LDM90
@LDM90
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Bulls, if you're unsure of how she feels about you how do you act with her?
Your sign? How long yall been "hanging out"?
If she has alot of air placements it would be hard to get her back ten times more than if she had even liked you to begin with. .
Start at the bottom or she would probably move on thinking you're not serious. If you just want her as a friend just say that, if you known her along time at least a year or so of already friends then you have to work hard to get her attention as she hates failures, she is vulnerable to love easily and won't risk too much..Taurus are straight forward but will also have this huge wall.
I can get a little butt hurt if I feel I am pulling my own weight and not see it from the other person equally. I will detach but never cry over it. I may come back and forget a little bit because I do forgive and forget, and I take the stress to my heart. My Chakra is heart so it get to me there, and then my mind. Actually both tears me apart.
Just when I feel I am the one opening up and getting wishy washy comments or something red flagship. Is when I feel really drained and let it go if it isn't meant to be.
Just when I feel I am the one opening up and getting wishy washy comments or something red flagship. Is when I feel really drained and let it go if it isn't meant to be.
Posted by PeanutbutterI'm a Leo.
Your sign? How long yall been "hanging out"?
Do you even like him or want him for anything or are you just missing the attention?
Being a taurus myself, if he said you have been behaving, he either likes you or he asked in a funny way.
We hate it when people are cold to us. We try and try to talk and in the end if there is nothing from the other end, we let it go.
We hate it when people are cold to us. We try and try to talk and in the end if there is nothing from the other end, we let it go.
@SDNA-Yeah I was just thinking it was about gender based off the title. So i answered that way. Just in case other people want to how we act if unsure.
He just can't be bothered stroking your ego,you snubbed him so many times , and seemed like you only went out with him, because you had no one to worship you that day, time means nothing to the right person for a bull, and many signs put on this facade thinking they can go the distance, but the cracks being to show, if someone is cold for no reason it kind of comes and bites you back.... hence why your here.
Yea even if that were true I've never been the type to chase anyways so that would have never worked lol.
See I'm not sure if he's distancing himself or not. Just only last week he mentioned dinner and about wanting to come hold me.
His recent interaction with me, asking when I was coming home and if I behaved just really threw me off. It was very odd that he just left it at good girl. At least to me it was odd.
See I'm not sure if he's distancing himself or not. Just only last week he mentioned dinner and about wanting to come hold me.
His recent interaction with me, asking when I was coming home and if I behaved just really threw me off. It was very odd that he just left it at good girl. At least to me it was odd.
Posted by SDNA
Leos have to chase bulls. it's just the law of the jungle.
^^^WORD Leo's have to tackle us like a gazelle it's the law of the jungle. Bulls don't chase we attract we place ourselfs and charm done deal.
Posted by InstantkarmaI just thought him asking if I behaved was him just being weird to be honest lol. Yea I think it's about time that I'm assertive (without chasing)
He asked you if you behaved!! Had asked you out few times.
And that was last week.
So yeah, still interested.
But you need to let him know you are interested.
It's about time.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
Posted by LDM90What was the response you wanted/expected? Not sure what the problem is with that response. He asked you to dinner, you told him when you were available, he gave a standard "okay" sort of response....—
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
Let her know what you feel but do it with no expectations. If they reject you after you've shown your attitudes, they're not yours. Accept and bounce then.
Posted by LDM90you're hard work. he is not the problem. you are.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
Posted by jeaneI guess I'm just used to a guy being more assertive. Making concrete plans.Posted by LDM90you're hard work. he is not the problem. you are.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.click to expand
Posted by LDM90so you want a guy to chase you when you show him little to no interest? ie a guy with no self respect. probably best to stay away from bulls then.Posted by jeaneI guess I'm just used to a guy being more assertive. Making concrete plans.Posted by LDM90you're hard work. he is not the problem. you are.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by LDM90so you want a guy to chase you when you show him little to no interest? ie a guy with no self respect. probably best to stay away from bulls then.Posted by jeaneI guess I'm just used to a guy being more assertive. Making concrete plans.Posted by LDM90you're hard work. he is not the problem. you are.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.click to expand
I was thinking the same thing Taurus and Leo's only work when it's the right kind of Leo for taurus .
so ok my previous post was stupid after I read through the entire thread ...
he must be interested in you if he continues to pursue despite the fact that you have been very busy with other things ...
he is watching you no doubt so that is also a sign of interest - he wants to see if you are trustworthy ...
