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@Boots1313
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Taurus and I just got into the biggest fight and idc...
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@jeane I feel you would have some wise advice for me here...
Posted by Impulsv
Mmmm why do you expect him to buy your tires?
Or to take it to the shop
It’ll can do that on ur own
Like I said I would have done with on my own but he was talking a big game that he wants to do it for me, and doesnt want me getting bamboozled.
"I know a guy, I want to help you". He insisted and insisted. Last week I even said "hey I'm just going to so this on Monday becasue I sont wanna die" and he said "I'll do it for you this weekend".
Well it's this weekend and like I said on my post, I didnt do it put of principle.
And tbh, I'm a baby ahab I have to do things like that, I completely breakdown and unravel. I need my hand held, and he knows this about me.
But shit, this is my life ...tires are important
Posted by Impulsv
I mean if you were single You’d do it
why does it change just cuz u have bf
That’s stuff you can take care urself
Just saying
Lol, I wouldnt do it if I was single...🤣🤣
Great assumption.
I'm not independent. I'd have mommy do it for me and end up spending too much money and getting ripped off
Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
i hear you that would drive me mad, but i also would just get it done and not worry about his a $ $
that's how you make someone feel guilty
do it, and be like oh i don't need you to do it for me
cut his dick metaphoricallyclick to expand
That's what I said to him "I'm just doing it myself on monday... hope I dont get hurt before then"...suddenly it was "I'm coming now" to which I said "dont bother..." he showed up anyway.
But why do I need to take it to that level to get him to so that?? Its maddening
Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-MambaPosted by Boots1313Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
i hear you that would drive me mad, but i also would just get it done and not worry about his a $ $
that's how you make someone feel guilty
do it, and be like oh i don't need you to do it for me
cut his dick metaphorically
That's what I said to him "I'm just doing it myself on monday... hope I dont get hurt before then"...suddenly it was "I'm coming now" to which I said "dont bother..." he showed up anyway.
But why do I need to take it to that level to get him to so that?? Its maddening
Then don't.
If you want to be with him and you sense he is unreliable. Rely on yourself.
Otherwise get with another man, maybe a Virgo
click to expand
Virgo's yuck.
Mah I'm sticking with him. But yeah I just cant ask him to help me.
Even of he offers I'm just going to say "nah"
Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Taurus learn by behavior so stop being so damn reliable n o I’ve never beyond for him
He will get it lolclick to expand
I said that to him and myself.
I'm just not going to do those "nice little things anymore"
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Taurus learn by behavior so stop being so damn reliable n Go above n beyond for him
He will get it lolclick to expand
It's in my nature tho. I'm very caring, so its hard
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by tiziani
I think what you're saying is
You feel like you showed your hand to him, by opening up about the dependency thing
And you wonder if he's using that as an ego boost by leaving you hanging
Is that it or I'm off?
A small part of it.
A bigger part would be I feel I do alot for him without being asked. Even when I'm tried and dont "feel like it" I'm there always. I'm super reliable.
But alsoninjust dontnlike when people dont do as they say of course there are been other smaller insignificant instances of this, but not worth getting mad over.
Taurus learn by behavior so stop being so damn reliable n Go above n beyond for him
He will get it lol
It's in my nature tho. I'm very caring, so its hard
Lol well know it’s not in his nature to be thoughtfulclick to expand
Yeah I'm realizing that
Well he called me after dropping off my car and apologized. He said he is lazy and selfish and can be unreliable. He appreciates all the things I so for him and hea going to try harder to just do things when he says or offers. I told him I'm going to be more independent and he said "no, I want to be there for you".
I'm still going to mostly rely on myself unless its necessary, moving forward
I'm still going to mostly rely on myself unless its necessary, moving forward
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
Well he called me after dropping off my car and apologized. He said he is lazy and selfish and can be unreliable. He appreciates all the things I so for him and hea going to try harder to just do things when he says or offers. I told him I'm going to be more independent and he said "no, I want to be there for you".
