Why do Scorpio men treat their women like crap??

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So I've been friends with this guy for a very long time like 11-12 yrs. We have never been romantically linked always friends. He has always been nice to me, kind, caring and has been there for me during some of my roughest times and vice versa. Being that I am a friend I assumed he treated everybody like this including any woman he's dating I would think even better. Well I guess that's not the case. I've heard of the games Scorpio men play and have read some horror stories, but I didn't think my friend was like that at all.

So me and my friend's current girlfriend of almost two years have grown somewhat close in the last yr or so. She's very nice and caring towards him and would give him the world..but he treats her like crap. This girl is forever sending me fb messages crying about how when he gets drunk he flirts with other women online and asks for nudes, and how he's forever giving her back handed compliments. He's very argumentative and sometimes he can just be plain cold to her. Like honestly this a huge shock for me as I don't see any of that from him..it almost makes me see him a bit differently as being a woman I can relate to what she's going thru.

Does he treat her like crap because he feels comfortable enough with her in doing so? I just don't get it, he has a wonderful woman but he just doesn't care. I'm just an ear for her to sound off. I never make comments about my friend nor do I give her advice on what to do specifically when it comes to him and I also never speak to him about it unless he brings up their relationship, the most I tell her is to just be upfront and bring any grievances she has to his attention. I guess I could just ask him myself, but I get the feeling he'd tell me a completely different version of the story. Anybody out there who's dated Scorp men...are most of them like my friend?
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Posted by MintSprinkles
I guess I could just ask him myself, but I get the feeling he'd tell me a completely different version of the story.



Well there isn't just one version of a story, so why wouldn't he have a different one? I'm not quite sure what you're asking here. Are you trying yo find advice to support you friends, or a lot "yes my Scorps a douche" feedback? If it's the latter, check pages 2-64, plenty of material there.

or just wait for it in 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2......
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Posted by MintSprinkles
I guess I could just ask him myself, but I get the feeling he'd tell me a completely different version of the story.



Well there isn't just one version of a story, so why wouldn't he have a different one? I'm not quite sure what you're asking here. Are you trying yo find advice to support you friends, or a lot "yes my Scorps a douche" feedback? If it's the latter, check pages 2-64, plenty of material there.

or just wait for it in 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2......
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Honestly I was just curious because I've never dated one before *shrugs shoulders*. And I apologize for the generalization. It seems by Neurotoxin's butthurt replies, Scorp men must get a bad rep when it comes to dating.
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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Honestly from my limited experience, it seems Scorpio men/women respect people who stand up for themselves, and aren't doormats. My father and bestfriend can both be very domineering if you don't stand up to them. I suppose no matter who you date it's about demanding respect. Your friend may not even feel that he is treating her bad. Honestly the scorpios in my life...woo they can say some things that cut. Don't expect an apology either. They usually don't even think they have been mean, it's just a matter-of-fact attitude. Is his girlfriend a water sign?



Actually she's a fire sign..Sag I think. Yea I think she feels like he's treating her bad or else I don't think she'd be sending me messages upset because he got drunk and flirted with a couple of chicks online again for the hundredth time. I almost feel torn sometimes because while I'll always have my friends back, I know what it's like to be a women in a situation with a guy who isn't treating you all that great..it's like hmm where does my allegiance lie..I usually just go with neutral.
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Your friend is crying over a Scorpio, lmao that's the first mistake, you make them cry for you, after you've stepped on their stingers for long periods of time, making them ineffective.



I know right. What a waste of tears! But then again I feel the same way about most of these men females complaing about on here, especially the earth & water sign men. I'd rather scoop my eyeballs out than cry over them.
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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Honestly from my limited experience, it seems Scorpio men/women respect people who stand up for themselves, and aren't doormats. My father and bestfriend can both be very domineering if you don't stand up to them. I suppose no matter who you date it's about demanding respect. Your friend may not even feel that he is treating her bad. Honestly the scorpios in my life...woo they can say some things that cut. Don't expect an apology either. They usually don't even think they have been mean, it's just a matter-of-fact attitude. Is his girlfriend a water sign?



