Taurus man and Valentine's Day smh

Ok I have had a 2 year "thing" with this Taurus man. I have made posts about him in the past. I've tried unsuccessfully to move on from him because I want more than he is willing to offer me right now. I decided to accept our friendship (more like fwb) the way it is but not put my life on hold.

He continues to tell me he loves and needs me. We never had the kind of relationship where we give gifts on special occasions. The other day we were talking and I asked him to get me something for Vday so I could feel special for once. He kinda laughed and I told him I was serious. That was friday. We were supposed to hook up after the SuperBowl, no call or text. That's unusual for him. I texted him Sat to confirm and he never answered. Im confused...I must have finally turned him off lol. What do you think?

If you have to pressure someone to make you feel special, that's a sign that it's dead. Do you really want something from someone you know you nagged to get you that?

If any of my friends asked me to make them feel special for a day I wouldnt hesitate. Guess we are not progressing as friends either. You're right, I shouldnt have to ask him though.

Girl no, you're not progressing as friends. No such thing if he didn't start as an extremely close friend of yours.

I was a retard for a long time thinking my Taurus and I were friends.

I dont think he's gone for good, but if you asked him to make you feel special for once, and he still doesn't get you anything, then that will really hurt your feelings...just preparing you now.

Posted by miimii
Ok I have had a 2 year "thing" with this Taurus man. I have made posts about him in the past. I've tried unsuccessfully to move on from him because I want more than he is willing to offer me right now. I decided to accept our friendship (more like fwb) the way it is but not put my life on hold.

He continues to tell me he loves and needs me. We never had the kind of relationship where we give gifts on special occasions. The other day we were talking and I asked him to get me something for Vday so I could feel special for once. He kinda laughed and I told him I was serious. That was friday. We were supposed to hook up after the SuperBowl, no call or text. That's unusual for him. I texted him Sat to confirm and he never answered. Im confused...I must have finally turned him off lol. What do you think?

yes you turned him off. It sounds you're a demanding type of person. The pushy one... don't demand. just relax
and tale it easy. taurus are not robots. they know how to treat their lady right if you deserve it.

Posted by AriesLady8
He's not gone for good. He will be back. He probably will be back after Valentine's Day tho. Im about to be really honest with you and it is not to hurt you. If a woman were to come along that fit what he wants in a woman, he would explore that and if it turned out to be what he was looking for he would be with her. I think he might be leading you on. He feels something for you but I don't think its enough. Taurus men love sex and they love comfortable sex with someone they are comfortable with. Im sorry for being blunt. Just trying to help. I was with a Taurus man for 9 years off and on

He might not leave for good. One thing I am sure of .. you are just for sex. sorry to say.

I had a taurus ex - who said his ex is just for SEX. He didn't leave her. He always F*u*c*k*i*n*g her in the bed and use her for his immorality and she didn't understand. She's a fool, I know.

Posted by AriesLady8
He's not gone for good. He will be back. He probably will be back after Valentine's Day tho. Im about to be really honest with you and it is not to hurt you. If a woman were to come along that fit what he wants in a woman, he would explore that and if it turned out to be what he was looking for he would be with her. I think he might be leading you on. He feels something for you but I don't think its enough. Taurus men love sex and they love comfortable sex with someone they are comfortable with. Im sorry for being blunt. Just trying to help. I was with a Taurus man for 9 years off and on

You were not in the relationship. You are in f*u*c*k*i*n*g war zone. really.

Whatever sign the man is... no excuse for 9 yrs and not marrying a lady. What happened? where is honour?

Posted by AriesLady8
I agree. If you have love feelings for him then you should leave this man alone for good because you will only end up loving him more and more. If you're fine with just sex then no worries

until the woman realized her worth.

Posted by AriesLady8
Wait you're confusing me! lol This thread isn't about me... Im trying to give honest advice. Im only 28...

yes.. and I doubt how could you give the first advice..you failed it to yourself.There should be pre caution.

arieslady8,

Taurus men are very difficult people. once you let them in and use you. they will do. they won't tell you.
their action says it so.

Posted by miimii
Ok I have had a 2 year "thing" with this Taurus man. I have made posts about him in the past. I've tried unsuccessfully to move on from him because I want more than he is willing to offer me right now. I decided to accept our friendship (more like fwb) the way it is but not put my life on hold.

He continues to tell me he loves and needs me. We never had the kind of relationship where we give gifts on special occasions. The other day we were talking and I asked him to get me something for Vday so I could feel special for once. He kinda laughed and I told him I was serious. That was friday. We were supposed to hook up after the SuperBowl, no call or text. That's unusual for him. I texted him Sat to confirm and he never answered. Im confused...I must have finally turned him off lol. What do you think?

