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I've upset my Taurus man and he's ignoring me
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A) Acknowledge to him that you messed up and apologize genuinely if you haven't already. Let him know you get -why- you messed up.
B) Stop getting mad at him for flaking or ignoring you, he's mirroring the behavior you started. And considering he has reason to be upset or miffed, getting -mad- at him for it is only going to drive him further away.
C) Accept the idea that if you want things 'how they were', it's probably going to be quite a while before that happens IF it happens and you'll need to exercise some patience. You'll need to be genuine and consistent.
D) Show him that you actually care, because your actions previously put that in question. They show that he wasn't as much of a priority to you as you were to him, that he missed you and it was NOT reciprocated, makes it -seem- like he cared more than you, and also when this upset him you couldn't see past your OWN feelings to think about how HE felt. And that kind of inconsideration or selfishness isn't going to go over well for a Bull.
People don't just flake or start ignoring out of nowhere, you know? There's a reason or reasons. Own them, and let him know you get it. And be willing to prove over time that you're not gonna pull the same thing again. Hopefully he'll come around 🙂
B) Stop getting mad at him for flaking or ignoring you, he's mirroring the behavior you started. And considering he has reason to be upset or miffed, getting -mad- at him for it is only going to drive him further away.
C) Accept the idea that if you want things 'how they were', it's probably going to be quite a while before that happens IF it happens and you'll need to exercise some patience. You'll need to be genuine and consistent.
D) Show him that you actually care, because your actions previously put that in question. They show that he wasn't as much of a priority to you as you were to him, that he missed you and it was NOT reciprocated, makes it -seem- like he cared more than you, and also when this upset him you couldn't see past your OWN feelings to think about how HE felt. And that kind of inconsideration or selfishness isn't going to go over well for a Bull.
People don't just flake or start ignoring out of nowhere, you know? There's a reason or reasons. Own them, and let him know you get it. And be willing to prove over time that you're not gonna pull the same thing again. Hopefully he'll come around 🙂
Lol....so ridiculous....3 weeks? You ignored him bc you were having fun? Immature, inconsiderate, probably some form of passive-aggressive game playing mixed in there....Really just foolish on your part, engendering distrust this early in a relationship. I would laugh at your attempts to reach out now that you're back and no longer having fun. If he is smart, he is done with you.
you got upset (because you don't trust him) that he didn't rush to see you but you ignored him for 3 weeks even though he was attentive, generous and kind? oh lady, that is cold.
and 'probably hurt his feelings'? this doesn't bode well.
the only tip i have is learn from it and let it go. if he comes back on his own accord, be genuinely thankful you get a second chance.
the only tip i have is learn from it and let it go. if he comes back on his own accord, be genuinely thankful you get a second chance.
OP - what sign are you? An Aries? Aqua?
mmm I'm still confused, why didn't you reply to his attempts of contacting you/checking on you while you're away? what took you so long? I don't think having fun is a good excuse to tell him. Just be honest and apologize (if you really believe you've done wrong), Taurus don't like lazy partners.
Sounds like he needs to apologize to you for being and inconsiderate dickwad. Do you really want to be with someone that acts so immature? If his work is really so busy and hectic, he should reconsider whether or not he's ready for a committed relationship right now. Its super selfish to casually involve yourself with people just for the sake of not being alone. Wading in and out of the person's life ingaging them only when YOU'RE ready. I will say tho, ignoring your SO while on a vacation is not okay. It probably instilled in him some doubts about you guys relation. Maybe thats why he's being so childish and ignoring. He's caught in is ego and emotions, and instead of communicating like a mature adult he's Cowering.
I say call him and see if he's willing to man up and have a conversation that includes and apology from both him and you. Otherwise move on to someone more worthy. Life's too short to waste time on people that are ignoring you
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Sounds like he needs to apologize to you for being and inconsiderate dickwad. Do you really want to be with someone that acts so immature? If his work is really so busy and hectic, he should reconsider whether or not he's ready for a committed relationship right now. Its super selfish to casually involve yourself with people just for the sake of not being alone. Wading in and out of the person's life ingaging them only when YOU'RE ready. I will say tho, ignoring your SO while on a vacation is not okay. It probably instilled in him some doubts about you guys relation. Maybe thats why he's being so childish and ignoring. He's caught in is ego and emotions, and instead of communicating like a mature adult he's Cowering.