I'm not sure what else you want or need - but he will need more than a few crumbs dangling in front of him if you truly want to get to know him and see him when you are free ...
he must be interested in you if he continues to pursue despite the fact that you have been very busy with other things ...
he is watching you no doubt so that is also a sign of interest - he wants to see if you are trustworthy ...
I'm not sure what else you want or need - but he will need more than a few crumbs dangling in front of him if you truly want to get to know him and see him when you are free ...
Posted by Infinite8bloody hell, i chased and i am very happy! 😄Posted by LDM90GOOD,.. NEVER CHASE. One clear observation I have made is that women that chase are never happy with their outcome. Not worth it.
Yea even if that were true I've never been the type to chase anyways so that would have never worked lol.
See I'm not sure if he's distancing himself or not. Just only last week he mentioned dinner and about wanting to come hold me.
His recent interaction with me, asking when I was coming home and if I behaved just really threw me off. It was very odd that he just left it at good girl. At least to me it was odd.
Maybe once in an established relationship, it's fun to take turns on the chasing. But before that?!?! Naaaaaa.click to expand
guys need to know you are interested. what? they are just supposed to put themselves on the line without having an inkling of the outcome? that's not fair and honestly, i don't think guys do it. you have to flirt, you have to signal them in. and let's be frank, some bulls are not the most subtle of creatures, sometimes they need the red rag to know when to charge.
Posted by jeanePosted by Infinite8bloody hell, i chased and i am very happy! 😄Posted by LDM90GOOD,.. NEVER CHASE. One clear observation I have made is that women that chase are never happy with their outcome. Not worth it.
Yea even if that were true I've never been the type to chase anyways so that would have never worked lol.
See I'm not sure if he's distancing himself or not. Just only last week he mentioned dinner and about wanting to come hold me.
His recent interaction with me, asking when I was coming home and if I behaved just really threw me off. It was very odd that he just left it at good girl. At least to me it was odd.
Maybe once in an established relationship, it's fun to take turns on the chasing. But before that?!?! Naaaaaa.
guys need to know you are interested. what? they are just supposed to put themselves on the line without having an inkling of the outcome? that's not fair and honestly, i don't think guys do it. you have to flirt, you have to signal them in. and let's be frank, some bulls are not the most subtle of creatures, sometimes they need the red rag to know when to charge.click to expand
^^ this is why you have a Taurus if only other woman understood like you do.
Posted by Infinite8i chased because i knew what i wanted and i wouldn't let him get away! i wouldn't give most men a second glance. this one i wasn't going to let slip through my fingers because of coy exchanges and game playing. women who believe that men can read their minds tend to have poor communication and a lack of understanding and compassion in their relationships. and i don't think that men always know when woman are interested because what women deem to be clear signs of showing interest just past guys by. they don't think like us. women might think that hair flick is a massive signal, he won't have even clocked it. i blatantly flirted for about 6 months and even then, he still didn't know that i was interested.
Lol... Who said there is no flirting?!?! Hahahahaha...
I've never had to chase as the first move. They ALWAYS make the first move and maybe even the 2nd & 3rd. Then I move in and unexpectedly reciprocate, flirt back and/or make a move of my own.
Men love that stuff.
As for shy guys?!?! Pleeeease, thy make he moves too when they are interested!! It might be subtle, but they ALWAYS go for what they want.
Put themselves on the line without any inkling? Yes. That's usually what people do when the like someone. Even if the eyes dilate and sparkle and they have a big smile on their face... They are still telling you how they feel without really knowing how YOU feel. I can let them know how I feel early on as well... WITHOUT having to chase!
Me chasing would leave a bad taste in my mouth. I've done VERY WELL without...
