tbird
@tbird
14 Years1,000+ PostsPisces
Comments: 91 · Posts: 2252 · Topics: 23
How Do You Test People?
I personally don't test people. I know many Bulls who do.
However, I fact check and look for inconsistencies in your story, and your actions.
Make mental notes.
Depending on the stage we're in...
I may go hot and cold and place some distance if I have a few months invested in you.
First few dates, I would just pulling a disappearing act, in my youngin' days, my spare time was spend with my harem 🙂
But I am older now.
However, I fact check and look for inconsistencies in your story, and your actions.
Make mental notes.
Depending on the stage we're in...
I may go hot and cold and place some distance if I have a few months invested in you.
First few dates, I would just pulling a disappearing act, in my youngin' days, my spare time was spend with my harem 🙂
But I am older now.
...And my communication is a lot better....
"I may go hot and cold and place some distance if I have a few months invested in you."
May I ask why?
May I ask why?
signs who test people,
Aries
Pisces
CANCER
VIRGO
SCORPIO
Sagittarius
Aries
Pisces
CANCER
VIRGO
SCORPIO
Sagittarius
Posted by tbirdThis could be due to a myriad of reasons....
"I may go hot and cold and place some distance if I have a few months invested in you."
May I ask why?
1. Inconsistency on your part.
2. Dishonesty on your part.
3. I find you way too secretive.
4. Uncertainty about a future with you.
5. Keeping my options open depending on the last few conversations I was not impressed with.
6. Unreliability.
7. I dug up some information about you.
The only thing that prevents a Bull from going after what they want is
1. Need for more time in getting to know you. We may be slow, but you will know we're interested.
2. Money...Chasing Paper. we may be crazy about you. But one thing has nothing to do with the other.
3. Family-related Problems.
Scorpio should be #1 on that list!
Taurusbull to #1. How would a person know if you're interested if you're running and then cold?
Posted by tbirdWhen I am in their presence, I am guided by my emotions, I am in tuned with the other individual, I own everything I am feeling at the moment. You can tell by the way I look at you, I am somewhat shy, vulnerable, and quite amorous and affectionate, not too aggressive, but soft and subtle, enough to put you at ease. I would be an active listener and may be offer some supporting advice. You would feel it, too....and you will never be uncomfortable when you're around me. You may even feel safe.
Taurusbull to #1. How would a person know if you're interested if you're running and then cold?
But if List 1-7 involves secrecy, inconsistency, uncertainty, and you're pushing me into a committed relationship, the horns will come out, and then I will grow cold....And now, I am using my head at this moment.
The best advice I can offer when a Bull goes cold....
Respect their space, and put some distance.
When the discussion comes up again, use LOGIC!
Ask direct questions in regards to YOU.
Not the Bull.
We're stubborn.
Ex..
Are you upset with ME?
Why are you upset with ME?
Did I do something or say something to piss you off?
How can we fix this?
I am willing to fix this.
If your Bull was wrong. Your Bull will fix it. May not admit it, but will still fix it.
We bend the right people.
Yeah the one Taurus male i met online was like since we getting to know each other and probably forever you got to pull weight too with each other.
So paying for a date if he pays for a meal and movie I'll pay for dessert and tip and snacks at the movies too.
If we went on a trip he paid for the room because we live nicely. I pay for gas and extra food expenses. You have to half to pull your weight.
He actually made me feel like small when he said you have to match me 6 times more financially. I told you bulls are no joke we need security all the time.
So paying for a date if he pays for a meal and movie I'll pay for dessert and tip and snacks at the movies too.
If we went on a trip he paid for the room because we live nicely. I pay for gas and extra food expenses. You have to half to pull your weight.
He actually made me feel like small when he said you have to match me 6 times more financially. I told you bulls are no joke we need security all the time.
We fix alot, we stay in bullshit longer than necessary too. At times we may even know by your actions fairly early on. I suppose we make that choice, how much can I find out in 6 months or less.