Did you even read her post? Smh....
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Sounds like he needs to apologize to you for being and inconsiderate dickwad. Do you really want to be with someone that acts so immature? If his work is really so busy and hectic, he should reconsider whether or not mooThe's ready for a committed relationship right now. Its super selfish to casually involve yourself with people just for the sake of not being alone. Wading in and out of the person's life ingaging them only when YOU'RE ready. I will say tho, ignoring your SO while on a vacation is not okay. It probably instilled in him some doubts about you guys relation. Maybe thats why he's being so childish and ignoring. He's caught in is ego and emotions, and instead of communicating like a mature adult he's Cowering.
Did you even read her post? Smh....click to expand
Yes
Did you?
I'm on the Taurus dude's side... for once!!
Mega inconsiderate behaviour displayed for not returning texts etc while away. Now boot is on other foot and she doesn't like it.
Four months is not long but it's long enough. This is not how to proceed in and conduct yourself in a relationship. No excuse for bad manners.
Mega inconsiderate behaviour displayed for not returning texts etc while away. Now boot is on other foot and she doesn't like it.
Four months is not long but it's long enough. This is not how to proceed in and conduct yourself in a relationship. No excuse for bad manners.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Did you?
Help me understand the reasoning then. She ignores him for 3 weeks, after he expressed that he was really going to miss her, and would like to keep in touch - all because....she was "having fun". She gets back and expects him to be attentive? Its been *1 week*. And apparently he IS still communicating with her, and has a reason for why he has been busy and had to cancel (a reason which is a lot better than "having fun"). Now *she* is distrusting him? LOL. He's only been *ignoring* after the fight they got into over the whole issue, in which I'm sure her blatant hypocrisy was showing.
Posted by AgentP911
I'm on the Taurus dude's side... for once!!
LOL, whatever! You agree with me often!
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Did you?
Help me understand the reasoning then. She ignores him for 3 weeks, after he expressed that he was really going to miss her, and would like to keep in touch - all because....she was "having fun". She gets back and expects him to be attentive? Its been *1 week*. And apparently he IS still communicating with her, and has a reason for why he has been busy and had to cancel (a reason which is a lot better than "having fun"). Now *she* is distrusting him? LOL. He's only been *ignoring* after the fight they got into over the whole issue, in which I'm sure her blatant hypocrisy was showing.click to expand
I already agreed that it was wrong for to ignore her significant other while on her vacay and that it probably instilled some doubts in him. I would advise you to reread my initial post.
What i was mainly commenting on was his lack of communication and how even before the trip he was super distant and only saw her once a week. Regardless of how long its been since the fight, its important to be willing to communicate with your SO. I say this about both her and him. If he was really a man of decency, he would have communicated to her how her actions made him feel and allowed her to explain herself and apologize.
Instead, caught up in his ego and emotions, he's ignoring her. Now, I could understand not speaking to her if even after she returned she prolonged her ignoring him. But she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship.
Thats petty and shows how immature he is. If he's no longer interested in her he should let her know and move on. What she did was wrong, but him dragging his feet in the relationship didnt help
Magenta -
Allowed her to explain and apologize? She should've come back, leading with the apology. I see no indication that she did that but I'll let the OP speak for her self. We also have no idea how her actions made him feel, or if he was being malicious. If that was the intent, he could've simply ignored her from the moment she came back. He was still communicating. The guy may have just been legitimately busy. You just come across as making snap judgments, and harsh ones at that. He is not a man of decency, he's a dickwad, he's a coward, he's immature. LOL, really? You got all that from her post? I doubt anyone else reading it felt the same way, and I highly doubt she feels this way about him. You sure you aren't just bitter and projecting a bit?
Allowed her to explain and apologize? She should've come back, leading with the apology. I see no indication that she did that but I'll let the OP speak for her self. We also have no idea how her actions made him feel, or if he was being malicious. If that was the intent, he could've simply ignored her from the moment she came back. He was still communicating. The guy may have just been legitimately busy. You just come across as making snap judgments, and harsh ones at that. He is not a man of decency, he's a dickwad, he's a coward, he's immature. LOL, really? You got all that from her post? I doubt anyone else reading it felt the same way, and I highly doubt she feels this way about him. You sure you aren't just bitter and projecting a bit?
