TAURUS WOMAN WITH SCORPIO MAN (FELLAS I NEED HELP)

IM A TAURUS WOMAN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SCORPIO MAN FOR ABOUT 2 YEARS THINGS WERE PERFECT ETC. NO ARGUEN NO NOTHING, AND THINGS STARTED GETTING ROCKY WHEN MY EX KEPT TRYING TO COME BACK. MY SCORPIO BF IGNORED IT AT FIRST BUT THEN GOT REALLY FRUSTRATED WHEN HE WOULDNT LEAVE US ALONE..INSTEAD HE STARTED TAKING IT OUT ON OUR RELATIONSHIP AND WE STARTED ARGUEN ETC. HE EVEN STARTED GOING TO WORK TRYING TO FIGHT MY EX...MY BOYFRIEND WENT AWAY FOR DEPLOYMENT AND DURING THAT TIME I FOUND OUT I WAS 7 WEEKS PREGNANT..WHEN HE CAME BACK I TOLD HIM AND HE WAS SO HAPPY WE BOTH WERE. WHEN MY EX FOUND OUT HE WAS FURIOUS AND KEPT TRYING EVEN WHEN I TOLD HIM I WAS HAPPY WHERE I WAS AT AND I LOVED MY MAN. MY SCORPIO ONCE AGAIN FELT LIKE HE HAD COMPETE WITH HIM BUT I DONT KNOW WHY ITS FRUSTATING COS I WAS ALL HIS.. OUR FIGHTS GOT BAD AND I ENDED UP DEPRESSED WHILE I WAS PREG. THINGS GOT REALLY BAD BETWEEN MY BF AND I BECAUSE I FELT HE FELT INSECURE WHEN IT CAME TO MY EX I ENDED UP THINKIN ABOUT ABORTION.. I DISCUSSED IT WITH HIM AND EVEN THO WE WERE BOTH AGAINST IT I FELT IT WAS BEST THING TO DO BECAUSE I DIDNT WANT TO BRING A CHILD INTO AN UNHEALTHY ENVIORMENT AND ME AND MY BF END UP RESENTING EACHOTHER BECAUSE OF HOW BAD THINGS GOT. I TOLD HIM I DIDNT WANT TOO BUT FELT FORCED AND HE SAID HE DIDNT WANT ME TOO EITHER BUT IF I DID DECIDE HE BE THERE WITH ME. END OF NIGHT AGREED TO WORK ON THINGS AND I WOULDNT GET THE ABORTION.. THE NEXT COUPLE DAYS THINGS GOT WORSE EVEN AFTER OUR TALK AND MY BF END UP DISAPPEARING ON ME FOR ALMOST 4 WEEKS...... DURING THAT TIME I WAS DEPRESSED AND I FELT HE DIDNT WANT ME OR THE BABY SO I WENT AHEAD AND GOT AN ABORTION. MY SCORPIO MAN ENDED TEXTING ME AT THE END OF THE (MONTH) AND ASKED HOW ME AND THE BABY WERE DOING AND INFORMED HIM...HE DIDNT BELIEVE ME AT FIRST AND THEN DIDNT RESPOND.. ITS 2 MO LATER WE RAN INTO EACHOTHER AND I STILL WANNA BE WITH HIM AND HE SAYS HE DOES TOO BUT HE IS RESISTING ME. HE SAYS HE DOESNT HATE ME BUT HE STILL MAD AND DONT UNDERSTAND WHY I DID IT..HE SAID HE WANTS TO WORK ON THINGS BUT DOENST KNOW HOW TO GET FROM WHERE WE ARE..BUT THEN HE SENDS ME MIXED EMOTIONS. WE HAD SEX AND STUFF AND NOW I HEARD FROM FRIEND THAT HE SAID HE CANT DO IT AND WE WILL NEVER BE ANYTHING COS HE DONT THINK HE WILL GET OVER THIS...BUT HE ISNT THE ONLY ONE HURTING I KNOW WHERE I PLAYED MY PART AND HE DOESNT SEEM TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYTHING..SHOULD I MOVE ON OR TRY ? ...

