Questions for taureans

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Geminlove on Wednesday, March 19, 2014 and has 26 replies.

Understanding Taurus in Love and Relationships

Taurus individuals are known for their loyalty and stubbornness. When they say they dislike others having you, it reflects their possessiveness. The phrase right person wrong time can apply to Taurus, but their persistence often leads to eventual commitment. To get a Taurus to open up, patience and consistency are key, as they value trust and stability.

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@Geminlove
12 Years

1) what does it mean when a bull says "i hate the idea of anyone else having you"?
2) does the statement "right person wrong time" in love, apply to taurus people? Y'all are so relentless and stubborn would you try to turn the tides from "right person wrong time" to "right person right time"?

3) how to crack a bull's shell? Get him to open up?

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@peaceloveandhappiness
12 Years

1) exactly what it means. We are possessive, jealous brats πŸ™‚
2) not sure. It depends on what the real situation is.
3) trust is earned. Might take some time. Show us you're worth us baring our souls. And don't bs your way in bcuz we can tell.

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@Leylia12
13 Years

Ahhh... the million dollars question πŸ™‚
"I hate the idea of someone else having you" I think everyone does...Taurus men just seem comfortable enough to admit it. How to get them to open up once you reject them is no easy task, but at the same time quite easy if they still harbor feelings for you. The problem is when they turn cold and distant... they do it in such an unbearable way...that people just give up. From my own experience, you have to focus on positive little signs you get from them and don't get discourage. And I can't repeat this enough, but you have to be sure of yourself and what you really want before you try and get them back. I think one of the biggest mistake people make is to do everything to please their lost Bull to win them back and then get exhausted and just give up. Unless you know for a fact that you'll be able to keep it up for a lifetime... don't do it!! Taurus men think very far ahead (at least mine does) so they aren't looking for someone submissive but rather steady. They love passionately but the price to pay is once rejected they fall really hard and will do ANYTHING they could to get away from that pain... hence the cold and distant act... you remind them of their failure, you remind them of how bad they fell...So what I had to do was remind him (my Taurus) that there were good times too, show him that I care, that I miss him. Little honest gesture are all they need... and of course time. They also have that weird motherly/fatherly attitude toward the one they love... let them take care of you... that would make them happy beyond words. Once you understand that below that cold and distant facade of theirs... lies a big golden stubborn heart that just refuse to let you go...They might have force themselve to fall out of love with you... your job is to teach them to fall in love once again... and what better way than to be your lovely self that they fell so hard for?

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@TaurusBull1977
17 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Geminlove
1) what does it mean when a bull says "i hate the idea of anyone else having you"?

It's like giving someone else our prized possession.
Think along the lines of this...
You worked overtime to purchase your first car.
A few mechanical problems, but you saw substance and a great deal of value in that car.
Cleaness, maintenance, etc.
Time invested. Work invested.
Then someone steals your car right underneath your nose.
Takes it to a chop shop or junkyard...
Dismantles it...and makes money off the parts.
The parts that you worked to build.

Keywords for Bulls: Time Invested + Patience = Rightfully Ours

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@TaurusBull1977
17 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Geminlove

2) does the statement "right person wrong time" in love, apply to taurus people? Y'all are so relentless and stubborn would you try to turn the tides from "right person wrong time" to "right person right time"?

Right Person/Wrong Time = My money is funny or family related problems. This has nothing to do with the person. I see longevity, I see a future with them...I just have to get myself together. My problems. My burden. I had this dilemma in the past. Now things are different of course.

The right person/right time can be accomplished....

But a great deal of patience will be required.

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@TaurusBull1977
17 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Geminlove

3) how to crack a bull's shell? Get him to open up?

1. Have a great sense of humor.

2. Be true to who you are. (despite your imperfections and shortcomings) Taurus men will accept a real nobody over a fake somebody any day. (despite how Venusian or superficial the zodiac state they are)

3. Be affectionate.

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@fembot
12 Years

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by Geminlove

2) does the statement "right person wrong time" in love, apply to taurus people? Y'all are so relentless and stubborn would you try to turn the tides from "right person wrong time" to "right person right time"?

Right Person/Wrong Time = My money is funny or family related problems. This has nothing to do with the person. I see longevity, I see a future with them...I just have to get myself together. My problems. My burden. I had this dilemma in the past. Now things are different of course.

The right person/right time can be accomplished....

But a great deal of patience will be required.

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+1 well said...

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@Geminlove
12 Years

Would a taurus consider an ex to be their possession? someone the bull has moved on from and the bull initiated the break up? (Just a scenario)

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@TaurusNikki
13 Years1,000+ Posts

1. If we are in a commited relationship, your mine, I'm possessive, I'm jealous at times, you break my trust I break you

2.i don't think that would apply to me, if I love you, time doesn't matter, your the one that matters the most

3.To crack the shell will take time, to build is to make things stable, which is what we Taurus value, to really crack a Taurus is to get to the heart in the right way, at these to me πŸ™‚

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@peaceloveandhappiness
12 Years

I'm responding to your question about being possessive over an ex.

My ex and I broke up last Sept but I still care for him. We started talking again as friends and the thought of him being with someone else drives me nuts.

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@peaceloveandhappiness
12 Years

But yet I don't care for my ex hub, who burned any and all feelings I had for him. Don't care who he shacks up with.

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@Geminlove
12 Years

@peaceloveandhappiness: ohhh i see, so would you say that you still have feelings for your ex? Sorry if im being nosy 😒 but im trying to figure out my own feelings and this bull..

