Do Taurus men have a wandering eye? (Page 2)

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Posted by Goldfish
I've had just a lightbulb moment thanks to busyeyes
Next time I'm with the Bull I will make a concious effort to look extra good and attract a few men and see what he does.
OP I suggest the same

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how is that going to help the lack of communication in your relationship?
if anything it's going to retard it.
is that what you want?
a retarded relationship—

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The lack of communication is due to his cold distant reserved nature. I'm a volcano ready to explode any minute. Pisces and Latina too.
Sorry but it seems like Taurus man can't handle it.

Last time I saw my Taurus I had to travel to see him and I was unsure about what to pack and he said "denim trousers, flat shoes/trainers and a sweater. ...
I packed a little better than that but still the women around were very well dressed and I asked him why he made a point to tell me to go so casual!? Thankfully I have style.
Anyway he notices women wearing skirts and heels for every occasion and comments in a bad way.
It seems to me now he is trying to make me look plain. He never pays me compliments about my looks and this is another huge red flag that hurts deeply.
Sorry OP again for the highjack

Thanks but I decided I will be myself and keep being what makes me comfortable in my own skin . If not good enough for the Bull he can be gone I don't even care anymore .
I managed to see and love him for who he is underneath his 200lbs body and he can't even feed my feminine energy once in a while telling me I look ok but dares to look and mention other women, fuck it. I am pissed of right now, yeah I nearly finished a bottle of red wine on my own and I want to message him but becoming distant is a better policy because that is what he does all the time.

Posted by tiziani
At that point, it's hard for him to look at other women with the same appetite he has for you in his mind.

this. this is a well kept secret from women. i think what a lot of women don't understand is when you are able to 'captivate' men it doesn't matter if megan fox walks by, he won't move. but if you aren't able to hit those spots in him (for whatever reason), then even looking like megan fox won't keep him hanging around.

@goldfish- cheers! I drank a bottle of wine and now I'm at the pub down the street. Chatted up my cap friend and I'm heading home. Bull has texted wondering when I'll be home to snuggle. The longer this day goes on the more pissed I get. Ugh

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Posted by Goldfish
Thanks but I decided I will be myself and keep being what makes me comfortable in my own skin . If not good enough for the Bull he can be gone I don't even care anymore .
I managed to see and love him for who he is underneath his 200lbs body and he can't even feed my feminine energy once in a while telling me I look ok but dares to look and mention other women, fuck it. I am pissed of right now, yeah I nearly finished a bottle of red wine on my own and I want to message him but becoming distant is a better policy because that is what he does all the time.

Instead of finishing a bottle of red perhaps you should be "finishing" with him!!!! Why go for a man who has a 200lb body in an LDR when you can get a guy within your range closer to home?! Just saying!!

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Because I liked his personality and I'm attracted to him regardless and beyond appearances.
But as we don't even have time to spend together and get to know each other properly and iron out the misunderstandings, all I can see now are red flags waving in my face. Chances are most of them are products of my paranoid and ultra sensitive nature but I just can't know because we're so far away. He calls me when my daughter is around and I have the feeling he is avoiding skype or maybe he is just there on the other side felling as insecure as I am. But I can be stubborn too and I'm not moving.
I ordered ages ago a little practical gift that will be very useful for him, I couldn't resist and will send as soon as it arrives but I don't have the energy to pursue him anymore. It is so sad. I feel as though as he put the fire of my passion out.
Being more rational he probably realised it is too complicated and not worth it, who knows?

@Gold fish - so do you believe in physical attraction is the most important aspect in a courtship/relationship?

And then sexual compatibility is to be determined together, as soon as one has sex it is determined then and now? If you're compatible ..

And so if the sex isn't great then physical attraction isn't important any more..right?

Is it all about personality traits and characteristics only? what about him do you find appealing?

@busyeyes... Although I don't always agree with you, I appreciate your tenacity and passion 🙂 cheers!

@goldfish- I must say I agree that a LDR isn't best for Taurus. Even when my bull moved out things changed.


I've been thinking so much about what to do with my bull that it's driving me to deep clean my house. I wish I was this detached Aqua that I've read so much about. Instead I hate giving up... I give too much of myself and I keep trying when I feel I can't do any more 😢

Thanks all.
At the beginning I didn't want to get involved, he insisted, everything was wonderful, now this....
I appreciate all the input, thanks.
I feel very stupid and depressed right now. I won't be coming back to this thread.

Don't leave @goldfish!

