Detest changes but what i detest being pushed into

changes by others and circumstances simply so i'm not left behind. smh. Sad thing is the only thing that is consistant in life is change. Stuck in a rut for 10 years. not sure how to climb out of this one.

How can one hate change and yet say they're stuck in a rut for 10 years? The real problem here isn't change; it's self-acceptance. Some people seemingly have it better off. Others are living on the streets or in a war zone. Happiness, to the extent that we can obtain it, resides in finding peace in yourself and cultivating an attitude of gratitude for the good that's in your life. Look there are times when we have to confront problems. No doubt about it. But often we dwell on petty problems and get hung up over minor annoyances. It's at those times, most of the time really, that it pays to pay more attention to the people who love us, the people we love, the things that make us happy. Life is short and tomorrow is promised to no one. Therefore, try to find the good in life each day and gather ye roses buds while ye may.

Posted by Este8
How can one hate change and yet say they're stuck in a rut for 10 years? The real problem here isn't change; it's self-acceptance. Some people seemingly have it better off. Others are living on the streets or in a war zone. Happiness, to the extent that we can obtain it, resides in finding peace in yourself and cultivating an attitude of gratitude for the good that's in your life. Look there are times when we have to confront problems. No doubt about it. But often we dwell on petty problems and get hung up over minor annoyances. It's at those times, most of the time really, that it pays to pay more attention to the people who love us, the people we love, the things that make us happy. Life is short and tomorrow is promised to no one. Therefore, try to find the good in life each day and gather ye roses buds while ye may.

Good advice. The reason I say this is because I've spent a life being focused on the needs of others and now I look back wondering where the last 10 years of my life have gone. My years were spent living for someone else.

Well if you're a woman that's a very womanly thing to do. Giving and receiving is a balance but we hold the scales. It's totally okay to say no to the people we love. When you feel like you give too much, pull back. Besides if someone is really your friend they will understand. So the answer is to reclaim your personal power and to not try to buy love/loyalty by being the one who always says yes. Again, these are common female problems. But the solution is also in our hands. Don't disempower yourself. Be true to yourself by being honest with others and you'll both be better off for it. That's the ticket.

Posted by Este8
Well if you're a woman that's a very womanly thing to do. Giving and receiving is a balance but we hold the scales. It's totally okay to say no to the people we love. When you feel like you give too much, pull back. Besides if someone is really your friend they will understand. So the answer is to reclaim your personal power and to not try to buy love/loyalty by being the one who always says yes. Again, these are common female problems. But the solution is also in our hands. Don't disempower yourself. Be true to yourself by being honest with others and you'll both be better off for it. That's the ticket.

lol... that's a proven fact. I don't like men for that very reason .

Posted by Este8
How can one hate change and yet say they're stuck in a rut for 10 years? The real problem here isn't change; it's self-acceptance. Some people seemingly have it better off. Others are living on the streets or in a war zone. Happiness, to the extent that we can obtain it, resides in finding peace in yourself and cultivating an attitude of gratitude for the good that's in your life. Look there are times when we have to confront problems. No doubt about it. But often we dwell on petty problems and get hung up over minor annoyances. It's at those times, most of the time really, that it pays to pay more attention to the people who love us, the people we love, the things that make us happy. Life is short and tomorrow is promised to no one. Therefore, try to find the good in life each day and gather ye roses buds while ye may.

Very true.

Oh change is for the better usually. We can't change anyone, they have to do it. I can procrastinate along time. Alittle reality check and changes happen alot in one day to one month to one year. Depends on the situations. In dating. Don't change yourself but adapting is what I can and will do if your the right one. Once I am focused change is better. Stay determined and have goals. They make take a while but they we'll make it happens.