Posted by Magenta_Azure But she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship.
Huh? Where did she ever say she did anything of the sort?
Posted by Magenta_AzurePosted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Did you?
Help me understand the reasoning then. She ignores him for 3 weeks, after he expressed that he was really going to miss her, and would like to keep in touch - all because....she was "having fun". She gets back and expects him to be attentive? Its been *1 week*. And apparently he IS still communicating with her, and has a reason for why he has been busy and had to cancel (a reason which is a lot better than "having fun"). Now *she* is distrusting him? LOL. He's only been *ignoring* after the fight they got into over the whole issue, in which I'm sure her blatant hypocrisy was showing.
I already agreed that it was wrong for to ignore her significant other while on her vacay and that it probably instilled some doubts in him. I would advise you to reread my initial post.
What i was mainly commenting on was his lack of communication and how even before the trip he was super distant and only saw her once a week. Regardless of how long its been since the fight, its important to be willing to communicate with your SO. I say this about both her and him. If he was really a man of decency, he would have communicated to her how her actions made him feel and allowed her to explain herself and apologize.
Instead, caught up in his ego and emotions, he's ignoring her. Now, I could understand not speaking to her if even after she returned she prolonged her ignoring him. But she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship.
Thats petty and shows how immature he is. If he's no longer interested in her he should let her know and move on. What she did was wrong, but him dragging his feet in the relationship didnt helpclick to expand
Just no.
He was slow to respond, but never ignored her. And made every attempt in his own way to show her he cares. If she had a problem with that before holiday, she should've said so. 2 hours (presumably) vs 3 weeks? Blasphemous. THAT is some immature BS. And on the tail of him calling her at the airport. That is balls!
"I decided to not talk to him and have fun with my friend." There has to be more to the s
"I decided to not talk to him and have fun with my friend." There has to be more to the story to just make a snap decision. Like not even a "hey, babe, I'm going to be incommunicado while on vacay, don't worry, xoxo." That's some legit rude, selfish shit. I'd be thinking you. were. dead. in. a. plane. crash.
Fuck no. If I didn't hear from you at all for 3 weeks... Goodbye.
You want him back? Own that shit and apologize for being a dickwad. And don't try to throw in, oh but I dont hear from you for hours, blah blah blah. Because all that will do is belittle him and make your apology seem ingenuine.
Fuck no. If I didn't hear from you at all for 3 weeks... Goodbye.
You want him back? Own that shit and apologize for being a dickwad. And don't try to throw in, oh but I dont hear from you for hours, blah blah blah. Because all that will do is belittle him and make your apology seem ingenuine.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
Magenta -
Allowed her to explain and apologize? She should've come back, leading with the apology. I see no indication that she did that but I'll let the OP speak for her self. We also have no idea how her actions made him feel, or if he was being malicious. If that was the intent, he could've simply ignored her from the moment she came back. He was still communicating. The guy may have just been legitimately busy. You just come across as making snap judgments, and harsh ones at that. He is not a man of decency, he's a dickwad, he's a coward, he's immature. LOL, really? You got all that from her post? I doubt anyone else reading it felt the same way, and I highly doubt she feels this way about him. You sure you aren't just bitter and projecting a bit?
Seriously.
Now i wondering if you took the time out to read my post. I address everything you said in both of them.
If he's too 'legitimately busy' to communicate with his SO then he needs ask himself if he's for a commited relationship. Both of them failed miserably at communication however, him ignoring her isn't going to magically improve their situation.
Could you please read my whole post. And yes, my opinion is abit harsh. So what? That doesnt mean that there isn't value to in it. I do think he's being and immature dickwad and cowering away from their situation. That's my personal opinion and last time i checked we were free to express ourselves and answer questions as we see fit. Stop trying to police my opinion because it doesnt align with yours.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
If he's too 'legitimately busy' to communicate with his SO then he needs ask himself if he's for a commited relationship. Both of them failed miserably at communication however, him ignoring her isn't going to magically improve their situation.
Could you please read my whole post. And yes, my opinion is abit harsh. So what? That doesnt mean that there isn't value to in it. I do think he's being and immature dickwad and cowering away from their situation. That's my personal opinion and last time i checked we were free to express ourselves and answer questions as we see fit. Stop trying to police my opinion because it doesnt align with yours.