I'm still going to mostly rely on myself unless its necessary, moving forward
Sorry to hear about the fight. I don’t think you were being unreasonable if he offered to do it for you. You’re right though that you should rely on yourself and if he does extra things for you then it’s a bonus.click to expand
Usually I realize when I'm being unrealistic or unreasonable and this time I knew I had a leg to stand on.
It's a learning expiernece and o guess personal growth/relationship growth.
Posted by 7s
Insightful thread. Thanks.
Lol your welcome.
Out of curiosity how did it give you insight?
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
Posted by Boots1313Posted by Impulsv
Mmmm why do you expect him to buy your tires?
Or to take it to the shop
It’ll can do that on ur own
Like I said I would have done with on my own but he was talking a big game that he wants to do it for me, and doesnt want me getting bamboozled.
"I know a guy, I want to help you". He insisted and insisted. Last week I even said "hey I'm just going to so this on Monday becasue I sont wanna die" and he said "I'll do it for you this weekend".
Well it's this weekend and like I said on my post, I didnt do it put of principle.
And tbh, I'm a baby ahab I have to do things like that, I completely breakdown and unravel. I need my hand held, and he knows this about me.
But shit, this is my life ...tires are importantclick to expand
Yes... i know guys like these who want to pretend to step up and actually prevent you of taking care of yourself. You end up relying on them and they keep disappointing.
It's hard to get out of this cycle tbh... because they constantly "want to do it for you" but then don't.
there's a point where you do it without even bringing it up to them.
SMH....
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by Boots1313Posted by Impulsv
Mmmm why do you expect him to buy your tires?
Or to take it to the shop
It’ll can do that on ur own
Like I said I would have done with on my own but he was talking a big game that he wants to do it for me, and doesnt want me getting bamboozled.
"I know a guy, I want to help you". He insisted and insisted. Last week I even said "hey I'm just going to so this on Monday becasue I sont wanna die" and he said "I'll do it for you this weekend".
Well it's this weekend and like I said on my post, I didnt do it put of principle.
And tbh, I'm a baby ahab I have to do things like that, I completely breakdown and unravel. I need my hand held, and he knows this about me.
But shit, this is my life ...tires are important
Yes... i know guys like these who want to pretend to step up and actually prevent you of taking care of yourself. You end up relying on them and they keep disappointing.
It's hard to get out of this cycle tbh... because they constantly "want to do it for you" but then don't.
there's a point where you do it without even bringing it up to them.
SMH....click to expand
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.click to expand
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.click to expand
hehe who you trying to fool, chief?
Tauruses hate living up to anyone's standards even if they themselves initiated the standard. With Taurus, they behave the best when it's completely unexpected. Then they feel like a hero but if there's been any words uttered it most likely won't happen. They might do it begrudgingly.
Tauruses not like that...have serious fire elements.
What are your placements, if you don't mind sharing?
Posted by Impulsv
I read the most successful relationships are the ones where there are no gender role expectations.
Good to hear you’re going to work on being a little more independent
Taurus' or at least I and my guy are a little more traditional. He likes to be a man and I like the domestic role.
But it is 2018 so I guess it has to give a bit
i've speed read through the thread and personally? yeah i've faced this.
i don't know if it is typical taurus but my guy has said to me that he would do things and then just not had the time/not been on his mind/forgotten. it can be frustrating.
my advice? it's going to unpopular, i know. take some time to calm down then apologise.
yeah i know, what are you apologising for? you did nothing wrong. sometimes an apology is necessary if only to get things moving again. at the moment you're annoyed, disappointed, feel like you've been let down. all valid feelings.
but deep down, you love this guy. you want a future with him and come on, you like doing the little things. keep doing them. don't be petty.
this is a problem that need to be discussed and worked out.
first things first - fix your own tyres. your safety is paramount. it's not hard to do. look what size you need. ring around for the best price and make sure they are new and not re-tread. if it costs you more than his friend - who cares? not important.
