So tell me..

Hi me again about that one taurus guy I was freaking out about. Taurus sun, sag moon, aries merc, areis veus, taurus mars. Okay as you know before we had only been talking for a couple weeks but I was the only one intiating contact so I stopped texting him for two weeks but I broke and I texted him yesterday. We talked for a little bit but there was hours between every response and we had only been talking about one topic so right when I change the topic he just straight up ignored me. This of course confused me so I looked up articles and some said "keep pursuing its a test to see if you'll be there for him through thick and thin and to see how tough you are" and then another said "give them sapce let them chase you yadayadayada". So what is the truth?? Let me know if this is a waste of time or if I should keep going oh and if you guys could not attack me like last time that would be GREAT. Thank you

Has he asked you out and have you met in person?

What was the topic?

Posted by loonylibra
Hi me again about that one taurus guy I was freaking out about. Taurus sun, sag moon, aries merc, areis veus, taurus mars. Okay as you know before we had only been talking for a couple weeks but I was the only one intiating contact so I stopped texting him for two weeks but I broke and I texted him yesterday. We talked for a little bit but there was hours between every response and we had only been talking about one topic so right when I change the topic he just straight up ignored me. This of course confused me so I looked up articles and some said "keep pursuing its a test to see if you'll be there for him through thick and thin and to see how tough you are" and then another said "give them sapce let them chase you yadayadayada". So what is the truth?? Let me know if this is a waste of time or if I should keep going oh and if you guys could not attack me like last time that would be GREAT. Thank you

if you are the only one initiating conversation and he is taking hours to respond then stop chasing him. he is not interested.

it's not confusing, you just don't want to accept it.

Posted by loonylibra
Hi me again about that one taurus guy I was freaking out about. Taurus sun, sag moon, aries merc, areis veus, taurus mars. Okay as you know before we had only been talking for a couple weeks but I was the only one intiating contact so I stopped texting him for two weeks but I broke and I texted him yesterday. We talked for a little bit but there was hours between every response and we had only been talking about one topic so right when I change the topic he just straight up ignored me. This of course confused me so I looked up articles and some said "keep pursuing its a test to see if you'll be there for him through thick and thin and to see how tough you are" and then another said "give them sapce let them chase you yadayadayada". So what is the truth?? Let me know if this is a waste of time or if I should keep going oh and if you guys could not attack me like last time that would be GREAT. Thank you

Posting this video for the second time her hoping there will be less desperate women.

Thank you guys. I overanalyzed and made it into something it's not once again. I thought it was just a mind game but hes not interested. @busyeyes88 @koniucha @taurusmarine @jeane @BG2 @InstantKarma

Posted by loonylibra
Thank you guys. I overanalyzed and made it into something it's not once again. I thought it was just a mind game but hes not interested. @busyeyes88 @koniucha @taurusmarine @jeane @BG2 @InstantKarma

you're welcome! now go and find someone who thinks you are amazing.

Posted by Instantkarma
And what are you texting him about? Topic matters too. Trust me when I say this, very few girls are great at this. Most over do it and there are many who don't know when to quit.
Simple rule of texting.
When the convo gets a bit boring, don't work hard to make it happen.
Break it off with a nice and easy bye. So you can always get back after a few days.
This is the initial phase.
You need to keep it interesting.

Now that I think about it the topic was boring. I was asking him about his car lol. I was trying hard to keep it going but I dont know why I didnt catch that he wasnt interested? But I changed the topic to a band he showed me and I said that I had been listening to them a bit. Then he ignored me so idk

InstantKarma, I don't think your lengthy post here is offering sound advice. If you remove the astrological element and judge OP's situation purely on dating, which is what it is, then even Stevie Wonder can see this guy is NOT interested in this girl.


I'll keep it simple:

If he's NOT asking her out then he's NOT interested.

If he IS asking her out then he IS interested.


Had we even established if they had met in person yet or did OP breeze past my earlier question to focus on the meaningless shit wafting through her empty head?

Regarding my recent experience of two Taurus men both with Venus in Aries (one with Sag moon, one with Leo moon), the Leo moon one (with Cap Mars) pursued me consistently. He knew he wanted me and wouldn't give up. He did pretty much everything he could and did not let me go. The Sag moon (also with Aries Mars) was lazy and did not pursue. He said he didn't 'chase' and wanted it put on a plate with zero effort.

The main difference between these two men was where they were in their lives and what they were looking for. One was available and ready for a relationship. The other was available and ready for sex. The one ready for a relationship showed genuine interest in me. The one ready for sex only text or responded when he was bored or to try his luck.

"keep pursuing its a test to see if you'll be there for him through thick and thin and to see how tough you are"

Bahahha what a load of bullshit. Most men arent running test on women to determine if she will stick by his side through thick or thin...especially not this EARLY in a courtship. More times than most a man is going to pursue what he wants, more times than most its gonna be the woman playing those so called mind tricks to test her guys interest. If he has ignored you in the past AND has grown extremely slow and seemingly uninterested in texting you, he's probably not interested.