Sometimes people only have so much time to offer. That's something they should've already been talking about if its an issue, and really its a total non-sequitur here, unless she is saying that it was a causal factor in how she disappeared for 3 weeks. I don't see her saying that. Her reasoning for that was pretty clear and pretty superficial. And I didn't say you weren't free to express your self. I'm saying your opinion is extremely biased and basically shit. No one reading that post is going to come away with such a harsh over-reaction. What makes me even comment on it, is that its more interesting to look at what it is in *you* that makes your opinion so shitty. You're fairly young. Recent heart-break? Abusive relationship? I can sense the bitterness.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
If he's too 'legitimately busy' to communicate with his SO then he needs ask himself if he's for a commited relationship. Both of them failed miserably at communication however, him ignoring her isn't going to magically improve their situation.
Could you please read my whole post. And yes, my opinion is abit harsh. So what? That doesnt mean that there isn't value to in it. I do think he's being and immature dickwad and cowering away from their situation. That's my personal opinion and last time i checked we were free to express ourselves and answer questions as we see fit. Stop trying to police my opinion because it doesnt align with yours.
Sometimes people only have so much time to offer. That's something they should've already been talking about if its an issue, and really its a total non-sequitur here, unless she is saying that it was a causal factor in how she disappeared for 3 weeks. I don't see her saying that. Her reasoning for that was pretty clear and pretty superficial. And I didn't say you weren't free to express your self. I'm saying your opinion is extremely biased and basically shit. No one reading that post is going to come away with such a harsh over-reaction. What makes me even comment on it, is that its more interesting to look at what it is in *you* that makes your opinion so shitty. You're fairly young. Recent heart-break? Abusive relationship? I can sense the bitterness.click to expand
Lol
I'm neither heartbroken or bitter, but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue. Trying to attack my opinions based off of previous posts ive made and my profile will only do so much, hun. Im way more complex Than my online presence.
My opinion is MY opinion. Meaning it doesnt matter if no one else agrees with it. Its MY opinion. The minute you get that through your skull the better off you'll be, cuz quite frankly, i dont give a flying fuck who disagrees.
And you saying my opinion is biased and shit is cute, but more importantly its a reflection of you your narrow minded point of view and inability to accept an opinion if it isnt the same as yours, which is bullshit.
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship. I think its real pathetic that you would try to use that to belittle my opinion.
Youre looking real sorry right about now.
Youre looking real sorry right about now.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
I'm neither heartbroken or bitter, but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue. Trying to attack my opinions based off of previous posts ive made and my profile will only do so much, hun. Im way more complex Than my online presence.
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LOL! Now you're even further incriminating your self by referencing your previous posts, and how you think you come off, and trying to slip out of that as well. I did not go read your previous posts and I have never checked your profile! I've seen you post on other threads but I TOTALLY agreed with what you were saying. You were talking about that rape case at Vanderbilt, and victim-blaming, and I thought it was all 100% on point and was as shocked as you were at some of the horrendous comments others were making. Do you really not see how badly your bias is showing from your over-reactions in this thread? Anyway, again, feel free to express your shitty opinion all day long. I'm not trying to stop it. I'm just walking behind you and scooping it up to keep the lawn clean. You project a lot though. In fact, you are the one who has the problem with people disagreeing with you. You feel "policed". I don't feel policed by you at all, or any need to pronounce my freedom like you are. We're just disagreeing; no one has tried to take away your freedom of speech.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by AgentP911
I'm on the Taurus dude's side... for once!!
LOL, whatever! You agree with me often!click to expand
Ha! I am not about to open the TLS appreciation club so fear not!
This situation is just glaringly obvious. Some stories on here can be a bit so so but this one is 100% clear based on the original post.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship. I think its real pathetic that you would try to use that to belittle my opinion.
Youre looking real sorry right about now.
Your opinion is so extreme and off-base that it belittles itself. I would never need to bias anyone against it by pointing out a psychological reason for you holding it. And that would be to commit the genetic fallacy anyway. Even if your opinion were rooted in a psychological defect, it could be right or wrong depending on its own merit. I've addressed the merit of your opinion already. What I am doing is looking for an explanation as to why someone would paint another individual so harshly, with such extreme negativity, off of so little. That is clearly something rooted in you and your experience.
