Reason for MIA?

Been 10 days of silence from Taurus dude. I'm now coming to the realization it might have been something I said.

In the last conversation, he told me he wears a small pony tail. I couldn't tell from his pics at all so I was surprised. It just didn't fit my impression of him at all. The topic came up when discussing my son who has nice, luscious long hair. So I teased him, asking if he had a mullet. You know, "Business in the front, party in the back?". He seemed to joke back but at one point he may have been self conscious, saying "Im looking in the reflection of my glass door, without the pony tail, and I can't even see the back"...meaning it's not that long. I think now he was feeling that I wasnt into long hair and was trying to minimize it. Not it all, I showed great interest in it.

I told him Id love to see it and more photos of him, and his dog. He said he'd send em. He never did. Come to think of it, we'd normally speak for about 2 hours, but that night he cut it short at 45 mins, saying he had to be up early.

So....could it be he is THAT sensitive....? Really?

lol yup, he could be that sensitive.

omg...nothing worse than an older man with long hair imo. sounds like he got a little sensitive when you were talking about it and yeah, i think some men can be overly so when it comes to their hair in the same way women are about wrinkles.

it's a bit of an over reactin to not speak to you though don't you think??

Ya, he is 51, 6'5 tall...but has a youthful face. I asked why he wears it long? Says he alwyaus thought tall men look better with it...and says he's worn it this way 20 yrs..more proof Taurus men dont like change and love routine.

Honestly, if this is the reason, he is a whacko. Since this revelation came to me at 5am when I woke up today, I sent a "final attempt" email and asked him. I said I also found his ignoring me to be hurtful and that this is obviously not meant to be. He knows how the scorpio left me in silence, never responding to my attmepts at communication. I find his doing the same extremely thoughtless and selfish.

Fecking men.

*If it's the reason he went MIA, I mean.

UPDATE:

Well the bull found the phone. At high noon today, whilst in a meeting, he called and left a message. "Hey Panties, how are ya? blah blah blah...Im sitting by my pool, looking out at the clouds and you came to my mind AMONG OTHER THINGS (wtf??) so Im calling, hope you are well, blah blah blah...well since you're not around I guess I will read...Hope you are well...."


"Amongst other things..." yeah, dont want to admit YOU ARE THINKING of me, do ya, ya freak?

I thought maybe it was as a result of my email I sent this sm, but he hasnt read it, according to my tracking service. Pheck him...its rude to ignore people and Ive had enough. Pecker head.

yeah...it's downright rude and the only way of making them know how rude it is, is by doing it back to them!! give him a dose of his own medicine for a while to illustrate your point. 🙂

After reading old threads on DXP about men who string women along, Im believieng more and more this man has strung this out and delayed meeting me because he has unfinished business with another woman. There is no reason why anyone would show as much interest and not want to meet. After going MIA for 10 days and calling with no apology or explanation, its clear this isnt going anywhere.

I just dont know whether to end it verbally or blow him off. I am NOT like the blow off, not cus it will hurt or confuse him...but because I dont want him to keep calling me, What Id really like is for him to come out and tell me what the shit is going on....ex gf still in the picture or what?

Any great ideas on how to get that to fruition?

Posted by BigGirlPanties
After reading old threads on DXP about men who string women along, Im believieng more and more this man has strung this out and delayed meeting me because he has unfinished business with another woman. There is no reason why anyone would show as much interest and not want to meet. After going MIA for 10 days and calling with no apology or explanation, its clear this isnt going anywhere.

I just dont know whether to end it verbally or blow him off. I am NOT like the blow off, not cus it will hurt or confuse him...but because I dont want him to keep calling me, What Id really like is for him to come out and tell me what the shit is going on....ex gf still in the picture or what?

Any great ideas on how to get that to fruition?

BGP hs he said why he doesnt want to meet?

