@boxcarmirnta
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Taurus hot and cold...?
Understanding Taurus Behavior in Relationships
Taurus individuals value loyalty and consistency but may withdraw if they feel overwhelmed or uncertain. Flakiness can sometimes reflect their need for reassurance or their cautious approach to new connections. Clear communication and patience often help in understanding their actions and building trust.
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the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae.
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. F
We just started hanging out..and he just moved here soooo i have a hard time believing he has someone else.....unless it's someone from 2000 miles away..
Posted by Nevamore
How long do you him?
Not long at all...just a couple weeks or something..i don't really expect much at this point..
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. R
Also i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. RAlso i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
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Maybe your attraction is high towards him and his attraction is low towards you.
Posted by Nevamore
How long do you him?Not long at all...just a couple weeks or something..i don't really expect much at this point..
Then why jumps into the huge assumption and all so high expectation of him if you only knowing him for couple of weeks?
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i don't recall having high expectations... My question why would someone be super consistent and then NOT be. That is the mystery...
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?
haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. RAlso i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
Maybe your attraction is high towards him and his attraction is low towards you.
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that could be but it doesnt answer my question........the sudden change......?
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. RAlso i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
Maybe your attraction is high towards him and his attraction is low towards you.
that could be but it doesnt answer my question........the sudden change......?
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attraction level changes at any time, you could be unattracted to him all of the sudden too.
Posted by Nevamore
How long do you him?Not long at all...just a couple weeks or something..i don't really expect much at this point..
Then why jumps into the huge assumption and all so high expectation of him if you only knowing him for couple of weeks?
i don't recall having high expectations... My question why would someone be super consistent and then NOT be. That is the mystery...
Then something happened to that date that you think it went great but for him is different.
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hm wish i knew what it was...? I guess if we ever hang out again i can ask him..
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. RAlso i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
Maybe your attraction is high towards him and his attraction is low towards you.
that could be but it doesnt answer my question........the sudden change......?
attraction level changes at any time, you could be unattracted to him all of the sudden too.
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yea i guess thats fair.....
Dating seems rather pointless then..haha
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
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thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. RAlso i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
Maybe your attraction is high towards him and his attraction is low towards you.
that could be but it doesnt answer my question........the sudden change......?
attraction level changes at any time, you could be unattracted to him all of the sudden too.
yea i guess thats fair.....
Dating seems rather pointless then..haha
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I date a few girls in a month just to see which combination works, I would think it's helpful to know what I don't like and not like and what I can tolerate or not, so dating is dope for me.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....😢
you deserve better
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
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disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
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i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
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already eh? No second chances? 🙂
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
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agreed, you're right.. He couldve very easily responded. Inconsistent, intermittent care is not cool with me.
Posted by AntiSocial
the only reason I would do this behavior is cause you're my side bae. RAlso i don't believe in 'side' anythings..non monogamy is fine....i even made it clear to him that if he had something else that i hope it worked out...(like i said) cuz we barely know eachother and dating others is fine with me. And he said no....
Maybe your attraction is high towards him and his attraction is low towards you.
that could be but it doesnt answer my question........the sudden change......?
attraction level changes at any time, you could be unattracted to him all of the sudden too.
yea i guess thats fair.....
Dating seems rather pointless then..haha
I date a few girls in a month just to see which combination works, I would think it's helpful to know what I don't like and not like and what I can tolerate or not, so dating is dope for me.
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yea i guess. I mean i date several men at a time usually. But i am consistent with all of them, i respect them all and would never ghost them unless they are insane. It takes time to actual get to know someone ......cant rule them out in a couple weeks.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
already eh? No second chances? 🙂
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use your intuition
the fact that your already posting on here about this dude this early in the game is a red flag.
he showed disinterest already pretty clearly
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
agreed, you're right.. He couldve very easily responded. Inconsistent, intermittent care is not cool with me.
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fine line between being mysterious / hard to get and being a tool lol
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
I do get that. I’m just answering from a Taurus perspective where you can sometimes be “not in the mood” to talk with someone. Doesn’t mean you don’t like them or respect them.
