Dating

So...I have been single now for nigh on 6 months. And I think it's high time I get back on the dating scene as I feel ready to do so. Question is, how do I do this? I'm fed up of meeting men at nightclubs or pubs or anywhere alcohol is involved, it's not the best place to always make a reasoned decision on whether you like someone or not. Work? Well, there's 2 guys I like: 1 is a Cancer and is very. very shy so the chances of us even exchanging more than a 'hello' in the next year are slim. 2 is a Cappy who has recently dumped his fiancee and who told me he has feelings for me, but he's now cooled it right off after I told him it was too soon after his split and that surely he needed some space (I felt increasingly uncomfortable with the amount of time he was spouting off about his ex and I don't want to be a rebound). He agreed to this, but when I asked him whether he'd consider going on a date after he's had time to grieve this past relationship he said he didn't know what he'd be feeling: I don't do great with no reassurance so I'm not sure it's worth waiting about for. I really like him, but I just don't know anymore. When I try speak to him about it, all I get is that he doesn't know what else to say. Therefore I think he's either not interested anymore or else I upset him by suggesting we have space and this is his way of 'punishing' me. So work is not the best place to meet anyone at the moment!

Any ideas of good places to meet people?

Well I don't think it's a matter of WHERE you meet the person. I think it's a combination of things: Where, when, how you're dressed & the atmosphere. I get what you're saying though about the club atmosophere & I agree that it's not the best place to meet a good, well-rounded man. Sure, there are some that go to the club, but the problem is you have to go through 10 shallow-minded guys before you get to the 1 guy who was actually looking for a serious commitment.

All I can say to you is don't worry about where you should meet him. Whether you're at church, the club, the library, the mall, on a vacation/trip, at a family reunion, at work or jogging in your neighborhood, let love find you! There really is no RIGHT OR WRONG place to find love. It's all about how you carry yourself when you're at the place. You can AND will attract the same shallow commitment-phobe men even in the best places. But if you carry yourself the right way & send off an aura about yourself that says "Allergic to bull" then only the men that apply will naturally come to you. Just based on how you carry yourself will make it easier to weed out the shallow from the serious. You can go to a club, send off a great vibe about yourself & if you do it right, the 1 guy in there who's there for non-shallow reasons will approach you. And the same goes for anywhere you might meet the next man for you. And yeah, with the Capricorn at work, let him go. He's confused & all he wants is a way out b/c he's not ready yet to deal with the pain & healing from his last relationship. Just like high schoolers, he believes that if he replaces his ex, he'll get over her. But in the adult world, we all know that is not the way to heal from someone long term. Guys like him (confused) end up starting new relationships & going back to their ex's. But atleast he was honest about being confused. He could've lied & acted like his ex didn't exist & had you thinking that you actually had a shot at something long-term with him.