Tired of being nice

After going through a divorce, I've come to realize I'm too nice, which is a problem. People can always count on me to be there for me, but when it's the other way around, they are nowhere to be found. I just have to stop being nice, and doing other nice things for people. Especially those freakin fire signs. They will have you on cloud nine minute, then totally forget about you(then 4 months later down the line when they do finally say something-act like nothing ever happened). I have to start being selfish and just looking out for myself. I only have one true friend who has been with me through this entire crap, and how ironic that she lives in California(I'm in PA). Also, as soon as I get in contact with my Uncle, I'm getting rid of facebook, for good this time.

Thanks for the rant

Posted by lonelyscorpio
After going through a divorce, I've come to realize I'm too nice, which is a problem. People can always count on me to be there for me, but when it's the other way around, they are nowhere to be found. I just have to stop being nice, and doing other nice things for people. Especially those freakin fire signs. They will have you on cloud nine minute, then totally forget about you(then 4 months later down the line when they do finally say something-act like nothing ever happened). I have to start being selfish and just looking out for myself. I only have one true friend who has been with me through this entire crap, and how ironic that she lives in California(I'm in PA). Also, as soon as I get in contact with my Uncle, I'm getting rid of facebook, for good this time.

Thanks for the rant

Sounds like people tend to take advantage of you.

Other than Scorp, I'm interested in seeing your placements-- when you get a minute. 🙂

Oh thank you for those uplifting words. I don't know my birth time. But I looked up my chart, and my moon is in leo, my venus is in libra, neptune and mars are in sagittarius, jupiter saturn pluto and lilith are all in libra. I guess I don't have too much earth in me at all....oh no it did say my asc is in capricorn

Posted by ellessque
aha!

moon in leo
venus in libra

that's your internal conflict.

get those under control and you'll feel much better.

I had that problem for a while. As Neuro said, continue to be nice. It really does drive them crazy.

Posted by lonelyscorpio
After going through a divorce, I've come to realize I'm too nice, which is a problem. People can always count on me to be there for me, but when it's the other way around, they are nowhere to be found. I just have to stop being nice, and doing other nice things for people. Especially those freakin fire signs. They will have you on cloud nine minute, then totally forget about you(then 4 months later down the line when they do finally say something-act like nothing ever happened). I have to start being selfish and just looking out for myself. I only have one true friend who has been with me through this entire crap, and how ironic that she lives in California(I'm in PA). Also, as soon as I get in contact with my Uncle, I'm getting rid of facebook, for good this time.

Thanks for the rant

Be an asshole then.

They will never forget about you that way.

Posted by Neurotoxin
Be careful. It can quickly turn into a death spiral of self loathing and depression. That's not the type of transformation you want for yourself.

Not being nice to people isn't necessarily the answer. That's giving them control over YOUR emotions.

Take this opportunity to grow your "bullshit radar". Learn who you can and can't count on. Figure out who is and is not important and worthwhile, and strive to cultivate those relationships into thriving ones.

It's far more satisfying to continue to be nice to people despite their dipshittery. The fakes, the users, and the superficial and egotistical dumbfucks can't stand it when you don't let them affect you.

And that's the best revenge of all.

+100. But how is it satisfying to be nice despite their dipshittery? they will still continue to take advantage..

Posted by Neurotoxin

Take this opportunity to grow your "bullshit radar". Learn who you can and can't count on. Figure out who is and is not important and worthwhile, and strive to cultivate those relationships into thriving ones.

This.

Posted by lonelyscorpio
After going through a divorce, I've come to realize I'm too nice, which is a problem. People can always count on me to be there for me, but when it's the other way around, they are nowhere to be found. I just have to stop being nice, and doing other nice things for people. Especially those freakin fire signs. They will have you on cloud nine minute, then totally forget about you(then 4 months later down the line when they do finally say something-act like nothing ever happened). I have to start being selfish and just looking out for myself. I only have one true friend who has been with me through this entire crap, and how ironic that she lives in California(I'm in PA). Also, as soon as I get in contact with my Uncle, I'm getting rid of facebook, for good this time.

Thanks for the rant

This is my favorite post.......Good for you Lonelyscorpio. IF being selfish and just looking out for yourself makes you feel better then so be it.....We only have two, three REAL friends in life anyway which suits us scorps just fine 🙂 No need for large crowds..

*Laugh at the idea of someone being hit by one of Elle's tomato, grab popcorn*

Posted by ellessque
being selfish and only looking out for herself will make her feel like dog poop.

she has to find balance.

she can only do that by looking into....not outward.

I do agree with "she has to find balance" part but there is nothing wrong with her being selfish and only looking out for herself-IN GENERAL and shouldnt feel like 'dog poop',sorry I should of made that clear...I had the same issue she had...Us scorps are TOO LOYAL to a fault and we end getting used by others too easily...she'll soon notice who had her best interest at heart by not being so nice

Posted by lonelyscorpio
Especially those freakin fire signs.

they are so lame

Posted by CluelessCancer
your moon is in leo and you don't know how to stand up to bs, well than you ain't no leo mooner.

Haha +1

Posted by ellessque
being selfish and only looking out for herself will make her feel like dog poop.

she has to find balance.

she can only do that by looking into....not outward.

elle is the wisest scorpio on here

Posted by nov13thscorp

Posted by ellessque
being selfish and only looking out for herself will make her feel like dog poop.

she has to find balance.

she can only do that by looking into....not outward.

I do agree with "she has to find balance" part but there is nothing wrong with her being selfish and only looking out for herself-IN GENERAL and shouldnt feel like 'dog poop',sorry I should of made that clear...I had the same issue she had...Us scorps are TOO LOYAL to a fault and we end getting used by others too easily...she'll soon notice who had her best interest at heart by not being so nice

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I didn't know that; in fact, I thought the opposite was true.

(Not that you used people, but) That you were impervious to such things.

In a good way.

🙂

Posted by Neurotoxin

Posted by Sag89

Posted by ellessque
being selfish and only looking out for herself will make her feel like dog poop.

she has to find balance.

she can only do that by looking into....not outward.

elle is the wisest scorpio on here

Meh. Pretty much.

However I am the wise-assiest.

Remember that.

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how could we not?

Thank you so much. Advice appreciated. Also had no idea my libra and sag was self conflicting