Posted by AgentP911Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by AgentP911
I'm on the Taurus dude's side... for once!!
LOL, whatever! You agree with me often!
Ha! I am not about to open the TLS appreciation club so fear not!
This situation is just glaringly obvious. Some stories on here can be a bit so so but this one is 100% clear based on the original post.click to expand
I couldn't agree more, but apparently not to some!! Holy shit!
Posted by phEnyxBull876
"I decided to not talk to him and have fun with my friend." There has to be more to the story to just make a snap decision. Like not even a "hey, babe, I'm going to be incommunicado while on vacay, don't worry, xoxo." That's some legit rude, selfish shit. I'd be thinking you. were. dead. in. a. plane. crash.
Fuck no. If I didn't hear from you at all for 3 weeks... Goodbye.
You want him back? Own that shit and apologize for being a dickwad. And don't try to throw in, oh but I dont hear from you for hours, blah blah blah. Because all that will do is belittle him and make your apology seem ingenuine.
+1
Posted by Magenta_Azure
but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue.
You're projecting again. You claim that "she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship." This clearly came straight from in between your ass cheeks. You are so heavily biased that you are filling in the blanks of the story with imaginary dialogue that puts her in a better light. Where did you get this shit from if not your ass?!!
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
I'm neither heartbroken or bitter, but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue. Trying to attack my opinions based off of previous posts ive made and my profile will only do so much, hun. Im way more complex Than my online presence.
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LOL! Now you're even further incriminating your self by referencing your previous posts, and how you think you come off, and trying to slip out of that as well. I did not go read your previous posts and I have never checked your profile! I've seen you post on other threads but I TOTALLY agreed with what you were saying. You were talking about that rape case at Vanderbilt, and victim-blaming, and I thought it was all 100% on point and was as shocked as you were at some of the horrendous comments others were making. Do you really not see how badly your bias is showing from your over-reactions in this thread? Anyway, again, feel free to express your shitty opinion all day long. I'm not trying to stop it. I'm just walking behind you and scooping it up to keep the lawn clean. You project a lot though. In fact, you are the one who has the problem with people disagreeing with you. You feel "policed". I don't feel policed by you at all, or any need to pronounce my freedom like you are. We're just disagreeing; no one has tried to take away your freedom of speech.click to expand
I have no problem with people disagreeing with. What i do have a problem with is people tryin to tear down my opinions becauee they dont understand.
I could care less if you agreed with my previous post. Youre claiming that youve never seen my profile yet somehow know im "fairly young". Really? How would you know that without checking my profile boo? Unless you were stalking my post and someone mentioned it, i dont believ you.
And it is more than possible for me to feel policed by someone and still Accept the fact that they disagee with me or that i don't agree with them. Its like i said, im more complex than my online presence . And just because you refuse to agree with my opinion doesnt make it wrong. Sounds like you hav some serious maturing. You and homeboy in the OP.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue.
You're projecting again. You claim that "she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship." This clearly came straLIU Pight from in between your ass cheeks. You are so heavily biased that you are filling in the blanks of the story with imaginary dialogue that puts her in a better light. Where did you get this shit from if not your ass?!!click to expand
3RD paragraph 1st sentence. Reading is fundamental 🙂
Posted by Magenta_Azure
And it is more than possible for me to feel policed by someone and still Accept the fact that they disagee with me or that i don't agree with them. Its like i said, im more complex than my online presence . And just because you refuse to agree with my opinion doesnt make it wrong. Sounds like you hav some serious maturing. You and homeboy in the OP.
Your age displayed right underneath your name/image. By visiting your profile I meant actually clicking on that and looking for info on you. Don't get all paranoid now, that will really knock your already shaky intuition into disarray. Why do you feel policed just because I think your opinion is shit? Why do you feel restricted and like I'm trying to take away your right to an opinion when I am actually conversating with you, which gives you more opportunity to share it? Just strikes me as overly defensive. You feel the need to assert things like "just because you refuse to agree with my opinion doesnt make it wrong." No shit! Who ever even implied this? Are you projecting again? Do you feel that way? Do you have trouble with people disagreeing with you (something you accused me of?)? Does it make you go into a defensive mode too fast? Seems that way.
