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Posted by busyeyes88
So what am I supposed to do.or how do I react to him should he decide to get in touch? Surely I will have my guard up?! Why the games? Why is manipulation needed?
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you need to remember this is all guesswork on our parts. we don't know for sure, we can only tell you how we would operate in this situation.

it's not a game that we play. again, if he didn't care he wouldn't bother. it is a protection technique we employ. it is horrible? i can see your point that is is but we each guard ourselves and that is how we do it. it takes years to get to a libra. like it does a taurus. taurus are masters of non expression, libras do it by employing techniques of noisy distraction. same outcome.

you should have your guard up! you've only known this guy a month! he has to prove worthy of your emotion as much as he is checking that you are worthy of his.

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I love telling people about my life, all the time. Like Jeane said, Makes people feel closer. Intimate parts of my life are hidden, or shared to inner circle.

For example, I find Taurus telling me, after 4 weeks, his parents divorce, how it affected his childhood, his mother being sick in her older years, how he has to take of her financially... etc ... I believe that to be intimate details of one's life you don't share normally share with people you just meet.
But I don't reveal anything unless asked. Your taurus reveals alot.. I'm closed. Even the taurus could not open me up even after 5 months of trying.
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This was before Mothers Day. I asked if he was planning anything for his mom, then he began his story... I found it extremely interesting how it then led into his own, former, marriage.

At the end of his story I asked if he was dating anyone, he replied (here is the kicker), "you know I'm single,... I just met someone... young, and I really like her, a lot. I don't how it would work, but I'm thinking about it." ... and yes, im dating a few people.
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Did you really "want" his view or did you "demand" it? If you demanded it, then you probably fucked yourself on this one. He'll most likely dissappear for a while and come back when he thinks it's safe. That can be days, weeks, or months. When a guy/girl needs, wants, demands and answer we feel threatened and dissappear. It's to let people know "CALM THE FUCK DOWN!" in a not so subtle way.needless to say, we are difficult but extremely loyal once you have us.
Politely asked for his view in a Leo moon kind of dramatic way!! I don't know why I needed to. His affirmation when we were together and he told me to my face that he enjoyed the time we spent for me to stay in touch etc. Shot self in foot! It's hard being a Leo rising with a Leo moon, an Aries in merc and a venus pisces!! One hot mess!!! Lol
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all that fire combined with stable Taurus sun, sounds like you are the woman in charge, lady who wears the pants in the relationship 😉 doesn't sound like a bad thing to me because at least you know who you are!

I struggle with my placements.

My stable, earthy, bold, decisive, assertive Taurus Sun, argues with my passive, gentle, and indecisive Libra rising, AND to top it off, all my morals, self control, and dignity go BURSTING out of the window like a bomb went off when my Aries Venus decides to make an appearance!!!!

I'M CURSED
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@Busyeyes88, that's what we do. We are crazy extreme people when we like someone, we will do strange things, behave strange. Yes, you are building trust and that's good. It will get you what you want faster. It's ok for you to be open about yourself, in the beginning of course. Libra needs to see you completely vulnerable first, before they can/will completely open up.
So you guys hold back, until the other person is brave enough to open up, and then you open up? not fair.. say you feel, don't wait for the other person to say it first.
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for myself it is a small trick i use. i give the impression of being very open so people feel comfortable. when you really take a hard look at it, i haven't been open at all. like sophia says, that takes years.
why do you take years to open up to someone? You complicate things when it doesn't have to be that complicated. What I often see and dislike with Libras is that in their mind they are always putting things off until 'the right time', or 'soon', whether that may be opening up to someone, confessing their love to someone, or about their home life, upbringing, family, love life, etc...

This bothers me because you guys always think 'there's always tomorrow', but that is not true. You are capable of dying any given second, getting hit by a car, brain aneurysm, getting shot, heart attack, the list goes on... How would you feel if the person you loved died right now and you never got a chance to tell that person how you really felt because you are just 'waiting' for the 'perfect time'. Or what if, God forbid, you die, if you believe in heaven, you will watch your secretly beloved be heart broken over your death, at least confessing your love to him/her will offer them some sort of closure as they are heart broken over your absence.

I try to explain this to my female Libra best friend all the time and she will never understand, she simply doesn't care, she is only set on her ways and that's final. Life is short and tomorrow is not always guaranteed.