Posted by tbirdI have analytical traits in my blood and it's hard sitting get back when I am the straight forward type and fixed dominant I'm too fixed and I'm intuitive than most guys I've come across. A pedestal is saying I am not sure right now but am excited to learn everything I can because i've been hurt before and after awhile when I pretty much asked the important questions of my life I'll pursue.
I saw firstdecon's post on another thread and me being me (being analytical and inquisitive), I started to wonder.
How do you guys test people? I saw firstdecon said you guys test by you having others meet you halfway (in that instance she was talking about paying).
I don't chase and pursue to much. You won't believe the type of men online can be like.
Taurus are very observant..and ask lots of questions. Because they can be so calm...they really observe and know what ticks people, hence their way of observing can seem like they are testing, kind of like Capricorns ¶
Both are so laidback and very observant.
Both are so laidback and very observant.
I've toned down. Now you must meet me half way I'm old school. If the guy pays then so be it. I got them next time. But I am older now and I am more independent and can be hot cold when I see your actions. I have seen the one sided Ness way too often. I have standards. I must have some investigation traits, well I do I checked my chart. Lol.
I don't test people but I do elicit information without giving much in return. I'm curious about inconstistensies (lies) people will tell and try to get away with. Because I'm a Taurus and considered "slow" by so many, people may think I'm not sharp enough to suss them out.
I look for, and value, honesty in my closest relationships and scrutinizing answers people give is a way to do that without offending anyone or giving anything away.
I think time is the best test of friendship and loyalty both of which are of paramount importance to me.
I look for, and value, honesty in my closest relationships and scrutinizing answers people give is a way to do that without offending anyone or giving anything away.
I think time is the best test of friendship and loyalty both of which are of paramount importance to me.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Agree.
Scorpio should be #1 on that list!
Posted by TaurusBull1977I am guided by emotions and logical at given times.Posted by tbirdWhen I am in their presence, I am guided by my emotions, I am in tuned with the other individual, I own everything I am feeling at the moment. You can tell by the way I look at you, I am somewhat shy, vulnerable, and quite amorous and affectionate, not too aggressive, but soft and subtle, enough to put you at ease. I would be an active listener and may be offer some supporting advice. You would feel it, too....and you will never be uncomfortable when you're around me. You may even feel safe.
Taurusbull to #1. How would a person know if you're interested if you're running and then cold?
But if List 1-7 involves secrecy, inconsistency, uncertainty, and you're pushing me into a committed relationship, the horns will come out, and then I will grow cold....And now, I am using my head at this moment.
The best advice I can offer when a Bull goes cold....
Respect their space, and put some distance.
When the discussion comes up again, use LOGIC!
Ask direct questions in regards to YOU.
Not the Bull.
We're stubborn.
Ex..
Are you upset with ME?
Why are you upset with ME?
Did I do something or say something to piss you off?
How can we fix this?
I am willing to fix this.
If your Bull was wrong. Your Bull will fix it. May not admit it, but will still fix it.
We bend the right people.click to expand
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Scorpio and Taurus have the sixth sense. Haha
highly recommended to feel the waters out to see if they are your match.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Posted by TaurusBull1977Yeah I take mental notes too, but sure what ever comes out your mouth is consistent because I have been through where I asked certain questions stupid questions like anyone you mess with at work. He said no, then 1 year later I hear rumors you did so guess what now I am thinking I already asked you and you lied for dumb reasons. Now how am I going to trust you over something so simple. Btw it was true he admit. Or he was making me jealous.
I personally don't test people. I know many Bulls who do.
However, I fact check and look for inconsistencies in your story, and your actions.
Make mental notes.
Depending on the stage we're in...
I may go hot and cold and place some distance if I have a few months invested in you.
First few dates, I would just pulling a disappearing act, in my youngin' days, my spare time was spend with my harem 🙂
But I am older now.
