Taurean Guy..Help!!!!

So this guy..a taurean ofcourse, met him 4 months ago..i approached him..we were constantly in touch since then..he used to drop by..meet me every night after work..it was all like a fairy tale...i even started helping him out in his work, he opened up a lot..he talked about his problems and seeked my help (which he still does btw)..then on fortunate day, i told him how i really felt..he said he really likes me..it was all fine..then suddenly out of the blue, his attitude startd changing..don know why..probably i scared him off..m a libran btw..guess i was getting too much clinged onto him..we gave it a break for a week but obviously i couldnt contain it n went bak to him..nw wen we talk he talks normally and its nice no doubt..but its not like before..should i give it time and space? do taureans come back? pls advise..or should i simply ignore him..dis hot - cold behaviour of him is getting too much now..

PS: he told me that he'll always be around no matter what..bt i dont want to get friendzoned..

I think it's too late... sounds like you've already been friend-zoned.

so nothing can be done? 😢

Posted by librangirl09
then on fortunate day, i told him how i really felt..

Posted by librangirl09
he said he really likes me..it was all fine..

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He's a Bull. Please let things flow organically.

You told him how you felt.
You stated that he felt the same way.

He's not dodging you, pulling a disappearing act, or exhibiting any hot and cold behavior. He's still in contact with you.

Your expectations may be a bit idealistic. An immediate world-wind romance after an exchange of interest, perhaps. If the interaction between the both of you have somehow shifted, it may be because you're making him uneasy, pushing him to express himself ( he may not be an effective communicator in the realms of love and romance, for some Bulls, this can pose quite a challenge, it may take some time).

As I stated earlier, he's a Bull, please allow things to flow organically.

Don't push him, no need to, he's already interested.

Continue to be pushy, and he will NOT budge, he will take a back exit, and your 'friendship' card may be revoked.

hello librangirl09,

Libra's are shallow thinker.. yes they have this beauty. Taurus just too flirty.. yes they just want a friendship thing. lol. Libra misunderstood Taurus men.

@TaurusBull1977, @lust: thank you so much for your advice..have totally stopped pushing him for anything..n i think your advice is really working..much love..other than that will keep you updated..:*

KittyKnitter: thanks sweety..🙂

@denver34: thnks..but physical needs..lol 😛

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Posted by librangirl09
then on fortunate day, i told him how i really felt..

Posted by librangirl09
he said he really likes me..it was all fine..

He's a Bull. Please let things flow organically.

You told him how you felt.
You stated that he felt the same way.

He's not dodging you, pulling a disappearing act, or exhibiting any hot and cold behavior. He's still in contact with you.

Your expectations may be a bit idealistic. An immediate world-wind romance after an exchange of interest, perhaps. If the interaction between the both of you have somehow shifted, it may be because you're making him uneasy, pushing him to express himself ( he may not be an effective communicator in the realms of love and romance, for some Bulls, this can pose quite a challenge, it may take some time).

As I stated earlier, he's a Bull, please allow things to flow organically.

Don't push him, no need to, he's already interested.

Continue to be pushy, and he will NOT budge, he will take a back exit, and your 'friendship' card may be revoked.

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Past few days have been like when I text or call, he talks to me..when he says hell call, he never calls (usually I know that he is not going to call)..nywys so yesterday, i was so irritated because I had told him I mite come to the our common meeting place (had called him before and he said "yes m here)..he ws like ok..but then i never went there and came back home..I called him and he ws all normal..nvr asked me if u are coming or not..i asked him about if everything was fine..he said dere is nothing..everything is fine and even if dere is something wrong, its not important that i tell everything to everybody..btw i was keeping my calm all this while..then he said I am mean, selfish person and dont deserve anything good..I told him not to use these words for himself..and it is just that earlier it was not like this and u use to discuss everything..dere is this change that has happened and it will take sometime for me to accept this change till then pls bear with me..and i also told him as far as calling is concerned I am the only one who initiates any conversation and have already kept my self respect

*at the back burner..for which he said you are just assuming things..Am I really assuming things??

Posted by TachiMichi
i have not witnessed this.
my bull takes his time with his feelings
he makes sure to get this thoughts together
before he conveys them to me.
there is no rushing taurus to communicate.
give him time and let him gather his thoughts
before you expect him to come out with them.
otherwise, you will not receive everything
that could be unfolded.
there is a time and place
for him to be open with you.
taurus never moves when others feel he should
he moves when he feels it is right.
respect that or lose him.

Thanks for d advise..

Posted by librangirl09

Posted by TachiMichi
i have not witnessed this.
my bull takes his time with his feelings
he makes sure to get this thoughts together
before he conveys them to me.
there is no rushing taurus to communicate.
give him time and let him gather his thoughts
before you expect him to come out with them.
otherwise, you will not receive everything
that could be unfolded.
there is a time and place
for him to be open with you.
taurus never moves when others feel he should
he moves when he feels it is right.
respect that or lose him.