I started getting crossed eyed. Can you please NOT write in capital letters and paragraph. Then I will be able to read and respond.

Yes I think he thinks that too but me as a person I don't like to have bad salt with anyone I rather forgive and move on and not hold grudges or resentment and my ex knew I wasn't going to come back but my bf felt as if he was a threaten to our relationship more than I did.. Like my focus was just him .. I don't know like I'm trying to talk to him but it's like he only wants to hear what he wants and he's being so stubborn .. I just want to know do you think it's possible for us to bounce back from this ? We had the perfect relationship until I got preg and my ex started trying to come inbetween even tho I had made it clear that I was happy

Sorry about the caps .. But I did explain to him why and it seems he still doesn't get it or he just doesn't want to accept it but he doesn't want to take responsibility in any of it .. On why I felt that way . He left me for a month by myself plus I was high risk pregnancy and we had just agreed to make things better and he just leaves me by myself and we were suppose to be moving into our home together the following weekend and I didn't hear from him until a month later so I felt he didn't want me or our baby ... Idk how it shows I can't be trusted I tried and out the worst times he leaves me n yet I'm still trying to be with him .. Like I want to give it time but I don't have that time .. I'm in the armed forces and I'm up for orders and I might not be able to stay here and he's making things hard for me to make things right so I don't know what to doo... His mom and dad agrees with me and my reasons for doing it he just doesn't ..

I have to wonder if there is a planet placement in a person's chart that would be indicative of their need to type in all caps.

I'm confused. From 2 weeks ago:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/need-advice-on-my-libra-boyfriend-4355667/#4355668<BR>
Is your bf a Leeb, or a Scropio?

WATS THE DEALIO?? 😭

aRRGH

everevolvingepithet, HA HAHAA .. 😄

awww so nice of you! lol

Lovelydez,

you did the right thing. If he had stuck up to his part of the deal, you would not have felt getting an abortion and then deal for many, many, many years with some idiot.


Now you don't have a contract at any form or level with him. It's done! He had to stick up to his part of fatherhood. Does he know how much it takes to carry a baby—

And then not only that.. guys have NO IDEA of what it takes. Your abdomen starts growing like crazy... imagine guys.. if someone pulled on your skin that much. Yes it is VEEEERY bothersome to be pregnant.

Moreover giving birth.

And most importantly, dedicating your day and night and day after day and years to a little person who needs attention.


So.

He had the easier part.

He disappeared.

Shut him up.

Move on!


Lovely, nice, responsible other men out there, who would be happily willing to love you and have a baby with you.

Your Scorp didn't deserve any of that.

Also.. make sure next time the guy marries you before you get pregnant.

Kinda helps.

Put on double layer condom. If one pops, the other protects. Don't do that to yourself again.

My bf is a Scorpio . That forum was posted through a friend wanting advice we share the same account .

@fum thank you your insight really helped . I don't think it was the fatherhood he was afraid of or taking care of our child I think he had a lot if insecurity issues with himself when it came to me and he didn't understand that he didn't have to fight to have me that he already had me . He wanted to get married and proposed to me as well but that wasn't going to fix what we were going through at the time you know so I told him we had to wait .. And this happens . Just sucks because I wanted my baby just not under those circumstances and I love him he just pushed me away and I don't know If things are worth fixing now . His family thinks he's out of line as well but all I can do is focus on me and if it's meant to be it is . I just don't want to keep blaming myself for doing what I did

Lovelydez,

First, I don't think he is insecure. He is afraid of losing you and that's why he was fighting with

and hey how did your ex knows where to contact you. Scorpios including myself are territorial people.

so if you a past baggage... then expect a roller coaster relationship. We tried to balance our

emotions as much as possible because when things are not going to well like how we expected from our

partner then that's the time... we are going to leave. We cannot handle any BS anymore!!!

and second thing, Why are you kept talking about your ex... In dealing with a Scorpio whether female

or male... please stop talking about your ex that doesn't exist. We are jealous type... so handle that

with care and don't be too careless about your Bf's emotions.