No need to read an article. If he's not chasing you, pursuing you, making an effort to talk to you, see you, he's just not interested, so dont hold out for him.

Posted by AgentP911
InstantKarma, I don't think your lengthy post here is offering sound advice. If you remove the astrological element and judge OP's situation purely on dating, which is what it is, then even Stevie Wonder can see this guy is NOT interested in this girl.


I'll keep it simple:

If he's NOT asking her out then he's NOT interested.

If he IS asking her out then he IS interested.


Had we even established if they had met in person yet or did OP breeze past my earlier question to focus on the meaningless shit wafting through her empty head?

+1 EXACTLY

Fuck all the unnecessary noise. The guy ghosted on her for a few weeks...literally acted like she no longer existed, she reaches out and he took his precious time talking to her because he was probably bored AND uninterested.

Not trying to be harsh OP, but lets flip the switch and place you in his shoes...have you ever had some poor guy be into you and you tried to hold a convo, or be a decent human being and respond to him but because you had no interest, texting back and responding was little to no priority to you??

That is what has happened here. He tried to take the coward way out (were you two ever dating?) by ignoring you and just disappearing , hoping you would take a hint...you didnt so he kept up with small chit chat for a bit trying not to be a total ass, but once it was clear you intended to have a full conversation with him and did not see the signs, he backed off again.

He's a bit of a jerk. Just take your dignity and stop chasing for someone's attention that is not giving you theres.

Posted by AgentP911
InstantKarma, I don't think your lengthy post here is offering sound advice. If you remove the astrological element and judge OP's situation purely on dating, which is what it is, then even Stevie Wonder can see this guy is NOT interested in this girl.


I'll keep it simple:

If he's NOT asking her out then he's NOT interested.

If he IS asking her out then he IS interested.


Had we even established if they had met in person yet or did OP breeze past my earlier question to focus on the meaningless shit wafting through her empty head?

No we havent met in person. We planned to but im not able to right now

Posted by loonylibra

Posted by AgentP911
InstantKarma, I don't think your lengthy post here is offering sound advice. If you remove the astrological element and judge OP's situation purely on dating, which is what it is, then even Stevie Wonder can see this guy is NOT interested in this girl.


I'll keep it simple:

If he's NOT asking her out then he's NOT interested.

If he IS asking her out then he IS interested.


Had we even established if they had met in person yet or did OP breeze past my earlier question to focus on the meaningless shit wafting through her empty head?

No we havent met in person. We planned to but im not able to right now

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I didn't think so. Just stop it. Enough is enough. There's billions of people on this planet. Chasing some pictures and words on a dating profile is not the best decision. If he's not asked you out within a week of establishing good rapport then delete his number and move him to the bin. All he's showing you is he's sitting on his arse with his dick in one hand and his phone in the other, texting you when he's bored. That's not what you want. Is it? No. Multi chat, text, and date to keep your options open. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Do a list of what you're looking for and what qualities you want and need. Reject inconsistent, rude, and shabby behaviour. Delete this guys number. He's not genuinely interested in you.

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by Instantkarma
And I know women who have chased and caught their guy! It is all about HOW you chase!
I hate it when women put women down!

However you want to 'interpret' this is entirely up to you but also as women , we need to encourage women not spend too much time chasing a man who shows NO SIGNS of interest which has clearly happened here.

Look at the 'Maths'.. The obvious sign is that he went MIA for two weeks had she not contacted him, she would never have heard from him! A man regardless of sign will not disappear for two weeks without explanation if they are interested.

Also the OP and the Taurus can't even be bothered to physically meet! Come on ... It's dead in the water and you know it! There is no interest here and at least every woman on this panel has said so from reading the evidence put before them!

So please do not encourage another woman to chase a man who has no interest . It's bad enough , IMO, that a woman chases a man in the first place but doubly worse if there is no signs of life from his side.

So if you want to value a woman and stick up for her and be on her 'team' do RIGHT by her and tell the truth!

The FACTS are that his poor OP is wasting her time and whilst she chases this 'empty space' she is leaving herself closed off to a man who is available to her !!

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while i agree with you on the whole busy, i think it's not helpful to make blanket assumptions.

i am a self confessed chaser. i made myself available, i instigated and initiated conversations, i was the one to eventually spell out my feelings. you're right, women shouldn't chase a man who shows no interest. not because they can't but just because it is a zero sum game. it's pointless to continually flog a dead horse.

but my guy disappeared for a month once. i didn't contact him and he didn't contact me. it wasn't because he wasn't interested, it just works out it was a terrible month for him personally.

i think things have to be seen in context. where yes, he disappeared and i very much chased, it was also reciprocal. he chased me too. he initiated conversations, he shared his thoughts and time with me, he was there for me in my time of need.

this is the problem. we only see a snapshot of these situations. not only is it a biased, subjective view coming from a person who is always emotionally invested but it is also just a small portion of the entire picture.

i don't think you can have hard or fast rules for every permutation. sometimes, as in my situation, they don't fit.