I hate when woman waiting a man. The world is different now. Don't be clingy. Move fast for you to survive.
Dealing a taurus man is not easy. Woman should know her worth. Know her goals. Know her standard that she
is not a man chaser but man chase her.

Posted by MoonArtist
If you have to pressure someone to make you feel special, that's a sign that it's dead.

This..

Imo, earth sign men are so tricky. If one is capable of using a woman just for sex then its not like he's going to turn into "marriage material" overnight himself, and if he does he's faking, and the truth will eventually come out. Ive seen this happen more than once.

Some women pride themselves on having a ring, but if the guy had a past of using a woman your standards wont matter much for long, imo, because he never had any. Im just saying.

A woman will think she changed a guy when thats hardly ever the case, especially not with an earth sign man. His past and how he's treated women will always tell the most.

Everyone knows their limits. What they can handle and when enough is enough.

yes you turned him off. It sounds you're a demanding type of person. The pushy one... don't demand. just relax
and tale it easy. taurus are not robots. they know how to treat their lady right if you deserve it.



Actually I'm not very demanding at all. I've accepted the fact that he probably wont leave me alone until he finds someone he wants to be with. I have NOT stopped my life nor am I im love with him. I just feel after everything we been through, he could at least do something special for a change as a friend.

Posted by miimii

yes you turned him off. It sounds you're a demanding type of person. The pushy one... don't demand. just relax
and tale it easy. taurus are not robots. they know how to treat their lady right if you deserve it.

Actually I'm not very demanding at all. I've accepted the fact that he probably wont leave me alone until he finds someone he wants to be with. I have NOT stopped my life nor am I im love with him. I just feel after everything we been through, he could at least do something special for a change as a friend.

I don't see you as being demanding so I totally disagree with that statement. But I will say if there is no commitment, or you don't have the title as "girlfriend", you both have a FWB type of situation, then he doesn't have an obligation to get you anything or for that matter "make you feel special for once" as you stated. He views you as just that...a friend. There is a possibly that you may have turned him off and he will disappear until after V-Day for not wanting to feel pressured into doing something that he may not want to do. I'm not trying to be mean but just try to see it from another side that you're not in a relationship that is a bf/gf relationship with him. It's just sex and as we all know men can separate sex and emotions which is what a FWB type situation is. You're asking for him to do something that a boyfriend would do and from what you said, he technically isn't your bf. He's just a friend. Am I wrong?

Posted by AriesLady8
He's not gone for good. He will be back. He probably will be back after Valentine's Day tho. Im about to be really honest with you and it is not to hurt you. If a woman were to come along that fit what he wants in a woman, he would explore that and if it turned out to be what he was looking for he would be with her. I think he might be leading you on. He feels something for you but I don't think its enough. Taurus men love sex and they love comfortable sex with someone they are comfortable with. Im sorry for being blunt. Just trying to help. I was with a Taurus man for 9 years off and on

No no I totally understand. Im not the one for him and he is not the one for me. He is just so persistent when I try to leave him alone. I know that he will no longer call when he meets someone he's actually in love with. Im pretty much just waiting it out. He talks about us in the future tense because he feels he's not ready now but if we meant to be, we would probably know it by now. I thought he understood my wanting to receive a card or something on Vday. I was in a long relationship and didn't get gifts then so I thought it would be nice. I bought him a funny card nothing big...oh well

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Posted by AriesLady8
He's not gone for good. He will be back. He probably will be back after Valentine's Day tho. Im about to be really honest with you and it is not to hurt you. If a woman were to come along that fit what he wants in a woman, he would explore that and if it turned out to be what he was looking for he would be with her. I think he might be leading you on. He feels something for you but I don't think its enough. Taurus men love sex and they love comfortable sex with someone they are comfortable with. Im sorry for being blunt. Just trying to help. I was with a Taurus man for 9 years off and on

No no I totally understand. Im not the one for him and he is not the one for me. He is just so persistent when I try to leave him alone. I know that he will no longer call when he meets someone he's actually in love with. Im pretty much just waiting it out. He talks about us in the future tense because he feels he's not ready now but if we meant to be, we would probably know it by now. I thought he understood my wanting to receive a card or something on Vday. I was in a long relationship and didn't get gifts then so I thought it would be nice. I bought him a funny card nothing big...oh well

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Why wait it out? You should be out having fun dating other guys and if he comes around, then you decide if YOU want to give him your time or not. You're giving your power away to someone who is not putting in any effort. Keep your options open and don't expect anything from him. You can't make a man do anything that he doesn't want to and especially a bullheaded Bull! Lol.