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text message response is not the same thing as a phone convo
plus the taureans i know are straight forward they would say don't feel like talking right now
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
already eh? No second chances? 🙂
use your intuition
the fact that your already posting on here about this dude this early in the game is a red flag.
he showed disinterest already pretty clearly
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yea i will..honestly, i was bored and havent been on here in a while ..i kinda missed dxp....why i dunno....thats the main reason i posted. I was curious about tauruses in general just cuz i don't have much experience.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
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Yah, he honestly respectfully said "sometimes he doesn't respond." People help you if they got some sort of interest, unless she said to him that she's dumb and don't understand comprehend that he just said sometimes he don't respond then she agrees to tolerate that behavior, or better yet she should just tell him I don't like it when you don't respond duhh.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
I do get that. I’m just answering from a Taurus perspective where you can sometimes be “not in the mood” to talk with someone. Doesn’t mean you don’t like them or respect them.
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i don't have much experience with you guys..are you moody? Do you need time alone and stuff? I know pisces do..
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
I do get that. I’m just answering from a Taurus perspective where you can sometimes be “not in the mood” to talk with someone. Doesn’t mean you don’t like them or respect them.
i don't have much experience with you guys..are you moody? Do you need time alone and stuff? I know pisces do..
Yeah, not ‘moody’ as such but yes need alone time and time to process thoughts and feelings. That’s why I always tell people on here not to worry about a couple of days of not hearing from a Taurus man.
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good to know, thanks!
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....
for a minute I thought this was a post of mine from when I started dating my Taurus.
yes, they can be really flakey. they are lazy people, like to be home, comfortable, sitting position and if they don't want to do something, then they wont do it. also they sleep a lot. love there sleep.
they also aren't really good with phones. they have one track minds. they focus on what's in front of them until they are done. my boyfriend would text me and then go ghost for the rest of the day while he was working, or home and just leave me hanging in text thred he started lol I have learned to not really wait around for his texts, if its really important I have learned to just call him which he usually will answer to.
I don't know. does he know you like him? he might be wanting some type of reassurance from you that your into him. my Taurus did this with me, has no idea how much reassurance these Taurus need. they are so him there head but stone faced and hard to read.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....
for a minute I thought this was a post of mine from when I started dating my Taurus.
yes, they can be really flakey. they are lazy people, like to be home, comfortable, sitting position and if they don't want to do something, then they wont do it. also they sleep a lot. love there sleep.
they also aren't really good with phones. they have one track minds. they focus on what's in front of them until they are done. my boyfriend would text me and then go ghost for the rest of the day while he was working, or home and just leave me hanging in text thread he started lol I have learned to not really wait around for his texts, if its really important I have learned to just call him which he usually will answer to.
I don't know. does he know you like him? he might be wanting some type of reassurance from you that your into him. my Taurus did this with me, has no idea how much reassurance these Taurus need. they are so him there head but stone faced and hard to read.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....
If a taurus is into you, they won't flake. Something happened on his end, whether it be you were doing too much or something came up that he had to attend to or he's seeing others, regardless, it doesn't sound good.
Let's be real here, what dude would oversleep if he really liked a girl? I just don't see how that's a good thing at all. I sure as hell wouldn't over sleep if I knew I had plans with someone I really liked y'know?
I say you should stop chasing, do your own thing and move on. If he is interested, he'll reach out, but even so, proceed with caution.
my gut feeling is something happened that turned him off...possibly on one of your dates but perhaps even something beyond your control.
i was on the receiving end of some flakiness at the start but he also came back apologetic. the hot cold state didn't last long and then he was consistent going forward.
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....
for a minute I thought this was a post of mine from when I started dating my Taurus.
yes, they can be really flakey. they are lazy people, like to be home, comfortable, sitting position and if they don't want to do something, then they wont do it. also they sleep a lot. love there sleep.
they also aren't really good with phones. they have one track minds. they focus on what's in front of them until they are done. my boyfriend would text me and then go ghost for the rest of the day while he was working, or home and just leave me hanging in text thred he started lol I have learned to not really wait around for his texts, if its really important I have learned to just call him which he usually will answer to.
