@Gemitati
11 Years25,000+ Posts
What do I want?
Living in a love-less/lite marriage will only ensure long-term unhappiness for all 4 of you (you and your spouses). When your whole body is aching to be with someone else, your spouses DO notice. It's unmistakeable. All 4 of you will be miserable, unless you throw caution to the wind and:
Go. For. It.
Unless the kids are toddlers or below the age of 12-13. In which case you'll both have to work REALLY hard to convince them their parents splitting up isn't the end of the world.
Do you sometimes feel your life is leaving you behind
With one eye closed, half a world unknown
You want to wave for help but both your hands are tied
You want to start again but you're just too scared
So if you wanna find out, just go ahead and try now
If the thought is terrifying, the risk is really frightening
And your only fear is falling
You should leap without a warning and jump
Fly
Let your feet leave the ground, step into the sky and jump, high
If you want a better view then another life is calling you
To go ahead and try now or how you gonna find out
If life has got predictable, go on, do something wonderful
The first step is the hardest, you'll be safe without a harness
So jump
Make up your mind, you'll be just in time
Jump, jump
If the thought is terrifying, the risk is really frightening
There's no need to play it safe, just take a leap of faith and jump
Wow thanks!
No kids are an adults on their own thanks God!
We've met when they were 13-14 8 years ago.
You know what? I don't think our spouses notice anything. They are in their world.
We both just serve them and they take it and happy! Mine singing...so...I don't think he is noticing. Sometimes he'll make half-ass remark like 'your lover'...but I don't think it's because he is 'noticing'...
So when we talk next time I should say...
I M STUCK!!!
All I can think of is 'you know what I want'
but he needs more than that!
I am still suffering to answer the question!
Still wondering if I should open up and say I am ready!
Or should I wait and keep silent pretending nothing happened?
Posted by Gemitati
Still wondering if I should open up and say I am ready!Or should I wait and keep silent pretending nothing happened?
Based on your posts, and how you describe your feelings for him, I think that you are ready.
It's scary making that leap but sometimes you just have to go for it and have faith that it will all work out.
Posted by Gemitati
Still wondering if I should open up and say I am ready!Or should I wait and keep silent pretending nothing happened?
Based on your posts, and how you describe your feelings for him, I think that you are ready.
It's scary making that leap but sometimes you just have to go for it and have faith that it will all work out.
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I am praying so he wouldn't talk to me over the weekend!
I am building my strength up!
Suffering looking at my husband imagining sayin 'we need to talk'...
My Scorp told me about 3 years ago...tell your husband you are leaving...
I was imagining for days....
Never answered to my Scorp and he never asked me about it...
He knew.
And now he makes another attempt...
Maybe. Or I am imagining...
God help me!
Posted by Gemitati
Still wondering if I should open up and say I am ready!Or should I wait and keep silent pretending nothing happened?
Based on your posts, and how you describe your feelings for him, I think that you are ready.
It's scary making that leap but sometimes you just have to go for it and have faith that it will all work out.
I am praying so he wouldn't talk to me over the weekend!
I am building my strength up!
Suffering looking at my husband imagining sayin 'we need to talk'...
My Scorp told me about 3 years ago...tell your husband you are leaving...
I was imagining for days....
Never answered to my Scorp and he never asked me about it...
He knew.
And now he makes another attempt...
Maybe. Or I am imagining...
God help me!
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Things will get ugly and people will get hurt, there's no way around that but it will be better for everyone on the long run.
Posted by Gemitati
Still wondering if I should open up and say I am ready!Or should I wait and keep silent pretending nothing happened?
Based on your posts, and how you describe your feelings for him, I think that you are ready.
It's scary making that leap but sometimes you just have to go for it and have faith that it will all work out.
I am praying so he wouldn't talk to me over the weekend!
I am building my strength up!
Suffering looking at my husband imagining sayin 'we need to talk'...
My Scorp told me about 3 years ago...tell your husband you are leaving...
I was imagining for days....
Never answered to my Scorp and he never asked me about it...
He knew.
And now he makes another attempt...
Maybe. Or I am imagining...
God help me!
Things will get ugly and people will get hurt, there's no way around that but it will be better for everyone on the long run.
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Thanks but it's kind of like end of the world!
You can't make more omelette if you don't crack a few eggs.
Get on with it, you lazy cow!
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I was just talking to my Scorp about what happened in his daily life when he said all this routine is just getting him.
I said wait...all this stuff you doing daily for everybody unable to relax...and he said what's for right?
I said no! We know what's for and who's for. It's all for the people we love.
But down 10 years from now - we are not children anymore - what are you going to do? Look at yiurself and think where is MY life? When is my moment to enjoy it?
So he said I know. Can you tell me what do YOU want? Like seriously WHAT DO YOU WANT?
And I've chocked. I said I do know but I can't quite summarize it at this moment.
I do need time to put it in words because I have it all figured out but I had never actually though I will have to verbalized it.
So he tried to press some more but his work called and he said we going to talk later.
And all last night I was figuring out HOW do I tell him that all I want is to be with him which means we both must destroy who well oiled machines that are our families.
However this sexless existence is getting really awful specially after we've became very close and he makes more effort than ever to see me and talk to me and I don't make any moves until I am asked to...
I know he asked me that question because i had never nagged him for divorce or anything else. So he might want to hear it or I should say I will do anything to be with you. We can be happy for a change!
My head is spinning with no result.