I have been in another situation about do you want kids, to yes, how many do you 3, 1 year goes by changes again.
Hm I used to be like I want to talk all the time, to getting upset why aren't you talking or asking questions about me. It's important because I take relationship serious.click to expand
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Oh. MY bull is different. Today I received flowers. He booked my ticket as well for our vacation.
Yeah the one Taurus male i met online was like since we getting to know each other and probably forever you got to pull weight too with each other.
So paying for a date if he pays for a meal and movie I'll pay for dessert and tip and snacks at the movies too.
If we went on a trip he paid for the room because we live nicely. I pay for gas and extra food expenses. You have to half to pull your weight.
He actually made me feel like small when he said you have to match me 6 times more financially. I told you bulls are no joke we need security all the time.
even we were together before he used to do this all the time.
so I dont know.. if bulls are alike.
Partner should not be our opponent nor our competent.
Give them a whole lot of leeway, and see how they handle it...
I have a hierarchy of trust. I observe a person first then I use my intuition. Do some investigation if there are inconsistencies and mental notes.
I test by throwing ppl in different situations & see how they react sometimes....I just did that recently & the person failed and left me hanging..shows a lot about there character when the flames get hot and they hide for cover with a dash of weakness
Posted by P3n3lop3What did they do actually I'm curious?
I test by throwing ppl in different situations & see how they react sometimes....I just did that recently & the person failed and left me hanging..shows a lot about there character when the flames get hot and they hide for cover with a dash of weakness
I have Mercury Aries too but my Pices Mars dumbs me down to la la land so I have to watch that - it's like opposite ends of the spectrum sometimes. I will be brash, then spiritual - just doesn't go together does it - geez!
I know I have too much tolerance but not for total shitheads - I will give them a long rope in which to hang themselves if they so choose and then walk away knowing I've done all I could but they fucked it up themselves. But that is with people I have gotten to know and hang with for a period of time. If it's someone new in my world, yes I test but it's not obvious - as said before, we watch, we wait, we listen, observe, calculate it all and then decide what up. It's not something I do consciously but I do catch myself because we do not forget anything and will expose you in a millisecond.
I know I have too much tolerance but not for total shitheads - I will give them a long rope in which to hang themselves if they so choose and then walk away knowing I've done all I could but they fucked it up themselves. But that is with people I have gotten to know and hang with for a period of time. If it's someone new in my world, yes I test but it's not obvious - as said before, we watch, we wait, we listen, observe, calculate it all and then decide what up. It's not something I do consciously but I do catch myself because we do not forget anything and will expose you in a millisecond.
So, the census is that you guys test by letting a person speak or you observe and then you see if they tell the truth in the future or by investigating them.
Okay.
Okay.
Posted by InstantkarmaI had to have spent time with that person at least 1 or 2 a week. By 1 year I pretty much know how you think, how your relationships have been like, and I know when I asked you questions and you told me, and you made that facial expression like how do you know or simply asking and receiving another answer later. And these questions are to be taken lightly no pressure at all. I know people take advantage of my kindness until I do the whole situation down and detach for a minute.
There is a very simple way they test you.
Let's say you tell them something and then you forget about it. It could be about anything. But let's say you lied.
After five months/ years, they will ask you about it. Casually. And you will think they are slow. And if you are a big idiot, you will take them for dumb. Had you lied, you won't remember the exact facts.
Or if you bring up the topic,they will play dumb and behave as if they don't remember a thing. All the while, they were waiting just for this moment. Five years of wait. To see if you told them the truth the very first time :p
Simple logic: People who lie can't remember the exact lies they told, that too five years ago. But the Bull is patient. Time is irrelevant in their world. And the Bull remembers. 😄
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Yeah, me too. I'm very curious.Posted by P3n3lop3What did they do actually I'm curious?