I don't know. does he know you like him? he might be wanting some type of reassurance from you that your into him. my Taurus did this with me, has no idea how much reassurance these Taurus need. they are so him there head but stone faced and hard to read. click to expand
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great answer dude thanks! Well i am consistent so...i think he knows?! Ill just keep doing that .
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
I do get that. I’m just answering from a Taurus perspective where you can sometimes be “not in the mood” to talk with someone. Doesn’t mean you don’t like them or respect them.
i don't have much experience with you guys..are you moody? Do you need time alone and stuff? I know pisces do.. click to expand
Yeah. Moody. All Earth signs are I think. If you know Earth signs well we have our "to ourselves" moods then we have our social moods. We can be more loners than other signs though especially as adults. There is work and trying to do things and so on we need our peace and quiet...also I think what a lot of people dont get is its kind of how we pace ourselves. Too much of something...we arent the types to go the "burnout" route. A lot of it can actually be to conserve and actually for the longevity of it. So i think those are parts of the "easing off" Tauruses do. Tortoises of the zodiac. Going full speed all the time is how the rabbit loses. click to expand
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awesome good to know!
Posted by boxcarmirnta
Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....
If a taurus is into you, they won't flake. Something happened on his end, whether it be you were doing too much or something came up that he had to attend to or he's seeing others, regardless, it doesn't sound good.
Let's be real here, what dude would oversleep if he really liked a girl? I just don't see how that's a good thing at all. I sure as hell wouldn't over sleep if I knew I had plans with someone I really liked y'know?
I say you should stop chasing, do your own thing and move on. If he is interested, he'll reach out, but even so, proceed with caution. click to expand
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he is writing me again now...i didnt mention he gets up reeeeeaaally early for work like ungodly early, and falls asleep very early..i assume that is what happened...
Posted by jeane
my gut feeling is something happened that turned him off...possibly on one of your dates but perhaps even something beyond your control.i was on the receiving end of some flakiness at the start but he also came back apologetic. the hot cold state didn't last long and then he was consistent going forward.
well that sounds promising......shrug..
Posted by jeane
my gut feeling is something happened that turned him off...possibly on one of your dates but perhaps even something beyond your control.i was on the receiving end of some flakiness at the start but he also came back apologetic. the hot cold state didn't last long and then he was consistent going forward.
well that sounds promising......shrug.. click to expand
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just play it by ear. i would remain sceptical but also willing to see how it plays out. he might be full of shit or he might be just moving at a slower pace.
the whole "sometimes i don't respond" would raise an eyebrow from me but maybe you can stamp that out in time.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
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Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
I do get that. I’m just answering from a Taurus perspective where you can sometimes be “not in the mood” to talk with someone. Doesn’t mean you don’t like them or respect them.
i don't have much experience with you guys..are you moody? Do you need time alone and stuff? I know pisces do.. click to expand
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Moody or not, it all comes back to you feeling secure about yourself. Unless you understand that if someone shows insecurities early on the dating game is a big red flag for either one, meaning if someone lose composure if one doesn't respond asap when you want them to is a bit controlling and telling of things to come in a relationship . It's not really needing space or alone time either, more or less communicating your needs no matter what it is, but this is way too early for that, and in his shoes he doesn't know you that well it seems like.
Posted by jeane
my gut feeling is something happened that turned him off...possibly on one of your dates but perhaps even something beyond your control.i was on the receiving end of some flakiness at the start but he also came back apologetic. the hot cold state didn't last long and then he was consistent going forward.
well that sounds promising......shrug.. click to expand
just play it by ear. i would remain sceptical but also willing to see how it plays out. he might be full of shit or he might be just moving at a slower pace.
the whole "sometimes i don't respond" would raise an eyebrow from me but maybe you can stamp that out in time. click to expand
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agreed! Turns out its all true. And the guy's a total sweetheart..just spent his bday together...it was really nice.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Anything happen on the date that might have put him off? Did you say you'd had 700 previous boyfriends?haha! Nope...we made plans and talked normally after..then things got weird...shrug?
