WaterCup
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Bullshit :D
Stupid.
He wants the best of both worlds but this ain't Hannah Montana
Good for you OP.
He wants the best of both worlds but this ain't Hannah Montana
Good for you OP.
A week later he sent me a sappy song, implying that he was sad & missing me. We exchanged a few emails talking about his relationship with the other woman & he told me that it was over. I definitely DO NOT believe him. I'm just not sure why he wants to keep me around when I've given him a way out so many times.
So anyway, about a week ago he told me that he'll be offline for a while. He didn't explain why, so I kinda lashed out & told him to fuck off, basically. He replied saying he'll explain soon. That was the last I heard from him. We haven't spoken since. And a part of me wants to end this once & for all, but he keeps pulling me back.
I'm not sure what I'm asking for in this thread. But I guess I'm confused & would like clarification as to why he keeps holding on when it's obvious his attention is elsewhere. Why can't he move on & leave me alone?
So anyway, about a week ago he told me that he'll be offline for a while. He didn't explain why, so I kinda lashed out & told him to fuck off, basically. He replied saying he'll explain soon. That was the last I heard from him. We haven't spoken since. And a part of me wants to end this once & for all, but he keeps pulling me back.
I'm not sure what I'm asking for in this thread. But I guess I'm confused & would like clarification as to why he keeps holding on when it's obvious his attention is elsewhere. Why can't he move on & leave me alone?
Posted by brandyp
You need "Constant communication"- hells nah, id be out
They're in different countries though I feel like that's reasonable lol
Posted by andstrollbotCan you please explain what you mean by that. Thanks 🙂
I'm like that online
Posted by SilvuhYeah, that seems to be it. I even said if he didn't want a relationship then we could be friends. But he doesn't want that either. Said he doesn't see me as a friend. I really don't know what he wants. I've given him every possible exit strategy but he keeps wanting us to in a relationship. A relationship that he's putting very little effort in. I can't deal with the half-assedness of it all. I'm an all or nothing person. I have a Scorpio moon 😛 His is in Libra. A sign I've had troubles with in the past due to wishy-washyness. Ugh.
Stupid.
He wants the best of both worlds but this ain't Hannah Montana
Good for you OP.
Posted by tizianiHey Tiz 🙂
Welcome back WC. I see people only ever come back when things are going wrong.
LOL, it's not like that. I decided to check in here yesterday out of boredom. I'm here now so why not play a little violin for myself while at it? 😄
What's your take on this, Tiz? Should I give this guy a boot? I'm tired!
Posted by brandypWhere did you get THAT from? I said consistency, not constant communication. I do have a life after all.
You need "Constant communication"- hells nah, id be out
Posted by brandypPosted by SilvuhPosted by brandyp
You need "Constant communication"- hells nah, id be out
They're in different countries though I feel like that's reasonable lolclick to expand
You're a better person than me than bc who has that kind if time, OP sounds too insecure and kind of high maintanence. >.
Posted by andstrollbotOh ok. Thanks. I get it. I've said he should tell me if/when he needs a break because I get it, I get overwhelmed too.Taking a break is not an issue for me. I just need to be in the know because it's easy to think that you're being ignored or that they've lost interestPosted by WaterCupI get bored with communication always.Posted by andstrollbotCan you please explain what you mean by that. Thanks 🙂
I'm like that online
Before when I was younger I'd tell my girl can we not talk so much?click to expand
Posted by Geminigal123Yeah. Should have, could have, would have. Can't change all of that now. I guess I'll ignore him next time he contacts me.Posted by WaterCupPosted by tizianiHey Tiz 🙂
Welcome back WC. I see people only ever come back when things are going wrong.
LOL, it's not like that. I decided to check in here yesterday out of boredom. I'm here now so why not play a little violin for myself while at it? 😄
What's your take on this, Tiz? Should I give this guy a boot? I'm tired!
You should have booted him the time he found out you had sent him a message using his psychic powers.
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All of this drama has occurred before you even met him. Do you really think thats a good way to start a relationship when you do finally meet? Do you think hed really change after meeting him? No, I don't think he'd give up his bad habits. Especially the cheating....
I think it's time to move on.
I think it's time to move on.
Posted by brandypPosted by WaterCupPosted by brandypPosted by SilvuhPosted by brandyp
You need "Constant communication"- hells nah, id be out
They're in different countries though I feel like that's reasonable lolclick to expand
You're a better person than me than bc who has that kind if time, OP sounds too insecure and kind of high maintanence. >.
I don't understand how people get so wrapped up in online relationships to begin with. I could never take one serious, to me they sound like pretend pseudo relationships. Too many hugely important elements are missing that are necessary in a relationship. You can't see each other face to face, no affection, no sex, no activities done together, can't see how they interact with other people, can't see how they are with friends and family or be involved in their actual life. And you're supposed to pass up real life people who you actually see and who you could do those things with and stay loyal to someone you just exchange emails with? Pfffttttt Nope. Couldn't do it.