A pair of leather chaps... Perhaps...

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Posted by miimii

Posted by AriesLady8
He's not gone for good. He will be back. He probably will be back after Valentine's Day tho. Im about to be really honest with you and it is not to hurt you. If a woman were to come along that fit what he wants in a woman, he would explore that and if it turned out to be what he was looking for he would be with her. I think he might be leading you on. He feels something for you but I don't think its enough. Taurus men love sex and they love comfortable sex with someone they are comfortable with. Im sorry for being blunt. Just trying to help. I was with a Taurus man for 9 years off and on

No no I totally understand. Im not the one for him and he is not the one for me. He is just so persistent when I try to leave him alone. I know that he will no longer call when he meets someone he's actually in love with. Im pretty much just waiting it out. He talks about us in the future tense because he feels he's not ready now but if we meant to be, we would probably know it by now. I thought he understood my wanting to receive a card or something on Vday. I was in a long relationship and didn't get gifts then so I thought it would be nice. I bought him a funny card nothing big...oh well

Why wait it out? You should be out having fun dating other guys and if he comes around, then you decide if YOU want to give him your time or not. You're giving your power away to someone who is not putting in any effort. Keep your options open and don't expect anything from him. You can't make a man do anything that he doesn't want to and especially a bullheaded Bull! Lol.

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By waiting it out I mean Im still living my life, dating other people but accepting his friendship the way it is until we meet the people we really want to be with.

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Posted by miimii

yes you turned him off. It sounds you're a demanding type of person. The pushy one... don't demand. just relax
and tale it easy. taurus are not robots. they know how to treat their lady right if you deserve it.

Actually I'm not very demanding at all. I've accepted the fact that he probably wont leave me alone until he finds someone he wants to be with. I have NOT stopped my life nor am I im love with him. I just feel after everything we been through, he could at least do something special for a change as a friend.

I don't see you as being demanding so I totally disagree with that statement. But I will say if there is no commitment, or you don't have the title as "girlfriend", you both have a FWB type of situation, then he doesn't have an obligation to get you anything or for that matter "make you feel special for once" as you stated. He views you as just that...a friend. There is a possibly that you may have turned him off and he will disappear until after V-Day for not wanting to feel pressured into doing something that he may not want to do. I'm not trying to be mean but just try to see it from another side that you're not in a relationship that is a bf/gf relationship with him. It's just sex and as we all know men can separate sex and emotions which is what a FWB type situation is. You're asking for him to do something that a boyfriend would do and from what you said, he technically isn't your bf. He's just a friend. Am I wrong?



He doesn't have to be my boyfriend to do something nice for me. Even your female friends will get a gift on Vday when they know you are single...no big deal.

Posted by GENERALIZOD
I THINK YOU SHOULD AT LEAST BUY A FWB SOME SMALL LEATHER GOODS FOR VALENTINES.

I agree something that pertains to our sex life. Leather or lace lol

Miimii my advice is to break away. You Are selling yourself short for what u truly want n deserve and to still carry hope of the ideal to be more than friends will tear u apart slowly. His actions are clear. He is still persistent about u not leaving not Bc he loves you but you are convienent to him. We love comfort zones so if we stick to what familiar until the next best thing comes. Free yourself from this torture or u will become very resentful at the end

Some of us (people) just aren't down with the consumerism holiday that is valentines day... I just do nice things for my man when I feel like it and vice versa. Maybe he just isn't into valentines day? Sorry, if I'm off here I only read the OP

Honestly, I just think its funny that all this time I've been trying to shake him and THIS turns out to be the deal breaker?

Posted by Honeybunniie
Miimii my advice is to break away. You Are selling yourself short for what u truly want n deserve and to still carry hope of the ideal to be more than friends will tear u apart slowly. His actions are clear. He is still persistent about u not leaving not Bc he loves you but you are convienent to him. We love comfort zones so if we stick to what familiar until the next best thing comes. Free yourself from this torture or u will become very resentful at the end

You're right. In the beginning I thought he was persistent because he had real feelings for me because my aries ex was never like that. But in time I learned that he would say anything to keep having sex with me but his actions outside of the bed weren't strong. He would make so many promises to do better but would go back to the same thing. All I wanted in the beginning was fwb after being out of a long relationship. That was 3 years ago...I need more of a companion.