Give it a few days and contact him again. He may just be trying to work out how you feel about him. However, if you get the impression after that that he is jerking you around then cut him loose.
thanks for the actual advice! I agree.
disagree
move on now
this guy has already struck out imho
I get where you’re coming from but I usually give people one chance. They can be having an off day, family problems or whatever.
i think she did via text
the "sometimes i don't respond" line signals a no go for me.
people don't respond when they are playing games
or not that into you
if there is stuff going on he would have said...not to just excuse himself but to let her know that he is still interested
it's a respect thing.
I do get that. I’m just answering from a Taurus perspective where you can sometimes be “not in the mood” to talk with someone. Doesn’t mean you don’t like them or respect them.
i don't have much experience with you guys..are you moody? Do you need time alone and stuff? I know pisces do.. click to expand
Moody or not, it all comes back to you feeling secure about yourself. Unless you understand that if someone shows insecurities early on the dating game is a big red flag for either one, meaning if someone lose composure if one doesn't respond asap when you want them to is a bit controlling and telling of things to come in a relationship . It's not really needing space or alone time either, more or less communicating your needs no matter what it is, but this is way too early for that, and in his shoes he doesn't know you that well it seems like. click to expand
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definitely...i hear all that.. We actually just had a great time together and i understand him better now, hes the complete opposite of who i thought he was. Hes a total sweetheart. And acts just like they say taureans act ...hope it lasts!
Well...after all this he does it AGAIN. we've had endless amazing awesome fun times...seriously. hes shared so much with me..telling me he wants something serious, not just sex...making plans with me to a certain extent. Everything was going perfect. Hes so sweet and thoughtful, and REAL. We talk about everything and are totally honest. Dream like. And POOF. Havent heard from him in 3 days . After every day contact. may not ever...wtf is UP? WE EVEN TALKED ABOUT GHOSTING and how it was awful. Is he just a full on player?!?!?
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!
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Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
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IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM!
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
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i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears......
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
click to expand
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears...... click to expand
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it sounds like he is dealing with something else. how much do you know about the rest of his life?
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
click to expand
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears...... click to expand
it sounds like he is dealing with something else. how much do you know about the rest of his life? click to expand
click to expand
i know a decent amount..i feel like if something was going he would tell me, but maybe not. I just feel his words and actions arent matching up. He wants to be serious with someone but acts like he's messing around.."shrug* he finally wrote me and i told him inconsistency wasnt for me....no response (shocker).
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
click to expand
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears...... click to expand
it sounds like he is dealing with something else. how much do you know about the rest of his life? click to expand
i know a decent amount..i feel like if something was going he would tell me, but maybe not. I just feel his words and actions arent matching up. He wants to be serious with someone but acts like he's messing around.."shrug* he finally wrote me and i told him inconsistency wasnt for me....no response (shocker). click to expand
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did he tell you why he didn't respond?
my best advice is to tell you how i would handle something like this with my partner.
a) i would first find out if everything ok. my first instinct would be to worry that something has happened.
b) next i would explain to him that i was worried about him.
c) he would likely explain the reason for the silence which i would listen to and accept as his perspective on the situation.
d) i would tell him that leaving me hanging after talking every day makes me feel insecure and a bit foolish.
e) ask him not to do that in future and if he needs a few days space just to shoot me a quick text and i won't worry.
f) not talk about it anymore (unless he wants to) as it's now forgotten and you can get onto more interesting matters.
the golden rule in this instance for me is always "seek first to understand then to be understood". in future if it happens again because i have listened to how he perceives the situation, i would be less likely to have the same reaction as the first time because i would be seeing it through his eyes.