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All of this drama has occurred before you even met him. Do you really think thats a good way to start a relationship when you do finally meet? Do you think hed really change after meeting him? No, I don't think he'd give up his bad habits. Especially the cheating....
I think it's time to move on.
You're right. I've given up already. I just wish he'd stop guilt-tripping me when I stop talking to him. I want him to go away at this point.
Posted by WaterCupTell him you can't be friends right now and block him. Sometimes that's the only way to get your point across.Posted by pinkbird03
All of this drama has occurred before you even met him. Do you really think thats a good way to start a relationship when you do finally meet? Do you think hed really change after meeting him? No, I don't think he'd give up his bad habits. Especially the cheating....
I think it's time to move on.
You're right. I've given up already. I just wish he'd stop guilt-tripping me when I stop talking to him. I want him to go away at this point.
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Posted by Redoctober2000Lolest! I'm so sad...NOT!
HE'S NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU AND YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM!!!!
You have not even met yet!!!!
Are you kidding me!!!
You live in separate countries and not one of you has attempted to meet up and make the relationship "real" instead of "online"?!!!!
So I suggest you keep it moving...
The Taurus does not want you. He just sees you as a possession. Give him time in his new relationship and you will become a distant memory... "out of sight is out of mind"...
I've given him that option, but he came back with a new story, saying that relationship is over. So don't make it sound like I'm hounding him when he's the one refusing to let go.
Btw, a relationship is only defined by those in it. We called it a relationship because it was a relationships to us despite the distance.
Anyway, I hope the out of sight out of mind comes soon 😄 Because I'm a champ of that myself 😄 But I can't do it while he keeps popping in, SEE? *in my best mafia voice*
Posted by RiverLeeI had the same mentality you have before. But these things sometimes happen & catch you off guard. I'm a testament to that 😛 Never again! It's way too much work.
I don't understand how people get so wrapped up in online relationships to begin with. I could never take one serious, to me they sound like pretend pseudo relationships. Too many hugely important elements are missing that are necessary in a relationship. You can't see each other face to face, no affection, no sex, no activities done together, can't see how they interact with other people, can't see how they are with friends and family or be involved in their actual life. And you're supposed to pass up real life people who you actually see and who you could do those things with and stay loyal to someone you just exchange emails with? Pfffttttt Nope. Couldn't do it.
Posted by pinkbird03Thanks 🙂Posted by WaterCupTell him you can't be friends right now and block him. Sometimes that's the only way to get your point across.Posted by pinkbird03
All of this drama has occurred before you even met him. Do you really think thats a good way to start a relationship when you do finally meet? Do you think hed really change after meeting him? No, I don't think he'd give up his bad habits. Especially the cheating....
I think it's time to move on.
You're right. I've given up already. I just wish he'd stop guilt-tripping me when I stop talking to him. I want him to go away at this point.
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I think I'll just ghost him. Talking leads to more talking in this case. I hope I'm strong enough to ignore him when he makes his next charity round, talking to me 😄 I'm so done.
Thanks for the replies guys 🙂
Posted by WaterCupYou're welcome! Good luck!Posted by pinkbird03Thanks 🙂Posted by WaterCupTell him you can't be friends right now and block him. Sometimes that's the only way to get your point across.Posted by pinkbird03
All of this drama has occurred before you even met him. Do you really think thats a good way to start a relationship when you do finally meet? Do you think hed really change after meeting him? No, I don't think he'd give up his bad habits. Especially the cheating....
I think it's time to move on.
You're right. I've given up already. I just wish he'd stop guilt-tripping me when I stop talking to him. I want him to go away at this point.
I think I'll just ghost him. Talking leads to more talking in this case. I hope I'm strong enough to ignore him when he makes his next charity round, talking to me 😄 I'm so done.
Thanks for the replies guys 🙂click to expand
Posted by Redoctober2000Dude, I get you! I really do. And I also see how I might have encouraged this by continuing to respond to his messages. Well, I've seen the light.Posted by WaterCupPosted by Redoctober2000Lolest! I'm so sad...NOT!
HE'S NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU AND YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM!!!!
You have not even met yet!!!!
Are you kidding me!!!
You live in separate countries and not one of you has attempted to meet up and make the relationship "real" instead of "online"?!!!!
So I suggest you keep it moving...
The Taurus does not want you. He just sees you as a possession. Give him time in his new relationship and you will become a distant memory... "out of sight is out of mind"...
I've given him that option, but he came back with a new story, saying that relationship is over. So don't make it sound like I'm hounding him when he's the one refusing to let go.