Yes taurus men will look but I feel they don't practice what they preach if they make a rule for u not look then they do it that's not right. I feel rules should be made on both sides of the fence. Not just for one person. If you tell them up front. That u don't agree then they should respect that and so should you. I'm a leo but see i feel u should treat others the way you want to be treated. Plain and simple. I never look at other guys because I'm in love and love looking at my one handsome guy and he's a taurus too. I always complement him and no one else. I try to make him feel special. And i respect him no to glance at another guy. And since he knows I don't like him glancing he never does it around me. But when you are really in love with that person u actually naturally give them respect and actually really truly can't see no one else but them. It's like ur hypnotized. And u just don't have eyes for Noone but them.

Yes taurus men will look but I feel they don't practice what they preach if they make a rule for u not look then they do it that's not right. I feel rules should be made on both sides of the fence. Not just for one person. If you tell them up front. That u don't agree then they should respect that and so should you. I'm a leo but see i feel u should treat others the way you want to be treated. Plain and simple. I never look at other guys because I'm in love and love looking at my one handsome guy and he's a taurus too. I always complement him and no one else. I try to make him feel special. And i respect him no to glance at another guy. And since he knows I don't like him glancing he never does it around me. But when you are really in love with that person u actually naturally give them respect and actually really truly can't see no one else but them. It's like ur hypnotized. And u just don't have eyes for Noone but them.

So update... Since I've given my bull his deadline I have seen some improvements. He said that he thought about things and realizes I was right- that he has been "self absorbed"- his words- and that he wants to change for us. That he does still want to be with me and my son.

Today I was working but my son had off from school. He watched my son all day and everyone seemed happy when I got home.

I'm not sure if things are really going to change, but I know he does love me and he's trying. There is no way that he is the kind of guy to string my son along just to string me along until he "finds something better".

I'm his first long term relationship and I think for some reason (maybe the way his parents were together) that he just doesn't get it. What women want/need.

I see some of you saying Taurus likes independent women... Others saying they like someone to depend on them. I was really independent when we met, but became more dependent as we were together. Now I'm becoming more independent again... But I still need the little things that make me feel like a woman and special. Those are the things I'm looking to improve

You can be independent and still prompt your man to take charge (if you like it this way) and to act like a proper man. In other words, don't take away his manhood from him. You gotta let him use his masculine energy.

My last partner (husband/Aqua) was a man child. I knew he was a mum's boy from the beginning but because I was healing from a bully pyscho narc Virgo I decide to give the Aqua with a more aloof and passive energy a go. I was also his 1st serious relationship and he also had not very good relationship role models when growing up…I can tell you, it did not work at all.
The guy couldn't run a house, couldn't run his bank account, couldn't make a decision without asking me or his mum unless the decision was something to do with his own selfish needs.

To give you an example, he had tooth ache one day, I was working from home, he interrupt me to ask for me to call the dentist and book him an appointment…I told him I was busy and he was able to it himself (this was towards the end of the relationship of 9 years I was FED UP), he then got angry and all passive/aggressive and started arguing with me and trying to emotionally blackmail me IN FRONT OF A CLIENT. When I didn't give in he kept bothering me for the dentist phone number because he could not find it, he could not google it, he could not remember the name of the road where the dentist was located (5 minutes from our house) and yes, he had been there before many times…

But, the problem was that I allowed it all to happen because he was playing the victim/weak guy, helpless game from the beginning and I felt an immense power in be the one fixing, solving, getting it together, figuring it all out…it felt good for a certain time but ultimately it made me stop using my feminine energy and it made him stop using his masculine energy.. After while we were both resentful and angry at each other and we didn't even know why.
I just understood it all after I met a real man who knows how to treat a woman and who will take all the burden out of his own choice, so I can just relax in my feminine self, believe, trust and be "rescued"….in exchange I am naturally able to give him true appreciation, gratefulness and devotion feeding his masculine energy and then the cycle continues…


Now, I am not saying that your man will behave like my ex did and I am not saying that he will never fix himself. Just wanted to share my experience.

Good luck.

I just got my 4th job. I am financially independent even if it kills me 🙂 I starting feeling emotionally dependent on him. I think because I remembered how good he treated me at the beginning I kept hoping and waiting for that again... And became pathetically dependent on that hope.

I love being a strong woman but leading all the time (and financially supporting a man) is definitely not working for me. If it doesn't work out with my bull I won't allow that to happen to me again

Posted by Goldfish
You can be independent and still prompt your man to take charge (if you like it this way) and to act like a proper man. In other words, don't take away his manhood from him. You gotta let him use his masculine energy.