I test by throwing ppl in different situations & see how they react sometimes....I just did that recently & the person failed and left me hanging..shows a lot about there character when the flames get hot and they hide for cover with a dash of weaknessclick to expand
When you guys detach or run cold is that a form of test?
I'm a Taurus moon and venus, I don't test as well... so, this is all fascinating to me. I do ask a lot of questions, but the bulls that I know, really don't ask questions.
Posted by MoonshineLeoI forgot to add Gemini to the list. They are huge on testing people. Both the Mercury signs gem and Virgo do this.
signs who test people,
Aries
Pisces
CANCER
VIRGO
SCORPIO
Sagittarius
Okay... you so lost me. I must be rusty with reading "flowery words" or being too literal with reading in between the lines, but something's I'm just not getting. I should eat something.
Posted by tbirdMy Venus is Taurus and it's dominant in pullen. Oh boy I show through actions and I take shit seriously. I stay in things longer because I know you well, or think we can change ourselves but I can't change a person that isn't bendable with controlling it should come mutually or something and if not it's unsteady.
I'm a Taurus moon and venus, I don't test as well... so, this is all fascinating to me. I do ask a lot of questions, but the bulls that I know, really don't ask questions.
I don't think I test people because I'm not perfect however I do watch and take mental notes on how a person treats others. Then I decide if they're an asshole. I'm sure everyone does this.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I do show through my actions as well... especially when it comes to meeting in person. If I don't really spark my interest, we may meet more than twice, and that is pushing it. For me to continually see someone in person it means that I'm interested. Doesn't mean I'm smitten just yet...things can most certainly fall apart, but I'm very interested to physically see that person.Posted by tbirdMy Venus is Taurus and it's dominant in pullen. Oh boy I show through actions and I take shit seriously. I stay in things longer because I know you well, or think we can change ourselves but I can't change a person that isn't bendable with controlling it should come mutually or something and if not it's unsteady.
I'm a Taurus moon and venus, I don't test as well... so, this is all fascinating to me. I do ask a lot of questions, but the bulls that I know, really don't ask questions.click to expand
It is too much effort to see someone you're not into, it is not even worth it. Regardless if sex is happening or not. *shrugs*
But I don't know... it sounds like some bulls walk away if they loose interest and don't want things to go further and so actually stay around for whatever reason even when they made up their minds it isn't going anywhere...well from what I read and that right there, puzzles me. Especially being a Taurus moon and venus. I can't wrap my brain around that.
We let our one flaw slip by that's possessiveness. So make sure you aren't the flirty flight non traditional relationship type once we chose you to a partne . We can be friends long time but as lovers once you get into a relationship it mean no sharing and and disrespect I'm out.
I dealt with it by choice to learn from it. Oh I'm picky not a hoe though. Haha
I dealt with it by choice to learn from it. Oh I'm picky not a hoe though. Haha
Posted by GeminariescharmerWell, I think the testing thing confuses people. All the signs that are notorious for testing have tons of posts asking what does this mean? Are they testing me? Did I pass? etc. I was just curious if you guys test for certain things and how you go about them. Some signs do test by going silent... some do it to see if you can handle it, how you would react, if you will give chase or go away, will you even care? Things like that.
Why is there so much confusion for how bulls test? Bulls are just simple people, they want what they want and they see results/actions/what is done from others, if you give them what they want you're in their circle(which is after multiple instances of interaction to screen you from the bulls perspective). From a third person perspective, its like seeing both party the bull and the other party going into a "natural" relationship but fact is that taurus screened you(bull acting shy/take long to open up) and because you want it and they accepted it. Bulls seduce and charm, they are passive.
Another thing is when bull is in the screening phase when they just get to know you they are okay to let you hurt them a few times(thanks to their patience) and they will just let you go and continue on their path they cant be bothered to take revenge because innately bulls are kind people, which is why people consider them as chilled and laidback BUT if you continue to get in their path(which means you deserve it) they will destroy the fuck out of you lol.
