DyarStra?e
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How in the world can he not care about the carpet—"
UUMMM, he's a man! That has nothing to do with his sign!
UUMMM, he's a man! That has nothing to do with his sign!
... that is: Kissing You was more important than cleaning up the spill...
"He does care - but not at that moment. Y'all were kissing, after all..."
Scary...
You mentioned age as a factor. I am 32 and he will be 30 next month. What am I in for?
Scary...
You mentioned age as a factor. I am 32 and he will be 30 next month. What am I in for?
juwanapla: "UUMMM, he's a man! That has nothing to do with his sign!"
Yep. I'm a Virg, and I would've behaved the same way. Got my priorities straight!
MA, y'all should have an easier time of it. I couldn't have dated Debra in my 20's, but maybe in my 30's...
Well it's not as confusing as the other two Virgos for me, what's confusing is we've had sex and he says he likes me and likes spending time with me but the communication level is so not up to par. It's mostly through texts unless we're in person or I'm outside needing in. we go a day or two without any communication. When I ignored him just about for a whole week he asked me Why hasn't he heard from me and then two days later What's wrong with me this week. I know he likes me but I don't know in what way at this stage and I don't know why I need things to be so stable and defined but I do. I don't like the guessing games, and his answers are so not detailed enough.
Ex. I asked him how come he has a hard time telling me how he feels and I asked if it was a secret. He responds "I like you and I like spending time with you.
I think I knew that already and it was nice to have confirmation but what else. I expected to know what his hopes and aspirations were and I just didnt get that. So, now it's like why are you wondering why you havent heard from me (is it because you miss me and want my attention or you're wondering if I am still alive) and why do you need to know what's wrong with me this week since I've not been giving you the attention (is it because you miss my attention and don't want it to go in this direction or are you wondering if I found out something that made me not like you). His questions don't exactly match his behavior. It takes two and just like he hadn't heard from me uh... I hadn't heard from him either and just like he wondered what was wrong with me I am wondering what's wrong with us.
Easier time you say...?!?!
Ex. I asked him how come he has a hard time telling me how he feels and I asked if it was a secret. He responds "I like you and I like spending time with you.
I think I knew that already and it was nice to have confirmation but what else. I expected to know what his hopes and aspirations were and I just didnt get that. So, now it's like why are you wondering why you havent heard from me (is it because you miss me and want my attention or you're wondering if I am still alive) and why do you need to know what's wrong with me this week since I've not been giving you the attention (is it because you miss my attention and don't want it to go in this direction or are you wondering if I found out something that made me not like you). His questions don't exactly match his behavior. It takes two and just like he hadn't heard from me uh... I hadn't heard from him either and just like he wondered what was wrong with me I am wondering what's wrong with us.
Easier time you say...?!?!
I found this on Seduction Central. (hope it's ok to post).
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Why Scorpio men won't tell how they feel about you:
The initial stage of a relationship is harrowing, especially if you are with an uncommunicative man. You're falling for him, but he just won't come out and say how he feels. He's sticking around, yes ... but how do you know it's not just for sex, or because being with you is better than being alone? You want clarity! And unfortunately, the Scorpio man is not the most divulging guy on the block.
Scorpio is the sign of secrets. This sign is not forthcoming, but for good reason. Scorpio is an emotional water sign, and feels pretty deeply. It may not be obvious, but there's alot going on inside. The Scorpio man is keenly aware of people's ability to harm, abuse and manipulate one another. His ruling planet Pluto is the Lord of the Underworld, after all. Scary, dark things happen down there. Unspeakable things. It is better to just keep a lid on it, don't you think? Otherwise, all the demons will be unleashed, and that's not a pretty thing.
So, he keeps his feelings close to his chest. Although Scorpio has a rep for being mysterious, he's only hiding from you because he's afraid. After all, if he bares his soul to you, who knows how you can use that sensitive information to undermine him? He needs to trust you -- implicitly -- to give you the keys to his heart. He may indeed love you, but it's not easy for him to utter the words. Not until he's made sure they won't come back and haunt him.