Posted by Magenta_AzurePosted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue.
You're projecting again. You claim that "she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship." This clearly came straLIU Pight from in between your ass cheeks. You are so heavily biased that you are filling in the blanks of the story with imaginary dialogue that puts her in a better light. Where did you get this shit from if not your ass?!!
3RD paragraph 1st sentence. Reading is fundamental 🙂click to expand
Oh, Lordy! That sentence reads "When I came home last week, I messaged him to say I was back and he seemed a little bit cold, but said work was really busy for him and asked when he was going to see me."
HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU GET THAT SHE "made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship" from THAT SENTENCE—? She merely CONTACTED HIM and said she was back!!!! There isn't a hint of anything about HER CLARIFYING HERH FEELINGS OR BEING FULLY INVESTED in their relationship! Do you really think you can slip out of that? LOL!
LOL TaurusLovesScorpio, I admire your patience. I would have lost it from the third post hehe
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_AzurePosted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue.
You're projecting again. You claim that "she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship." This clearly came straLIU Pight from in between your ass cheeks. You are so heavily biased that you are filling in the blanks of the story with imaginary dialogue that puts her in a better light. Where did you get this shit from if not your ass?!!
3RD paragraph 1st sentence. Reading is fundamental 🙂
Oh, Lordy! That sentence reads "When I came home last week, I messaged him to say I was back and he seemed a little bit cold, but said work was really busy for him and asked when he was going to see me."
HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU GET THAT SHE "made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship" from THAT SENTENCE—? She merely CONTACTED HIM and said she was back!!!! There isn't a hint of anything about HER CLARIFYING HERH FEELINGS OR BEING FULLY INVESTED in their relationship! Do you really think you can slip out of that? LOL!click to expand
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What the are talking about "slip out of that". Calm the fuck down. No body's trying to sli out of anything. I have no problem admitting i mightve read too much into that however this whole post pretty much sums up that she cares for him and is invested in their relationship so what fuck.
Second, are you serious with these questions? Im not projecting anything. I have nothing to project. Nothing in my life right now relates to this post. Continue with the rationalizing. It doesn't seem to be working tho. Might wanna come up with something else
Calm the fuck down.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship.
Keep trying to slip away little fishy. If you haven't been in an abusive romantic relationship, then you have been in abusive family relationship, or you have witnessed abuse of others within your family, and that's part of what your defensiveness and over-reactions are based on.
Posted by imss1
Once I was on holiday however, I decided to just have fun with my friend and I didn't get in touch with my guy for a few weeks, and didn't reply to his attempts to contact me until later.
This, to me, is where the problem lies.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
What the are talking about "slip out of that". Calm the fuck down. No body's trying to sli out of anything. I have no problem admitting i mightve read too much into that however this whole post pretty much sums up that she cares for him and is invested in their relationship so what fuck.
Calm the fuck down.
Weaaak! So now you are justified in fabricating events, and putting words in other peoples' mouths, and then accusing others of pulling stuff out of their ass and poor reading comprehension (but you are still NOT projecting! lol), simply because you feel like the sum-total of the way she is acting indicates she's invested in the relationship. More nonsense. Even if it DID, the question is whether or not she COMMUNICATED that to him (which you assert she did), after her actions showed otherwise. THAT is what your statement implies, so your comment is totally irrelevant.
And of course, the only thing indicated by her post is that she WANTS to be with him. If she was invested in the relationship, I doubt she would have disappeared off of the radar like that for 3 weeks, for such a superficial reason, despite the fact that he expressed how important it was to him. That's not how people act when they are invested. Her actions and words portray someone who is entitled, not invested.
You are now issuing commands - "calm the fuck down". Who sounds like the police now? LOL, are you trying to police my mood? Would you like me to put down the common sense and back away from the reasoning? Is that threatening you?
Posted by seizurePosted by imss1
Once I was on holiday however, I decided to just have fun with my friend and I didn't get in touch with my guy for a few weeks, and didn't reply to his attempts to contact me until later.
