Would you be okay

If your gf/bf/spouse had sex with someone else. Not just be okay but encourage it? My Scorpio has mentioned that he wants me to go out and have sex with someone else. (we are LD) He says as long as its sex and not a relationship. Just curious if this is normal Scorpio behavior or another freaking test.

Ok...erm....WHAT??!!
If this is a committed relationship (Long distance or not) it's downright disrespectful...actually, it's disrespectful anyways, no matter what you two have...he has no business telling you this, if he feels you cant cope with the distance, he should discuss it to see what are your thoughts/feelings on this...or if HE feels pressured and wants an excuse to stray without feeling guilt, he has to plant this seed on you first and THEN say you did it first/thought about it...
Your suspicion should be correct: this MUST be a test (scorpio insecurity) OR be prepared for a scorp backing out...

As has been said, NO WAY IN HELL. My man belongs to ME. We are a possessive and jealous lot.

What a crafty and subtle test.

Posted by ellessque
The leo is really funny 😛

Seriously, talk to him and use a sarcastic quip like oldskool suggested. That will get the conversation to a comfortable point and you can talk.

It really all comes down to a heart to heart talk. Regardless of whatever the bottom line is going to be.

communicate. it's a novel concept 😉

this is the best advice ever...

Posted by Itsme
If your gf/bf/spouse had sex with someone else. Not just be okay but encourage it? My Scorpio has mentioned that he wants me to go out and have sex with someone else. (we are LD) He says as long as its sex and not a relationship. Just curious if this is normal Scorpio behavior or another freaking test.

LOL...this is the best thing ive heard all year...so far...

i sometimes wonder if all people lose rational thought when they start dating a scorpio

i sometimes wonder if all people lose rational thought when they start dating a scorpio

Yup, pretty much lately. Not gonna lie.

I think I am going with the sarcasim route. See where it goes from there. I still think this is a test....just from previous conversations we have had and his past history. Just seems to be a trunked up test imo.

HELL NO.

-He doesn't trust the situation, you're too far away for him to control (Big problem)

-He's insecure or

-He may have already mentally checked out and this question may be more him trying to find out something about you, something he's thought about, because he's already checked out. No way he's going encourage you to fuck somebody else just because's he's already done it on some "i feel guilty shit". NEVER, that's not a fix for him.

all food for thought, you do the dishes

1. The mere fact that him making such a request, surprises you, is a red flag within of itself.

2. Maybe he said such a thing just to test what you'd say.

3. Maybe he suggested that b/c that was his way of hinting that him having sex with others is EXACTLY what he's been doing. Maybe he feels that if you agree to do it too, some of the guilt will go away. (You'd be surprised at how people give themselves away or hint at what they're doing behind closed doors).

4. Not everybody's definition of what it means to have a "Committed relationship" is the same. Some people are literally ok with having physical encounters with others as long as there are not feelings. Some people feel that they like AND can handle open relationships. If that's their cup of tea, fine, BUT if it's NOT the kind of relationship you desire, run & make sure you never turn back. There's no point in arguing with someone who believes in an open relationship-they most likely WON'T change their views, so it's best to invest more time in packing up & leaving VS. staying & trying to make someone convert over to your views. There are plenty of men who aren't ok with faulty/open committments just like there are plenty of men who don't mind them. You've just got to find the man/men that have the same ideals of what a relationship is all about.

5. The mere fact that you guys are already having a long distance relationship is challenging in itself. Things will only further be complicated if you start involving others in your relationship. If you're not enough for him, then he either needs to be with someone that lives closer to him OR not be in a relationship period.

Him suggesting that you guys should "see other people" is the same as him suggesting that you are NOT enough for him. BAD SIGN.

Being in a relationship is all about finding ways to see your imperfect partner as perfect. It shouldn't be about what that person isn't/can't do for you. Settling is bad, BUT at the same time, we all have to get to a point when we're grateful for what we have, even if our partners can't do/be everything for/to us all the time. If he feels that you can't fulfill all of his needs, that's fine, BUT to suggest sharing you with other guys is just bull & quite honestly, disrespectful.

