I have always had Taurus friends and we get on fine...I also have a Taurus daughter and we dont really get on at all. To me she is very hypocritical, to the point where I have to point out exactly what she is saying/doing but she will never understand and is very closed minded...maybe it's just a mother daughter thing and I've learnt to live with it and say what I need to and let it go!
But one girlfriend lately has been nit-picking at me...I thought maybe we were seeing too much of each other because she moved down to the coast from the city to be around more action during the weekends and because she moved into a tiny place I would invite her around once or twice a week for dinner or wine....after her move we made more friends and I always arrange outings with all the girls or have them all over to mine. Anyway...lately when we have been going out by the end of the night she will pick an arguement over the stupidest thing
ie: At a wedding I came back to the table to find they had cleared my wine glass and so I complained that they shouldn't have...She said you were up at the dance floor for over half an hour and I said no I wasnt, I have just come back from the toilet and was up there for about 5 mins. To which she then tried to get people on-side to tell me I had been gone for over half an hour, she made an issue about it to prove me wrong!!!!! (She was sober driver)
Another time we were at a club (I was sober driver) it was closing and I was waiting for her and a friend to start walking downstairs, about 3 times I went back and forth and ended up walking down with someone else because he had lost his ride and was pretty drunk. When she got down she yelled, you could have told us you were going out...we were looking for you!!! I looked at her and said "Dont start!" and then walked away. I was starting to notice a pattern with her attacks, generally at the end of the night and for no real reason because I thought we were all having fun!!
Anywho, my question is...how should I handle this? As I said they are pathetic attacks and I feel for no good reason and I wont stand back and do nothing anymore and tend to bite back, but I want to remain friends. I just dont want to have to put up with a bad ending to a good night! Lately i just havent included her in all of our outings.
Should I just hit her up with it straight and ask why or if she even realises she is doing this? Some Taurean imput would be great.
Oh yeah I'm a Libra and have no problems with my other Taurean gf's but then i dont spend as much time with them! Are Taureans jealous people? My daugher is very jealous...but I thought it was the number one child thing going on there...
I don't listen to my mother either (well I do, but I just don' t let her know until much later)! LOL! I think that is just a mother daughter thing. I don't have the typical jealousy thing that apparently (I'm just learning) most Taurus do; however, I've had situations with a couple of my close friends, and they just call me out on it. Usually it's a 50/50 thing because 50% of the time they are right, and the other 50% (imo) they are wrong. I may not take it very well at first blush, but I am a reasonable person, so once I have a chance to digest and think about what they've said, then I get back to them about it, and we talk it through. I'm a pretty cut & dry person, and that doesn't always sit well with people. I now ask my friends this question when they want information from me about something that they pretty much know what I'm going to say. I'll ask them, "Do you want me to sugar coat it, or do you want me to just tell it like it is?" That gives them the choice for which delivery method I will use. Now, if it's just general shooting the ish type of things, and we are hanging out, I'm pretty mellow and make people laugh, and generally don't take myself too seriously. Perhaps you two need to have a convo and just "clear the air."
btw, one of my closest cousins when I was growing up was a Libra, and we would butt heads because as we all know Librans can tend to want things to be balanced and even. I'm not that way, so we would constantly have physical fights about things because we both would be stubborn in our convictions and neither would want to budge. But, we were family and kids, so we just beat the crap outta' one another, and then it would be water under the bridge (for her) I do tend to hold a grudge; which was another bone of contention w/her, because she could go from 0-60 in 2 seconds, but it takes me awhile to get mad, but once I do, it's not pretty. She would yell at me to "JUST LET IT GO ALREADY!" LOL, ahhh, memories!
Yeah I thought it was just a mother/daugher thing and i've lernt to say what I want to say and then let it go.
As for my friend, yes we butt heads on a few things and that's all good as everyone has their own opinions. We normally discuss and almost argue and neither will really take in the others opinion because we are both right of course...but the pettiness when we are out having fun has to stop or I will exclude her from our outings when I'm initiating which is 90% of the time!
Any thoughts as to why she acts like this? It's only with me and sometimes it's like she is mothering me...I always mix and mingle but it's not as if I am doing anything to be mothered about so I feel it must be that for some reason I've irritated her...idk
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But one girlfriend lately has been nit-picking at me...I thought maybe we were seeing too much of each other because she moved down to the coast from the city to be around more action during the weekends and because she moved into a tiny place I would invite her around once or twice a week for dinner or wine....after her move we made more friends and I always arrange outings with all the girls or have them all over to mine. Anyway...lately when we have been going out by the end of the night she will pick an arguement over the stupidest thing
ie: At a wedding I came back to the table to find they had cleared my wine glass and so I complained that they shouldn't have...She said you were up at the dance floor for over half an hour and I said no I wasnt, I have just come back from the toilet and was up there for about 5 mins. To which she then tried to get people on-side to tell me I had been gone for over half an hour, she made an issue about it to prove me wrong!!!!! (She was sober driver)
Another time we were at a club (I was sober driver) it was closing and I was waiting for her and a friend to start walking downstairs, about 3 times I went back and forth and ended up walking down with someone else because he had lost his ride and was pretty drunk. When she got down she yelled, you could have told us you were going out...we were looking for you!!! I looked at her and said "Dont start!" and then walked away. I was starting to notice a pattern with her attacks, generally at the end of the night and for no real reason because I thought we were all having fun!!
Anywho, my question is...how should I handle this? As I said they are pathetic attacks and I feel for no good reason and I wont stand back and do nothing anymore and tend to bite back, but I want to remain friends. I just dont want to have to put up with a bad ending to a good night! Lately i just havent included her in all of our outings.
Should I just hit her up with it straight and ask why or if she even realises she is doing this? Some Taurean imput would be great.