This, to me, is where the problem lies.click to expand
Exactly. Selfish and inconsiderate. At least, I hope inconsiderate... If not, the flipside is she intentionally and spitefully ignored him for some unknown reason. And maybe it's just me, but the only reason you'd be ignoring your boyfriend so hardcore, other than he did something egregiously wrong, is that the "friend" is actually a hookup.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship.
Keep trying to slip away little fishy. If you haven't been in an abusive romantic relationship, then you have been in abusive family relationship, or you have witnessed abuse of others within your family, and that's part of what your defensiveness and over-reactions are based on.click to expand
You dont know what I've been through or seen, so go fuck your self. Pulling things out of your ass is not going to help you better rationalize my opinion.
You are now issuing commands - "calm the fuck down". Who sounds like the police now? LOL, are you trying to police my mood? Would you like me to put down the common sense and back away from the reasoning? Is that threatening you?
Lol! This is just getting to be too much. I applaud you, TLS.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
What the are talking about "slip out of that". Calm the fuck down. No body's trying to sli out of anything. I have no problem admitting i mightve read too much into that however this whole post pretty much sums up that she cares for him and is invested in their relationship so what fuck.
Calm the fuck down.
Weaaak! So now you are justified in fabricating events, and putting words in other peoples' mouths, and then accusing others of pulling stuff out of their ass and poor reading comprehension (but you are still NOT projecting! lol), simply because you feel like the sum-total of the way she is acting indicates she's invested in the relationship. More nonsense. Even if it DID, the question is whether or not she COMMUNICATED that to him (which you assert she did), after her actions showed otherwise. THAT is what your statement implies, so your comment is totally irrelevant.
And of course, the only thing indicated by her post is that she WANTS to be with him. If she was invested in the relationship, I doubt she would have disappeared off of the radar like that for 3 weeks, for such a superficial reason, despite the fact that he expressed how important it was to him. That's not how people act when they are invested. Her actions and words portray someone who is entitled, not invested.
You are now issuing commands - "calm the fuck down". Who sounds like the police now? LOL, are you trying to police my mood? Would you like me to put down the common sense and back away from the reasoning? Is that threatening you?click to expand
I never said I was justified in fabricating things. you came to that conclusion because you disagreed with my opinion. you are pulling shit out of your ass. bringing up a heartbreak, abuse, or bitterness that i have not brought to is pulling shit out of your ass because not once have i mentioned experiencing anything of that sort. no to mention it has nothing to do with the topic. now whose projecting? you , once again, came to the conclusion that i was going through those things to justify you not agreeing with my opinion.
if you would have read, which is clearly not something youre good at, you would clearly see where i told her doing that to her SO was wrong and that she needed to issue an apolog
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship. I think its real pathetic that you would try to use that to belittle my opinion.
Youre looking real sorry right about now.
Your opinion is so extreme and off-base that it belittles itself. I would never need to bias anyone against it by pointing out a psychological reason for you holding it. And that would be to commit the genetic fallacy anyway. Even if your opinion were rooted in a psychological defect, it could be right or wrong depending on its own merit. I've addressed the merit of your opinion already. What I am doing is looking for an explanation as to why someone would paint another individual so harshly, with such extreme negativity, off of so little. That is clearly something rooted in you and your experience.click to expand
my comment does not belittle itself. you disagree with it, plain and simple. youre saying that youre looking for a explanation and i disagree. youre looking for a debate and asking me a bunch of redundant questions. carry on tho.
Posted by Magenta_AzurePosted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship.
Keep trying to slip away little fishy. If you haven't been in an abusive romantic relationship, then you have been in abusive family relationship, or you have witnessed abuse of others within your family, and that's part of what your defensiveness and over-reactions are based on.
You dont know what I've been through or seen, so go fuck your self. Pulling things out of your ass is not going to help you better rationalize my opinion.click to expand
Your bitterness, bias, and defensiveness gives it all away. Very transparent. Its great that you have so much fight in you. But when you become a conduit for negativity towards everything that triggers your extremely heightened sensitivity, wherever - even a message board, you are just perpetuating the cycle of abuse. You've been victimized or your loved ones have, so you become an abuser your self - exactly what you hate. I just clicked on your profile now and I see the mermaid giving the middle finger with "Mermaids hate Misogyny". Just confirmation of what you already portray. Your way of coping with negativity, perpetuates negativity.