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@peaceloveandhappiness
12 Years

Yes I do..we were together 2 1/2 years. And I haven't been able to shake him off yet.

Sucks to be such a focused person bcuz u see, I have a Virgo moon 😒

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@Geminlove
12 Years

@peaceloveandhappiness: awwh 😒 im sorry to hear that...im guessing he initiated the break up...? My taurean has virgo moon too. How does virgo moon affect a taurean in love? You mentioned that you two decided to be friends, but seeing him and being around him.....wouldnt that deepen your feelings for him? My advice if you want to get over him is you should do something fun with your girlfriends, go out, meet new people and keep yourself occupied πŸ™‚

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@peaceloveandhappiness
12 Years

Posted by Geminlove
@peaceloveandhappiness: awwh 😒 im sorry to hear that...im guessing he initiated the break up...? My taurean has virgo moon too. How does virgo moon affect a taurean in love? You mentioned that you two decided to be friends, but seeing him and being around him.....wouldnt that deepen your feelings for him? My advice if you want to get over him is you should do something fun with your girlfriends, go out, meet new people and keep yourself occupied πŸ™‚

It was kind of mutual but then not. Too many guessing games with him which got on my nerves. (Hint hint - we don't care for flakiness or inconsistency of any kind). I finally reached my peak, got pissed and didn't talk to him for 3 mos. Got over it, missed his friendship as we'd been friends for many many yrs, and reached out to him again.

http://www.alwaysastrology.com/virgo-moon.html

I pulled back and take him with a grain of salt now. He's a different bird (Aquarius moon). I do go out and carry on...I was just speaking in general about how possessiveness works with me. If he has/d another I'd deal with it, but I wouldn't like it πŸ˜„

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@lucyL
12 Years500+ Posts

So I am sitting in a coffee shop whit my guy and noticing on our left, my ex from 3 years before approaching. Both are Taurus.

My ex is coming to us - to me actually, we stayed on a good, friendly relation. Coming by our table, standing, giving me a shaking hand saying hi, also to my guy - intoducing himself. I'm thinking, shit, why oh why do you have to come now!
So he is asking questions like: how you doing, how's your parents? etc.. Honestly, I could see their horns growing!!! πŸ˜„ what an image to see! Playing all silent and cool but the energy between them was soooo tense. Wow!

So referring to that "you are mine" ... After my ex left us, I could definitely sense a certain shift in my guy. Especially after.... In the afternoon I got his message saying: Are you in a ride?(bicycle) He said he is on the beach, sitting alone, watching at the horizon, drinking beer - would I join him? Well yes of course! I arrived and he was all over me like an octopus. He said: for some reason I was so unsettled 'till you came. He didn't let me go out of his arms the whole day.

Tomorrow afternoon, we went for a ride, set down, drinking our beer, then he admitted (what I sensed could be the problemo) He said that for "some reason" , he "cannot explain it why" he felt so possessive cause of my ex. He said he knows that it is in my past and it is all normal, and that he trusts me ... etc. but but but: I could not help it feeling that way cause...you are MINE! Then he smiled. I said: Of course I am, luckily I escaped what was not good for me and finally found you! Next time you should just tell me instead of torturing yourself with such thoughts. He said he needed a day to "digest" the feeling by himself.

Anyhow, that was really interesting to me.

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@Geminlove
12 Years

@peaceloveandhappiness: so you feel nothing for him now...?( feelings wise) But if he tried to be a better man (consistent, loving) and pursued you. you would give him another chance...? Thank you for the virgo moon link πŸ™‚ appreciate it (y) im asking a ton of questions i know and sorry

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@Taurean6
12 YearsTaurus

Posted by Geminlove
1) what does it mean when a bull says "i hate the idea of anyone else having you"?
2) does the statement "right person wrong time" in love, apply to taurus people? Y'all are so relentless and stubborn would you try to turn the tides from "right person wrong time" to "right person right time"?

3) how to crack a bull's shell? Get him to open up?

1) That means he or she likes you a whole lot πŸ™‚
2) I don't understand that one.
3) Stay natural and stay free. As long as you stay your most natural, do not try to act up, he will notice it and love you for it. If you try to poke him to ge thim moving, he will not like you and you will eventually lose him.

Taureans are better talking about deep subjects. Don't pester him with a lot of small subjects and small talk. It will bore him to death ^_^

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@peaceloveandhappiness
12 Years

Posted by Geminlove
@peaceloveandhappiness: so you feel nothing for him now...?( feelings wise) But if he tried to be a better man (consistent, loving) and pursued you. you would give him another chance...? Thank you for the virgo moon link πŸ™‚ appreciate it (y) im asking a ton of questions i know and sorry

To answer your question about my ex, I guess I would like it if he was, but he's not. And I think it didn't work for a reason. I need a strong man who has no doubts about me and what he wants. He was quite indecisive about a lot. After we stopped talking I realized I'd probably been giving off cold vibes bcuz deep down I knew he was not strong enough for me. Think he could feel I was getting a lil turned off - he'd always been very in tune with my feelings. So we kept bouncing off each other's vibes, never addressing our issues. He didn't like to argue/discuss and couldn't express his feelings and that was really hard for me. I need a direct approach... need to know where things stand.

There's a lot more to my story but that's pretty much what it boils down to. He's a good friend to talk to and he feels safe enough with me to bring his 4 yr old daughter by when he can. I just enjoy the moments we have when we're together and let the cards lie as they may.

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@Geminlove
12 Years

Peacelove&happiness: hopefully you'll be able to fully let go of him πŸ™‚

Taurean6: thank you πŸ™‚