My last partner (husband/Aqua) was a man child. I knew he was a mum's boy from the beginning but because I was healing from a bully pyscho narc Virgo I decide to give the Aqua with a more aloof and passive energy a go. I was also his 1st serious relationship and he also had not very good relationship role models when growing up…I can tell you, it did not work at all.
The guy couldn't run a house, couldn't run his bank account, couldn't make a decision without asking me or his mum unless the decision was something to do with his own selfish needs.

To give you an example, he had tooth ache one day, I was working from home, he interrupt me to ask for me to call the dentist and book him an appointment…I told him I was busy and he was able to it himself (this was towards the end of the relationship of 9 years I was FED UP), he then got angry and all passive/aggressive and started arguing with me and trying to emotionally blackmail me IN FRONT OF A CLIENT. When I didn't give in he kept bothering me for the dentist phone number because he could not find it, he could not google it, he could not remember the name of the road where the dentist was located (5 minutes from our house) and yes, he had been there before many times…

But, the problem was that I allowed it all to happen because he was playing the victim/weak guy, helpless game from the beginning and I felt an immense power in be the one fixing, solving, getting it together, figuring it all out…it felt good for a certain time but ultimately it made me stop using my feminine energy and it made him stop using his masculine energy.. After while we were both resentful and angry at each other and we didn't even know why.
I just understood it all after I met a real man who knows how to treat a woman and who will take all the burden out of his own choice, so I can just relax in my feminine self, believe, trust and be "rescued"….in exchange I am naturally able to give him true appreciation, gratefulness and devotion feeding his masculine energy and then the cycle continues…


Now, I am not saying that your man will behave like my ex did and I am not saying that he will never fix himself. Just wanted to share my experience.

Good luck.

wow and you stayed 9 years? you must have loved him or you wouldnt have stayed so long? and he sounds like he was enabled from his mother (since he asks his mummy) that's just how some guys are. They are looking for what their mothers are like, or somewhat similar.

Posted by MissAquarious
I just got my 4th job. I am financially independent even if it kills me 🙂 I starting feeling emotionally dependent on him. I think because I remembered how good he treated me at the beginning I kept hoping and waiting for that again... And became pathetically dependent on that hope.

I love being a strong woman but leading all the time (and financially supporting a man) is definitely not working for me. If it doesn't work out with my bull I won't allow that to happen to me again

what are your bulls placements?

the few bulls i have known /met wanted to take care of me. that was in the past. would pay for everything. I never suggested anything either, they did.
so maybe it's placements and upbringing (and their financial status of course)

i guess there are some men out there that want to be the man and protect but it seems there are plenty of other "types" of course. basing off this thread. so that's good. There's no generic one type.

Posted by MissAquarious
I just got my 4th job. I am financially independent even if it kills me 🙂 I starting feeling emotionally dependent on him. I think because I remembered how good he treated me at the beginning I kept hoping and waiting for that again... And became pathetically dependent on that hope.

I love being a strong woman but leading all the time (and financially supporting a man) is definitely not working for me. If it doesn't work out with my bull I won't allow that to happen to me again

Hi MissAquarius,

I've read your previous posts and have refrained from commenting since others, in particular the Tauruses, have given you some excellent advice. I'm not a Taurus, but married to one. But reading this I felt compelled to comment. I think yours is a very codependent relationship, you on him emotionally, and him on you financially, as you clearly realise. These relationships are never good in the long run. A 4th job?!! And what exactly is he doing? How is he contributing to the relationship? Besides awesome sex and the occasional washing up??

I am surprised however that your Taurus was quick to want to be in a serious relationship with you although he was financially not stable. My husband waited to even date me, let alone be in long-term relationship with me, because he wanted to make sure that not only was he financially secure but that he could also take care of me. Not that I needed taking care of, since I have my own career and doing very well. My point is, being financially secure and confident that he could take care of both of us and the family we're going to raise together was of utmost importance to him.

I sincerely hope the changes both of you are trying to make would bear fruit. I wish you the best.

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Posted by tiziani
At that point, it's hard for him to look at other women with the same appetite he has for you in his mind.

this. this is a well kept secret from women. i think what a lot of women don't understand is when you are able to 'captivate' men it doesn't matter if megan fox walks by, he won't move. but if you aren't able to hit those spots in him (for whatever reason), then even looking like megan fox won't keep him hanging around.

Timing is everything, and consistent effort. It's one thing to put the fantasy in his mind, another to find the motivation to consistently nurture it and keep it there. And of course it should only be done for a man who's willing to put in his own effort to keep her happy. Keep the dream alive!

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Taking notes over here. Teach me oh wise ones!!