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Posted by miimii

yes you turned him off. It sounds you're a demanding type of person. The pushy one... don't demand. just relax
and tale it easy. taurus are not robots. they know how to treat their lady right if you deserve it.

Actually I'm not very demanding at all. I've accepted the fact that he probably wont leave me alone until he finds someone he wants to be with. I have NOT stopped my life nor am I im love with him. I just feel after everything we been through, he could at least do something special for a change as a friend.

I don't see you as being demanding so I totally disagree with that statement. But I will say if there is no commitment, or you don't have the title as "girlfriend", you both have a FWB type of situation, then he doesn't have an obligation to get you anything or for that matter "make you feel special for once" as you stated. He views you as just that...a friend. There is a possibly that you may have turned him off and he will disappear until after V-Day for not wanting to feel pressured into doing something that he may not want to do. I'm not trying to be mean but just try to see it from another side that you're not in a relationship that is a bf/gf relationship with him. It's just sex and as we all know men can separate sex and emotions which is what a FWB type situation is. You're asking for him to do something that a boyfriend would do and from what you said, he technically isn't your bf. He's just a friend. Am I wrong?

He doesn't have to be my boyfriend to do something nice for me. Even your female friends will get a gift on Vday when they know you are single...no big deal.


Ok. Then I take it all back. That some women I guess in terms of getting female friends gifts for V-Day. I'm not one to do that but I was wrong so I wish you luck!

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Posted by Eris
A pair of leather chaps... Perhaps...

I WAS THINKING A PRADA WALLET BUT YES I GUESS LEATHER CHAPS WOULD DO FINE!

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I hear leather and automatically think of chaps...

Hm Taureans don't use people. I think we actually accept the fact that we are mature and naturally seductive people. Like Taurus people are not complicated seriously.

Hm I have Venus in Taurus. I can say I am alittle materialistic as a Taurus..You know deep down I don't care if you get me something or not. I am ok with or without gifts. I Can buy themselves. And I am not going to lie . I am picky with gifts.

I do gifts for the holidays or birthday though. But it's usually gift cards...

IAMAwine lover-What a minute are fucking saying if the guy doesn't ask you out within a time frame. You are automatically fwb? Lmao. Geezus..

Posted by miimii
Ok I have had a 2 year "thing" with this Taurus man. I have made posts about him in the past. I've tried unsuccessfully to move on from him because I want more than he is willing to offer me right now. I decided to accept our friendship (more like fwb) the way it is but not put my life on hold.

He continues to tell me he loves and needs me. We never had the kind of relationship where we give gifts on special occasions. The other day we were talking and I asked him to get me something for Vday so I could feel special for once. He kinda laughed and I told him I was serious. That was friday. We were supposed to hook up after the SuperBowl, no call or text. That's unusual for him. I texted him Sat to confirm and he never answered. Im confused...I must have finally turned him off lol. What do you think?

So let me get this straight... Because some shithead designed a day out of the year for couples to celebrate their so called love for each other, you feel you are entitled to something tangible because you let some douche hit it without staking claim to it? Interesting (Not really), I wish I could say this was surprising behavior but I have learned the human race as society in general is ever devolving on a whole.

Anomalous- what's your sun, moon and rising? Are you picky on gifts in general too? Do you think its a sign of affection that you give and receive gifts?

The Sun, and Moon are above, what's rising? I'm a Taurus, I keep it simple. LOL

I didn't even read this, but is this more woes of the FWB?

Posted by Eris
Some of us (people) just aren't down with the consumerism holiday that is valentines day... I just do nice things for my man when I feel like it and vice versa. Maybe he just isn't into valentines day? Sorry, if I'm off here I only read the OP

Exactly how I feel. I have to roll with it though for the sake of the Sag.

Typo I mean wait a minute are you fucking saying. We are automatically fwb with a guy by a certain time frame?

First Deacon, my question is huh? Where did I say by a certain time frame that means you're fwb's? She stated that it has been 2 years, did she not? Well I would think after 2 years and it was FWB's the entire time, how do you suppose to transition into having a girlfriend title after that? I didn't say anything about a guy having to ask after a certain amount of time I don't think but 2 years is enough time to decide, isn't it?

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Posted by Eris
Some of us (people) just aren't down with the consumerism holiday that is valentines day... I just do nice things for my man when I feel like it and vice versa. Maybe he just isn't into valentines day? Sorry, if I'm off here I only read the OP

Exactly how I feel. I have to roll with it though for the sake of the Sag.

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I'd roll with it too if that's what my partner wanted. I wouldn't buy them fancy gifts, though (even if requested). Cook their fave dinner, have a joint rolled, put on fave movie, massage, etc.