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Why Scorpio men won't tell how they feel about you:
The initial stage of a relationship is harrowing, especially if you are with an uncommunicative man. You're falling for him, but he just won't come out and say how he feels. He's sticking around, yes ... but how do you know it's not just for sex, or because being with you is better than being alone? You want clarity! And unfortunately, the Scorpio man is not the most divulging guy on the block.
Scorpio is the sign of secrets. This sign is not forthcoming, but for good reason. Scorpio is an emotional water sign, and feels pretty deeply. It may not be obvious, but there's alot going on inside. The Scorpio man is keenly aware of people's ability to harm, abuse and manipulate one another. His ruling planet Pluto is the Lord of the Underworld, after all. Scary, dark things happen down there. Unspeakable things. It is better to just keep a lid on it, don't you think? Otherwise, all the demons will be unleashed, and that's not a pretty thing.
So, he keeps his feelings close to his chest. Although Scorpio has a rep for being mysterious, he's only hiding from you because he's afraid. After all, if he bares his soul to you, who knows how you can use that sensitive information to undermine him? He needs to trust you -- implicitly -- to give you the keys to his heart. He may indeed love you, but it's not easy for him to utter the words. Not until he's made sure they won't come back and haunt him.
"He may indeed love you, but it's not easy for him to utter the words."
I used the "L" word before Debra did; but, the way she teared-up when I said it, I knew the arrow had hit the mark.
He says he likes you, and likes to be with you. In his mind, y'all are a couple, so what's there to worry about?
"we go a day or two without any communication." When we were dating, Debra thought I called her too much. My solution: I persuaded her to move in with me, so I could know for sure for sure that it was love. It was.
"Scorpio is an emotional water sign, and feels pretty deeply."
It is all about feelings, just as we're all about the details...
"It is all about feelings, just as we're all about the details..."
So DyarStrBe, what did your wife do in the early stages that made you bother to stick around? Since Scorpio's arent to good at communicating, what was her way of showing you that she liked you, now that you look BACK on the whole situation?
So DyarStrBe, what did your wife do in the early stages that made you bother to stick around? Since Scorpio's arent to good at communicating, what was her way of showing you that she liked you, now that you look BACK on the whole situation?
"It is all about feelings, just as we're all about the details..."
So DyarStrBe, what did your wife do in the early stages that made you bother to stick around? Since Scorpio's arent to good at communicating, what was her way of showing you that she liked you, now that you look BACK on the whole situation?
So DyarStrBe, what did your wife do in the early stages that made you bother to stick around? Since Scorpio's arent to good at communicating, what was her way of showing you that she liked you, now that you look BACK on the whole situation?
"So, he keeps his feelings close to his chest. Although Scorpio has a rep for being mysterious, he's only hiding from you because he's afraid. After all, if he bares his soul to you, who knows how you can use that sensitive information to undermine him? He needs to trust you -- implicitly -- to give you the keys to his heart. He may indeed love you, but it's not easy for him to utter the words. Not until he's made sure they won't come back and haunt him."
Romantic bullcrap one would expect of an astrologer writing for a site called "seduction central".
Romantic bullcrap one would expect of an astrologer writing for a site called "seduction central".
ST: "So DyarStrBe, what did your wife do in the early stages that made you bother to stick around? Since Scorpio's arent to good at communicating, what was her way of showing you that she liked you, now that you look BACK on the whole situation?"
Some little things. Like, the looks she'd give me (and the way she wouldn't break eye contact with me when I'd lock on), the way she touched me, and keeping our first dates simple and low stress. I genuinely enjoyed her company, and she did mine, and I got to where I couldn't wait to see her again. And yes, we made love EARLY - from my point of view. From hers, since she'd spent MONTHS trying to get me to ask her out, it wasn't that soon...
There was an almost immediate attraction and deep impression made on me - and I can still recall the details from our first lunch date...
"Some little things. Like, the looks she'd give me (and the way she wouldn't break eye contact with me when I'd lock on), the way she touched me"
My Scorpio and I locked eyes like that in the begining on the first few outings. But now it's hard for me to hold eye contact with him because I feel like he can see straight through to my soul and that's scary for a Virgo. I know that sex would probably bring us closer together, but like I said before, he always makes comments about it, but he never acts on it. And I can't let him in (sexually) until I know that he likes me and that he cares.