But I'm glad you are happy with your decision. To each their own. And it's nice to finally know of someone (female chaser) that actually had a positive outcome!! Most women that chased for their men end up chasing throughout the whole relationship... Even while married. I learned early on in life NEVER to chase. No regrets here.
the honest truth is, i'm no fan of the modern woman. i think most of them are hard arsed, ball breakers that expect to be treated like precious princesses. i guess that's why so many men feel emasculated and so many marriages end up unhappy or divorced.
Posted by LDM90Not trying to be funny but you just sound like A LOT of work. Just move on, it doesnt seem like you are all that interested to be honest and it seems like he keeps saying and doing things that you take the wrong way. If it was really meant to be, it would all just flow. There would be no room for all these small, unnecessary complications.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
Posted by jeaneExactly +1Posted by LDM90you're hard work. he is not the problem. you are.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.click to expand
Posted by InstantkarmaI think that's my issue. I'm not sure at this point what's showing interest or what may be deemed chasing.
Chasing and showing genuine interest are...Different!
I did ask a few weeks ago if he wanted to go out for drinks. Now I did wait until 4 pm on a Saturday so he already had plans. When he suggested dinner I also mentioned that we should go to a museum or something when I got back So it's not like I'm giving the guy absolutely nothing.
Don't chew me up and spit me back out here with this lol but I thought putting myself out there those times ^^ was sufficient. Enough to show interest but not chase.
Posted by malloryorThat's the thing I'm not. Now I'll admit I tend to overthink and assume the worst (clearly) but that's not something that I let show. I just got back on the dating scene a few months so I'm just extremely rusty. With the guy I dated for 8 years I never had to question what was going on from day 1 so as someone else stated I had the "red carpet" treatment. So now I guess I'm just comparing others to him unfortunately.Posted by LDM90Not trying to be funny but you just sound like A LOT of work. Just move on, it doesnt seem like you are all that interested to be honest and it seems like he keeps saying and doing things that you take the wrong way. If it was really meant to be, it would all just flow. There would be no room for all these small, unnecessary complications.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.click to expand
At first I wasn't interested in this guy at all and after spending more time getting to know him he grew on me so I guess I'm worried that I screwed things up a little.
Posted by LDM90Fair enough. But I think its the attitude you are displaying here.Posted by InstantkarmaI think that's my issue. I'm not sure at this point what's showing interest or what may be deemed chasing.
Chasing and showing genuine interest are...Different!
I did ask a few weeks ago if he wanted to go out for drinks. Now I did wait until 4 pm on a Saturday so he already had plans. When he suggested dinner I also mentioned that we should go to a museum or something when I got back So it's not like I'm giving the guy absolutely nothing.
Don't chew me up and spit me back out here with this lol but I thought putting myself out there those times ^^ was sufficient. Enough to show interest but not chase.click to expand
Seriously, it put a bad taste in your mouth that he asked you out, you told him you couldnt because of work travel and then he said okay...? That is after he has pursued you a few times...come on thats not fair and your reaction is a bit over the top.
I bet he would be ten times more aggressive if he knew where you stood. If he knew you were interested in him. Next time something like this happens...if there is a next time and you cant meet him because of xyz BUT you really are interested, say "I would love too, but unfortunately I have xyz, how about we get together on ___ (name the day and time that works for you), is that okay for you?"
It lets him know you arent giving him superficial hopes and blowing him off.
Posted by LDM90Okay, I understand. I too am a bit rusty with dating after coming out of a long term thing but its okay. Just take the feedback you have been given here and use it as a valuable tool for you. Since you do say you like him, I hope it works out but if not, use this to help you with future dates. When you get back from your work trip...or if you are back, text him and say "hey, I'm home...wondering if I can still take you up on that offer?" Or something along those lines. To me, that would not be you being the aggressor, its like a tango, he has initiated but now its time to show him where you stand...be subtle but clear.Posted by malloryorThat's the thing I'm not. Now I'll admit I tend to overthink and assume the worst (clearly) but that's not something that I let show. I just got back on the dating scene a few months so I'm just extremely rusty. With the guy I dated for 8 years I never had to question what was going on from day 1 so as someone else stated I had the "red carpet" treatment. So now I guess I'm just comparing others to him unfortunately.Posted by LDM90Not trying to be funny but you just sound like A LOT of work. Just move on, it doesnt seem like you are all that interested to be honest and it seems like he keeps saying and doing things that you take the wrong way. If it was really meant to be, it would all just flow. There would be no room for all these small, unnecessary complications.
