hi ttttt

i have a question for you taurus... how often would you have sex in 24 hours if you are over 30? and how long do you usually last? this question is for taurus men but women can give me an idea as well... just curious... thanxx

LoL what—

What a peculiar thing to ask..


I don't know, how much time have you got??... lol 😛

My Taurus is 41 and he can go twice a day, three some days, lasts about an hour with foreplay (actual sex about 20 minutes unless he's got empty balls and then he'll just go and go until he can't move anymore. And it's a very healthy sex drive - 4 to 6 nights a week.

Shit, is it any wonder we're both so tired? lol!

Oh is this the wrong question to be asking me. 😛

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LoL what—

What a peculiar thing to ask..


I don't know, how much time have you got??... lol 😛

ROFLMAO

*Snort*

Just man up and answer the damn question brah......😉

*setting aside needlework* Right. You asked for it...

I will engage in the morning when greeted with the object of my desire. "Well good morning to YOU sir..and a very good morning for ME." In the afternoon, in the evening, when the wind blows, the sun sets, there is a random ripple on a lake, or when the dog decides to crack one off. In short, whenever...however...no matter how short, or how long. A quickie or a marathon session is never amiss in my world. If there is desire, there is sweat and heat. Kissing and touching and bodies joined. Everything good.
Children are not a deterrent nor an excuse. Oh hello, what a lovely movie to watch for a time..need to go help Daddy find something ( why yes,...ME ). And I would and will send text messages of all the fine wrecking to be had and plot and plan what I'm'a gonna do to that man o' mine. And put it into full and glorious effect. It's allllll good. Answer your question?

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*setting aside needlework* Right. You asked for it...

I will engage in the morning when greeted with the object of my desire. "Well good morning to YOU sir..and a very good morning for ME." In the afternoon, in the evening, when the wind blows, the sun sets, there is a random ripple on a lake, or when the dog decides to crack one off. In short, whenever...however...no matter how short, or how long. A quickie or a marathon session is never amiss in my world. If there is desire, there is sweat and heat. Kissing and touching and bodies joined. Everything good.
Children are not a deterrent nor an excuse. Oh hello, what a lovely movie to watch for a time..need to go help Daddy find something ( why yes,...ME ). And I would and will send text messages of all the fine wrecking to be had and plot and plan what I'm'a gonna do to that man o' mine. And put it into full and glorious effect. It's allllll good. Answer your question?

You're a reeaalll F.R.E.A.K....

AND a Taurus.

i know how freak you are!!!!! thank you guys for your replys

wish my Taurus was a freak and wanted sex more often..how do i get him to do that? errr

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aquagirl returns......lol! *squirt-squirt*

LOL BAD KITTY!

Delishhh, at the risk of sounding a bit silly, do you appeal to all his senses? By that I mean make it a point too.

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aquagirl returns......lol! *squirt-squirt*

LOL BAD KITTY!

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Hmmm....sounds to me like Nemesis kitty isn't so bad 😉 LMAO!

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AND a Taurus.

+1 🙂 Ditto, and whatever hullaballoooo goes with that there flag!

LOL Yeh! Freak flag flying ( at a discreet half mast and in camo colors to blend in with its surroundings... ) and proud of it!



Awwwww Nem, those big ol' liquid eyes. 🙂

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Delishhh, at the risk of sounding a bit silly, do you appeal to all his senses? By that I mean make it a point too.

I hope I appeal to all his senses :\ we've only been together for a year (long distance) and see each other a couple times a week. We used to have sex only one of those nights a week and that was it. I didn't wanna go begging for sex so I never asked for it cuz sex should come naturally. And I just asked him I would love to have sex more often, i mean come on, we're a pretty young couple (him being 23, me 24). I said to him, we only have sex at night, why not in the morning or afternoon? and he would just say because I barely see u in the afternoon (which is a lie we see each other a lot more now) and in the morning he just forgets. All he's doing is making up excuses when he could just tell me "Baby, I can have sex with u anytime of the day! Lets do it!!!" But its not even like that at all...he's so slow to move and react. When i tell him i'm horny he just smiles *sigh* What to do Venusianbull ? 😐

If I'm not appealing to all his senses, i think i might need ur help in that department. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong. I'm so used to just crazy, in the moment sex, whenever, wherever.