Thanks for d advise..

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So i shud not call him or text him..??

librangirl09,

yes. don't call. don't text. lol. no assumptions either.

u r ryt..i give up..had a huge fight..where he came out with all sorts of nonsensical stuff and proved me wrong..probably he was wearing some sort of a mask and it came out on sunday..jus cant deal with him anymore..m done..

hello librangirl09,

what happened?

on sunday I decided dat ill talk to him and wil ask him wat is happening and if anything is bothering him..i met him..he ws as usual in a screwed up mood..he said i don want to talk..i don feel like talking..i tried to reason out..he said dat m trying to lure him into meeting me and talking to me..WTH!!!..i tld him are u a kid dat u r getting lured..ofcourse u have a mind of ur own..he startd blabbering stupid stuff aftr dat.i ws like fine if u dont want to tell me wat it is then let it be coz m already putting hell lot of efforts in dis..n i don buy this reason of urs..in the end i tld him god bless u..

PS: i also calld him a coward coz u cant accept things fr wat dey are and try to run from them..

Posted by TachiMichi
i have not witnessed this.
my bull takes his time with his feelings
he makes sure to get this thoughts together
before he conveys them to me.
there is no rushing taurus to communicate.
give him time and let him gather his thoughts
before you expect him to come out with them.
otherwise, you will not receive everything
that could be unfolded.
there is a time and place
for him to be open with you.
taurus never moves when others feel he should
he moves when he feels it is right.
respect that or lose him.

I love your comments. You have a keen understanding of the Bull species. I congratulate you...😉

Posted by librangirl09
on sunday I decided dat ill talk to him and wil ask him wat is happening and if anything is bothering him..i met him..he ws as usual in a screwed up mood..he said i don want to talk..i don feel like talking..i tried to reason out..he said dat m trying to lure him into meeting me and talking to me..WTH!!!..i tld him are u a kid dat u r getting lured..ofcourse u have a mind of ur own..he startd blabbering stupid stuff aftr dat.i ws like fine if u dont want to tell me wat it is then let it be coz m already putting hell lot of efforts in dis..n i don buy this reason of urs..in the end i tld him god bless u..

PS: i also calld him a coward coz u cant accept things fr wat dey are and try to run from them..

Libras are sweet. Love them. My sister is one.

But...

In the realms of communication, this is where the scales tend to be less 'objective' and more dogmatic. Quite pushy to be precise. He's not 'you'...and you're not 'him.' Remember that. I had this conversation with my sister several times, not every individual has your 'gift' for communication. You can't coerce someone into opening up because you feel that it should be done, right away, on your terms. As the previous poster asserted before, open communication with a Bull takes time.

If he's in a funky mood. Let him be. Give him time and space to sort it out. Libras communicate and vent their feelings out. Bulls internalize, process, assess the situation and find solutions. Because we're pre-dispositioned to be 'emotional rocks' and not 'whiners,' sometimes opening up can be quite a challenge for us.

Note:
Just because he's not communicating, it doesn't mean he's a coward & running away from his problems.

OMG.. librangirl09, Libra's can't handle taurus. really.

Your guy is not in a good mood. please respect whenever you can encounter again another taurus.

Bull are really slow movers... we can't control them. The only thing we can have is to practice

our patience... but I am sure you will be fine soon. It just doesn't work out.

Scorpio have a long endurance when it comes to patience. We like things to put in order.

ok so now wat...
and yes i called him a coward coz of some other reason..he probably has his religious reason behind dis..

ok yea i agree..i need to take it easy..focusing on myself n my stuff nw..but do u think he'll come bak..?

Can some Taureans please help me out with my questions, I am sorry the story is so long but sheesh its been a roller coaster - https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/help-me-with-my-taurus-man-please-4980359/

c'mon guys i need ur inputs..pls advise..😢

The best thing to do is leave him alone, Taurus men want what they can't have. And if you are always available and always there for him, text back all the time, or even text him too much you could be coming off as too clingy. The best thing to do is leave him alone and give him space. Let him come to you!!! I am a Taurus woman and I dated a Libra male and he was WAY too clingy and once I started drifting away it became worse and he got too emotional. Hope everything works out! xx

Posted by xxbrittxxtay
The best thing to do is leave him alone, Taurus men want what they can't have. And if you are always available and always there for him, text back all the time, or even text him too much you could be coming off as too clingy. The best thing to do is leave him alone and give him space. Let him come to you!!! I am a Taurus woman and I dated a Libra male and he was WAY too clingy and once I started drifting away it became worse and he got too emotional. Hope everything works out! xx

Thanks..for ur advise..will surely follow it..🙂

i think i hav lost him..no contact from his side..its been more than 2 weeks now..😢

I've been in and out with a Taurus for 3 years.