obvs. you deal it with it the best way you feel but that is how i would treat this situation.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
click to expand
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears...... click to expand
it sounds like he is dealing with something else. how much do you know about the rest of his life? click to expand
i know a decent amount..i feel like if something was going he would tell me, but maybe not. I just feel his words and actions arent matching up. He wants to be serious with someone but acts like he's messing around.."shrug* he finally wrote me and i told him inconsistency wasnt for me....no response (shocker). click to expand
did he tell you why he didn't respond?
my best advice is to tell you how i would handle something like this with my partner.
a) i would first find out if everything ok. my first instinct would be to worry that something has happened.
b) next i would explain to him that i was worried about him.
c) he would likely explain the reason for the silence which i would listen to and accept as his perspective on the situation.
d) i would tell him that leaving me hanging after talking every day makes me feel insecure and a bit foolish.
e) ask him not to do that in future and if he needs a few days space just to shoot me a quick text and i won't worry.
f) not talk about it anymore (unless he wants to) as it's now forgotten and you can get onto more interesting matters.
the golden rule in this instance for me is always "seek first to understand then to be understood". in future if it happens again because i have listened to how he perceives the situation, i would be less likely to have the same reaction as the first time because i would be seeing it through his eyes.
obvs. you deal it with it the best way you feel but that is how i would treat this situation. click to expand
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wow! You obviously know this situation well ! Haha...i don't feel so alone now..i think that is all good advice. When i just start dating someone though, i do assume theyre messing around cuz i just don't know em well. Also ive worried over them ' being hurt' or something wrong only to find out theyre just inconsiderate dicks. Makes me feel stupid to even ask at this point. Reassurance is important. I guess i need to know him better. He didnt tell me why he ignored me and hasnt responded, so i assume i won't hear from him again, just like i assumed before. I don't like being in that position. I don't wanna worry i wanna know he'll always respond. Consistent communication is very important. I guess if i ever hear back from him we can talk about it. Thanks for the advice!
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
click to expand
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears...... click to expand
it sounds like he is dealing with something else. how much do you know about the rest of his life? click to expand
i know a decent amount..i feel like if something was going he would tell me, but maybe not. I just feel his words and actions arent matching up. He wants to be serious with someone but acts like he's messing around.."shrug* he finally wrote me and i told him inconsistency wasnt for me....no response (shocker). click to expand
did he tell you why he didn't respond?
my best advice is to tell you how i would handle something like this with my partner.
a) i would first find out if everything ok. my first instinct would be to worry that something has happened.
b) next i would explain to him that i was worried about him.
c) he would likely explain the reason for the silence which i would listen to and accept as his perspective on the situation.
d) i would tell him that leaving me hanging after talking every day makes me feel insecure and a bit foolish.
e) ask him not to do that in future and if he needs a few days space just to shoot me a quick text and i won't worry.
f) not talk about it anymore (unless he wants to) as it's now forgotten and you can get onto more interesting matters.
the golden rule in this instance for me is always "seek first to understand then to be understood". in future if it happens again because i have listened to how he perceives the situation, i would be less likely to have the same reaction as the first time because i would be seeing it through his eyes.
obvs. you deal it with it the best way you feel but that is how i would treat this situation. click to expand
wow! You obviously know this situation well ! Haha...i don't feel so alone now..i think that is all good advice. When i just start dating someone though, i do assume theyre messing around cuz i just don't know em well. Also ive worried over them ' being hurt' or something wrong only to find out theyre just inconsiderate dicks. Makes me feel stupid to even ask at this point. Reassurance is important. I guess i need to know him better. He didnt tell me why he ignored me and hasnt responded, so i assume i won't hear from him again, just like i assumed before. I don't like being in that position. I don't wanna worry i wanna know he'll always respond. Consistent communication is very important. I guess if i ever hear back from him we can talk about it. Thanks for the advice! click to expand
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yeah, that's fair enough. it's a jungle out there in the dating world. it's a natural reaction to go for that assumption. 9 times out of 10 you're going to be right. the problem is 1 time out of 10 you're going to be wrong.
it's a balancing act where you can't be stupid but you also have to give things a chance before you shut it down.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Posted by boxcarmirnta
@AnotherTaurusGuyReturns i need your input!I’d just chill and wait for him to come to you. 3 days is nothing, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore or anything.
