Advice on this Taurus

It's been months since I posted here, possibly because things have been going well for me (Aqua girl) and this Taurus man, but for some odd reason, he won't commit.
We are very close. We text/fb message throughout the day, he calls every night and we talk for 2-3 hours at a time. I see him every weekend, Friday - Monday. Sometimes we will hang on various days of the week, depending on my work and his work schedule.
We talk about personal things, family, past experiences, dreams/aspirations, funny things, work drama..we can basically talk about anything. I genuinely feel we are intimate and open with one another. He has also told me he doesn't do this with anyone and he is not looking to speak to anyone other than me.
He recently gave me a spare key to his car cuz he loses his keys like there is no tomorrow. IDK if that means anything at all.
But I was wondering what this all means?!
I've brought up the question of whether or not he wanted to take things a step further, as in ask me to be his girlfriend, but all he has said is that he wants to finish school first and get his career going because he has been slacking off too much. (Because we are both older now, me, 27, and he is 33)
I thought when a man knows he wants to be with someone, he will be with someone. If this is true, is he just playing me?
I am willing to play the waiting game if that means I will get him in the long run, but will I?
I cannot decipher this man. Help. Thanks in advance. : )

Yup that's what I would do too.

@bullshit idk how to tag lol.

He's told me that before, that he wanted to be able to provide for his wife and his future children. I told him if we ended up together, I would work, especially since I am in the medical field. I told him that I didn't need his money. But he says things like, my wife can work if she wants to, but I need her to know that she doesn't have to because I will have enough for myself and for her. I should bring it up again. I just feel like if I do, I'm pressuring him and giving him ultimatums. And I definitely don't want to be that person. Thank you for your response. We will see how this plays out. 🙂

One thing other signs don't get with the bull is that we respect partners who give us space , never pressure a bull , its the biggest turn off , which could turn in to emotional blackmail , having quality time with someone, knowing individually that you are 2 different people with personnel accomplishments, it would be selfish of me to say , drop what your doing we can manage together or Im at the part of my life I need to know if this is going anywhere, you will push him away.

If its not broken don't fix it....

He sounds like a good bloke to me. He knows he wants to get his shit together. He wants to provide for his future family and he is putting things in place to be able to do so. Let him get on with that. I don't think this situation is about 'waiting' for him. You're with him already so continue to enjoy the journey. If you won't do that and you want to find someone immediately for an instant relationship instead then move on from this guy. At age 27, you still have plenty of time on your side to continue doing your thing and to think about relationships later. If he needs a year or two to get sorted then give it to him. You've both expressed your wants. He's unlikely to drop his career plan to sit on his arse all day while you look after him... You wouldn't want a man like that anyway. Ease off the pressure as others above have said. Stop worrying so much about what you don't have and look at what you already have together. If it doesn't work out in a year or two then move on.

Mine is exact same!! In his 30s does all the things u say were sooo close talk none stop seeing each other but he used to tell me like 4 months in of seeing each other that he cant commit and he ended it with me i left him to it for a day and he called me and sorted it.. He has said since he cant commit. Dont know why they are commitment phobes... some take forever years to fully commit. And all they care about is work and money honestly. I know people might say could be worse things he enjoys but no. It is and always will be number 1 priority thats usually why they cant commit.

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Posted by Jesspisces234
He has said since he cant commit. Dont know why they are commitment phobes... some take forever years to fully commit. And all they care about is work and money honestly. I know people might say could be worse things he enjoys but no. It is and always will be number 1 priority thats usually why they cant commit.

Misinterpretation.
You're 'reading' into what he's saying instead of listening to what he's saying.

Bulls are what you consider an endangered species, very conventional men, the builders, the hunters, the providers.....the moralist, the man of integrity, principles, values, ethics, every thing that is built upon tradition.
He wants to acquire....and then settle.

Commitment-phobes do not have a desire to settle at all into a domestic routine.
A Bull embraces the monotony of family and tradition with OPEN Arms.

It's simply a matter of timing, and a great deal of patience for the other individual.

He will never marry a woman or raise children unless he has the safety net.

Most people want the knight and shining armor, but very few people wait patiently for what they want.

This is how the Bull chooses...

A lady with respect & integrity who will patiently wait.