He has NO right to dictate to you what all you can share with another person. Intimacy/sex is the 1 thing that makes a relationship unique b/c it's the 1 thing both people agree to ONLY give to eachother. If you start sharing yourself or your partner sexually, all the gloves are off. People are still going to be human & associate sex with feelings, so it's quite unrealistic for him or anyone to expect that you can freely give yourself sexually w/o eventually growing some feelings.

If you weren't enough for him, he should've NEVER entered into a relationship with you.

If I were you, I wouldn't continue entertaining his desire to have his cake & eat it too.

When a person asks you to be their significant other/partner, that means they picked YOU. That means that they've already made the decision that you & what you have to offer, is good enough. So him picking you when he could've just picked someone else or never entered into a relationship with you, is him being selfish. He's trying to make you pay/suffer all b/c he didn't pick the woman that he felt was all he needed.

And hey, if open relationships is how he gets down, accept that BUT move on. You can't make sense out of non-sense.

If his solution to long distance challenges is to share yourself sexually with another person, that speaks volumes!

I personally think open relationships are a joke. Even if 1 person in the relationship is even slightly not ok with it, things won't work out. Most importantly, the only time open relationships work out is when both people know up front what kind of commitment they desire. The mere fact that you're just now learning that he's ok with open relationships is a bad sign b/c I'm sure that had you known this beforehand/upfront, you wouldn't have entered into a relationship with him.

He's not ready to enter into full-fledged commitment with you. So instead of giving you what he doesn't have/isn't ready to give, he'd rather keep you locked in some kind of way so that he won't lose you. He's not ready to give you all that you deserve, but yet he doesn't want you with anyone else either, hence that's why he only wants you to remain emotionally attached to him. Selfish bastard

I'm trying to get my mind off my Scorpio so this is just a thought What if he really does like you but has a sexual fantasy about this? Maybe he wants to watch you to see if you really go through with it.

I mean it's not my thing and I don't think I would want to do this but what if it's purely a sexual thing.

Maybe he wants see what you will do for him. How far you will go for him.

Would he watch as you were with this other man? Would he be looking in your eyes as you as your getting f*c**ke**ed by this other man? Maybe it's about controling you because you two are so far away. Almost like an ownership of you.

Maybe because he cant control the distance he wants to know he can control you.

Why dont you ask him?

Well said krysrenee7.....

I actually hate that Scorpios test, but hell being a Libra, I know I run a few test myself. But sleeping with others hasn't come up for either of us as a test. It's only been about 3 months for us dating, so far all tests are passed but has been very challenging. A lot of emotional bs, which we both are guilty.

Thank you Elle for stating what you did, I appreciate the thoughtfulness in your responses.

Its true no one knows our relationship. His comments and actions speak volumes on how he feels about me. While his comments throw me for a loop at times. I know where I stand with him and he with me. Granted long distance sux, it's what we have now and I love having my Scorpio man around, so I'll deal with it. I know that he hasn't checked out of our relationship. I do believe this is another test, only because I know his previous tests, and his previous test, previous test, and well you get the picture and I also know some of his past that makes him who he is. (or it could be kinky sex act who knows right now.) Jumping the gun and telling me to leave him is a natural reaction without knowing more information...I mean this is a message board and noone knows me or my Scorp from Adam or Eve at this point. I just don't think it is something to throw my panties in a wad and walk away from something so wonderful until I have more information.

I think he and I need have to a discussion, which we will do. (life has caught up with us recently and we have not been able to talk like we usually do, but we have been texting and short phonecalls here or there) Our relationship is based on honesty and I have to rely on that honesty with us being far apart. Our communication skills are very different but we are working on that as well. As with any relationship, its a work in progress. Or sometimes a rollarcoaster of emotion (alot on my part, I admit) but thats what I love about him...he evens me out.

Wow this turned into a novel. Sorry. Thank you for your opinions and thoughts. I will keep you updated on the situation.

Posted by Itsme
If your gf/bf/spouse had sex with someone else.

1 - It is the easiest way to get rid of someone.

or

2a - He doesn't want you to suffer and be without
or
2b - He has a fantasy about another guy being with his gf
or
2c - This way, he gets to be in control of your cheating
and for you to not keep it a secret from him, which is the
worst part about cheating. This way, he knows, and can go
into great conversations about it - and even learn from it.