If you’re not happy tell him you need more communication. If he doesn’t change the rest is up to you. click to expand
IF he comes back...he goes from actually calling me several times a day...to nothing..it feels like a pretty big change. Consistency is very important to me...if he DOES come back..i will tell him its totally unacceptable to leave me hanging for days..then its up to HIM! click to expand
i agree with atgr. 3 days isn't very long. it's just something you need to talk about it.
but also these guys don't change quickly. if this is his pattern you have to be patient when trying to nudge him in another way. it takes a bit of time to form a new habit.
i suppose it depends how important it is to hear from him everyday at this stage is to you. is this the price of admission?
click to expand
good to know, thank you. Every day doesnt matter to me...but having my txt just sit there hanging for 3 days..feels really weird to me. It def seems like a pattern...he just disappears...... click to expand
it sounds like he is dealing with something else. how much do you know about the rest of his life? click to expand
i know a decent amount..i feel like if something was going he would tell me, but maybe not. I just feel his words and actions arent matching up. He wants to be serious with someone but acts like he's messing around.."shrug* he finally wrote me and i told him inconsistency wasnt for me....no response (shocker). click to expand
did he tell you why he didn't respond?
my best advice is to tell you how i would handle something like this with my partner.
a) i would first find out if everything ok. my first instinct would be to worry that something has happened.
b) next i would explain to him that i was worried about him.
c) he would likely explain the reason for the silence which i would listen to and accept as his perspective on the situation.
d) i would tell him that leaving me hanging after talking every day makes me feel insecure and a bit foolish.
e) ask him not to do that in future and if he needs a few days space just to shoot me a quick text and i won't worry.
f) not talk about it anymore (unless he wants to) as it's now forgotten and you can get onto more interesting matters.
the golden rule in this instance for me is always "seek first to understand then to be understood". in future if it happens again because i have listened to how he perceives the situation, i would be less likely to have the same reaction as the first time because i would be seeing it through his eyes.
obvs. you deal it with it the best way you feel but that is how i would treat this situation. click to expand
wow! You obviously know this situation well ! Haha...i don't feel so alone now..i think that is all good advice. When i just start dating someone though, i do assume theyre messing around cuz i just don't know em well. Also ive worried over them ' being hurt' or something wrong only to find out theyre just inconsiderate dicks. Makes me feel stupid to even ask at this point. Reassurance is important. I guess i need to know him better. He didnt tell me why he ignored me and hasnt responded, so i assume i won't hear from him again, just like i assumed before. I don't like being in that position. I don't wanna worry i wanna know he'll always respond. Consistent communication is very important. I guess if i ever hear back from him we can talk about it. Thanks for the advice! click to expand
I read your whole thread and wow you're so much like me, and this is highly relatable to how one of my ex Taurus best friend and I was, just have to switch the genders here. click to expand
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really wow?! Care to explain? Also ex does not sound promising 😢
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Think this is my first post on the taurus board. Yay! Ive read you guys are loyal and consistent..which is amazing . Met this guy irl, which never happens. Got along great, made plans (around food) we both moved back to a town around the same time and are excited to check stuff out. We had two great dates and planned more. Hes just been super awesome, txting, making me feel special and needed, just really nice and genuine....but then, he flaked on our plans. Stood me up. Said he fell asleep, i didnt believe him cuz well ive dated a lot of liars and garbage as some of you know..( also assumed hes seeing other people too cuz, new in town, why not?)
I made a joke, wasnt mad or anything ...kept trying to talk to him.. But he started ignoring me. Finally i said :well dunno why you arent talking to me anymore but hope it works out for you! (trying to be nice) he responds the next day with : yea no nothing..sometimes i just don't respond....
Ok wtf?? Is this normal?? Does it sound like BS? Cuz it kinda does to me.....be nice, please. Also its his bday soon, we had plans now not so sure.....he'll prolly flake again....😢