Wow TaurusBull1977, everything you've said, he has said too. I'm a little mind blown right now haha. I will be patient, I just didn't want to invest, even though I'm already invested -- I guess I didn't want to invest why longer if it wasn't going anywhere. We are going to Disneyland today. 🙂 it's always a great time with this man, however extravagant or simple our days are.

Also, thank you everyone for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it. I feel a little more at ease. Of course, still skeptical because I am afraid to get hurt, but a little more assured.

Also, thank you everyone for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it. I feel a little more at ease. Of course, still skeptical because I am afraid to get hurt, but a little more assured.

TB77 is great, eh! ^^^

Enjoy Disneyland.

Seriously, there's so much shit out there in the dating world that to find a decent man with decent morals and outlook, and who wants to do things the 'right' way round is rather rare. Why look for burger when you could wait for steak...

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Posted by Jesspisces234
He has said since he cant commit. Dont know why they are commitment phobes... some take forever years to fully commit. And all they care about is work and money honestly. I know people might say could be worse things he enjoys but no. It is and always will be number 1 priority thats usually why they cant commit.

Misinterpretation.
You're 'reading' into what he's saying instead of listening to what he's saying.

Bulls are what you consider an endangered species, very conventional men, the builders, the hunters, the providers.....the moralist, the man of integrity, principles, values, ethics, every thing that is built upon tradition.
He wants to acquire....and then settle.

Commitment-phobes do not have a desire to settle at all into a domestic routine.
A Bull embraces the monotony of family and tradition with OPEN Arms.

It's simply a matter of timing, and a great deal of patience for the other individual.

He will never marry a woman or raise children unless he has the safety net.

Most people want the knight and shining armor, but very few people wait patiently for what they want.

This is how the Bull chooses...

A lady with respect & integrity who will patiently wait.

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Nope. Im saying what he told me. He has told me those things also he needs to trust someone and likes security etc which he has said he feels with me. We are now together but has said in the past out of the blue i cant commit and wouldnt say why.. He done it two or three times out the blue then two days later hes spoke to me again like nothing happened lol and when i mentioned it he was like forget about it forget i said it dont talk about it etc. they are very confusing lol but it took him a while to commit compared to what most other men would.

You are all great 🙂
I most definitely love a delicious, succulent steak

@jesspisces how long have you guys been together? That's great for you. I hope it works out.

Posted by Jesspisces234

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by Jesspisces234
He has said since he cant commit. Dont know why they are commitment phobes... some take forever years to fully commit. And all they care about is work and money honestly. I know people might say could be worse things he enjoys but no. It is and always will be number 1 priority thats usually why they cant commit.

Misinterpretation.
You're 'reading' into what he's saying instead of listening to what he's saying.

Bulls are what you consider an endangered species, very conventional men, the builders, the hunters, the providers.....the moralist, the man of integrity, principles, values, ethics, every thing that is built upon tradition.
He wants to acquire....and then settle.

Commitment-phobes do not have a desire to settle at all into a domestic routine.
A Bull embraces the monotony of family and tradition with OPEN Arms.

It's simply a matter of timing, and a great deal of patience for the other individual.

He will never marry a woman or raise children unless he has the safety net.

Most people want the knight and shining armor, but very few people wait patiently for what they want.

This is how the Bull chooses...

A lady with respect & integrity who will patiently wait.

Nope. Im saying what he told me. He has told me those things also he needs to trust someone and likes security etc which he has said he feels with me. We are now together but has said in the past out of the blue i cant commit and wouldnt say why.. He done it two or three times out the blue then two days later hes spoke to me again like nothing happened lol and when i mentioned it he was like forget about it forget i said it dont talk about it etc. they are very confusing lol but it took him a while to commit compared to what most other men would.

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Yes i have also noticed that! He always says he doesnt want to have a shit life lol and never wants to be able to not have the best of things or give his family everything they want. I agree. Like i said some people will think its not a bad thing but it can be annoying especially as mine works so much and so many hours it is hard but suppose you just have to accept it

Posted by berrywiddle
@jesspisces how long have you guys been together? That's great for you. I hope it works out.

Aw thankyou hun! I hope yours works out too!! About 9 months now, i hope it works out too but he recently told me he may have to work away 2000 miles away in europe for 3 months soon” i will stay with him and wait for him but i got the feeling hes gona give me that old line again bcus he has to do away .. 'i cant commit' i hope he doesnt though! Lol