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
At first I wasn't interested in this guy at all and after spending more time getting to know him he grew on me so I guess I'm worried that I screwed things up a little.click to expand
Posted by Infinite8Oh I would never cancel on someone and not give an explanation why and apologize now that's definitely rude.Posted by InstantkarmaTrue. This guy has been persistent. OP is constantly busy. If I were the guy, I would have given up by now FOR SURE.Posted by LDM90Err, "This weekend? Or the next?"
Well now I'm not sure about this guy.
He asked about going to dinner and wanted to know when I would be and I told him starting in a few days (traveling for work). All he said was sounds good. I may be overrracting here but that really put a bad tatse in my mouth.
If that left a bad taste in your mouth, I wonder how he feels!! Being a guy, putting yourself out there and getting rejected, directly and indirectly is no joke.
You are being way too difficult.
I don't know what you are expecting. A Red carpet?
You are rejecting him repeatedly.
Although... Having said that, I also find it a bit hypocritical in my part. My husband persistantly chased me and I cancelled almost 80% (if not more) of the time because I was honestly really busy. BUT... I was always super apologetic and thankful for having him try... So, I think THAT is what kept him going.
Anyway, I never forgot how he persisted despite my "rejections" and THAT is what made me decide (besides a lot of other awesome qualities) that he was a keeper for me.
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As far as me not being able to see him I had legitimate reasons where I just could move my schedule around. I came down with the flu one week, had to travel for work another, and then went home for my father's birthday. After those times I made sure to let him know that I still wanted to see him. Trying not to be a complete bitch lol.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by LentoBull91I had one Taurus wanting to marry me after a month of dating. I had another Taurus look for me desperately though a newspaper ad (90's before social media) after meeting him for ONE NIGHT ONLY. I had another Taurus that was willing to leave his fiancée for me. They ALL chased, I could have been with them had I CHOSEN so...Posted by jeanePosted by Infinite8bloody hell, i chased and i am very happy! 😄Posted by LDM90GOOD,.. NEVER CHASE. One clear observation I have made is that women that chase are never happy with their outcome. Not worth it.
Yea even if that were true I've never been the type to chase anyways so that would have never worked lol.
See I'm not sure if he's distancing himself or not. Just only last week he mentioned dinner and about wanting to come hold me.
His recent interaction with me, asking when I was coming home and if I behaved just really threw me off. It was very odd that he just left it at good girl. At least to me it was odd.
Maybe once in an established relationship, it's fun to take turns on the chasing. But before that?!?! Naaaaaa.
guys need to know you are interested. what? they are just supposed to put themselves on the line without having an inkling of the outcome? that's not fair and honestly, i don't think guys do it. you have to flirt, you have to signal them in. and let's be frank, some bulls are not the most subtle of creatures, sometimes they need the red rag to know when to charge.
^^ this is why you have a Taurus if only other woman understood like you do.
So, I be to differ that that is the only solution that works.click to expand
and I beg to differ that most bulls are like the way you just described hell this forum is filled with proof that goes against bulls being the way you described. If woman would have an approach like Jeane took then things would go smoother taming one of us is all I'm saying.
Posted by jeanePosted by Infinite8i chased because i knew what i wanted and i wouldn't let him get away! i wouldn't give most men a second glance. this one i wasn't going to let slip through my fingers because of coy exchanges and game playing. women who believe that men can read their minds tend to have poor communication and a lack of understanding and compassion in their relationships. and i don't think that men always know when woman are interested because what women deem to be clear signs of showing interest just past guys by. they don't think like us. women might think that hair flick is a massive signal, he won't have even clocked it. i blatantly flirted for about 6 months and even then, he still didn't know that i was interested.