I'm not saying you need to express and communicate every single emotion you have with everyone, but I agree with Busy, take action in your life, if you like someone tell them, if you want something more, tell them. Why wait? For what? For you to grow older and weaker? Time is against us on Earth and I will not sit back and watch the person I love fade away as he finds someone else while I am too busy being indecisive.

I'm clearly rambling now, sorry, I hope you guys see my point, at least just a little bit. *crosses fingers*
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@Busyeyes88, that's what we do. We are crazy extreme people when we like someone, we will do strange things, behave strange. Yes, you are building trust and that's good. It will get you what you want faster. It's ok for you to be open about yourself, in the beginning of course. Libra needs to see you completely vulnerable first, before they can/will completely open up.
So you guys hold back, until the other person is brave enough to open up, and then you open up? not fair.. say you feel, don't wait for the other person to say it first.
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@mysteriousTaurus, I should have clarified on this.

1) When someone is trying to attract Libra's attention, libra will be skeptical, will try to subtlety decipher the other persons intent through a technique of "trust me." We need to know what the other person is after? Will they harm us? Are they trying to use me? Are they sincere? Is this a rebound? Will this person affect my plans? After learning about me, other person can reject me or leave me; complete and total devastation for Libra. Other person needs to always understand that Libra FEARS loss; even if in a secure relationship. The more vulnerable you are (doesn't have to be all the time) means the less likely of you leaving us.

2) When Libra is trying to attract someone else's attention, will most likely provide any information or thing needed to gain; what Libra wants most. Libra always feels and believes there is a necessary sacrifice, something that MUST be given up, in order to make that gain. "No" has little to no meaning to us. This may force us to go to extreme sides, remember we are scales, we only take sides, rarely an in between. Libra is patient and will fight to the death for something/someone, until there is no recourse left, they will hold their head high and completely walk away. No going back.
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for myself it is a small trick i use. i give the impression of being very open so people feel comfortable. when you really take a hard look at it, i haven't been open at all. like sophia says, that takes years.
why do you take years to open up to someone? You complicate things when it doesn't have to be that complicated. What I often see and dislike with Libras is that in their mind they are always putting things off until 'the right time', or 'soon', whether that may be opening up to someone, confessing their love to someone, or about their home life, upbringing, family, love life, etc...

This bothers me because you guys always think 'there's always tomorrow', but that is not true. You are capable of dying any given second, getting hit by a car, brain aneurysm, getting shot, heart attack, the list goes on... How would you feel if the person you loved died right now and you never got a chance to tell that person how you really felt because you are just 'waiting' for the 'perfect time'. Or what if, God forbid, you die, if you believe in heaven, you will watch your secretly beloved be heart broken over your death, at least confessing your love to him/her will offer them some sort of closure as they are heart broken over your absence.

I try to explain this to my female Libra best friend all the time and she will never understand, she simply doesn't care, she is only set on her ways and that's final. Life is short and tomorrow is not always guaranteed.

I'm not saying you need to express and communicate every single emotion you have with everyone, but I agree with Busy, take action in your life, if you like someone tell them, if you want something more, tell them. Why wait? For what? For you to grow older and weaker? Time is against us on Earth and I will not sit back and watch the person I love fade away as he finds someone else while I am too busy being indecisive.

I'm clearly rambling now, sorry, I hope you guys see my point, at least just a little bit. *crosses fingers*
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I feel the same way about Taurus 😢
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You need to literally tell him. But before you do that, what is his moon?

Taurus is a bold and brave sign, they are expressive in actions and words, if you are the bigger person to confess your feelings first, I' am positive he will looks at you with utmost respect and admiration. Even if he is not into, I'm sure you two will remain friends. Literally anyone would appreciate someone coming forward with their feelings towards that person, who wouldnt?

I remember, back in november when my libra and i were on a break, i developed a massive crush on a leo, and after months of thinking how i was going to tell him how i felt (the leo and i were friends for a year), i finally told him, and when i did. omg! he went bananas! he was sooo shocked, and ecstatic i told him. he had a crush on me too. but he ended up rejecting me because i liked him more than he liked me. but his respect for me never changed, we are civil now.

just imagine how your taurus would feel if he looked you in the eyes and told you he is the person you are looking for and you will never hurt him, wouldnt you just be overwhelmed with joy? make him feel that way 🙂
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@Busyeyes88, that's what we do. We are crazy extreme people when we like someone, we will do strange things, behave strange. Yes, you are building trust and that's good. It will get you what you want faster. It's ok for you to be open about yourself, in the beginning of course. Libra needs to see you completely vulnerable first, before they can/will completely open up.
So you guys hold back, until the other person is brave enough to open up, and then you open up? not fair.. say you feel, don't wait for the other person to say it first.
@mysteriousTaurus, I should have clarified on this.

