taurus guys behaviour!!...

SOO recently been talking to a taurus guy, we've known each other for over a year now as we work together!! (not all the time but occasionally). He admitted that hes liked me for ages well ever since I started I guess but never told me..! and we've already slept together! the chemistry/magnetism/attraction between us is crazy! I've never felt like this before!
BUT It just feels like I'm always the one to text first? Do taurus guys like to do this and go off the radar for a bit? I haven't heard from him in a couple of days! but i know that when i text him first he'll be really keen to talk to me and carry on the convo etc. kinda like he wants to be chased? Whatever he is doing its driving me nuts!! opposites really do attract! he does seem interested though and i know he wants to see me but hes just taking his time? ahhhhhhh can any taurus guys out there relate to this in anyway?! or anyone thats been involved with a taurus guy—
I've seen they can be slow movers...which is SO annoying as i cant get him off my mind!!!

then i would say congratulations for hooking with a Taurean
you will get addicted to it 😄

yes ... most taurus dont initiate text messages
but when you both meet up ... the bull have the pleasure of touching

Why don't u Taurus guys initiate texts?!

Firstival join the club..🙂 i am a bull myself and also have this thing with a taurus guy. We work together as well(occasionally) too. We have not slept together but we had an amazing night together. Lots of affection from both sides!! We spent the first night cuddling in a small seat for 4 hours! ..(paradise) He never initiated contact with me either. I remember him saying he doesn't use his phone much! He doesn't even have a laptop!!!! He's so plane and simple. He looks Georgeous and perfect from the outside but I often find him wear comfortable clothings' and live a simple life! Typical stubborn headed. Bull!!! At least you are a scorpion so you have the nerve to contact him first ! It is exhausting ! I often wonder if he likes me he should contact me or ask me out again!!??!?? I am also too stubborn and it took me a few hours to write him a text the other day!!! 😢 its been over 3 months since our last session .. We both just came out of our exs so I better take it slowwwwwwwwwwwww.. Good luck! We have not had sex by the way.

I just don't understand the whole "initiate texting" thing. If you have something to say, text him. Why does he need to initiate anything? You guys have slept together. If you want to talk to him, just reach out. He's probably content, getting back into his daily routine, savoring/stretching the memory of the good time you had together. He has no idea you are stressing it so much. We operate on a different timeline. Aren't you playing games if you'd like to talk to him, but you are not reaching out - instead you are just sitting there waiting to see if he'll text you first? Seems like a game to me. If I have a burning desire to communicate, I will. I won't wait around for them to initiate, assuming they should want to communicate with me. Bulls are passive, ruled by Venus (the principle of attraction) and we're a bit spoiled by her, and thus don't usually have to initiate anything in courtship; we're also often preoccupied with something productive. Scorps are co-ruled by Mars, planet of assertiveness and aggression. So go ahead and initiate a text. Bulls are a bit different and you should put aside traditional gender roles.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
@tauruslovescorpio
How about geminis?

How bout em?

Posted by BikerCh1ck
You talked only about scorpios. I am in a similar situation with a taurus.
However, mine was pursuing me a lot 3 years ago and we had kissed. He disappeared and I started dating someone else. And because I did not want to cheat I let it go.
Now the relationship is over with the other guy. He says he is attracted to me. I am the one that always initiates conversations and if I leave it he won;t initiate.
I tried to remove him and he told me not to take it personally that he is not initiating. That he is busy so I had to add him back because I felt bad about removing him. And he initiated there and then a conversation.
Now he again doesn't do a move.
How long is he going to be like that? What on earth geminis should do about it? scorpios should chase.. geminis?

Not sure how good of a match Taurus and Gemini is, as I've mostly read that neighboring signs have very little in common (and it seems pretty obvious with these two signs), buuuuut....

Remove him? Is this some sort of Facebook relationship? I'm 35 yrs old so I'm not hip to all the strange web-based socializing you youngsters are doing. I think bulls are just too lazy for that shit. If you want to be in his life, hang out with him. I'm big on written and verbal communication as my Venus/Gem and Mercury/3rd house, but there was a texting thread here a while ago and I think the consensus amongst bulls was that we're not that into it. Hell, look at our board. This thing has slowed to a crawl. We average like 4 posts a day and 75% of those are by other signs.

Anyway, yeah....tell him you want to hang out and see how he responds....If he's too busy to spend time with you, I'd just let it go....

soultalk: That's fine, but even if one did put aside the gender role and initiated and pursued, what response should one expect from a bull in that case? How is bull going to respond to being pursued—?