LOL ^^ I like that.

First off delishh, let's leave *wrong* or *doing something wrong* and put its nose in the corner.

In the morning, roll over ( or not, there is always the option of just latching on. ) and drift your hands down his body. Your mission, should you choose to accept, is his penis. Operation Seduction. Yes, there, I said it. Arouse his body before he wakes, soft kisses, strokes..so when he wakes up thought just went clean out the window.
Teasing..teasing with the Bull. Drift by in something soft, smelling absolutely amazing ( light spritz of perfume you love, clean skin and soft hair ) and just come in close and touch him. Press your body against his, bring your form in nice and tight. Let your hand caress him..and walk away with a smile on your face and a sparkle in your eyes.
In a crowd cradle his bottom or stroke the length of him ( discreetly! ) and walk away. It's sly and naughty and something shared. But it also makes him sit on his bottom ( later my man..oh later ) and engender a CHASE. You are in control of this. You don't want him in control, you want him out of it. Be a seductress. On we go. Excuse yourself to the restroom during a dinner out, powder your nose. Sneaky this one, insert a finger into yourself, come back out to the table and just put your hand on the side of his face or place your fingers on his mouth and smile. So he can smell and taste you.
Orr...walk back with him in your eyes, let your lips linger on your wine glass, enjoy your food..and truly enjoy that food. This is about mouth play, not dinner really. There's an art here, you don't want it to look ridiculous, you want sexy, mouth, oral. If you like a margarita, lightly lick the salt off rim and close your eyes.
Show your desire for him, don't tell him, DO IT. Massage his back, blitzkrieg him. Straddle him and lay the kiss of the century on him. Kiss, lick and bite the sides of his neck. Strut on out in a skirt sans panties and take his hand and place it where you want him to be. Invite him into the shower..there's a place you ..just can't seem to reach. Slowly bend over to pick something up and look back at him with that little shit eating grin on your face. Stretch slowly like a cat and let his eyes feast on you. TEASE. I bet he follows...BET. He just smiles when you tell him you're in the mood because he knows what he does to you..and he's in control, take it away. Hold it in your hands.

OH i've tried a lot of teasing but when i stop and wait for him to make a move, it doesn't happen. LOL about the going to the bathroom! I don't know how he'll react to that one, but we'll see 🙂

I just wish he was as adventurous in sex as I. He's never had sex in a car til he met me, and the craziest place he's had sex was at a park bathroom when he lost his virginity lol. That's just down right dirty, literally.

Anyways, i'll do my best and take it slow, tease him, and take my time hitting all the right spots. Sometimes i just can't help it cuz i'm a feisty little kitty who loves to "pounce". What I'm afraid of is rejection, him not wanting it when I've done all I could, but thx for the advice VB i'll be sure to take control 🙂