Posted by Magenta_Azure
you are pulling shit out of your ass. bringing up a heartbreak, abuse, or bitterness that i have not brought to is pulling shit out of your ass because not once have i mentioned experiencing anything of that sort. no to mention it has nothing to do with the topic.
I've addressed the topic quite enough. And everyone can see the issues plain as day, except for your self. So what became of more interest to me was why that is so. Why are you so blinded and biased? What's the source of your anger towards men? And at that point I just felt it was more important to address that. You'll keep fighting it. That's ok. The questions and comments you have omitted answers to are more revealing than the ones you've answered. I just thought you needed to take a look at your self. No hard feelings. I'm off. Have a good night.
Posted by imss1
I've been dating my Taurus for about 4 months, it has been going really well. He generally treats me great and is really sweet, respectful and affectionate. I have been a little bit frustrated at how things were moving quite slowly - we only saw each other about once a week at best and he was quite slow to respond to my texts, taking up to a day sometimes.
Sounds like your little plan backfired.
Want to get a stubborn-slow moving Bull to move a little faster...
Put on your big-woman draws and put some more finesse in your approach.
A simple touch on his back.
A quick peck on the lips.
Yes.
We drink affection like its water!
....And direct eye contact would have worked wonders for you rather than that passive-aggressive 3 week hiatus.
Clearly, on those ladies night out during your vacation, no one clearly put the 'buzz' in your ear about keeping a man.
Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_AzurePosted by TaurusLovesScorpioPosted by Magenta_Azure
Ive also never been in an abusive relationship.
Keep trying to slip away little fishy. If you haven't been in an abusive romantic relationship, then you have been in abusive family relationship, or you have witnessed abuse of others within your family, and that's part of what your defensiveness and over-reactions are based on.
You dont know what I've been through or seen, so go fuck your self. Pulling things out of your ass is not going to help you better rationalize my opinion.
Your bitterness, bias, and defensiveness gives it all away. Very transparent. Its great that you have so much fight in you. But when you become a conduit for negativity towards everything that triggers your extremely heightened sensitivity, wherever - even a message board, you are just perpetuating the cycle of abuse. You've been victimized or your loved ones have, so you become an abuser your self - exactly what you hate. I just clicked on your profile now and I see the mermaid giving the middle finger with "Mermaids hate Misogyny". Just confirmation of what you already portray. Your way of coping with negativity, perpetuates negativity.click to expand
im not defensive at all. im respoding in the same way that you are.
i only have fight in me about certain things. just because i go off on posts here or there does not mean that i am not capable of presenting my opinion in a quieted manner.
this is so entertaining tho. you keep trying to pin things on me like you know who i am! you dont! youre reading into every little thing about me (a picture, my age, the perceived notion that i have been abused bahahaha!) and coming up with baseless conclusions. its comical at best! im not coping with anything other than being tired from work lmfao. youre reaching for something that isnt there. trying to use a bunch of horseshit psychology on me is not going to work. you dont know me
you keep trying to pin things on me like you know who i am! you dont! youre reading into every little thing about me (a picture, my age, the perceived notion that i have been abused bahahaha!) and coming up with baseless conclusions."
Isn't that what your doing? :p
Isn't that what your doing? :p
Posted by Magenta_Azure
this is so entertaining tho. you keep trying to pin things on me like you know who i am! you dont! youre reading into every little thing about me (a picture, my age, the perceived notion that i have been abused bahahaha!) and coming up with baseless conclusions. its comical at best! im not coping with anything other than being tired from work lmfao. youre reaching for something that isnt there. trying to use a bunch of horseshit psychology on me is not going to work. you dont know me
I'm stubborn too. I get it. If I'm in a strong disagreement with someone over something, I'll fight until the end. You don't have to concede anything to anyone to make changes within your self. I can see every slippery move...lol. And seeing your profile, which I just recently did, like I said was just confirmation. What's the source of your *hate* of misogyny? Not based on experience? Have you witnessed male abuse of females within your family? You didn't comment on that when I mentioned it. You just chose to reiterate that you yourself had not been abused. If so, wouldn't you say that a child witnessing abuse of others within their family is a source of abuse of that child? I realize you don't want to share the details, and that's not what's important or any of my business. For my own part I just wanted to see what was at the root of your extreme bias and harsh judgment.
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