I will say that bulls can come off aloof and distant especially when you guys are first meeting someone. Let me rephrase... after the initial contact, first few meetings, you guys seem to lie dormant, for a various reasons as well. One moment you can be texting up a storm, then you're quiet and don't instigate initiation and that can confuse people... you can be interested in that person still or you can not be. It is all very confusing, even for me.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Agreed... I had a Taurus confused why I wasn't sleeping with everyone in their momma during the 4 months we didn't communicate. I said, it wasn't because I couldn't (which is very true) I just didn't want to. He is still scratching his head on that one. *shrugs*
We let our one flaw slip by that's possessiveness. So make sure you aren't the flirty flight non traditional relationship type once we chose you to a partne . We can be friends long time but as lovers once you get into a relationship it mean no sharing and and disrespect I'm out.
I dealt with it by choice to learn from it. Oh I'm picky not a hoe though. Haha
Posted by tbirdWell since physical attraction is part of my Venus it would be nice to have a good appearance and steady flow of questions about random things could be a view of politics, could be about you, could be about your siblings I need to know it all.. And it can blindside me if continue to raise red flags and I'll let it go.i give everyone chance.. Learning the way to talk online to get to know a man is hard. Learning a guy you go to school with or work with is easier. It is all good in beginning because I'm taking time and efforts in getting to know someone. I value friendship highly recommended. I got your back motto from jump, but do you have mind. I don't even askPosted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I do show through my actions as well... especially when it comes to meeting in person. If I don't really spark my interest, we may meet more than twice, and that is pushing it. For me to continually see someone in person it means that I'm interested. Doesn't mean I'm smitten just yet...things can most certainly fall apart, but I'm very interested to physically see that person.Posted by tbirdMy Venus is Taurus and it's dominant in pullen. Oh boy I show through actions and I take shit seriously. I stay in things longer because I know you well, or think we can change ourselves but I can't change a person that isn't bendable with controlling it should come mutually or something and if not it's unsteady.
I'm a Taurus moon and venus, I don't test as well... so, this is all fascinating to me. I do ask a lot of questions, but the bulls that I know, really don't ask questions.
It is too much effort to see someone you're not into, it is not even worth it. Regardless if sex is happening or not. *shrugs*
But I don't know... it sounds like some bulls walk away if they loose interest and don't want things to go further and so actually stay around for whatever reason even when they made up their minds it isn't going anywhere...well from what I read and that right there, puzzles me. Especially being a Taurus moon and venus. I can't wrap my brain around that.click to expand
Anything in return I simply
Posted by tbirdIf it doesn't work out and I detach. Sex and dating just went off my list for awhile. I stay independent and work, and chill after..because I am a one man woman forever so I don't have tons of dates. I have lots of interests. I just don't. I get burned dating is off, marriage isboff, and kids off. Til it's time to try again. Start all over.Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Agreed... I had a Taurus confused why I wasn't sleeping with everyone in their momma during the 4 months we didn't communicate. I said, it wasn't because I couldn't (which is very true) I just didn't want to. He is still scratching his head on that one. *shrugs*
We let our one flaw slip by that's possessiveness. So make sure you aren't the flirty flight non traditional relationship type once we chose you to a partne . We can be friends long time but as lovers once you get into a relationship it mean no sharing and and disrespect I'm out.
I dealt with it by choice to learn from it. Oh I'm picky not a hoe though. Hahaclick to expand
Agreed... if I'm interested in a guy and it doesn't work out, I fall off the dating grid until my interest in piqued. I'm picky as well... so it takes a while for me to even be intrigued by someone in that way and I'm getting good vibes from the guy. My intuition plays a major role in talking to someone for a while, yet alone met someone in real life. For me to continuously meet someone, yeah they are way ahead of the game.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
If anything does, what makes bulls cry. 1. I've cried over loss of loved ones, either by death or unexpected departure. 2. I've cried over lost possessions that are irreplaceable. 3. I've cried while watching sentimental movies. I know. Stupid, r
Out of Curiosity...what makes a Taurus pull away after revealing extremely personal information to another person. I have observed different bulls doing this, to either myself or others.