My Scorpio and I locked eyes like that in the begining on the first few outings. But now it's hard for me to hold eye contact with him because I feel like he can see straight through to my soul and that's scary for a Virgo. I know that sex would probably bring us closer together, but like I said before, he always makes comments about it, but he never acts on it. And I can't let him in (sexually) until I know that he likes me and that he cares.
"He may indeed love you, but it's not easy for him to utter the words."
I used the "L" word before Debra did; but, the way she teared-up when I said it, I knew the arrow had hit the mark.
He says he likes you, and likes to be with you. In his mind, y'all are a couple, so what's there to worry about?
"we go a day or two without any communication." When we were dating, Debra thought I called her too much. My solution: I persuaded her to move in with me, so I could know for sure for sure that it was love. It was.
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I love the L word. I use it in my daily conversation, however when I say it to my mate there is a noticeable difference in how it's used. It escapes the mouth before I can slap my hand over my lips. That's the way I imagine love to really be.
We're a couple? I agree that for Scorpio speak that sounds about right. However, how much longer til I can see it with my Virgo eyes? Can someone throw me a bottle of patience and a tube of relax. TIA! 😛
For the most part I think a man does hold the bigger key in a relationship. You could do the asking to make the relationship more concrete (moving in) and she can do the accepting but if a woman asks it's a whole other level. Because men respond differently to these things.
I used the "L" word before Debra did; but, the way she teared-up when I said it, I knew the arrow had hit the mark.
He says he likes you, and likes to be with you. In his mind, y'all are a couple, so what's there to worry about?
"we go a day or two without any communication." When we were dating, Debra thought I called her too much. My solution: I persuaded her to move in with me, so I could know for sure for sure that it was love. It was.
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I love the L word. I use it in my daily conversation, however when I say it to my mate there is a noticeable difference in how it's used. It escapes the mouth before I can slap my hand over my lips. That's the way I imagine love to really be.
We're a couple? I agree that for Scorpio speak that sounds about right. However, how much longer til I can see it with my Virgo eyes? Can someone throw me a bottle of patience and a tube of relax. TIA! 😛
For the most part I think a man does hold the bigger key in a relationship. You could do the asking to make the relationship more concrete (moving in) and she can do the accepting but if a woman asks it's a whole other level. Because men respond differently to these things.
He said he liked me and that he was a good guy with good intentions, but he has yet to act on anything and follow through. That's were my frustration lies.
TaurusBabe: "Why can't a woman ask a man to move in with her—
:: confused ::"
Of course she can ask, but I think that depending on who she is and who he is it won't be received with the same ease.
For instance...
If a woman has children and/or doesn't make much money and she asks a man to move in he may think it's not a good idea. There are more women who would move in with a man on those same exact terms than men who would. IMO of course. But, I'd put some form of currency down on it.
:: confused ::"
Of course she can ask, but I think that depending on who she is and who he is it won't be received with the same ease.
For instance...
If a woman has children and/or doesn't make much money and she asks a man to move in he may think it's not a good idea. There are more women who would move in with a man on those same exact terms than men who would. IMO of course. But, I'd put some form of currency down on it.
TB: "Why can't a woman ask a man to move in with her—"
Indeed. I stayed over at Debra's house A LOT after we started dating - and she was trying to finish her degree!
MA: "Can someone throw me a bottle of patience and a tube of relax." LOL!! I wish I could. Hell, I could've used a case of each myself back then...
I would've moved in with Debra, but her house was too small for all my crap (Virgo Pack Rat here!)...
I would've moved in with Debra, but her house was too small for all my crap (Virgo Pack Rat here!)...
I think Virgos are different, we can fix anything so even if the terms aren't glorious, for love we will overlook it, size it up, plan about it, fix it, and fix it some more, til it's perfect.
Hey Dyar, you know if you came empty handed the house would need to be big enough for your perfectionistic improvements. Why do we do that— lol
A case of each— Oh boy....
I think Virgos are different, we can fix anything so even if the terms aren't glorious, for love we will overlook it, size it up, plan about it, fix it, and fix it some more, til it's perfect.