Btw, a relationship is only defined by those in it. We called it a relationship because it was a relationships to us despite the distance.
Anyway, I hope the out of sight out of mind comes soon 😄 Because I'm a champ of that myself 😄 But I can't do it while he keeps popping in, SEE? *in my best mafia voice*
He can't enter a brick wall can he—? YOU let him in!!! PERIOD!!
If you deleted and BLOCKED all his numbers AND permanently kept it moving there's no way he could get to you!!
Also you say it's a "relationship" but how can it be when he has your permission to "date others"?!! Smh!!
This whole thing is a joke.. You've only wasted 9 months. Keep it moving so you don't waste any more!!!
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Oh & I have deleted his number & photos back when he dumped me. I've not added them again. I've also deleted our recent communication because I don't want reminders of him when I open my mailbox. I've grieved & moved on in my own way. The only thing left is to cease all communication, which I'm going to do.
Thanks 🙂
Posted by brandypPosted by WaterCupPosted by brandypPosted by WaterCupPosted by brandypPosted by SilvuhPosted by brandyp
You need "Constant communication"- hells nah, id be out
They're in different countries though I feel like that's reasonable lolclick to expand
You're a better person than me than bc who has that kind if time, OP sounds too insecure and kind of high maintanence. >.
Welcome back WaterCup!!
Posted by aquanibVery true. Well, the meeting up part was/is not an issue for me. I'm not in a hurry. I was fine with how things were because I was still "studying" him. Now I'm not sure if I even want to meet him anymore. I just want it over & done with before it gets any more toxic. Unstable relationships are like crack to my system 😄 I see this one becoming addictive if it continues. I'm trying to break the pattern of drama though. I think he loves the come here, go away cycle because he does things to provoke me & then laughs, saying I'm so funny when I'm angry. He likes it. It's not so funny for me though & it makes me mad that he thinks it's all laughs & gags. One thing for sure, I will escalate until it's not so hilarious anymore. He definitely won't be laughing then! I don't want it to reach that point though. Hence I'll save myself the headache & just go my merry way.
I read the financial issues bit, but 9 months is 9 months. If there's a plan to meet up, it for sure can be done in less time, finances notwithstanding. You can earn for a return plane ticket and a week in some hotel in 9 months.
Take the lack of this as a sign of his commitment.
Posted by WaterCupPosted by justagirlThanks, girl 🙂
Welcome back WaterCup!!
Good to see you're still around.
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Sometimes I question my sanity level and the fact that I am still here!
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Posted by justagirlLOL, IKR. The place seem to have calmed down though. Too early to tell, I guess.Posted by WaterCupPosted by justagirlThanks, girl 🙂
Welcome back WaterCup!!
Good to see you're still around.
Sometimes I question my sanity level and the fact that I am still here!
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How's life? Any hunk in the picture? 😛
Posted by tizianiPosted by WaterCupHey 🙂Posted by tizianiHey Tiz 🙂
Welcome back WC. I see people only ever come back when things are going wrong.
LOL, it's not like that. I decided to check in here yesterday out of boredom. I'm here now so why not play a little violin for myself while at it? 😄
What's your take on this, Tiz? Should I give this guy a boot? I'm tired!
Well him lying to you, there's no trust there. But that's not surprising given you haven't met each other in person. If you don't plan to meet then yes, give it the boot.click to expand
Thanks, Tiz. This one is going the same direction of the Libra dude. That was one hell of a habit to break! 😛 Don't want another roller coaster "romance".
UPDATE
He called. I was curious to hear what he has to say, so I picked up. We talked for about 30 minutes & now I'm back to being confused 😛 He said he
understands my distrust about everything & asked what he has to do to prove that he is "serious". IDK the answerto that, except maybe hook him to a lie detector machine. LOL!
I really like this guy. He's funny. And when things are good between us, they're really good. I wish we could be friends because I'm really not satisfied with his lazy
communication style . He still claims he wants a "relationship" though. I'm not sure whether to continue talking to him, minus any mushy talk about "us". No labels. No expectations. Only general conversations because it's obvious he still wants some form of contact. That's the only way it'll work for me. That way I won't feel like I'm being strung along or put on a shelf. The way I see it, I got nothing to lose. He's getting nothing out of this (physically or otherwise), so maybe he does care or whatever.
He said we can talk about this later via email because he has to go some place...work related. I hope he agrees to my terms & conditions because I really like him as a person.
He called. I was curious to hear what he has to say, so I picked up. We talked for about 30 minutes & now I'm back to being confused 😛 He said he
understands my distrust about everything & asked what he has to do to prove that he is "serious". IDK the answerto that, except maybe hook him to a lie detector machine. LOL!