next, when you are calm, apologise for the blow out. then start talking it through. listen to him and his reasons for not coming though. explain to him what you need and then work out a plan for the next time it happens - whatever you both can negotiate is a workable solution.
if you are going to be together long term, something like this IS going to come up again. it's not important what it is, it's important how you deal with it.
for me? well, i'll ask him when it's convenient for him, if he is not available, i sort myself like i would have done in the first place. i think it infuriates him that i can be independent sometimes but hey, that's just me.
if i've read this correctly, you don't feel confident enough to sort it out yourself? when then i would hazard a guess that you are partly upset with yourself too - for being reliant on someone who can be unreliable. that's something you can fix today. you don't need to wait.
i don't know if it is typical taurus but my guy has said to me that he would do things and then just not had the time/not been on his mind/forgotten. it can be frustrating.
my advice? it's going to unpopular, i know. take some time to calm down then apologise.
yeah i know, what are you apologising for? you did nothing wrong. sometimes an apology is necessary if only to get things moving again. at the moment you're annoyed, disappointed, feel like you've been let down. all valid feelings.
but deep down, you love this guy. you want a future with him and come on, you like doing the little things. keep doing them. don't be petty.
this is a problem that need to be discussed and worked out.
first things first - fix your own tyres. your safety is paramount. it's not hard to do. look what size you need. ring around for the best price and make sure they are new and not re-tread. if it costs you more than his friend - who cares? not important.
next, when you are calm, apologise for the blow out. then start talking it through. listen to him and his reasons for not coming though. explain to him what you need and then work out a plan for the next time it happens - whatever you both can negotiate is a workable solution.
if you are going to be together long term, something like this IS going to come up again. it's not important what it is, it's important how you deal with it.
for me? well, i'll ask him when it's convenient for him, if he is not available, i sort myself like i would have done in the first place. i think it infuriates him that i can be independent sometimes but hey, that's just me.
if i've read this correctly, you don't feel confident enough to sort it out yourself? when then i would hazard a guess that you are partly upset with yourself too - for being reliant on someone who can be unreliable. that's something you can fix today. you don't need to wait.
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?click to expand
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
Posted by -MadHatter-
This isnt a taurus thing... this is a guy thing.. I have an aqua friend who lives in a half built house with his wife and 3 kids...... for the last 10 years.. he'll get to it... eventually.... keep the faith.
Lol tha k you for that. That makes me feel a lot better.
So I'll a) do more for myself b) not expect instant results...shit I cant even expect things in a rational time frame
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.click to expand
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time thoclick to expand
Lol...for real? Wow
Posted by 7sPosted by FknMeowPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
My dad wasnt there for my mom when she had me lol. He waited in the waiting room. True story.
is it "bad" if you don't want to be in the room?click to expand
Oh I don't need him in the room. Just there somehwere in the hospital. Even if hes playing video games on his phone or something (no I'm not pregnant)
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?click to expand
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
Posted by KoniPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
Wow, that is longclick to expand
Honestly until I have a ring on my finger I probably wouldnt get comfortable. I've been fooled before...I spent 5 years with someone and no committment. After we broke up he got engaged to the next girl 8 months in...
See this is what happens when you dont feed your cat.
I should have known then....
I should have known then....
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.click to expand
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Posted by Boots1313
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
I get where you're coming from, and his behavior would irritate the heck out of me, as well.
That said, do things on your own if the future if you wish, but do them because you enjoy being more self-reliant, not because you want to spite him (which is the overall sentiment I'm sensing from your tone) or hold it against him later. Passive aggression rarely affects relationships in a positive manner.
Posted by FleshpotPosted by Boots1313
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
I get where you're coming from, and his behavior would irritate the heck out of me, as well.
That said, do things on your own if the future if you wish, but do them because you enjoy being more self-reliant, not because you want to spite him (which is the overall sentiment I'm sensing from your tone) or hold it against him later. Passive aggression rarely affects relationships in a positive manner.click to expand
It's not so much in spite, it's in dred. Om extremely bad at doing my own things. I cry setting appointments, I break down at even making a phone call to my grandparents. I'm awful at "adulting " but heck I'm 30...I need to do these things. So I would be doing it for personal growth even tho, no I dont want to.
Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by 7sPosted by Boots1313Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Boots1313
@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...click to expand
ohh
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@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.click to expand
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
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@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
how is that the worst placement? can you expand please?click to expand
According to dxp in some other sources it is the cheating placement and the placement of non commitment, wandering eyes flirtations
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@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
how is that the worst placement? can you expand please?
According to dxp in some other sources it is the cheating placement and the placement of non commitment, wandering eyes flirtations
according to you tho?click to expand
I've never had problems committing. I'm just saying that's the stereotype.
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@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
how is that the worst placement? can you expand please?
According to dxp in some other sources it is the cheating placement and the placement of non commitment, wandering eyes flirtations
according to you tho?click to expand
I've never had problems committing. I'm just saying that's the stereotype.
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@anothertaurusguyreturns is this typical Taurus behavior in a relationship?
Or is it a general lack of committment to doing things/selfishness?
I don’t think it’s typical. Just seems he didn’t follow through this time. The Taurus-like element was being stubborn and insisting he would do it even when it seemed like he wouldn’t.
I have to admit this isnt the first circumstance where he hasnt followed up. Happens in all aspects of his life. Even his own shit. Laundry. Shopping. Dishes, etc...
But this was the first sort of signifsnt thing that made me question the sustainability of the relationship in the long run
really? Long run? You think that far ahead just cause of that?
Lol yes, like I said not the first instance this has happened. And I keep saying "will he be there if I get in a wreck? I'm pushing out his baby?" The unrealibikity is super important to me.
I'll like to think he'll be there in both situations. All this just sound like he's really comfortable in the relationship.
Comfort has its pros and cons. Were only 7 months in....he shouldn't be THAT comfortable
7 months is a long time tho
Lol...for real? Wow
what's a long time to you?
I think you can start getting comfortable after 2 years. A long time is 5 years +
The longest ive been with someone was a year. She remembers it different tho. She says 18 months to 2 years. I have to wrap my head around being with someone for 5yrs plus. I can do it.
I have always had LTR...on average 2 years. And i thought that was a short amount of time.
Whata your sign?
Gemini...
ohh
don't judge me too hard now lol. Its not even my sun sign... it's some other aspect of my chart. Am astrologer told mr.I can definitely commit, it just takes me a while. High standards.
I'm not judging I got Venus in Gemini that's like the worst place when you can have terms of committing. But I will say it I most Gemini's I know do you have very high standards and they don't really last long and relationships however I had seen more getting married recently
omg you are so judging me hard. You even stopped spell checking.click to expand
Oh darling I never spell check
I’ve always been pretty independent, but after being with a Taurus male, I became even more so. The funny thing is he hated it after I really stopped relying on him for anything! 😂😂🤷🏼♀️ I had to beg for little things to get done around the house, it was so annoying. He did it on his own time, his own way. He dragged his feet the more I asked. Taurus women seem to know how to handle Taurus males pretty well though. I’m sure you’ll figure it out.
For me, I’m with someone else, different sign, and it’s so weird to be like, “hey can you do, insert whatever, for me?” And it’s done that day or the next. 😳 I feel lazy now. 😂
For me, I’m with someone else, different sign, and it’s so weird to be like, “hey can you do, insert whatever, for me?” And it’s done that day or the next. 😳 I feel lazy now. 😂
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Boots1313Posted by FleshpotPosted by Boots1313
Yeah moving forward if I chose to stay in this that's what I'm going to need to do.
Just do it without saying anything.
Knowing him he will be butt hurt I didnt ask, but oh well. I gave you your chance hunny.
I get where you're coming from, and his behavior would irritate the heck out of me, as well.