Not one thing wrong with pouncing, not one ( huge fan of it m'self ). And consider if you will that he is fearful of rejection too. Lord the things that go through a mans head during the act. "Am I doing this right? Ohhh God, she made THAT face..did I do that right?" Performance anxiety. Cripes the variables. Don't be AFRAID, afraid of what? This is your man. Your personal playground, where you should do anything and everything that stars and streaks across your brain with no hesitation and no self conscious thought should enter into that. Ever.
He's not as adventurous as you are in sex. Introduce one thing at a time, slowly. Or say to him "I'd like to try...THIS." And go into it with the agreement that if he doesn't care for it, move onto something else. ( You wouldn't just whip out a paddle and strop his arse if he didn't dig it, ye ken? )
Seduction is all about layering mood and emotions, building them up until you or he just explode..when the masks are dropped and the animals come out to play. That's right where you want a man.
Taurus is a lover, we wallow in sensual play. As with every other human being libido and tastes can differ. But as a lover it's about learning, adapting to ones partner and reaching a happy middle ground. And hopefully that's gloves off, no holds barred fun. Wreck a bed frame, christen every inch of the house, go outside, go anywhere the thrill and moment take you.
Make a good meal, light a room of candles ( a line of them trailing into the chamber of debauchery is quite nice ), massage him well, use something natural like hemp or almond oil. Make him feel good, hell make him feel GREAT in fact. King of the world. Object of your desire, for that is what he is. Take a bath together, go skinny dipping ( whooot! It's SUMMER! ). Play hide n' seek leaving one item of clothing leading up to you. Wrestle, start tickling him. Just sashay that booty up to him and straddle him on the couch. Hook one bare leg round the corner of the wall. Moon him and take off laughing. There's so much to do, and so many ways to do it. Everything and anything you think up, set it in motion. 🙂

Oh i tell this man all the time he's the best i've ever had (no lie) and he's amazing in bed. We've tried a couple things he hasn't done before, like the girl being on top, but for some reason whenever I do that, he gets soft. Sux because its one of my favorite positions. I tell him I would never reject him and make him feel like he should be fully comfortable with me. I stroke his package all the time, i kiss his neck (but he hates that cuz he's extremely ticklish) even giving him a massage tickles him, BUT he loves my cooking so hey im doin somethin right haha! I wanna be the best gf i can be to this man because he really deserves the world. Your advice has helped..i just gotta step up my game and slowly introduce him to new things and hope for the best...I dont know if all the air in his chart makes him non-sexual?

not non-sexual but not as sexual

He loses his erection when you're in dominant position? Interesting that. That's something in his mental mechanism methinks.
Onto another, have you sat down and talked with him? And when you do is it truly adult to adult convo minus giggling or nervous behavior? Two lovers should be able to discuss what goes on in the bedroom, not just "leave it behind closed doors."
I'm going to shelve his chart and concentrate on the man himself. And you. Do you feel his libido does not mesh with yours.
About the ticklish, that's a pressure issue of body to body contact. Maybe firmer touch would solve that one.
^^^^^ I say that because I'm highly ticklish, but done the right way for me it's phenomenal.
Heyyyy ho, you can cook! Score for you! Definitely and most seriously talk things over with your man. I think there's more going on in his noodle than he's admitting. And that is a hurdle that needs gone over and blasted through and by.

What's his mars?

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What's his mars?

the most detached sign ever, unfortunately :\

his Mars - Aquarius
my Mars - Capricorn

Posted by venusianbull
He loses his erection when you're in dominant position? Interesting that. That's something in his mental mechanism methinks.
Onto another, have you sat down and talked with him? And when you do is it truly adult to adult convo minus giggling or nervous behavior? Two lovers should be able to discuss what goes on in the bedroom, not just "leave it behind closed doors."
I'm going to shelve his chart and concentrate on the man himself. And you. Do you feel his libido does not mesh with yours.
About the ticklish, that's a pressure issue of body to body contact. Maybe firmer touch would solve that one.
^^^^^ I say that because I'm highly ticklish, but done the right way for me it's phenomenal.
Heyyyy ho, you can cook! Score for you! Definitely and most seriously talk things over with your man. I think there's more going on in his noodle than he's admitting. And that is a hurdle that needs gone over and blasted through and by.

Ya, I've sat down with him today and talked about it. He says I make him feel confident in bed and he says sex feels amazing, yet if it was really that amazing, why don't we do it more often? He says he's been trying and he prefers to have sex at night because its comfortable. I'm just worried about the future cuz i'm guessing his sex drive will decrease even more. A while back ago when we had an intimate conversation, he was too embarrassed to say but told me anyways. His ex never wanted sex and stopped becoming intimate after 2 years of them being together and hurt him a lot.