*has

After I said it was time to meet, he said he was in "complete agreement", lets do it..said he'd come to my area on Easter weekend...then...nothing. He blew it off, didnt call for 2 days, I got pissed and sent an email saying his inconsistentcy was a no go.

He called several times over the course of a week, I didnt take the calls till 10 days later where I confronted this issue. He said he isnt hesitant to meet, he just want us to get to know each other better, and then meet. I bought that shit cus Im a dumb head. I let it go like that 10 days ago, we had a nice convo or two..then this silence. So no, I dont know the specific reason, but clearly this isnt normal.

Well I met my ex (Taurus) on line and we met after 3 months, we just talked and got to know each other better, but I must say he was more in a hurry to meet than i was..We lasted 3 yrs.
But that shouldnt be a red flag, I have read that if it goes up to the 6th month and the distance is not an issue and he still doesn't want to meet, then their is something to worry about. Another gf, married,or God knows what. Me and the Taurus were 4 hrs away. Just don't be exclusive with him, keep him as a friend and if when he decides he wants to meet and if you are still available then you go for it and if not, its his lost. At least you know you just didn't sit and wait on him. I will tell you this, sometimes it's worth waiting, you get to know the person inside out, later the physical doesn't matter that much. You get to know his mind and his heart. I hope it works out for you.

Thanks, BagGirl....I appreciate your experience. We are 2 hrs away, and I offered to make the drive over first, just cus I wanted the control to come and go as I pleased.

He read my *final attempt* email a few hrs ago, no reply. I said his ignoring me was hurtful and it just looks like this isnt meant to be. I do not expect to hear from him. He has not led me on, been ooey gooey romantic or tried to seduce me in any way. Its be casual friendly, fun and stuff. BUt there IS something going on with him and whatever it is, its really getting too old. I dont want to sit around wondering. The silent amputation I got from the scorpio was enough to teach me to NEVER allow it again.

I;ll report back if I do hear something, but unless it's him showing up on my door step (Clothed, btw) it wont be shit to me. Words are worthless now.

$ # $ &(*&@#)@!! Typos up the ying yang...I called you a Bag girl again!!

Im sorry...the *a* key on my laptop is busted and its hard as hell to type well. Duh!

Posted by BigGirlPanties
$ # $ &(*&@#)@!! Typos up the ying yang...I called you a Bag girl again!!

Im sorry...the *a* key on my laptop is busted and its hard as hell to type well. Duh!

LMAO Don't worry about it, I also have the *a* screwd up on my laptop...But Im glad I was able to give you some light on this matter..Hopefully he will wear clothes..lol..Look at it this way..If he doesn't make the effort that only means he is not for you. So as far as Im concerned you just dodged a bullet. Yes I do remember you went through a bad time with the Scorp, hopefully this will not be the case since you are not putting too much heart on this one..🙂

Good Luck...

I had the same thing happen to me, I had asked my man to come meet me twice and he never did and because my man didnt come meet me I had noted it was over and told him. I am not sure now where he is at the moment. Its become rather difficult in knowing what the fuck is going on? Does he want to meet me or does he not? Is he stringing me along or not? Does he like me or not? I took the not meeting me as him not wanting to be with me and so in return I said it was over(also I cheated on him with his friend, a setup, though it doesnt excuse what I did). I dont think it will work when I have cheated on him regardless if a setup or not. Not sure where I stand with him coz of this. I still want to be with him but its gotten to the point where if he doesnt come and meet me or tell me where we stand then I cant go on like this. I want to start meeting other ppl and am tired of waiting for him.

Maybe he's a fatty. Maybe he's married. Maybe he's playing around for ego boost purposes.

What if he sent you some pics he found on someone's Facebook, and is lying about his appearance...

Why else would he cut you off after you mentioned meeting?

He's not gonna dump you cause you (may) not like his hair.