Hey Dyar, you know if you came empty handed the house would need to be big enough for your perfectionistic improvements. Why do we do that— lol
A case of each— Oh boy....
ST: Sleep with your Scorp, and you'll know he's for real. Gettin' naked reveals a lot of things...
"Why do we do that?"
Because there's ALWAYS ROOM for improvement - even when there's not!
Such a shame lol.
"ST: Sleep with your Scorp, and you'll know he's for real. Gettin' naked reveals a lot of things..."
I agree with this but ST is a lot different from me in that she is a good Christian girl. 😉
Well for the most part she is in comparison to me lol, so I caution her that if she is sure she can't handle the downside to the end result of that then not to move forward. Sometimes, you have to take a risk in order to know something or see it from another angle because holding back will have you running around in circles.
I really don't know much about holding back sex so I am not the expert. However, I do know how painfully devastating the downside can be on a Virgo. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
I agree with this but ST is a lot different from me in that she is a good Christian girl. 😉
Well for the most part she is in comparison to me lol, so I caution her that if she is sure she can't handle the downside to the end result of that then not to move forward. Sometimes, you have to take a risk in order to know something or see it from another angle because holding back will have you running around in circles.
I really don't know much about holding back sex so I am not the expert. However, I do know how painfully devastating the downside can be on a Virgo. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
Just had an text argument with the scorp. 😢 He has control issues. I won't be controlled.
***Is she a genius, or what?✨**
She is a Scorp female.
She sounds a lot like me, I hate arguing, but will if I need to get my point accross.
She is a Scorp female.
She sounds a lot like me, I hate arguing, but will if I need to get my point accross.
QS: "Just had an text argument with the scorp. He has control issues. I won't be controlled."
So, who won? *snacks on popcorn*
So, who won? *snacks on popcorn*
***it's hard for me to hold eye contact with him because I feel like he can see straight through to my soul and that's scary for a Virgo.***
He can that is a scorp triat. We can tell what someone is thinking or feeling. I had a libra tell me not to look him in the eye.
He can that is a scorp triat. We can tell what someone is thinking or feeling. I had a libra tell me not to look him in the eye.
Roxi is a Scorpio with Virgo Rising. Damn!
Debra is a Scorpio with Taurus Rising. Intensely stubborn / stubbornly intense. But never a dull moment!
QS: "I had a libra tell me not to look him in the eye."
I can believe it. I can hold eye contact with my Scorp forever - but I got nothing to hide from her...
***So, who won? *snacks on popcorn****
If you mean who had the last word? Me ofcourse... I don't mind compromise, but like TB said, if they can't control they try to miniputlate you in other areas and that is what happened this afternoon. If I say I am not doing something, I am not. It is because I don't want to. Don't try and give me a sneaky automatum or try to make me feel bad about it. It won't work and I will enforce and automatum for you... Uggghhh. He should know better. I am a scorp dammit.
If you mean who had the last word? Me ofcourse... I don't mind compromise, but like TB said, if they can't control they try to miniputlate you in other areas and that is what happened this afternoon. If I say I am not doing something, I am not. It is because I don't want to. Don't try and give me a sneaky automatum or try to make me feel bad about it. It won't work and I will enforce and automatum for you... Uggghhh. He should know better. I am a scorp dammit.
***it's hard for me to hold eye contact with him because I feel like he can see straight through to my soul and that's scary for a Virgo.***
Gawd! I find when my scorp does this so sexy and alluring...and I'm such a private person, but I don't mind baring my soul to him and only him!
Gawd! I find when my scorp does this so sexy and alluring...and I'm such a private person, but I don't mind baring my soul to him and only him!
QS: "He should know better. I am a scorp dammit."
He probably does know better, but just can't help himself. Same here. I know my Scorp doesn't like to argue / fight with me, yet some times I can't seem to stop myself from starting sh1t with her... and y'all thought us Virgs were emotionless robots...
My Scorp brother would pick at me occasionally, even though he knew there'd be severe consequences for his infraction - like no free rides in my car for a week or two - and yet he felt compelled to break the peace...