Lol... Who said there is no flirting?!?! Hahahahaha...
I've never had to chase as the first move. They ALWAYS make the first move and maybe even the 2nd & 3rd. Then I move in and unexpectedly reciprocate, flirt back and/or make a move of my own.
Men love that stuff.
As for shy guys?!?! Pleeeease, thy make he moves too when they are interested!! It might be subtle, but they ALWAYS go for what they want.
Put themselves on the line without any inkling? Yes. That's usually what people do when the like someone. Even if the eyes dilate and sparkle and they have a big smile on their face... They are still telling you how they feel without really knowing how YOU feel. I can let them know how I feel early on as well... WITHOUT having to chase!
Me chasing would leave a bad taste in my mouth. I've done VERY WELL without...
But I'm glad you are happy with your decision. To each their own. And it's nice to finally know of someone (female chaser) that actually had a positive outcome!! Most women that chased for their men end up chasing throughout the whole relationship... Even while married. I learned early on in life NEVER to chase. No regrets here.
the honest truth is, i'm no fan of the modern woman. i think most of them are hard arsed, ball breakers that expect to be treated like precious princesses. i guess that's why so many men feel emasculated and so many marriages end up unhappy or divorced.click to expand
I agree 300% with the above the age of emasculated men is upon us I'm also not a fan of modern women most are just whiny little b****es.
Posted by busyeyes88Congrats! It's nice to see things work out well for people.Posted by Infinite8It's only very recent and I am moving into his neighbourhood to live and am currently going through referencing period right now for a place to live there, so fingers crossed that goes through ok. It's very early days, but it has gone the distance. it was not that long. It took me 18 months to get with my gemini ex!Posted by busyeyes88Awesome!! Congrats!! When did it all happen? That must have been quite a moment for you after all that time in a stand still. Hope it was worth the wait!!Posted by Infinite8Yes .Posted by busyeyes88😕 Are you two finally together now? Official couple?Posted by LentoBull91Mine chased and continued to chase until I surrendered!Posted by SDNA
Leos have to chase bulls. it's just the law of the jungle.
^^^WORD Leo's have to tackle us like a gazelle it's the law of the jungle. Bulls don't chase we attract we place ourselfs and charm done deal.
But it has been eye-opening and it has thought me alot about myself also being a taurus. We are not easy people to "ensnare" but once we are "ensnared", we are (some of us) in it for the long haul. But the men are much more difficult (I feel).
Even the law firm I was temping for has offered me a job (so will see how that goes also as we will have negotiations next week), so I am on their payroll and will stay on their payroll until something is decided. So a lot going on in my and my taurus life. 😄click to expand
P.S. Love the hair!
Posted by Infinite8i wish you wouldn't take my comments as personal attacks of you.
@jeane -
Jeane: i guess that's why so many men feel emasculated and so many marriages end up unhappy or divorced.
I8: I think the only men I have EVER emasculated have been the ones that I see bullying others. Other than that, I get along amazingly well with them. I seldom get into fights with guys. When I was working in Engineering, I was literally the only female in the department. Smooth sailing. Most boyfriends: also smooth sailing. My marriage: PRETTY SWEET 😄
Posted by Infinite8you've missed my point. i may live in modern times but i don't behave like most modern women. as such i don't believe myself to be a special snowflake that men must put on a pedestal. men and women are equal. to say men must chase solely because i am a woman and they are men then that is some crazy shit that makes no one happy.
Aren’t you a modern woman? You seem highly educated and you ARE using at least recent technology to communicate with total strangers (a very modern thing to do btw). Are you saying you are a precious princess because of this?
in this sense women set men (and themselves) to fail. women who seek to find a man that will chase after them with little to no response means they think they are superior to men. however, when a woman feels superior to a man then they disrespect them and ultimately feel disappointed in him.
but these days tell women not to chase, says that you shouldn't call him, that he should buy you romantic gifts for valentines day or you should dump him, that he can't watch porn, can't go out with his friends and if he does go has to be home by a certain time, can't talk to other women.
i think this misses a vital point that two people in a relationship should be friends who respect and are kind to one another. if those things are remembered then there are very little need for rules or games.
