Where oh Where are the mature men

I'm a scorpio woman with children and a excellent career. I manage my time well enough to have a relationship in my life. However I don't want just anybody because I'm to old for the games and such. I've kept myself in excellent shape and I'm often mistaken for being twenty years younger than what I am. My problem is this the men I meet are so desparate to be mated and sexual that they scare the hell out of me. The men my age think they're getting a young girl who they can control and manipulate. And the men ten to twenty years younger and a whole lot of growing to do. The only advantage to the younger ones is that their part still pumps up on it's own.
The older ones do a slow burn that usually burns out. Thank God for the scientist that help these cases for both sexes. I am only comment here on how boring it is to be on the dating scene. I have'nt had many sexual partners in my life but I do want one that is mature enough for the next phase. That would be the one where you can let your real self be known and accepted for the good, bad and ugly of it without tiresome games. I know not one of us is perfect and I also know that you can't really have a spiritually sexual relationship without knowing the person well enough to make a meaningful and true connection with them. From what I've run into up to now I don't want to know any of them pass; how's the weather. I know I'm not alone I'd like the hear other tales from the front.

You're not alone girl. And yes, the man hunt out there is slim pickings. It's amazing that even men well into thier 40's, 50's and 60's still need some maturing....
I'd say that maybe the best way to meet someone would be a place or event that interests YOU--such as a sports club playing your favorite sport or a seminar, an art class--hell, the book store even. It's situations like these where you can actually talk about something in common without feeling like you're trying hard to "get to know one another"...you know, the usual awkward conversations men and women have? It just might be a good way to meet someone special.

You mentioned you have an excellent career. Do you work around alot of people where there are some men? Why not meet someone there. That way you would know a little bit about them. i.e. work ethic etc...I just listened to some crap from Dr. Phil(pretty upfront guy) and good therapist, who made an interesting point. If your an attractive, well educated, and your in good shape (men are stimulated by apperances first)and you still can't find a date, your the one who is doing something wrong. Your sending out certain messages that attract a specific type of man. The reason why? We only do something over and over again if there is a pay off for us. Like a criminal who commits crime. They do it for the thrill or money or something?? He said if you keep attracting the same type of man it's not because of coincidence. Your getting a payoff of some sort from these undesirables. They make you feel superior or more independent or you deep down inside don't really want a commited relationship at all, so your only allowing yourself the types you can walk away from. Does that make any sense to you?? It rang a few bells for me...

When you meet someone the beginning is the most important, it is the duration in which you are laying down subconscious boundaries with that person. You are teaching them how you they may perceive you, and how you should be treated. Maybe you are living some self fulfilling prophecy that there is no "real" hope or a decent man available. You might start by changing your outlook, and your mindset. I wouldn't be surprised if your giving out the same (hopeless) kinds of vibes to all the men you meet, which in return you notice the same kind of result. Start with some faith in what you can offer as a person. You need to work to find a higher love inside your self again, in order to project and attract a higher love. Try to "see" people in the most favorable light. Try to give everyone including (potential suitors) the initial benefit of the doubt. Don't focus on a new hairdo, or a new outfit, or your great career. In order to really turn a new leaf and prove that you need and deserve more than you currently have, you need to work on your insides. If you think about it you have a car; you maintain it with oil changes, maintenance, and check ups and what not. It seems so comparable to use the same measure concerning your heart and mind. Internal makeover.

YOU WOMEN NEED A CANCER GUY.

I like what 64, 216 had said, it makes a lot of sense.