SR: "I don't mind baring my soul to him and only him!"
Sounds like love to me...
Okay last words....
Me: "Has anyone ever told you you had control issues
Him: "Whatever, has anyone told you, you were full of it. LOL!!"
Me: You just did and I must admit I am. Take it how you want.
Me: "Has anyone ever told you you had control issues
Him: "Whatever, has anyone told you, you were full of it. LOL!!"
Me: You just did and I must admit I am. Take it how you want.
"Sounds like love to me..."
How right you are, Dyar!! 🙂
How right you are, Dyar!! 🙂
Ain't it wonderful!
QS, did those last words clear the air?
***QS, did those last words clear the air?***
I have no idea, see if I get a "Happy B-day tomorrow" LOL! We went on a wonderful (two dates) this weekend. We had a blast!
I have no idea, see if I get a "Happy B-day tomorrow" LOL! We went on a wonderful (two dates) this weekend. We had a blast!
...see if I get a "Happy B-day tomorrow"...
I bet you will.
"I can hold eye contact with my Scorp forever - but I got nothing to hide from her..."
Dyar, does she hold the same intense eye contact?
"Ain't it wonderful!" - Sure is!!!! *sigh*
Dyar, does she hold the same intense eye contact?
"Ain't it wonderful!" - Sure is!!!! *sigh*
"Dyar, does she hold the same intense eye contact?"
Ohhhhhhh Baby! It's pure magic! Now that I know her so well, we can carry on conversations without saying a single word...
IF I'M OFF LINE TOMORROW...
Happy Birthday - Queenscorpio!!!!
***see if I get a "Happy B-day tomorrow"...***
Maybe from a couple libras... LOL!!! Anyway, my friends are taking me out for dinner and drinks tomorrow night. The scorp did ask what I was doing tomorrow. I told him hanging with my buddies, he aks, male or female. I answered both... No response. He acts so jealous and are we in a relationship? Nooooo. Always wants to know where I am who I am with . I constantly tell him. Look dawg. Don't be questioning me. I don't ask you those questions. Then he says. "Its cool, I was just wondering". Me, I know its cool, don't ask so many questions. I ask him one question, a typical one. He calls me the FBI, I let it ride though.
Maybe from a couple libras... LOL!!! Anyway, my friends are taking me out for dinner and drinks tomorrow night. The scorp did ask what I was doing tomorrow. I told him hanging with my buddies, he aks, male or female. I answered both... No response. He acts so jealous and are we in a relationship? Nooooo. Always wants to know where I am who I am with . I constantly tell him. Look dawg. Don't be questioning me. I don't ask you those questions. Then he says. "Its cool, I was just wondering". Me, I know its cool, don't ask so many questions. I ask him one question, a typical one. He calls me the FBI, I let it ride though.
Thank you DS, I will be 78 years old... LOL!!!! Minus 42.
Uh huh... you're a sweet young thing... should've known!
Funny, I hope guys keep thinking I am 28, that is the age I have been getting for the past to years. When I tell a guy who hits on me, who is 25-27, that I have about 10 years on them, they laugh and swear I am lying. I hope I can still say this when I am 45.
Thank you DS, I will be 78 years old... LOL!!!! Minus 42.
Funny, I hope guys keep thinking I am 28, that is the age I have been getting for the past to years. When I tell a guy who hits on me, who is 25-27, that I have about 10 years on them, they laugh and swear I am lying. I hope I can still say this when I am 45.
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The first is so funny (thinking back) lol. The second is so hott, love it!!!
Happy Birthday Even. You are a ✨ for real so shine tomorrow. (I already know you will lol you Scorpio) 🙂
Funny, I hope guys keep thinking I am 28, that is the age I have been getting for the past to years. When I tell a guy who hits on me, who is 25-27, that I have about 10 years on them, they laugh and swear I am lying. I hope I can still say this when I am 45.
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The first is so funny (thinking back) lol. The second is so hott, love it!!!
Happy Birthday Even. You are a ✨ for real so shine tomorrow. (I already know you will lol you Scorpio) 🙂
QS, I mean Happy Birthday Eve!!! 🙂
Happy Birthday QueenScorpio!
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