That said, do things on your own if the future if you wish, but do them because you enjoy being more self-reliant, not because you want to spite him (which is the overall sentiment I'm sensing from your tone) or hold it against him later. Passive aggression rarely affects relationships in a positive manner.
It's not so much in spite, it's in dred. Om extremely bad at doing my own things. I cry setting appointments, I break down at even making a phone call to my grandparents. I'm awful at "adulting " but heck I'm 30...I need to do these things. So I would be doing it for personal growth even tho, no I dont want to.
Then you’re just playing at being in an adult relationship.Don’t get in a relationship and have kids imagine you can’t even call and make appointments for your kids dental appointments. Cute not cute
anylise too how ready you are at being reliable partner too.
That’s real life! Your going to be bog down with responsibilities in a marriage
click to expand
Thanks for the reality check. Like I dont think about those things....
Posted by Jade_Alexander
Do you have problems with anxiety? Mine would manifest that way... paying bills, making phone calls, normal stuff was a struggle.
Yes extreme anxiety. ..oddly I can do those tasks when its work related but personal things. It just overwhelms me.
Posted by PostHumanPosted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
A less handsome but more filled out meclick to expand
Pica or it didnt happen
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I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Lol I was saying that to myself for 7 months, but in realizing that being handsome doesnt cut it sometimes.
I need reliability and someone who does something when they say they will...
i hear you that would drive me mad, but i also would just get it done and not worry about his a $ $
that's how you make someone feel guilty
do it, and be like oh i don't need you to do it for me
cut his dick metaphorically
That's what I said to him "I'm just doing it myself on monday... hope I dont get hurt before then"...suddenly it was "I'm coming now" to which I said "dont bother..." he showed up anyway.
But why do I need to take it to that level to get him to so that?? Its maddening
Then don't.
If you want to be with him and you sense he is unreliable. Rely on yourself.
Otherwise get with another man, maybe a Virgo
Virgo's yuck.
Mah I'm sticking with him. But yeah I just cant ask him to help me.
Even of he offers I'm just going to say "nah"click to expand
Fights are good imo
Relationships make you complacent.
Relationships make you complacent.
Posted by JanMayMarryPosted by LadyNeptune
Fights are good imo
Relationships make you complacent.
Says an Aries moon. 😝click to expand
IKR
Posted by Black-Mamba
I can't take you seriously, because he's just so good looking. Why would you leave that?
Why are you so superficial?
A man has to be a man.
Get to work...
Or make your own damn bacon & eggs!
Get to work...
Or make your own damn bacon & eggs!
Next time he says he's gonna do something, try giving him a deadline.. without actually giving him a deadline, lol. Take into account his schedule, your schedule, and the necessity of the task then set a "due by" date in your mind.
For instance (assuming he offered to fix your tires several weeks ago):
You: "Ugh.. I need to get new tires.. mine are completely bald!"
Him: "I'll take care of it for you. I know a guy. Let me handle it."
You: "OMG that would be so helpful! I have to move the first weekend of November and I was really scared of transporting all my stuff across town with my tires how they are. Thank you so much for taking care of that for Me."
Then, if he doesn't have them fixed before the first weekend in November, fix them yourself. If he gets pissed or asks why, remind him that you appreciate his offer but you really needed them fixed by the time you moved.
For instance (assuming he offered to fix your tires several weeks ago):
You: "Ugh.. I need to get new tires.. mine are completely bald!"
Him: "I'll take care of it for you. I know a guy. Let me handle it."
You: "OMG that would be so helpful! I have to move the first weekend of November and I was really scared of transporting all my stuff across town with my tires how they are. Thank you so much for taking care of that for Me."
Then, if he doesn't have them fixed before the first weekend in November, fix them yourself. If he gets pissed or asks why, remind him that you appreciate his offer but you really needed them fixed by the time you moved.
Then again, I'm perpetually single so maybe that isn't good advice. Idk.
Posted by HeartofTopazz
Do it yourself, take it to the shop, or find a new man who can.
So many options lol
Also she could get a blue wig
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