why do scorpio men act so mean?

Ok, so i've known this scorpio boy for quite some time now and at the start(when we were 'properly' dating) he was so sweet and nice to me but i kinda did play hard to get and ended up insulting him a few times, which probably may have made it seem like i wasnt serious about wanting a relationship...and he himself btw said to me that he wants a relationship with me. we then broke up cus he felt that 'in different circumstances the relationship would have worked'... and i have no idea what the hell he was on about cuz his life seems absolutely fine to me.
i asked him to get back with me after a month cus i realised how much i loved him and he said no...i then bumped into him accidentally a month after that and we start to chat. i ask him why he doesnt want to get back and he says that its because he 'just doesnt want a girlfriend right now' so i suggest a 'casual realtionship' and he happily agrees. so from then on for the next 6 months thats what goes on and we end up sleeping together. everything is great and talk to each other for hours and hours each day until 1 day i feel that its wrong to just be sleeping with someone who doesnt want anything more with me.

so i tell him that i dont want to see him talk talk to him again...cuz of the reason i mentioned and also that it'd be best that we kept our distance (dont know what i was thinking) and all he says is 'fine!' but seems relly depressed about it. then a week later i realise i love him too much so i start talking to him again he does talk but just seems quieter than b4. the only thing he isnt apprehensive about is sex. i tried to make him laugh but he's just been distant to me ever since. i even apologised for the way i abruptly said i didnt want to see him again.

but the thing is i love this guy more than ive ever loved anyone and im SURE that from all the hints ive been dropping he must know that i really really love him and at times i too feel he loves me (you know when u just know that someone loves you)...like the way they look at you, the way they hold you and the things they do for you etc. BUT then all of a sudden he pulls back for a days and distances himself when i try to ask him why so i just leave him alone and then out of the blue he just comes and asks to meet up again (for sex that is)...i mean i know for scorpio's love is sex...well thats what ive heard but i may be wrong. god, this is so long! but what do u guys think? why do u think he acts the way he does?

oh im a gemini btw lol.. and thats probaby why i dont understand the lack of communication skills that this guy has cus im just so expressive when it come to my emotions but anyway what do u guys think?

hey anotherscorp,
yea sure i agree its wrong to be playing with someone's emotions but im done with that, especially when i realised that i love this guy and ever since then ive tried EVERYTHING to make him happy/please him etc...and i mean even put up with some of his nasty comments...surely he must be able to see that i love him! god, and yea this is young love and it sucks! cus i just cant see past this guy and have felt this way for the past 9 months. maybe i just need to forget about him and just cut him off and if he really loved me then he surely would come back to me and if not then i guess i just wasted my time in loving someone who doesnt love me and thats the worst kind of feeling in this world! so that exactly what i shall do and keep the saying 'if u love something, let it go...' in mind
anyways i dont think ill be able to love any1 ever again cus if i cant be with my soul maye then i just dont want any1 else. LOL ok maybe im being a bit too dramatic but its hard to express how strong my feelings for thjis guy is and how much it hurts me when he's such a prick!
thank u all of u for ur feedback 🙂

yep, lol i did that by mistake....didnt really realise but oh welllll!

''scorpios hurt the ones they love''....god, do they really?! and if they do them erm, ok thats just wierd!

"how many times did you realize you loved him too much? twice?
three? four? 700?
come on."

LOL...

"Honestly, from personal experience, scorpios hurt the ones they love. Ironically enough, we can be hard to forgive others, but most especially ourselves..."

I have a twin brother.. and this is true. But i don't think they intentionally hurt the ones they love (in my personal experience) but they are harder (or expect more) on the ones they love a lot of the time...

s_

HA HA

We hurt the ones we love - everyone does it and everyone knows better

what clowns we are

they are evil.

OK so what should i do?
- do i just forget about him COMPETELY or...
-stick around till i gain his trust and he can see how much im committed to him?

OMG!!! this reminds me COMPLTELY of this scorpio guy that i used 2 be dating and then all of a sudden he ends it and only wants one thing from me and that is....SEX!!! wow what a surprise there HA! but me being totally infatuated with him, willingly agree! but i have to say that since ive got to know him, i keep understanding him more and more each day and he doesnt seem to bad at all! so my advice to you is to stick with him, RESPECT him cus nothing pisses a scorpio off more than some1 bein rude and disprespectful to him, and i guess just bein your best with him cus a scorpio wants nothing less than the very best ; and i'm more than sure that all the scorpios on this board would agree with that! hope that helps and good luck!!

Nah its ok emerald gem, i dont really do insults but yea i guess i can see what your trying to say. although, im sure you may have heard the saying that 'love is blind' and this certainly does apply to my situation. when you love someone or even like someone for that matter, you do generally tend to put everything(along with your pride) away in order to get what you want. and as far as me, as a person goes, i would pretty ,much do all it takes to get what i want and im having sex with the guy i LOVE for gods sake!

and also, i dont really see how just having a sexual relationship is such a bad thing....no1 is getting hurt, both parties are completely happy with this and no1's forcing any1 to do something they dont want. only thing is that i have developed very strong feelings for this guy, somethings that i have NEVER done for any1 else, and he one the other hand is not one to trust easily so i guess you could say that he's trying to test me/ know me as a person. so im just giving him time to fully understand and appreciate the fabulous person i am. 🙂

...well its worth the try tho, eh? :p and yea well it does kinda upset me that he doesnt want a gf atm but i respect that and whenever he does, im always here 4 him
oh and sure i deserve more but im not the kind who can fall in and out of love very easily. i mean to say when i love someone, which i rarely do (in terms of bf/gf love) i do it whole heartedly and and extremely patient so ill wait till how ever long i have to. and if he does find someone else he's rather be with than me, then i'll move on and NEVER look back. but as they say 'good things come to those who wait' lol END OF!

that girl at the top's story sound very simular to mine i tooo am also with a scorpio

Okay, first off, typical geminis to try to bring the attention to themselves. None of you have even tried to give the original poster some sound advice, instead you wanna tell your story. How about creating your own thread.