It took our third year for him to call me "babygirl" and for him to tell me he missed me. Until this day, we are not official or exclusive (we had a fallout recently, so we're definitely nothing) - but before when I'd ask him about us being an actual couple, he'd say he had too much on his plate. As an Aries, I am not patient, but because I honestly care for him, I've learned the value of patience. My Taurus has came around, after observing the fact that I've given him space. In 2012, we broke up at the beginning for February, he did not come around until November. I never expected him to come back. But he did and reopened every thing I felt for him.

Be patient.

@aire47: thank u so much for ur advise but as u must have seen my last posts..we have had many fits and the last one was really bad..but hope dat it works exactly in d same way as it fr u..loads of luv..

Posted by librangirl09
@aire47: thank u so much for ur advise but as u must have seen my last posts..we have had many fits and the last one was really bad..but hope dat it works exactly in d same way as it fr u..loads of luv..

Just be positive and prepare yourself for any possible outcome.

@aire47: Yea i will..🙂

ok guys..we are again on talking terms..what happened was: a week ago, i dropped by his office, he ws surprised..i asked him to lets just start over again..then we chatted a bit and i left..it was all fine, infact fantastic..after 2 days he messaged me "hey"..i replied him d next day..lol..he said "it took u 24 hours to reply bak"..so nywys, m trying to it real slow, dis tym..
m i doing it ryt..?

I can't comment on if you're doing it right but what you are doing is writing incorrectly for no reason.

'Dis tym'

Why not just write 'this time'?

'M I doing it ryt'

Why miss out the letters 'igh' and replace them for a 'y'?

I've always found it takes so much effort to undo 10 to 15 years of good education in order to intentionally write words incorrectly.

I really do not know why people do this. It's not even a sign of intelligence level. It's just irritating. It takes two to three times as long to read and understand what someone is saying.

Anyway, just let it flow with him. Regardless of star sign, girls get so impatient so just relax and let him come to you as he has done. Don't be so 'heavy' and just enjoy what you have now and see where it goes. :-)

thanks..🙂

He's feeling you out. Let him contact you.

Posted by librangirl09
i think i hav lost him..no contact from his side..its been more than 2 weeks now..😢

Two weeks is nothing for a Taurus! Just pretend he does not even exist. Don't stress about it, or focus on what he's doing. You have to pick yourself up and move on, and if he comes back then great if not oh well! As a Taurus we always like to test the water with people and if we don't see a potential relationship we will drift away, nothing against you, that's just how we are. Sometimes we go months/years without talking to people. Don't take it personal. My advice is move on, because it seems he has already...

Posted by xxbrittxxtay

Posted by librangirl09
i think i hav lost him..no contact from his side..its been more than 2 weeks now..😢

Two weeks is nothing for a Taurus! Just pretend he does not even exist. Don't stress about it, or focus on what he's doing. You have to pick yourself up and move on, and if he comes back then great if not oh well! As a Taurus we always like to test the water with people and if we don't see a potential relationship we will drift away, nothing against you, that's just how we are. Sometimes we go months/years without talking to people. Don't take it personal. My advice is move on, because it seems he has already...

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Sweety dat was long ago and lot of things happened after that..now we are again talking and m trying to take things slow dis time..lets c where it goes now..

things dat he never said before like "why are you wearing this, where are you going, etc", are coming up now..and hes too direct in whatever he wants to say without thinking how will i feel..but before he was not like this..but I'm taking all dis in a positive sense and I'm just replying to everything dat he says in a normal way without getting angry..Is he testing me?

i just wanted to say thanks to everyone for posting this board and in particular this thread.

i'm a libran seeing a taurus man. i'm not really one for horoscopes but after reading these boards, the likeness is uncanny (both for me and him)! i can relate to what librangirl is feeling (kind of). however i am trying my best to be patient. one of the only things that makes is easier is gaining a better understanding his (your) perception of things. (even if this leads to the charge that i am over-analyising, over thinking and complicating matters more than they should be!)

TaurusBull, your words particularly struck a chord with me. thank you very much.

in the meantime, i'll keep reading your words and keep trying to understand him.

Posted by aire47
I've been in and out with a Taurus for 3 years.

It took our third year for him to call me "babygirl" and for him to tell me he missed me. Until this day, we are not official or exclusive (we had a fallout recently, so we're definitely nothing) - but before when I'd ask him about us being an actual couple, he'd say he had too much on his plate. As an Aries, I am not patient, but because I honestly care for him, I've learned the value of patience. My Taurus has came around, after observing the fact that I've given him space. In 2012, we broke up at the beginning for February, he did not come around until November. I never expected him to come back. But he did and reopened every thing I felt for him.

Be patient.

Thank you so much..so yes, it happened..he initiated contact, made an effort to pick me up from my frns place and dropped me home, got me flowers, sang songs for me, etc etc (i still cant believe it)..
Its like a dream right now but yeah, ill be careful and wont push or be clingy..
But thanks for advising me to be patient..

Love and Hugs..:*