He's slowly becoming less and less intimate with me. This man was so different when we first met...we would literally make out just for a couple seconds and run to the bedroom together and he would gently push me on his bed and take my clothes off. AHhhh but now, its a challenge...we definitely have diff libidos.

I think there's something else going on. Stress, pressure from an outside source, mental worry. Something. Yes things can wax and wane occasionally due to this but you're noting a withdrawal from intimate time. Or rather a slide going downward. Literally and figuratively. That to me puts my wind up. Would have me scenting the air for problems, even if they're slight.
Whether he's feeling hemmed in, all the way to a hangnail he'd like to get rid of. I don't mean put him on the rack and give the ol' Spanish Inquisition complete with glaring overhead light source, but talk. Air things out. That his ex gave him ultimate rejection ( that to me would be a vicious cut, I give love with body as well as mind..reject that, you're rejecting my essence. ) he's got some battle scars. Don't we all really..however! This is a sore spot, and it needs addressed.

He might be stressed from work, but then again he moved up to a better position a couple months ago and is making more money. He's really happy with this new position since he doesn't have to work graveyard anymore, and he feels human again. What i have noticed is he usually does not make the first move if i don't make the move. Sometimes he thinks i don't want it. Sometimes he just goes straight to sleep. It hurts and i just cry myself to sleep. I need his touches, his kisses, his loving, in every way. Lately, I've waited for him to make the first move and once in a great while, he'll touch me down there and i just get weak all over and want it, just that fast.

When we first started going out, he was never affectionate, never held me, cuddled me, only kissed me here and there and held my hand. I asked him about that and he said he didn't know why he wasn't affectionate AND THEN he said him and his ex were never like that. And when they slept in the same bed, she never touched him because his body easily overheats (he used to work in a cooler) But damnit, even if he's hot i wrap the blanket over him and then cuddle with him! He has been more affectionate now, but as of the sex, i'm a little lost there. I asked him again "why don't we have sex more if it's so amazing?" he says "sex IS amazing" and then i asked again "i know it's amazing, but why don't we have more of it?" and he replies with "i don't know" ahhh he frustrates me sometimes.

Oh hon. I really think he's fearful of being rejected himself. Been groomed to do so by the ex..if that makes any sense. A part of him is afraid of being hurt like that again ( even if you'd never ever, and he knows it really. ) If he opens up completely there's a chance it could all happen again.
I'm not even going to get geared up over what fucked up women do to good men to make sure they're damned good and screwed up for a good woman to puzzle over. Or cry in her coffee cup over. That's a piss off all my own, and I'd have you up all night reading that particular soapbox stance of delight, so I'll move this along here.
He has GOT to wrap his brain around the fact that you find him so desirable you'd be accepting of him any time, any place. Tell him that, everything you said up there ^^^^, and tell him it hurts you. Does he know you cry yourself to sleep at times wanting something as simple as his arms round you? Touch is so damned important, humans wither without it. Animals too, every warm blooded thing on the planet needs touch. Affirmation of affection and care. And when it's twined with love and desire it's a way to continually loop the feelings. Love IS touch, love IS caring, love IS sex. Hand holding, canoodling, walking together, snuggling, all those warm and fuzzy words. Simple things that sure do mean one HELL of a lot. So much more to it than bumping uglies like a couple of cats in heat and give each other a thumbs up and 'smell ya later'.
"Better" position might not be less stressful, but a different type altogether as new expectations are laid down before him. It could mean more as new ways to go about the day are put down, if he's higher up, then people are coming to him with their b.s. and so on. Not less, DIFFERENT. And for a creature of rut, whether it's welcome or not it's a tailspin until the dust is settled and everything is sorted.
Lay it all out there for him in black and white. Get out the Sharpie and go to town with it. Tell him everything, and make sure to let him know that this is not judgmental, not meant to be hurtful, nor are you out to punish him emotionally in any way, shape or form. Not an argument, a discussion. One important to you both. He needs to know all this.

