I just dont know

Hello!
I'm new to this board (duh), been lurking around for while and really liked the kind of crowd you got, so i decided to join.

now to my problems! you seem to be quite acknowledgeable with the signs 🙂
I'm a cancer girl, who just started a relationship with a very sweet taurus guy, very conservative, very attentive...just the perfect man you wanna take home and keep for further usage....yeah

He is truly perfect, so earthy...god , i'm not making any points am I? Ok. He does his stuff good. I know before hand, he WILL please me. but the thing is that usually I go overhead for guys, and this is not the case. Perhaps is because of his style of approach, and with me, I usually blend with the style of others...like a chameleon. I'm just so worried that i might never go overboard for him, perhaps he will grow on me? have you ever have this happen to any of you. Is like totally radical for me...is just different. I usually know if I'm gonna love someone. (call me crabby psychic), or nothing then. Nobody has ever made me feel so loved, and he has been hurt, and he stresses that everytime we get into deep conversations. I dont wanna, I just dont want to...We could get married for what i care, but will it survive?

So confused, hopefully i will get some input from any taurus, or any others...YAY

I dont make any sense I know...just wanted to share this with someone. Me and my darned insecurity.

Hi there! Well I'm a cappy girl but I can give you some insights on a few things. First, if you really want a future with him but you are not ready for a commitment at this time but you want him there when you are ready ... by all means don't hurt him and don't play mind games. My taurus friend previously broke up with his girlfriend because she played with his emotions, and played mind (hot and cold) games. When she tried to make everything good with him again, he bluntly told her that he just didn't trust her anyone and that he wouldn't put his emotions out there for her to toy with anymore. Yeah she cried, but that's just how straightforward they are when they feel deceived. I have another taurus buddy who is just downright cruel when he feels he has been hurt. Lastly, just because you don't see fireworks immediately doesn't mine anything. If anything, that's a good thing because things won't move too fast. Taking things slow is the best even if you don't want to, it gives youa chance to grow and evolve and mature ... as things progress you may have a better idea of what you want intrapersonally and interpersonally.

Happy Easter

Thanks for the reply. I guess I feel more secure now...all i need is to wait it out. It's just the uncertainty that gets me depressed. Hey , I'm a Cancer after all (sun, moon, and venus!)

Oh great, now i just exploded when we were talking in the IM...I know he won't stand this...we have no future. I better leave it at that. Is not like I love him or something.

Why did you explode, what happened— Since you admitted that you don't love him then it's best to let things be. Send him a email stating your true feeling and be done with it ... leave him alone.

I have spent the whole day reading compatibility charts, and i felt so insecure... he was just telling me that he had to mown the lawn and he had to go, and I started blurting out all this crap about how this wont survive, we're so different, blah! I couldn't control myself, i just typed. then i stopped. and i didnt talk wit him anymore.
I know...blame me, not my sign...I am so dependant of the drama. I dont want it, but i need it, i cant just accept some petty straight answer, NO!!! , i need the dramatization or i wont get it.

is there a way to know if at least i really like him? or i'm just hanging on to him just because....

dont answer if you dont want, i know this sucks...everybody has problems.

**I'm a Cancer after all (sun, moon, and venus!)**

Celes, this soooo explains it! lol
You're a bit crazy, I'll admit to that 🙂 But come on chic, don't jump to conclusions already! It was your emotions that got out of control but I wouldn't think that just because you blew up once he'll suddenly run off. Don't be so hasty in your decisions.

I mean if you like him and you think he likes you, why be insecure? Be patient and let things develop, us bulls are quite tolerant... stuff like that is small to us, you won't rock us so easily.

Again, WHY do you feel insecure? What reasons has he given you to be insecure? Has he said something you didn't like?
But one thing is true, we don't like much drama so you would have to tone it down a little more... but if you really think that it won't work then you're right in letting things be, just make sure you're thinking logically and not with your emotions or insecurities.

Oh! And I'd advice you to stop reading that compability crap! Seriously! If you want insight on this combo just stay on these message boards! LOL All the bulls with crabs say AYE...

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AYE lol There's a lot of us here 😛

Goodluck!

thanks yet again.
I got to speak with him again, and i honestly told him to forgive my *outburst* and that if I behaved like that again, that he just let me retreat till the lunatic phase is over. He understood, and said we were making "real progress here" 🙂

Tomorrow is meet up day...sure is gonna be exciting. Hum ...I really feel better (for the moment) Thanks!!!!!

a happy Easter to all of you. May you share it with the ones you love, or the nearest candidates to the position 😉

i understand what u are saying....being a cancer moon in pisces, mars in aries...i need a little drama also...or better explained as passionate feelings. i am very passionate about my feelings and those i care about and the cut and dry approach sometimes frustrates me or just doesnt satisfy some need to feel that someone feels as passionate about me as i do them. this seems to be hard to find😢

tell me about it....

I just wish I dont scare him off...even though he uses this very straight, laid back style to approach me, I have never felt so loved. Like he is astonished, his mouth opens when he sees me....but when i open my mouth, everything shatters.
lol

yeah- thanks for the support...

I quite the opposite really ... the less drama the better. Yes, I have a tendency to over dramatize situations but that's just for my own personal enjoyment -- playing the drama-queen is better than actually being one. Ironically, I tend to have friends who are laid-back (like myself) or who make mountains-out-of-moehills (the five cancers that I know lol). So I am skilled in dealing with people who get a little crazy ... they even try to drive me crazy. hahahaha I just love them to death!!!! That I do 😉