His profile pics match his FB pic. I googled the snot outta him, and it all checks out. If he digs me or is into meeting me, he will suit up...otherwise he won't. He may be insecure about his looks, tho the pics I saw he is attrctive, not drop dead gorgeous but cute. He is just such a loner and introvert...my sunny, outgoing Leo-ness might just be too much for him 😛

This is a taurus behavior. This men can be patient butwhen they ready to go for something they go for it. I never dated a lot of taurus men but been around a lot of females and men friends who done this to other people. Go for your gut.so far his character is something that u can't stand.so imagine becoming deep friends or alover to him.

Well, the sucky thing for him is I have just come off the scorpio relationship that had a lot of inconsistent, eluisve behavior and I learned from it. I tolerated a lot of negative stuff because I was really, deeply in love. This time, I applied the lessons from that I learned. I just wont tolerate the inconsistency anymore, especially when someone doesn't have the courtesy to return a call or text. Its just rude.

So, it sucks, but I found this quote today from Joel Osteen that just screams at me...

"—You will never change what you tolerate.??

actually bgp...his behaviour is similar to that leo of mine who i know to be in a relationship these days...so perhaps you're on to something. badgirl's given the best advice to not be exclusive while he's figuring his shit out and if you're free at that point, then you can decide what to do at that stage.

you need to switch around the ignoring so that it's you doing it.

Awwwe BGP.. I am not good at giving advice and lord knows that I could use advice about my situaton too.
I agree that the ignoring should be flipped around. It actually does work, my tauro dude has been blowing up my phone since I let it go to VM And I have yet to answer any of his call or text. I am making him work. I am still debating if I should give him a second chance because if he's done it once what's to say he won't go MIA for another 13 days. Trust me this has happened to me before. I mean

Hang in there... I'm sure once he realizes that you have fallen back, he will be back full force.
I just hope things work out for you and if this guy can't open his eyes and see he is losing out on a good thing then screw him!
There will be someone out there better to give you what you deserve. 🙂

Guess who the retrograde sent a knockin'? Hmm ummm....10 days ago I texted the nude dude a question asking if he lives life to the fullest? I had just gotten some sad news about a close friend who was diagnosed with lung cancer and feeling very sad and philosophical. I was thinking how this guy jerked me around for 3 months then didnt want to meet.

He never replied to the text till today. Maybe our respective cell providers delayed the response, or maybe not. Havent responded to him. Any ideas how to say?

Ive been thinking more about someone else lately, not this guy, so interesting how the universe does its communicating.

^^^^^^likewise...i wouldn't waste your time answering. it is interesting that when our mind is completely off the ball things happen in other areas! i guess there's a clue there 🙂

I couldnt help but fuck with him. Ive been in a foul mood for days and Im pissed off at men in general so this is what I did. I called him, and of course it went to vm. I said I wanted to know if I had a problem with my cell provider, or maybe his since it took 10 days for his reply...then I said "Or maybe you just needed time to contemplate on your reply and just sent it today?"...then I wished him well and a good day.

That was 4 hrs ago, no reply from this piss ant of a Taurus. What a twat...he better watch out, Im gonna cut that bitch if I hear back from him.

Yup, its the one and same. I think his pecker must've gotten a little too sun burnt. He knows Im challenging him on waiting 10 days to reply. The little pecker fecker, I will continue to challenge him.....I have a plan....stay tuned for moreeeeeeee

Please ma'am...can we have some more?

Fuck, you're a crack up, give us the next instalment!!! 🙂

well this little naked loving bull totally blew me off. Didnt reply to my vm asking why it took 10 days to reply. Feck him...I done met me a aqua man who just happens to ALSO be 6'5...HA! My revenge....oh and my ex scorp has made a reappearance wanting to apologize and 'splain hisself....


uh huh.....that bull done pooped in his own way and Im off to play with AQUA MAN!!

I just wanna say BGP


FUCK INTERNET DUDES WHO TALK THE tALK BUT REFUSE TO MEET
FUCK THEM
FUCK THEM SO HARD
FUCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK


That is all.