I agree with u completely, affection is soooo important. I told him, if there is no more affection, there is no more love, period! And I don't like change, unless its for the better. He's a great man, but he has it all hidden inside. Its very hard for him to voice his feelings unless he's writing it down. He's written me a couple letters when I broke up with him last year because we had lots of communication problems and him lying to me about keeping in contact with his ex. I was just so stuck in this huge hole by myself...i didn't know what to do and was completely lost. I love this man so much and don't wanna lose him, nor do I want to change him (i began to think, by telling him to be more affectionate, I was changing him into a person I wanted, instead of accepting him). And i slowly feel like i'm losing myself because I don't understand him the way i want to. THe fact that his words sometimes don't match his actions. Like when he says "I'm trying...i'm trying" and not seeing results. I think the big part of me being so frustrated is the fact that I'm 100% open with him, yet i don't really get that in return. Annnnd i agree with u... he does hold on to past pain and he hurts easily and shows it. THAT, he's not afraid to hide.

I know exactly what i need to do. Sit down with him, where we can both really communicate our feelings before we can move to the next step, making love. If that doesn't work, i'll ask him to write down his feelings so i can fully understand him. Ty VenusianBull for taking time to respond to all my posts..it means sooooooo much

You're very welcome lady. You aren't asking for the moon of him, just to understand and love him. *smh* I think things get so muddled and complicated when they're really so very simple. Reciprocation, communication, honesty. All of those need to be present. —

And Bling? You make perfect sense. From one rather intense human to another *lowering head and curtsying*. 🙂 Mine isn't a metaphorical pimp cane, tis a #10 cast iron skillet. LOL

Ty both!!! now that all my tears have been swiped away, I tell myself to stop being so emotional over the small things that can be fixed, and look into the future with a happier mind. *sips on coffee* 🙂 i love u taurean's btw. U guys give such great advice

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And Bling? You make perfect sense. From one rather intense human to another *lowering head and curtsying*. 🙂 Mine isn't a metaphorical pimp cane, tis a #10 cast iron skillet. LOL

helloooooooooo there my darling VB!!!

gosh, i hope we meet some time soon.....been missing you!!! 🙂

sorry, did not want to make a new thread just to say that; so carry on with the advice!

xoxoxo

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Helloooo to my lovely Pisces lady! I've been missing you as well. 🙂 Lunch? *licking pencil* I think a new bistro just opened up.

xoxoxoxo

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Posted by venusianbull
And Bling? You make perfect sense. From one rather intense human to another *lowering head and curtsying*. 🙂 Mine isn't a metaphorical pimp cane, tis a #10 cast iron skillet. LOL

I like that one *twirls cane*.
You can cook with one of those skillet things too. Multitasking at it's finest 🙂

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I can indeed. I wouldn't dream of cooking without one. And it really does make such a satisfying *kabong✨ Looking right dapper with the cane. 🙂

You are very welcome delishhh, chin up now. I think you are doing very well with that Bull of yours. Keep on being kind to him, love him with all you got. I know you already do. And psssst! Get him out in the middle of the lake in the deep of the night and put the smack down on that man! 🙂

Chaplin, always class. 🙂



Different sizes dependent on el kabonging warranted..

I was thinking the one to the right, smooth in your palm. Attractive. With enough heft for a sound coshing if the situation arises.

😄 And before an acceptable level of caffeine. Whoooooot! *boogying on down*

HAHAHAHAA! Oh BOOOOOOO. Decaffeinated and powdered crap? *scooting over freshly percolated Columbian* I'll share. 🙂 And fresh chocolate chip cookies. The weather is cool and Cow Cakes has been a'baking.

YES!! *grabbing hands and dancing round* Whoop whoop for caffeine! 🙂