Actually she's a fire sign..Sag I think. Yea I think she feels like he's treating her bad or else I don't think she'd be sending me messages upset because he got drunk and flirted with a couple of chicks online again for the hundredth time.
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This may sound like a stupid question, but she actually telling him to stop or is she just crying to you about it?
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In my opinion, emotionally healthy people know how to show affection to the person they're with- actions as well as words. Both count, don't think otherwise and if not interested, don't waste time and just break up or don't start something to begin with. It's very simple. You need to confront your friend about this because this girl is in a lot of pain. She should just dump his sorry, unappreciative ass.
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I don't get it.

Does she enjoy the abuse? Why is she with him if he's hurting her ?

She does realize she can get up and leave at any time she wishes to do so, right?

With that being said...

Anyone can treat anybody a certain way as long as it's allowed.

My scorpio is the most amazing thing that's ever come into my life. He's the definition of a real man... But it's because I know I deserve a real man. If a woman thinks little of herself, she will attract a little man and he will treat her like shit.
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Posted by Stinger Baby
i think scorp man does this only to ppl that will put up with it and not put him in his place. she needs to grow some balls, rip off his stinger, and shove it up his arse. afterward, leave and make him wonder where she went. maybe then he will show her some respect.

it's been said that scorpio men only respect those who wont take their shit. they are going to mess with you as long as you let them. when she learns to fight back, she'll get some respect. scorps hate weakness in other ppl.



preach women....
#Hateweakness
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Posted by Neurotoxin
We still hate you.

So take your dumbfuck over generalization and get the fuck out.



Lol your quotes are making me laugh!

I think it's just the man, not the sign. Or get better friends? Who knows.

My boyfriend is a Scorpio, I'm a Gemini. He treats me like a total queen and adores me. Even after 2 months, he still holds the car door for me. And the door for everyone else and me.

He's a nice guy! He even made very fast friends with my Taurus MALE room mate, he didn't try to squash him. He's very sweet and accepting.

Maybe the scorps you know just suck. I would never be with a man that treated me crap
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Posted by Aine
I don't get it.

Does she enjoy the abuse? Why is she with him if he's hurting her ?

She does realize she can get up and leave at any time she wishes to do so, right?

With that being said...

Anyone can treat anybody a certain way as long as it's allowed.

My scorpio is the most amazing thing that's ever come into my life. He's the definition of a real man... But it's because I know I deserve a real man. If a woman thinks little of herself, she will attract a little man and he will treat her like shit.



Good to hear!! 🙂
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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Honestly from my limited experience, it seems Scorpio men/women respect people who stand up for themselves, and aren't doormats. My father and bestfriend can both be very domineering if you don't stand up to them. I suppose no matter who you date it's about demanding respect. Your friend may not even feel that he is treating her bad. Honestly the scorpios in my life...woo they can say some things that cut. Don't expect an apology either. They usually don't even think they have been mean, it's just a matter-of-fact attitude. Is his girlfriend a water sign?



Actually she's a fire sign..Sag I think. Yea I think she feels like he's treating her bad or else I don't think she'd be sending me messages upset because he got drunk and flirted with a couple of chicks online again for the hundredth time.



This may sound like a stupid question, but she actually telling him to stop or is she just crying to you about it?
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Yea she tells him to stop all of the time and threatens to leave, but never does which is her own stupidity..
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Posted by Stinger Baby
i think scorp man does this only to ppl that will put up with it and not put him in his place. she needs to grow some balls, rip off his stinger, and shove it up his arse. afterward, leave and make him wonder where she went. maybe then he will show her some respect.

it's been said that scorpio men only respect those who wont take their shit. they are going to mess with you as long as you let them. when she learns to fight back, she'll get some respect. scorps hate weakness in other ppl.



Yes I agree with all of this! I told her that she's being a doormat and honestly at this point in the relationship she is at the point of no return where he'll probably never respect her. It's time like these I'm glad I'm just a friend and don't have to deal with that side of him.