! Oh, wait a minute, you said spirits...

Back to the topic. I guess scorp men eventually get over themselves once they see they aren't getting what they want if they really love/care for you.

My friend, sent me the nicest card. He kills me. Dork!!! :-)

LMAO... More like a teddy bear. Calling talking all sweet and nice. Yeah ladies, they can be that way. Ya just gotta know how to pull it out of them. Turn that serious bad boy exterior inside out. Maybe we scorps just have that nack to do that for eachother I dunno... LOL!!!

Yes Roxi, this is turning out to be true. 😉

QS: "Yes Dyar. We are very loyal and supportive of our partners. They are our muse.... If I could just get one!!! The stars are not in my dam favor."

Find yourself a nice Earth Guy, and you'll have a partner for life. All the EG's I know really dig Debra - even my grumpy old VirDad. She has him completely wrapped around her pinkie finger! In fact, I don't think he would've remarried if she hadn't worked on him...

"Ya just gotta know how to pull it out of them."

It's your intuition and keen observation skills. Y'all see the Potential Person, and drag it out of them whether they want you to or not. Once the poor guy is over the initial searing agony, he realizes he's a better man for it. A second birth?? Maybe there's something to this Scorpio Mythology after all...

Scorps not getting what they want... I think it's a pretty rare occasion!