>>>Erm um.....well it would probably depend on who is doing the pursuing.

soultalk: Tell tell, because all we are getting is bulls won't initiate, bulls take it slow. So how would you respond to someone showing interest?

>>>If a girl asks me out and I'm not interested, I just make up an excuse (usually loosely based on the truth) - I tell her I'm super busy, have a jealous girlfriend, etc. If I'm interested, I agree to hang. If I'm interested, but really am busy, I plan something for a time when I'm not busy. It is that simple.

soultalk: What steps will a bull take the to show interest in return??

>>>Well, for me....We'll hang and I'll listen to you, try to understand you, show interest in the things you're passionate about. I'll share my life story, beliefs, passion, etc. and listen to yours basically. I'll try to see how/if we're compatible. I don't really jump into any of the heavy flirtation/sexual stuff for a long time, as, if we're not compatible, I don't want to complicate things, get more attached to you than I need to, have you get more attached to me than you need to be, etc. So if things go well, we do it again in different contexts. We talk more on the phone, etc. If you find that we're talking til' late hours of the night on the phone, we're eating together a lot, just spending a ton of time in each other's presence, I probably like you, you've probably given it away that you like me, and eventually it'll just progress naturally into something more intimate.

Honestly BikerCh1ck, reading that thread, its hard to see what the attraction even is. You like long distance so you can get to know someone, and are looking for someone social/witty/stimulating. He is insecure/quiet and you can't get past small talk after several months? Seems like a bad match romantically.

Posted by BikerCh1ck
ever heard that opposites attract?

I think that's being a bit evasive. Are you really attracted to the fact that he doesnt seem to have the qualities you're looking for? Again, what is the attraction? Just trying to help u think it through....

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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by BikerCh1ck
ever heard that opposites attract?

I think that's being a bit evasive. Are you really attracted to the fact that he doesnt seem to have the qualities you're looking for? Again, what is the attraction? Just trying to help u think it through....

I am alright with his qualities. Only thing is, if I lead will he follow?
Usually they say that if men don't lead they are not interested. So I am insecure with that.
On the other hand I remember how much effort he was putting when we first met. That was when I was being insecure and didn't know what I wanted. Why is he not doing it now? Is it because of the distance?

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That is the hard part about initiating romantically. It involves risk. At least you know he was interested at one point, and showed concern when you removed him. Beyond that, you'll have to feel it out. Its rare for bulls to pursue in my experience so I wouldnt guage interest on that. Could be any # of reasons that stopped, one of which he gave you. When you are slowly building something solid with one though, it should be pretty obvious- especially if they consistently make time for you. Long distance is pretty hard for anyone I assume, maybe moreso for us as we're more physical/sense-oriented. I guess it would also depend on his other options and the strength of the bond with you.....

so i managed to see my taurus guy the other night for a bit! but i texted him last night asking if he wanted to do something with me again soon and he replied with 'like what..?' so i said i dont mind i just want to see you. and after that no reply from him at all? have i hit a nerve by asking that? ha I know it can depend on the person aswell but feel like ive done something wrong here.. any ideas?

Haha yeah very true.. i have just been thinking that i must look desperate.. probably hence the no reply from him! embarassing!! ahhhhhhh how can i save this!! i feel awkward now he hasn't replied! Tbh i'd quite like to just chill out with him and get to know him better, maybe watch a film, order some food.. does that sound boring though?
i hate being a scorpio sometimes!!!! too possessive over guys i like argh
im always doubting myself thinking that he wont want to but i know im just being stupid!
thanks for the advice, very much appreciate it!!

Yeah thats a good point, I better get back to texting him again then haha! hope he hasn't gone off me overnight after that boring text i sent him haha!! ah hopefully all goes well, fingers crossed!

U know what! I'm going through the same think with my Taurus guy. I feel like I initiate more and it bugs me. I'm cool with the space but I need to feel I'm not??_forgettable! I just figure he's not very chatty/introverted. He surprised me and called me to let me know he was going out of town and would like to see me when I get back. It was sweet. I sent him a pic of a pretty place while he was away and he said he —wished he was there with me?? . He's liked some stuff I posted on FB, but I know he's back, and he hasn't contacted me. I know that little stinker likes me though, and has for over a year. What gives!

I completely understand where you're coming from! ha they tend to just contact you out of nowhere and then disappear. Same with my taurus aswell, hes liked me for a year but yet now when hes got the chance he just seems distant! they definitely take their time thats for sure!!!

Okay. it's good to know I'm not alone in this boat. But also, I feel sorry other people have to go through this slow torture lol. I'm gonna keep it moving, if he makes his mind up he can come find me 😉