1) When someone is trying to attract Libra's attention, libra will be skeptical, will try to subtlety decipher the other persons intent through a technique of "trust me." We need to know what the other person is after? Will they harm us? Are they trying to use me? Are they sincere? Is this a rebound? Will this person affect my plans? After learning about me, other person can reject me or leave me; complete and total devastation for Libra. Other person needs to always understand that Libra FEARS loss; even if in a secure relationship. The more vulnerable you are (doesn't have to be all the time) means the less likely of you leaving us.

2) When Libra is trying to attract someone else's attention, will most likely provide any information or thing needed to gain; what Libra wants most. Libra always feels and believes there is a necessary sacrifice, something that MUST be given up, in order to make that gain. "No" has little to no meaning to us. This may force us to go to extreme sides, remember we are scales, we only take sides, rarely an in between. Libra is patient and will fight to the death for something/someone, until there is no recourse left, they will hold their head high and completely walk away. No going back.
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this was very interesting and insightful, thank you! I will keep this in mind next time my libra and i have a heart to heart, should i be more open with him about my feelings for him? he knows i like him, but i want to tell him in a more romantic way, like 'yo
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'youre always on my mind', 'i miss you', youre the most beautiful thing ive ever seen', bc its true. i mean these words. but he hasnt heard me say them to him yet, the thing is, i dont know if he wants me to since he doesnt want a commitment but.... would a libra want me to be honest anyway, or wait until the time is right *rolls eyes* ugh i feel like i am living a lie. i want to tell him so bad BUT i dont want to scare im off, im stuck!
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@mysteriousTaurus, I should have clarified on this.

1) When someone is trying to attract Libra's attention, libra will be skeptical, will try to subtlety decipher the other persons intent through a technique of "trust me." We need to know what the other person is after? Will they harm us? Are they trying to use me? Are they sincere? Is this a rebound? Will this person affect my plans? After learning about me, other person can reject me or leave me; complete and total devastation for Libra. Other person needs to always understand that Libra FEARS loss; even if in a secure relationship. The more vulnerable you are (doesn't have to be all the time) means the less likely of you leaving us.

2) When Libra is trying to attract someone else's attention, will most likely provide any information or thing needed to gain; what Libra wants most. Libra always feels and believes there is a necessary sacrifice, something that MUST be given up, in order to make that gain. "No" has little to no meaning to us. This may force us to go to extreme sides, remember we are scales, we only take sides, rarely an in between. Libra is patient and will fight to the death for something/someone, until there is no recourse left, they will hold their head high and completely walk away. No going back.
all of this.
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why do you take years to open up to someone? You complicate things when it doesn't have to be that complicated. What I often see and dislike with Libras is that in their mind they are always putting things off until 'the right time', or 'soon', whether that may be opening up to someone, confessing their love to someone, or about their home life, upbringing, family, love life, etc...

This bothers me because you guys always think 'there's always tomorrow', but that is not true. You are capable of dying any given second, getting hit by a car, brain aneurysm, getting shot, heart attack, the list goes on... How would you feel if the person you loved died right now and you never got a chance to tell that person how you really felt because you are just 'waiting' for the 'perfect time'. Or what if, God forbid, you die, if you believe in heaven, you will watch your secretly beloved be heart broken over your death, at least confessing your love to him/her will offer them some sort of closure as they are heart broken over your absence.

I try to explain this to my female Libra best friend all the time and she will never understand, she simply doesn't care, she is only set on her ways and that's final. Life is short and tomorrow is not always guaranteed.

I'm not saying you need to express and communicate every single emotion you have with everyone, but I agree with Busy, take action in your life, if you like someone tell them, if you want something more, tell them. Why wait? For what? For you to grow older and weaker? Time is against us on Earth and I will not sit back and watch the person I love fade away as he finds someone else while I am too busy being indecisive.
all true but i can't fight my innate reaction.

it's not necessarily about feelings it is more about sharing that private world. for myself i have close friends i have known for decades who only a year ago did i decide to tell my story to. it makes me wonder, can you ever truly know a libra? then again, can you ever truly know anyone?

you're right, i probably should be more proactive in my life but it's hard. some things are easier to ask for than others. and yes, i am always waiting for the right time, the right moment because i know if my timing is correct then my chance of success will be greater.
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You need to literally tell him. But before you do that, what is his moon?