Yes,I'm guilty of relationship anxiety.I don't know why but I am scared of both distancing and intimacy.Distancing makes me wonder if he still feels the same and too much intimacy freaks me out since I'm scared of how long that should last.I don't know if
Hi! I just wondered how to tell if a taurus woman has a crush on you or is interested in you on more than a friend level? She is a good friend of mine but we've always been flirtatious with one another but I guess I'm wondering if taurus women give si
This was a response to Boomshaka's thread on the astrology board.
For most of my life I have been with fire signs. I don't know why?? I'm a female Taurus with Venus in cancer and Mars in Taurus. I have always had an itch for virgos but nothing has ever blossomed. I have been with sags, Leo's and Aires as my long term pa
Hey guys I am a Virgo female confused by Taurus male. We met when I was 15 and he was 17. I was a wild teenager so I walked by the skatepark spotted him, told him he was hot and asked him for his number. We went on a date a week later. Again I was wild
I am inviting my Taurus man over my house for the first time and I am planning on making dinner, not sure what yet. He knows I am a single mom and is okay with it, has even told me they are reflections of me. I am definitely falling for him, and the other
So my Taurus friend who is also a crush always seems to get offended when I try to help her or offer support - she always says that she is very independent and she can handle it. It's not that I don't think she can handle it - it's that it is in my nat
It's legendary. What sets it off within you?? For me, it's not really the big things, I can handle that will usual Taurean aloofness. It's the small petty stuff. People who constantly nag at me and pick, pick pick about things that aren't really import
Awe I love you guys. You guys put up with our nagging and actually are a few of the zodiacs that somehow enjoy virgos. You can be stubborn. Your little hooves stomping on the ground don't scare me. I think it's cute. And I can always express myself which
I'm a Libra who met a Taurus through work. I thought he was really cute but didn't think much of it b/c he's a few years younger. After a few months of exchanging smiles, catching him staring at me and light chitchat, we started FB messaging a lot. I
Long story short, we are no longer dating but Im still physically attracted to him. Our last sex was on April and it was intense. After that i've told him that im still interested for another action but he kept refusing. He tells me he still finds me
It's been months since I posted here, possibly because things have been going well for me (Aqua girl) and this Taurus man, but for some odd reason, he won't commit. We are very close. We text/fb message throughout the day, he calls every night and we ta
I've been in an on & off relationship with this Virgo man. He always mocks me & he's a little bit immature sometimes.. But when I told him I'm gonna find someone else & forget about him he told me he loves me & he don't want me to go... Sometimes or coupl
I started seeing this guy in April. I've met his dad and sister and he's met my dad and grandparents. We're together a lot and he's told me a lot about his past and some really dark stuff. I've been doing my best to help him get through everything and do
I"m a Virgo female, I really like this Taurus guy I've known for a while now. I used to work with him until very recently, he just graduated from our college so we're not working together anymore. Maybe two months before the semester was supposed to end,
DEAL WITH TAURUS DISAPPEARING? I have been having a sexual relationship with a Taurus. I am a scorpio. I havent gotten too clingy or weird. I havent shown it, but I do have feelings for him He will come around and wont leave for long periods of time. We
I'm a Leo female and I'm pretty sure this Taurus dude is pissed at me. On Saturday I went out and saw him at the club. I invited him over, he was going to come but I got too drunk and ignored his texts/snaps while I was clearly on my phone and then I lost
Ive dated this taurus man for few months and we had a good time together. Im a sagittarius. Long story short, i became a bit clingy and paranoid which created drama and he didnt like it until we broke it off. It was actually an on and off kind of rela
How do you guys test people? I saw firstdecon said you guys test by you having others meet you halfway (in that instance she was talking about paying).