Posted by Infinite8i was developing the thought.Posted by jeaneAttacks? Not at all. I just thought you were referring to me. If not, that's cool. Who or what were you referring to, then? Was it just a general comment?Posted by Infinite8i wish you wouldn't take my comments as personal attacks of you.
@jeane -
Jeane: i guess that's why so many men feel emasculated and so many marriages end up unhappy or divorced.
I8: I think the only men I have EVER emasculated have been the ones that I see bullying others. Other than that, I get along amazingly well with them. I seldom get into fights with guys. When I was working in Engineering, I was literally the only female in the department. Smooth sailing. Most boyfriends: also smooth sailing. My marriage: PRETTY SWEET 😄click to expand
Posted by LDM90I think anyone unsure would pull back. No one wants to come off as desperate or needy it's demeaning. Put yourself in his shoes. You chase someone who shows very little interest. What do you do? Back off for a bit of course. Just to give them and respect their space.
I was pretty cold with this bull at first. Not mean, just extremely distant. We went out and he pursued but I was very distant again I was very distant at first to the point where I'm sure I came off as uninterested, but he kept pursuing. He's asked almost every week for the past month to see me and I've wanted to but I went home for my mother's birthday one week,another I was sick, and another I was away on a trip with my girlfriends to Mexico.
Now I don't expect for him to be all over him because what self-respecting person would in his shoes, but he just ins't aggressive anymore. I want to get closer to him but now I just can't decide if he's lost interest or not.
I just got back from Mexico with a few of my girlfriends a few days go and while there he asked me when I would be coming home. I told him tomorrow. The next day I posted on Snapchat that it 'felt good to be home". Not too long after that I saw that he looked at it then contacted me asking if I behaved myself. I said I might have *smirk face*. Then he said good girl and that was it.
What the heck? Isn’t that weird? Lol. He didn’t turn it sexual or anything so I have no clue what his message is about…
My girlfriends believe that he has no clue what I want so right now he's backing off. I'm not sure if I agree with this though. So if bulls are unsure of how the other person feels or wants how do bulls act?
Thanks!
You need to throw them a bone now and then at least so they know they aren't chasing someone completely disinterested.
Posted by Infinite8Again, you seem to think I am directing my observations on your life. I'm not. I don't know you.
oops got cut off!!
Here's the rest @jeane !!!
Jeane - women who seek to find a man that will chase after them with little to no response means they think they are superior to men.
I8: I totally agree with you here as a sole statement. Selfish behavior if you ask me... and a total turn off. I don't think I would even appreciate it if even a friend behaved in such a way and told me about it. I would be all over her/him... defending the other person.
Jeane - however, when a woman feels superior to a man then they disrespect them and ultimately feel disappointed in him.
I8: YEP. Again, I agree. I will also add that it goes BOTH WAYS. A man that thinks that, also does the same.
Jeane: but these days tell women not to chase, says that you shouldn't call him, that he should buy you romantic gifts for valentines day or you should dump him, that he can't watch porn, can't go out with his friends and if he does go has to be home by a certain time, can't talk to other women.
I8: LOL... not sure where you got all that? I don't chase in the beginning.... PERIOD. I do call, I do give gifts, I do spoil, I am romantic... I'll watch porn with him. Every guy I've been with has been big on gifts... so, haven't experienced that disappointment. He can go out with his friends... but most guys stop talking to their friends to spend more time with me... so, I'm usually pushing for them to go out with their friends because I like to go out with mine! My husband has a shit load of female friends and I am friends with them as well. He is very respectful and I trust him.
My point with all that ^^^ is, that you are painting this as all black or all white. And, you seem misguided as to why people do what they do. You assumed that me saying "I don't chase in the initial stages with a man and I don't EVER recommend it" EQUALS all you have defined above... and it just simply isn't so. You are generalizing too much there and are losing your point.
Jeane - i think this misses a vital point that two people in a relationship should be friends who respect and are kind to one another. if those things are remembered then there are very little need for rules or games.