Taurus is a bold and brave sign, they are expressive in actions and words, if you are the bigger person to confess your feelings first, I' am positive he will looks at you with utmost respect and admiration. Even if he is not into, I'm sure you two will remain friends. Literally anyone would appreciate someone coming forward with their feelings towards that person, who wouldnt?

I remember, back in november when my libra and i were on a break, i developed a massive crush on a leo, and after months of thinking how i was going to tell him how i felt (the leo and i were friends for a year), i finally told him, and when i did. omg! he went bananas! he was sooo shocked, and ecstatic i told him. he had a crush on me too. but he ended up rejecting me because i liked him more than he liked me. but his respect for me never changed, we are civil now.

just imagine how your taurus would feel if he looked you in the eyes and told you he is the person you are looking for and you will never hurt him, wouldnt you just be overwhelmed with joy? make him feel that way 🙂
Is there a chance he would stop speaking with me, or completely leave? That's what I'm concerned about. Whenever we see him I always tell him "it's so nice to see you, I have missed you much." Whenever I offer to make plans he says "another day." Every other weekend he's with his kids, so timing has been challenging.
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How do I reassure my Taurus I am the person he's looking for and will never hurt him??
how do i reassure my libra the same —? 😢 i dont think he knows...
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Wining and dining us is a good start. Actually, it's a little known technique that Scorpio does well to make us feel comfortable to let our guard down a little. It's all about making us feel secure, loved, and needed. Love peoms, we like when someone writes us something, or find something beautiful and reads it to us.

What's his reason for holding back again? You're both young and in college?
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".1) When someone is trying to attract Libra's attention, libra will be skeptical, will try to subtlety decipher the other persons intent through a technique of "trust me." We need to know what the other person is after? Will they harm us? Are they trying to use me? Are they sincere? Is this a rebound? Will this person affect my plans? After learning about me, other person can reject me or leave me; complete and total devastation for Libra. Other person needs to always understand that Libra FEARS loss; even if in a secure relationship. The more vulnerable you are (doesn't have to be all the time) means the less likely of you leaving us.

2) When Libra is trying to attract someone else's attention, will most likely provide any information or thing needed to gain; what Libra wants most. Libra always feels and believes there is a necessary sacrifice, something that MUST be given up, in order to make that gain. "No" has little to no meaning to us. This may force us to go to extreme sides, remember we are scales, we only take sides, rarely an in between. Libra is patient and will fight to the death for something/someone, until there is no recourse left, they will hold their head high and completely walk away. No going back.

Do you do hot and cold tests? What things or actions do you do to see the true intentions of another? Do you test a person by not answering texts or messages and going hot and then cold and see how long the person puts up with it?
Testing someone is tricky. You have to observe how they treat you infront their friends, in public, and the small things they do, not the big things. Does he always remeber everything you say? Does he bring you coffee/tea in the morning without you having to ask? Does he remeber, maybe you don't like onions and he will remind the server at the restaurant you're at?

When we meet someone new they are on their best behavior. After 3 -6 months, this is when people feel comfortable to let their guard down. This is when he really start to OBSERVE your behavior. What you do, how you do it, where you go and when. During this time, we carefully look to see what and if you are doing anything different from the first day we have met you. So many people fail here. It's so important to be yourself and not lie or deceive.

I do test jealousy by hugging guy friends. No
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Had some time to analyze his behavior,... recently, I'm the only one he hugs. Not with him all the time, but have noticed this over the previous 4 weeks. One of his crushes is fuming, she looks at me with "stares of death." Sometimes I feel as if she would attack me. Anyway, can Taurus identify jealousy with one of the people he's flirting with? Do they do anything about it? Or let it go?
i do notice that Taurus suns, even Moons, strong taurus in charts really do a great analysis. It's as if they are excellent observers. It might just be earth in general, Digging DEEP into the earth, and analyzing good.
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Did you really "want" his view or did you "demand" it? If you demanded it, then you probably fucked yourself on this one. He'll most likely dissappear for a while and come back when he thinks it's safe. That can be days, weeks, or months. When a guy/girl needs, wants, demands and answer we feel threatened and dissappear. It's to let people know "CALM THE FUCK DOWN!" in a not so subtle way.needless to say, we are difficult but extremely loyal once you have us.
Politely asked for his view in a Leo moon kind of dramatic way!! I don't know why I needed to. His affirmation when we were together and he told me to my face that he enjoyed the time we spent for me to stay in touch etc. Shot self in foot! It's hard being a Leo rising with a Leo moon, an Aries in merc and a venus pisces!! One hot mess!!! Lol
all that fire combined with stable Taurus sun, sounds like you are the woman in charge, lady who wears the pants in the relationship 😉 doesn't sound like a bad thing to me because at least you know who you are!