I really like this guy. He's funny. And when things are good between us, they're really good. I wish we could be friends because I'm really not satisfied with his lazy
communication style . He still claims he wants a "relationship" though. I'm not sure whether to continue talking to him, minus any mushy talk about "us". No labels. No expectations. Only general conversations because it's obvious he still wants some form of contact. That's the only way it'll work for me. That way I won't feel like I'm being strung along or put on a shelf. The way I see it, I got nothing to lose. He's getting nothing out of this (physically or otherwise), so maybe he does care or whatever.
He said we can talk about this later via email because he has to go some place...work related. I hope he agrees to my terms & conditions because I really like him as a person.
Posted by Redoctober2000LOL. TBH, I don't think I'm ready to be in a "real" relationship with someone I have to see on a daily basis or I'd be with someone right now 😉 Reason why I started up with him in the 1st place. I knew he lived faraway (same continent). I was looking for a "pen-pal" so to speak. But things got a little complicated 😛 I guess I'm now curious to see where this will lead, if anywhere. Either way I'll be fine. I'm not in a hurry to meet up with him (or anyone else for that matter). I do enjoy his company though. Hence I now wanna ditch the frills & be platonic like we were in the beginning because I do enjoy talking to him (when it happens). Does that make sense? I'm not stuck. He was/is a good friend. He sure sucks as a "BF" though because my expectations tend to be "up there". Not that I was asking for much either, IMO. Shrugs.
MOVE ON OP!!!
Until he makes plans to meet you in person OP you are wasting your precious time!!!?!!
There ae other people out there down the road from where you live. Go out and meet them!!!
Just MOVE ON!!!
Posted by WaterCupLife is good, got a promotion at work.. was dating a crabbie for just under a year but that ended in June.Posted by justagirlLOL, IKR. The place seem to have calmed down though. Too early to tell, I guess.Posted by WaterCupPosted by justagirlThanks, girl 🙂
Welcome back WaterCup!!
Good to see you're still around.
Sometimes I question my sanity level and the fact that I am still here!
😆
How's life? Any hunk in the picture? 😛
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Posted by Redoctober2000Do you have to know someone in real life to consider them a friend? I don't. I speak to another girl I haven't met & we call each other friends. Welcome to this century! 😛 Anyway, IDK, but maybe I'm not explaining myself well enough. But me & this guy were friends, in the internet sense. We talked about each others' day, etc... before things got muddied up by feelings. There's a lot that happened in the 9 months we've known each other- good & bad. I'm human, I can't be talking to someone this long without considering them...something. Like, I'm not even broken hearted overthis whole thing. I guess with internet dating you learn to adjust your feelings according to the situation. All I know is that I've not been acting like my real self here. I've been cutting him a lot of slack because at the end of the day I know it's not real. He could be telling me one thing & doing another, I'm not there to verify anything he says. So I've been taking his word with a grain of salt....& sometimes a headache tablet 😛
OP, you are delusional!! What "friend" you haven't even met in person so how can you view him as a friend and 2) why come on here to waste our time?!! Smh!
I made this thread because I was mad as hell. I needed a different perspective, which I'm grateful for. It may sound like I'm not listening at the moment, but trust me, I do take things into consideration...in my own time 😄
Right now though, after the discussion I had with him yesterday, I decided to just be friends because he's not all that bad. This is a 1st for me, seeing the grey parts, instead of my usual black or white view. That may also change very soon though 😛 Consider this thread just me venting 🙂
You've been awesome though. So feel free to yell lol.
Posted by justagirlWonderful! Congrats on the job thing. Well done. Surely things will also fall into place in the relationship front, for you. Relationships are just so...ugh. I was also with a crab a while back. It wasn't as bad as I imagined it would be. I'm starting to believe that astrology is trash lol. Because I get along better with incompatible signs.Posted by WaterCupLife is good, got a promotion at work.. was dating a crabbie for just under a year but that ended in June.Posted by justagirlLOL, IKR. The place seem to have calmed down though. Too early to tell, I guess.Posted by WaterCupPosted by justagirlThanks, girl 🙂
Welcome back WaterCup!!
Good to see you're still around.
Sometimes I question my sanity level and the fact that I am still here!
😆
How's life? Any hunk in the picture? 😛
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Posted by WaterCupi kinda feel sorry for all the people that bothered to take you seriously. 3+ pages of advice and you thanking them when in reality youre not going to take any of it and are happy with things as they are. please dont waste dxpnet members times if you know no matter what youre gonna keep contact with the guy
LOL. TBH, I don't think I'm ready to be in a "real" relationship with someone I have to see on a daily basis or I'd be with someone right now 😉 Reason why I started up with him in the 1st place. I knew he lived faraway (same continent). I was looking for a "pen-pal" so to speak.
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