I8: AAHHHHHHH.... reading this was like a breath of fresh air!! That speaks volumes to me. YES, I totally agree with you here! But remember.... not all men want to be "friends" and Taurus men (the ones that I know) have a terrible time with this philosophy!! They want total ownership of me and NO SHARING!! Hardy a friendship.... 😆
OK!!! Gotta go now! Hopefully we've come closer to seeing eye to eye!! Enjoy your weekend!!
Posted by Infinite8
If we are all special, then no one is special.
Posted by Infinite8Then it is a difference of opinion.
@jeane -
Jeane: Again, you seem to think I am directing my observations on your life. I'm not. I don't know you.
I8: LOL... it might seem that way, but I don't think that at all. I am using myself and my experiences to refute some of your philosophies.
Posted by Infinite8Posted by jeaneWe are all different but that doesn't entitle one preferential treatment over another.Posted by Infinite8I said to snowflakes are not the same. I think the same of humans. By special I meant different. We are ALL different... even twins have their differences.
If we are all special, then no one is special.click to expand
If the rule is never chase to one while, you must chase to another then there is a balance of power in that encounter that I don't agree with.
Posted by LDM90You know what, reading your whole thread and Jeane's, Infinite's and Lentobull's takes on to chase or not to chase, and what exactly is chasing and is showing interest/flirting enough... I honestly don't know either...Posted by InstantkarmaI think that's my issue. I'm not sure at this point what's showing interest or what may be deemed chasing.
Chasing and showing genuine interest are...Different!
I did ask a few weeks ago if he wanted to go out for drinks. Now I did wait until 4 pm on a Saturday so he already had plans. When he suggested dinner I also mentioned that we should go to a museum or something when I got back So it's not like I'm giving the guy absolutely nothing.
Don't chew me up and spit me back out here with this lol but I thought putting myself out there those times ^^ was sufficient. Enough to show interest but not chase.click to expand
I kind of empathise with you OP. Coming out of a long term relationship and back into the dating world can be confusing. Lots of things, the rules of the game so to speak, would have changed since 8-10 years ago when you probably last dated. I should know, I've been there myself. And I'm happy (smug even, sorry not sorry!) that since being with my husband now for the past 6 or so years, I don't have to keep up-to-date with all these rules. So I'm not the best person to give you advise on how much to show interest and when to step back. From what I've read, sounds like you've tried.
Having said that though, your first post gave me the impression that because you appeared disinterested/aloof initially and the inability (on his part and yours, due to busy schedules, whatnot) to make concrete plans to spend time together, he may have decided to step back. If this is the case, then what @malloryor suggested seems your best option. Just swallow that pride, pick up the phone and suggest a time and place convenient to both of you. Make concrete plans and make it happen! With some Taurus men, you have to be crystal clear with your interest in them, at least with your actions if you're too shy or feel vulnerable to tell them with words.
If that doesn't work, then it seems to me that you may need an Aries man. Those guys, from what I've heard, love to chase. Apparently they'll chase even when you're aloof or playing hard to get. They take that as a challenge. Taurus men, if you're aloof, they simply walk the other way.
All the best!
Posted by Infinite8
@LentoBull91 -
LB91: and I beg to differ that most bulls are like the way you just described hell this forum is filled with proof that goes against bulls being the way you described. If woman would have an approach like Jeane took then things would go smoother taming one of us is all I'm saying.
I8: I don't know how most bulls are, I just know how they have all behaved with me and that is what I am sharing. The examples I gave you where just a few of the Taurus males. There have been more. I just said it for credibility purposes, only.
As far as what this forum proves? Thank your lucky stars I take all of it with a grain of salt! Because if I actually took everything in the Taurus forum as proof of what Taurus males are, I would think that they are mostly cheaters, get married with women that chase them and then they go to bed dreaming about someone else, loafers, lazy, if a girl chases... she is left CONFUSED and does all the work. Naaaaa... I would rather believe what I have seen with my two own eyes AND experienced myself.