I struggle with my placements.

My stable, earthy, bold, decisive, assertive Taurus Sun, argues with my passive, gentle, and indecisive Libra rising, AND to top it off, all my morals, self control, and dignity go BURSTING out of the window like a bomb went off when my Aries Venus decides to make an appearance!!!!

I'M CURSED
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My Taurus has Venus in Virgo, had separate topic on that too. Not much advice was offered.
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Had some time to analyze his behavior,... recently, I'm the only one he hugs. Not with him all the time, but have noticed this over the previous 4 weeks. One of his crushes is fuming, she looks at me with "stares of death." Sometimes I feel as if she would attack me. Anyway, can Taurus identify jealousy with one of the people he's flirting with? Do they do anything about it? Or let it go?
i do notice that Taurus suns, even Moons, strong taurus in charts really do a great analysis. It's as if they are excellent observers. It might just be earth in general, Digging DEEP into the earth, and analyzing good.
We do. I have 3 placements in taurus and two in Virgo. I analysed the taurus with the sag moon and VIG for 5 months and that's when I realised we could be nothing but friends. His flighty manner and his talkative flirtatiousness prevented my venus in pisces from trusting it. It could not feel deep with his placements and my venus in pisces needs to have deep soul connection and it can sense this within people of interest.

Whereas with the libra with his venus in scorpio it made an immediate attachment the minute I was in his presence. even when he was doing the cooking and had his back to me I could feel his quiet energy. My pisces in venus automatically senses it can make a deep love connection with his energy. I felt I had known him for years.

We observe a lot. We speak with our eyes. Watch the movement of our eyes not our tongues. We say very little but our eyes observe and any water placements we have will pick up your energy whether it be air water or fire energy. Don't forget that many taurus have pisces placements and pisces is the sign of psychic abilities and intuitive. It can channel into a person's energy.
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"We speak with our eyes." I was going to ask about that. When he's speaking with other people he stares at me through the corner of his eyes. It's as if he wants see a reaction. He also does the same thing when he pretends to drink water, you know how you tip your head back when you're drinking from a bottle, he does that and stares at me through the corner of
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How do I reassure my Taurus I am the person he's looking for and will never hurt him??
how do i reassure my libra the same —? 😢 i dont think he knows...
Wining and dining us is a good start. Actually, it's a little known technique that Scorpio does well to make us feel comfortable to let our guard down a little. It's all about making us feel secure, loved, and needed. Love peoms, we like when someone writes us something, or find something beautiful and reads it to us.

What's his reason for holding back again? You're both young and in college?
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Yes we are young and in college, so he says that's the reason why he isn't ready to commit. BUT I believe it is because he is scared and has trust issues. His ex cheating on him, he took her back, and then she cheated on him again. I haven't seen him in almost 4 weeks. I miss him so much I just want to look at him and tell him it's okay, I'll take care of you. But I think he is skeptical because he has had his heart broken.

How can I be there for him? How can I make a libra trust me without taking 10 years?
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Continued from previous... hea drinking water and staring at me, through corner of his eyes, but he remains facing the person he's speaking to. Does this have a specific meaning, or is it part of his observation?
Part of observing. I think he likes you. When my libra and I are hanging out with friends, he will stare at me too. I love it. I feel wanted.
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@mysteriousTaurus, ... it will be very challenging to immediately change his mind. Most important things you can do to speed the process is show him how much you love him by your words and actions.

Make his favorite meals/snacks. Continue reaching out to him everyday, especially in the morning, that when we look for our lovers to make sure they are thinking of us.