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Posted by Eris
Some of us (people) just aren't down with the consumerism holiday that is valentines day... I just do nice things for my man when I feel like it and vice versa. Maybe he just isn't into valentines day? Sorry, if I'm off here I only read the OP

Exactly how I feel. I have to roll with it though for the sake of the Sag.

I'd roll with it too if that's what my partner wanted. I wouldn't buy them fancy gifts, though (even if requested). Cook their fave dinner, have a joint rolled, put on fave movie, massage, etc.

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LOL, you!!! Stop speaking the Taurus love language!

I do fancy gifts once in a while though. I like to walk around in women's department stores; they smell nice. And I like to watch her try on clothes...I have better taste than she does so its fun to direct the whole thing...lol.

That might be why I've been with a taurus for four years (and it started out as FWB) lol.

I think my guy has better taste than me too... I love my casual plain clothing and he loves the bridesmaid dress I've worn once. I promised I would strut in it for him once the baby has been born. He's great at picking clothes for me I would never consider, but end up looking/feeling great in 🙂

And while discussing/looking at rings he picks the nicer/pricier ones. While I like the hundred dollar plain black bands, haha!

But he knows me well my birthday present was a tactical vest and a gun that looks like a tactical M16. Most expensive gift I've ever received.

Posted by Eris
That might be why I've been with a taurus for four years (and it started out as FWB) lol.

I think my guy has better taste than me too... I love my casual plain clothing and he loves the bridesmaid dress I've worn once. I promised I would strut in it for him once the baby has been born. He's great at picking clothes for me I would never consider, but end up looking/feeling great in 🙂

LOL, if you orchestrate Taurus heaven like that, I'm sure they would get addicted fast. You have to be careful and not create a monster though. I'd be requesting that weekly...lol. Same on the clothing. My Sag has changed her whole style up since she met me.

Posted by Eris
But he knows me well my birthday present was a tactical vest and a gun that looks like a tactical M16. Most expensive gift I've ever received.

This is SO FUNNY. The Scorp that I was interested in, she was all about her guns and her tactical gear. She had a tactical section on her Pinterest. Hahhahaha...what is wrong with you folks— Yeah, I spoil her when it comes to whatever. I think, with most things, if you buy higher-end, it looks/functions better, it lasts longer, you take better care of it, etc.

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That might be why I've been with a taurus for four years (and it started out as FWB) lol.

I think my guy has better taste than me too... I love my casual plain clothing and he loves the bridesmaid dress I've worn once. I promised I would strut in it for him once the baby has been born. He's great at picking clothes for me I would never consider, but end up looking/feeling great in 🙂

LOL, if you orchestrate Taurus heaven like that, I'm sure they would get addicted fast. You have to be careful and not create a monster though. I'd be requesting that weekly...lol. Same on the clothing. My Sag has changed her whole style up since she met me.

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He has an Aries moon, so the monster has already been there lol We also have learned that pushing one another doesn't work... It always backfires. Asking nicely and being patient works the best. My sag friend has been with a taurus for six months now and I can see the changes happening ... I'm so happy for her ... The taurus was just what she needed after being treated poorly.

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Posted by Eris
But he knows me well my birthday present was a tactical vest and a gun that looks like a tactical M16. Most expensive gift I've ever received.

This is SO FUNNY. The Scorp that I was interested in, she was all about her guns and her tactical gear. She had a tactical section on her Pinterest. Hahhahaha...what is wrong with you folks— Yeah, I spoil her when it comes to whatever. I think, with most things, if you buy higher-end, it looks/functions better, it lasts longer, you take better care of it, etc.

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Not sure what the attraction is with the tactical gear with her, but for me, if zombies come, I'm going to be having "fun". I agree with buying higher end stuff and it lasting longer, but can never seem to bring my cheap ass to fork out the dough. TM will, though! He had a bit of a hoarding and buying problem when we first got together.

Herm, my Sag was in a really bad relationship previously as well. The bar was set pretty low. All I have to do is exist. I just sit there on the couch and she stares at me, and tells me how amazing I am. LOL. I actually do like guns, and generally agree on the need for zombie apocalypse prep. Really easy to buy stuff like that in TX too. I'm just too lazy to go to the range a lot, to get out there and use it.

Apparently my Sag pal sits on TGs couch and stares at him too... If not prepping for zombies at least some kind of end of world type scenario... It feels silly not to..I used to live in TX . I miss it so much.

People here (canada) have a warped view on Texas and the rest of the states a lot of the time.