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Like Pure Chaos said..cut your losses. You've played one too many games. We'll always think you're just toying with us from here on out. I just stopped talking to a girl for this exact reason... Start fresh and learn form this mistake.

Run girls, Once you settle for crumbs, and sex toy status? The odds of not only a Scorpio man, but any man will not move you into that realm of a woman they could love. You dont respect yourself? Neither will they. Don't ever sell yourself short for any man. I don't care how much you think you love him.

I can't believe how weak we woman can be, myself included, BUT I kicked the Scorpio who was messing with me to the curb. One of the hardest things I've ever done. I thought I would die, but I didn't. I'm doing ok, I'm seeings others - not to make him jealous, because I want to. The fact that now he is al in a snit about it. I love that! I like that maybe he is hurting just maybe a fraction of the hurt and humiliation he put me through! But I digress. Seriously girls, wake the hell up! It's a wonderful feeling to live your own life, meeting new guys, going on dates without all the crap of the one who brought you to this board. When a relationship hits the rocks? Let it go! If it was meant to be? It will be. Don't hang on and beg for crumbs! Cuz Crumbs is all you get!!

Now go take a long look in the mirror and say. "Ef him!! I DESERVE BETTER". Put him out of your mind, mark a day on the calendar weeks in the future and say until then? It's about ME, work on your studies if your in school, start to exercise, get your hair done what ever PAMPER yourself, that date will come and you maybe surprised how much you've grown into liking yourself and proud of the woman you are starting to become, worthy of real love with a man, not some fucked up loser who willingly uses you at YOUR request.

Try it. It worked wonders for me.

Run girls, Once you settle for crumbs, and sex toy status? The odds of not only a Scorpio man, but any man will not move you into that realm of a woman they could love. You dont respect yourself? Neither will they. Don't ever sell yourself short for any man. I don't care how much you think you love him.

I can't believe how weak we woman can be, myself included, BUT I kicked the Scorpio who was messing with me to the curb. One of the hardest things I've ever done. I thought I would die, but I didn't. I'm doing ok, I'm seeings others - not to make him jealous, because I want to. The fact that now he is al in a snit about it. I love that! I like that maybe he is hurting just maybe a fraction of the hurt and humiliation he put me through! But I digress. Seriously girls, wake the hell up! It's a wonderful feeling to live your own life, meeting new guys, going on dates without all the crap of the one who brought you to this board. When a relationship hits the rocks? Let it go! If it was meant to be? It will be. Don't hang on and beg for crumbs! Cuz Crumbs is all you get!!

Now go take a long look in the mirror and say. "Ef him!! I DESERVE BETTER". Put him out of your mind, mark a day on the calendar weeks in the future and say until then? It's about ME, work on your studies if your in school, start to exercise, get your hair done what ever PAMPER yourself, that date will come and you maybe surprised how much you've grown into liking yourself and proud of the woman you are starting to become, worthy of real love with a man, not some fucked up loser who willingly uses you at YOUR request.

Try it. It worked wonders for me.

If i feel i'm being mistreated then i'm mean, but if you're nice then i'm nice. are you sure you're not being mean or unfair to him?

that's how we work. look at how you treat the scorpio before you judge him. it might be the way he feels like he's being treated. no offense.

Posted by ScorpioMackin
You've played one too many games. We'll always think you're just toying with us from here on out.

1+.

Hence he is behaving this way.

Having read this thread only from whats been posted since page 3, WRP, did you let her know explicitly that u guys are only going to be acquaintances? Does she know that you're married and still tryin her luck at flirting?

Posted by WRP1975
To be honest, I'm not sure why I have to change who I am because of this. Sure I might be able to play the whole distancing and ignoring and cold shoulder game (and play it well, I must say) but why? That's too much work.

I'll just go back to being the good, friendly, caring guy I was when she met me. She knows I'm married and not going anywhere and that's for her to deal with. Not me. If she wants to be friends, awesome, if not, I can't be responsible for her feelings.

It's just too much work for me to be mean and cold to people. I must be a lazy scorpio.

I dont think its necessary for you to be mean and cold lol. Could be that both of you got off on the wrong foot reading each other. You're sweating it too much with this gem chick, leave her be and just be yourself around her. If she takes it as friendship, well and good, if not, oh well, you tried being normal and its time you cut her off.

Posted by WRP1975

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Posted by WRP1975
To be honest, I'm not sure why I have to change who I am because of this. Sure I might be able to play the whole distancing and ignoring and cold shoulder game (and play it well, I must say) but why? That's too much work.

I'll just go back to being the good, friendly, caring guy I was when she met me. She knows I'm married and not going anywhere and that's for her to deal with. Not me. If she wants to be friends, awesome, if not, I can't be responsible for her feelings.

It's just too much work for me to be mean and cold to people. I must be a lazy scorpio.

I dont think its necessary for you to be mean and cold lol. Could be that both of you got off on the wrong foot reading each other. You're sweating it too much with this gem chick, leave her be and just be yourself around her. If she takes it as friendship, well and good, if not, oh well, you tried being normal and its time you cut her off.

Absolutely. Maybe going to work won't be such a chore again ha ha!

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🙂 you scorps are such hard work to us gems lol. Took me some 2000 years to decipher mine as the uncomplicated straightforward guy I see him now as.