I never had to deal with any of that in my single life. Most Taurus males that I came across were super humble, knew what they wanted and voiced it out, said what they did and did what they said (JUST LIKE ME), warm and affectionate, super smart and driven, romantic, gentlemen and were really there for me to listen. I always give them my best as well. Kindness is NEVER ignored in my book.
Jeane did things her way and it worked for her bull. I did things my way and they always worked as well. You will just have to learn to accept that.
I was just saying how many forums pop up about a Taurus dude chasing someone and what to do not often because most of the time we don't chase someone it usually takes a while that's just my experiences with fellow bulls I understand yours because I've met bulls like the ones u described so "I accept that".
Stop arguing you lot... It's supposed to be peaceful on here!!
Congratulations Busy ŠðŸ‘🼠nice one!
Congratulations Busy ŠðŸ‘🼠nice one!
Posted by Infinite8And I never said that you did, although you did say a woman should never chase. But it seems you can't make this conversation not about you so I won't continue.
I never said they HAD to chase me. Giving me clear indication of his attraction to me first, suffices.
If a man chases or expresses himself to me, he has indicated that he is my equal. That is a turn on for me. I will chase and express myself after that indication has been made. The balance of power has been made. My way... a way that works for ME.
chase him
Posted by busyeyes88good progress busy! good to hear that things are starting to go your way.
It's only very recent and I am moving into his neighbourhood to live and am currently going through referencing period right now for a place to live there, so fingers crossed that goes through ok. It's very early days, but it has gone the distance. it was not that long. It took me 18 months to get with my gemini ex!
But it has been eye-opening and it has thought me alot about myself also being a taurus. We are not easy people to "ensnare" but once we are "ensnared", we are (some of us) in it for the long haul. But the men are much more difficult (I feel).
Even the law firm I was temping for has offered me a job (so will see how that goes also as we will have negotiations next week), so I am on their payroll and will stay on their payroll until something is decided. So a lot going on in my and my taurus life. 😄
Posted by busyeyes88no, you're not always easy but you're always worth it.Posted by jeaneIt's not easy Libraus!! Lol lol Tauruses are not easy! The move closer to him will make things better (one hopes). LolPosted by busyeyes88good progress busy! good to hear that things are starting to go your way.
It's only very recent and I am moving into his neighbourhood to live and am currently going through referencing period right now for a place to live there, so fingers crossed that goes through ok. It's very early days, but it has gone the distance. it was not that long. It took me 18 months to get with my gemini ex!
But it has been eye-opening and it has thought me alot about myself also being a taurus. We are not easy people to "ensnare" but once we are "ensnared", we are (some of us) in it for the long haul. But the men are much more difficult (I feel).
Even the law firm I was temping for has offered me a job (so will see how that goes also as we will have negotiations next week), so I am on their payroll and will stay on their payroll until something is decided. So a lot going on in my and my taurus life. 😄click to expand
In reference to @letterbox10 post
Let's not take astrology tooo seriously (the irony I know) but my Taurus ex chased me and I was distant in the beginning. This is simply a preference that varies between men. As far as an Aries man, yes OP they do have this reputation but they also have the rep. for jumping OUT of things just as fast as they get in it. Great fun, but they can be incosiderate, using people for their own thrills. Just focus on yourself OP, stop being aloof, if you like him you like him, if you dont, then let him go. To be honest, although I csn understand your nervousness since you are new to the dating scene, I cant be certain you are interested. You do seem like a lot of work, hard to please. Maybe this is all your nerves. But if you really like him, you are gonma have to let your hair down.
Let's not take astrology tooo seriously (the irony I know) but my Taurus ex chased me and I was distant in the beginning. This is simply a preference that varies between men. As far as an Aries man, yes OP they do have this reputation but they also have the rep. for jumping OUT of things just as fast as they get in it. Great fun, but they can be incosiderate, using people for their own thrills. Just focus on yourself OP, stop being aloof, if you like him you like him, if you dont, then let him go. To be honest, although I csn understand your nervousness since you are new to the dating scene, I cant be certain you are interested. You do seem like a lot of work, hard to please. Maybe this is all your nerves. But if you really like him, you are gonma have to let your hair down.
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