Third thing and my best advice: Stop pestering him now at this time. Don't chase him.

If you care about him... Just live for yourself for a moment and leave him for awhile.

If he loves you... He will comeback. I promise you that and he will deal with the issues.

In dealing with a Scorpio.... Trust is a big issue.

So if he can't trust you... why he wanted you back in his life...?

The saddest part you aborted the baby... what a huge turned off for him.

Scorpio likes strong woman in their side. He understands the life's ups and down and won't tolerate

the bad behavior to justify your actions... that's why he freaked out because for him it was a too

much emotional turmoil you created. Of course, You don't hear him saying that right away in your face

but his actions does. The disappearing part. Our Silent Treatment is bad... that means like moving on.

@ all,

Don't tell Scorpios are insecure. They are not. They are just too jealous and that drives

us nut. Scorpios are confident people. They are competitive. Insecure is somewhat a low self esteem.

@M143 I agree exactly with that your saying..but its not as easy as it sounds to get him to realy understand. I put emphasis on my ex because we are all in the armed forces and we ALL work together.. my bf and i worked in the same shop with my bf and my ex worked in another and my bf and i would always run into my ex and sometimes conduct business with him so it was like we couldnt get away from the situation really and i even told my ex infront of my bf that he i was happy where i was at but he stilled didnt seem to care and thats when my bf wanted to fight him and it put strain on us. it wasnt like we were texting or talking on phone i avoided him at all cost and i stood by my scorpio he just seemed to think that he was losing me but i was right there with him and thats when he wanted to start telling me what i could and couldnt do or where i couldnt go.. overall hes a wonderful man he just was insecure when it came to me he would get mad at me when other guys would stare when we would go out places and mind u then i was very pregnant and all smh just didnt understand..i stopped contacting him and he came to me telling me he wanna work on us and things bc he loves me but when he went back on deployment couple days ago he changed up so idk what to think. I'm just going to be patient

lovelydez,

He is jealous not insecure. It's different meaning. Yes he changed his mind so deal with it now.

to know scorp man is to understand that this creature will fight anything he feel could get in the way of what is 'his'. it's not competition, it's not insecurity. he feels he is protecting his investment...i.e what he gave his time, feelings, and true self to. he is quick to feel instead of think. that is a fault of scorp man. he didnt appreciate the past coming to interfere with his future. so his best solution (that he came up with) was to fight to try to keep the ex at bay. that's when trust issues appeared. he's wondering why all of a sudden now the ex popped up and bothered what he was trying to create. you said you told the ex that you're happy where you were, but for some odd reason that wasnt enough for scorp. he didnt want to do anything less than kick ass. these creatures are strange, i tell you.

instead of fighting with that other idiot, he shouldnt have behaved like one as well. he should have stuck by your side and helped with the pregnancy. i think you did the right thing, because drama only ends up hurting/killing the baby in the long run. that was a delicate time and he shouldve been by your side like a real daddy should have been. it's hard, but forget him. you dont need this level of immaturity in your life. and you damn sure dont need to be trying to have kids with a man who hasnt emotionally grown.

Ok.. let's not talk about ourselves as 'creatures'. Sounds like some forced existence.

I had the same reaction as M143 when I read 'insecurity'. lol

NO. No insecurity.

We can feel deep and we can feel someone elses questioning if they are where they want to be.

That part makes us wonder of how we could not have picked up on that emotion earlier. So your changes, we can read. We just don't know sometimes how to .. act on it. We don't want to FORCE you into anything. We WANT you to come on your own terms.

Perhaps there was something he felt was not quite doing justice.

Either way, don't bring excuses for him.

He has to learn to live up to his role.


You, lady, allow him to figure what he could have done differently. Again I will say, you did the right move. Unless you wanted a child and him or not him would not have mattered. That's a separate line of thought.