Posted by busyeyes88
@Libraurus. There was signs of interest from your bull. There is no sign of life from the OP's bull!! I'm just sick and tired of seeing women desperately chasing men that are not interested in them and being encouraged by the likes of Instantkarma to do so!!

yes, agreed. i think she should stop chasing too. even i know when it is time to give up!

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Posted by AgentP911
InstantKarma, I don't think your lengthy post here is offering sound advice. If you remove the astrological element and judge OP's situation purely on dating, which is what it is, then even Stevie Wonder can see this guy is NOT interested in this girl.


I'll keep it simple:

If he's NOT asking her out then he's NOT interested.

If he IS asking her out then he IS interested.


Had we even established if they had met in person yet or did OP breeze past my earlier question to focus on the meaningless shit wafting through her empty head?

It took you a while to learn that right?
I remember reading a thread where you wanted a bad boy! Even though the guy was just sexual and disrespectful, you wanted to date him. You kept looking out for signs! Sad, when it comes to you, you have already forgotten your posts where you wanted that Taurus man to give you the SEMBLANCE of a date!! Since you are a regular and have a tag team, you got away with it!!! Your head was empty too, few months ago. Be kind. How much does it take?
Thing is we all make mistakes in the dating scene.
The Taurus guy I'm with now, we broke up over the silliest of mistakes. What I know is, if you want something, go for it. Rather than cry over it for few years. Personal experience 😆
And personally, I don't believe in attacking or insulting someone who came here asking for help.
If I were rude to you, you deserved it.
I won't even care to visit this thread anymore.

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Firstly, I disagreed with your post/advice. It happens. There was no rudeness, attacking or insulting involved.

Secondly, I think you have me confused with someone else in relation to dating or wanting a 'bad boy'. There have only been three guys I've dated since Christmas time. Two Taurus and one Scorpio. I met one of the Taurus for a date before I went away over Christmas (Amsterdam, Lithuania, Estonia, Latvia, Moscow and St Petersburg... I live a hard life) but he was just after sex so that finished that as we were not a match. The other Taurus is now my boyfriend. I'm too old to fuck about with bad boys darling! Unless it's on my terms of course.

Lastly, that's a shame about you breaking up with your Taurus over a silly mistake. Perhaps he realised you're a bit a nasty, retarded cunt.

Posted by loonylibra
Hi me again about that one taurus guy I was freaking out about. Taurus sun, sag moon, aries merc, areis veus, taurus mars. Okay as you know before we had only been talking for a couple weeks but I was the only one intiating contact so I stopped texting him for two weeks but I broke and I texted him yesterday. We talked for a little bit but there was hours between every response and we had only been talking about one topic so right when I change the topic he just straight up ignored me. This of course confused me so I looked up articles and some said "keep pursuing its a test to see if you'll be there for him through thick and thin and to see how tough you are" and then another said "give them sapce let them chase you yadayadayada". So what is the truth?? Let me know if this is a waste of time or if I should keep going oh and if you guys could not attack me like last time that would be GREAT. Thank you

Did you tell him you didn't like that in a nonthreatening way? Don't be afraid to communicate what you want or don't want to men. You could tell him you're disappointed with the fact you couldn't talk. If he's not an asshole and wort your time, he'll alter that routine you didn't like.
If he just ignores or tells you off, RUN FOREST RUN.

But watever you express about your feelings, do it casually and naturally as if he's your friend and you just want him to know regardlessly of how he can react.

I think you are confused... Or illiterate... Or both!

If you're so enamoured by my previous posts I suggest you actually go and read them.

What you'll find is I gave the guy one week upon returning from my trip to ask me out on a proper date. That's enough time for a guy to meet up or at least book something in depending on diaries and availability.

Instead he asked me round his place for sex which I declined. From then on he was zoned as a dial a fuck. He still continued to text me and I answered politely. He was an ok fella. Just not a match.

Meanwhile I'd been on dates with two other guys. It's good to keep your options open while dating and I don't think chasing a guy who isn't on the same page as you or showing interest in the way you like or require is a good thing to do. By all means express interest and reciprocate but what's the point in chasing after someone who isn't chasing you? It's hardly mutual.

Subsequently, the original Taurus guy then did ask me out on a proper date a couple of months later. Initially he'd been looking for sex (Aries Venus and Mars) but then as time had passed he confessed he was looking for more than just sex in his life. Unfortunately for him I'd already met someone else and was exclusively dating them at the time. He moved too slow but it's where he was in his life. I was clear and upfront about my intentions.

My current Taurus boyfriend showed me consistent interest from day one and was also clear with his intentions. I never had to question him or wonder what was going on. It was right there in front of me to see.

Which is why I disagreed with your advice in this particular situation OP finds herself in. I don't think the guy in question is expressing enough interest in her so she'd be wise to stop initiating contact to see what happens.

Advising her to chase this dude who isn't asking her out or initiating contact etc is a pointless waste of time.

I really don't see why you got the arsehole when I simply disagreed with you.

^^^ yeah I did see that too. I like banter and sarcasm but fucking hell, I was polite in disagreeing with the daft bint.

Sometimes I wonder if people act as they do outside of this forum. How on earth do they function? Thankfully, I'm a sarcastic cunt in real life too!