How can I get my bull back? (Page 2)

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100

Posted by Leylia12
@JonhtheBaptist: thanks but what is an "honorary member" ?? but sure lol... As for massages I'm so bad at it... it is actually my Bull that massage me with those firm yet gentle hands of his 🙂

@Aries_Luminary: Thank you! I have to admit I do come back and read this whole thread every now and then to reminisce, cheesy I know but I will never forget what happened that Halloween years ago... to me that was the turning point and that night hold a really special place in my heart 🙂

Honorary members are people of other signs who have made huge contributions through experience with a bull on the Taurus board! Like Jeane who is aka Libraurus (she is a libra in a Taurus relationship) and you who is an Aries "Araurus" who is an Aries married to a Taurus.. U are both honorary "tauruses"! Hahahaha

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Oh gladly then 🙂 thanks!

Posted by Leylia12
Thank you JonhtheBaptist100 🙂

I am now indeed married to my Bull and we have a daughter together. We are currently trying to have a second baby. Everyday is a blessing really...My Bull works a lot and whenever he got home, the first thing he does is always give me and our daughter a kiss.. After a quick shower he always tell me to get some rest while he takes care of the baby as well as cooking dinner. I help him with the dishes after dinner and then we go out for a little walk together. and after years of marriage he is still as passionnate as ever! Saturday is our couple day... he ask his family or mine to take care of the baby for us and we spend time alone together like we use to. We go to the theater, fancy restaurant, shopping... well pretty much all the cheesy things couple do lol. He also randomly send me flowers to surprise me 🙂

Of course we don't go out as much as we use to...with the baby and all it does require a lot of attention and time...but it's ok...he hasn't change... in fact seeing how gaga he is over our daugther fills me with joy. I just wish he takes better care of himself really... I feel very blessed as I know he works tirelessly so he can provide the best of everything for us and so far everything seems to be fine...But to be perfectly honest with you...I'm very afraid that someday he will just collapse of exhaustion and then I just won't know what to do...He really spoiled and pamper me a lot and take everything upon himself and I love him so so much for that... But I just need him to understand that I'm here too and that I need to be able to take care of things myself...but you know how stubborn they are... and I can't really get angry at him now can I.... I mean everything he does... is for us...So all I can do is make sure that after a hard day at work he come back to a cozy, welcoming and loving home 🙂

Gosh I can ramble for days about how awesome he is!!! 🙂

So this is how it is with a Taurus man... Wonderful story.... nothing short of a fairy tale! I really love how the both of you understand and complete each other. He does sound awesome and I'm very happy for you. The way you talk about him really show how precious he is to you... your passion and love for him is wonderful... it's almost... palpable.

I red the entire story again have so many questions for you! How was the wedding? does he have any flaws at all— How many kids you want? And I still can't wrap my head around the fact that he waited for you over a decade...it's so romantic!

@Sillyscorp: Our wedding was awesome!!! It was very simple but soo much fun...We didn't do someting big but rather small and fun... my Bull said that it is suppose to be the best day of our live and that he always see people getting all stressed and exhausted after their wedding and he didn't want that so we invited only a close family and really closed friends. We booked a big Mansion on a mountain top and whoever was too tired after the wedding could stay over for the night 🙂

As for kids... I wanted 2...and my Bull wanted as many as possible as long as we can afford it... meaning he can provides for them... good school and entertain their hobbies...he always think very far far far ahead in the future 🙂

As for flaws... I don't really like to call them flaws... because I don't really see them that way...He was...possessive but not in a controllng ways...After all we went through I know he will never doubt me or anything... but he is the way he is... and whenever other men flirt with me...I can see it!! even though he don't say it, his eyes never lie... so all I have to do is go to him give him a kiss or just hold his hands and that's it!! I'll get that swwet and gentle smile again. I know people tend to associate Bull with stubborness...but again... I don't think they are that stubborn...Howcan I put it... they think! they think A LOT and they take their time... A LOT of time... in every situation...they think about all the scenario possible and played them in their heads... and then they rethink about it again... so when they reach a decision... it's final and they are sure that it is the right or the best thing to do....and they won't change their mind... not because they are stubborn... but because they truly believe that there is no other way.... and you know how practical and down to earth they are...so it is very difficult to argue with them...you'll most likely never win an argument with them especially if it is something they really believe in, trust me you wont!!! BUT, BUT you can work around it (Especially with my Bull)...Don't argue or challenge them, instead appeal to their good nature, tell them how important it is to you, how much it means to you...believe it or not, but behind that inflexible facade of them... lies a tender heart, a gentle soul and and uncontrollable urge to please their loved one...They will do anything to make the one they love happy... and I mean anything. I'm not saying you should manipulate them...I'm saying you could be honest with them and count on their endless generosity.... sorry! I'm rambling again 🙂

