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copperhead
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20 YearsTaurus

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jealousy. I know this topic has been discussed a zillion times and more, but it can still rear it's ugly head in my relationships. My pisces boyf is never jealous, but I can feel it creeping up on me if he talks to an attractive girl or whatever. I manage to keep it in check most times, but there have been times in the past with other boyfs where I have exploded! Not nice.

So, just wondering how you guys deal with your jealousy, if you suffer with it at all.
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newlysingletaurus
@newlysingletaurus
18 Years

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I definitely get jealous, but i keep it inside most of the time.. and usually end up showing off myself a little to make sure my man's eye is on me (i'm single now though).. but i'm a little bit of a natural flirt myself.. and i'm the sort of girl who has many male friends. My ex used to dislike the boys that he thought had an interest in me.

to answer ur question.. i will get jealous only if I know that the girl he's talking about is also interested in him. Otherwise, i keep it all in since I get alot of attention from other boys too and I don't want him to get overly jealous in that way because it's always in good fun.

sort of a "do unto others what you want other to do unto you" thing. =)

And alot of people say jealousy is a sign of insecurity. I fully agree! =P I dream of the day I can be with a guy whose popularity with other girls would not phase me at all. Then i would know that I have grown! =P

Oh.. and for your case.. try not to explode, but talk to ur boyfriend and tell him nicely that it makes u feel a little left out or sth. i'm sure he will reassure you. that's what i'd do anyway.

=)
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copperhead
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Lol MercInAries, I do the same with the comments, pretend like I'm not bothered and be overly 'nice' about it!!

It's one trait I really hate in myself though. My Cappy friend is so not jealous, it's unbelievable. I just wish that I could get those thoughts out of my head. A good example for me is once a ex-boyf told me about a new girl that started at his work. He said she wasn't very attractive, but she liked the same music as him and was 'cool'. So I start getting all these ridiculous thoughts in my head about how he's going to leave me for her and all this stuff. Crazy. It embarrasses me to even think about! I never said anything to him though, and he never picked up on as far as I'm aware, but it's still not acceptable in a relationship where there's supposed to be trust. Maybe I watch chat shows/Cheaters too much lol