It has been long enough that you should know what is bothering him. Have you spoken to him about his ex? Are you sure this is the obstacle?
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Do you do hot and cold tests? What things or actions do you do to see the true intentions of another? Do you test a person by not answering texts or messages and going hot and then cold and see how long the person puts up with it?
i know this is addressed to se but i am also throwing my two penneth in.

i don't test. i don't play games. i observe. i ask questions and listen to the answers. not just the words but how it was answered, when it was answered and the attitude related to me, the topic and the conversation. i don't gather my information once and then stop, i do it over a period of time and in a number of circumatances until i can start to anticipate the reaction. librans are analytical. we're not feelers, we're thinkers. logic is our weapon.

with that said, looking at the libra board, the men are different to the women. i think they dabble much more in hit and run.
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Taurus is a bold and brave sign, they are expressive in actions and words, if you are the bigger person to confess your feelings first.
Taurus will NEVER leave something or someone it wants. Taurus LOVES openness and HONESTY..
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are you both on drugs? taurus may love openness but they are one of the most non-expressive signs about! true, honestly is favoured but their feelings may as well be written on the dead sea scrolls.

expressive in actions, ok. in words? no way, no how.
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Posted by busyeyes88
I don't understand why people just can't communicate. Would he have felt better if I told him that I did not like him?!!!! Why is it so complicated. The guessing games. the hot and the cold... I get so bored of this way of acting. That by time the person comes to their senses. I've deleted their number etc. and have gone about my business!!!!! I'm proactive. I start mirroring without meaning. Ie if the person becomes flaky.. I become flaky. Etc.

My personality does not fear rejection... It will tell you point blank from day one how it feels and my fixed emotions in leo will not change. It is steadfast. All it wants to know is the thoughts of the the other person. That's it. It can handle the ugly truths.. It needs to know so that it does not waste time on one person when it should be with someone else. As I cannot multi date and my venus in pisces takes years and years before it can attach itself to anyone so when it does find that rare connection it is bold and direct. I do not waste time or want to waste the other person's time.

A person will always know where they stand with me. Lover friend or foe.. They will never have to guess. I am all or nothing. I am loyal to the death and will always have that person's back...
perhaps busy if you wanted someone exactly like you, you should date yourself.

we are not all the same. some of us operate a faster time scale then others. you might know your feelings but you can't assume that just because you know them, the other person is at the same stage you are and if they are not, then they should be. you must allow for differences.

it goes back to what i was saying in the other thread. my taurus is not on timetable. i don't think, well 1 year in we should be doing this, or year 2 we will be here. i enjoy his company. he enjoys mine. there is no sense in complicating it with everything else. it is just noise. it's like everyone is racing to a finish line that doesn't exist.

do you like this libra? good. is he a good guy? excellent. then try and spend more time with him. the rest will work itself out.
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Posted by SophiaEva
You would think being 15 years younger, intelligent, good job, goals, money, attractive, healthy, honest, loving...etc ... he would consider me "perfect" ... I'm like a Stepford Wife, I'm too good to be real; nobody wants to be with me. I've really had men tell me this. .. 😢
that sounds like such horse shit. (not you, the reason).

i'd be interested to know from the guys if this is a valid reason or just something said not to hurt someone's feelings.
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Posted by SophiaEva
You would think being 15 years younger, intelligent, good job, goals, money, attractive, healthy, honest, loving...etc ... he would consider me "perfect" ... I'm like a Stepford Wife, I'm too good to be real; nobody wants to be with me. I've really had men tell me this. .. 😢
that sounds like such horse shit. (not you, the reason).

i'd be interested to know from the guys if this is a valid reason or just something said not to hurt someone's feelings.
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I think they were trying to be nice and say "no"
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Sophia, I disagree and say that he is into you, he probably just wants to go slow.. work and the kids ya know.. take it one day at a time, but keep flirting with him and make sure your hair, nails, only a little makeup, and outfit is always on point!! jewelry too, thats what i LOVE about both venus signs, taurus and libras, my libras always complimented me on my jewelry, made me feel like a million bucks
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Not me I am an open book blame it on the moon and rising aspect, smdh. I will take control and initiate.. I go for it head first and think later, then I constantly struggle..within my self. Should I accept a flirty type of guy who has nothing but female friends. ..

You can provoke jealous bits if you talk or flirt in front of me with another dime piece. Lol. actions still speak louder than words

But in the end I am more possessive than jealous. My guard is always up..if I like someone my feelings might get sensitive if I feel I am not enough for you. .
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Posted by mysteriousTaurus
Sophia, I disagree and say that he is into you, he probably just wants to go slow.. work and the kids ya know.. take it one day at a time, but keep flirting with him and make sure your hair, nails, only a little makeup, and outfit is always on point!! jewelry too, thats what i LOVE about both venus signs, taurus and libras, my libras always complimented me on my jewelry, made me feel like a million bucks
I always make sure I look my best when with him, and he does to, always matching clothes and shoes. Yes, will take my time with him and see what naturally progesses.

Have you gotten in touch with your Libra?