@Bull92:

This story of mine dated back years ago 🙂

We indeed end up marrying each other and have a child together now 🙂

and like JeanTheBaptiste said... it has a very happy ending 🙂

And after all we went though.... we know we love each other very much and haven't got into a single fight since 🙂

Posted by Leylia12
@Sillyscorp: Our wedding was awesome!!! It was very simple but soo much fun...We didn't do someting big but rather small and fun... my Bull said that it is suppose to be the best day of our live and that he always see people getting all stressed and exhausted after their wedding and he didn't want that so we invited only a close family and really closed friends. We booked a big Mansion on a mountain top and whoever was too tired after the wedding could stay over for the night 🙂

As for kids... I wanted 2...and my Bull wanted as many as possible as long as we can afford it... meaning he can provides for them... good school and entertain their hobbies...he always think very far far far ahead in the future 🙂

As for flaws... I don't really like to call them flaws... because I don't really see them that way...He was...possessive but not in a controllng ways...After all we went through I know he will never doubt me or anything... but he is the way he is... and whenever other men flirt with me...I can see it!! even though he don't say it, his eyes never lie... so all I have to do is go to him give him a kiss or just hold his hands and that's it!! I'll get that swwet and gentle smile again. I know people tend to associate Bull with stubborness...but again... I don't think they are that stubborn...Howcan I put it... they think! they think A LOT and they take their time... A LOT of time... in every situation...they think about all the scenario possible and played them in their heads... and then they rethink about it again... so when they reach a decision... it's final and they are sure that it is the right or the best thing to do....and they won't change their mind... not because they are stubborn... but because they truly believe that there is no other way.... and you know how practical and down to earth they are...so it is very difficult to argue with them...you'll most likely never win an argument with them especially if it is something they really believe in, trust me you wont!!! BUT, BUT you can work around it (Especially with my Bull)...Don't argue or challenge them, instead appeal to their good nature, tell them how important it is to you, how much it means to you...believe it or not, but behind that inflexible facade of them... lies a tender heart, a gentle soul and and uncontrollable urge to please their loved one...They will do anything to make the one they love happy... and I mean anything. I'm not saying you should manipulate them...I'm saying you could be honest with them and count on their endless generosity.... sorry! I'm rambling again 🙂

I wish I knew all of this sooner...The taurus man I knew was indeed very gentle. I'm usually very tough and can control my emotions very well... but with him, it was different I felt like it's ok to be myself and emotional... he really did bring that side of myself out and I hated that...but now I miss it so much...I'll be honest with you... he took such good care of me and it was soo natural coming from him that I never paid much attention to it.... but now that he's gone, I feel all lost...I didn't think I could be so dependant... and that void he left with me is unbearable.

What did you do when you guys were separate for a decade? how long did it take you to kinda forget your Bull back then?

@SillyScorp

Back then, we were still young and still at school (university) and my studies kept me busy. And to be perfectly honest with you, it did take me a little while before everything sank in...it was after a few months that it actually hit me how much I missed him... like I said it is very addictive how taurus man take care of you... and most of the time you'll only miss it once you've lost it. After a while, I started to date again and when I was in a relationship everything got a little easier as long as I didn't hear about my Bull. We had a couple of common friends so every now and then I did hear about him and everything my heart ache badly and made me miss him a lot...but I just had to deal with it...I was too proud to get back to him and at the same time too afraid to initiate anything...

Unfortunately, I don't have any secret trick really... it just took time and a lot of it and after a while, you started to think about it less and less., but that does't mean I forgot him... I never did.... as for the rest of my story you're red it 🙂

I've also red your story SillyScorp...I think you should take all the time you need to grieve for him, to miss him and then just move on...just remember that you don't have to forget him. Just remember that everything he did for you was so you could be happy... and the best way to honor his memory would be for you to be happy 🙂

"This is still such a painful story to read. It seriously makes my eyes well.... How are you doing?"

Thank you JohnTheBaptist. To be perfectly honest, I don't really know how I am doing...it's been months and I still feel lost...it's a little like what Leylia12 said...might take times for it so sink in, or maybe I'm just living in denial. I'm still visiting his grave pretty much everyday...and by talking to him, I feel like he's still there listening to me. The problem is whenever I go home... everything reminds me of him...I mean the whole place is filled with gifts from him. I thought about maybe taking some vacation and travel a little while, but then I feel like I'm leaving him behind, or part of me behind...I tried to spend as much time alone as possible to sort things out but then I end up going to places where we went together. I went through pretty much everything, I've been sad, I've been angry, I've cried, I've scream...but I just can't seem to fill that void. Visiting him and talking to him seem to be the highlight of my everyday...that is when I'm the most at peace and at ease...