My Taurus and I (I am a Sagittarius) have been dating for a little over a year. He was a complete gentleman in the beginning but situations I brought on caused him to retreat to his cave of emotional protection. For the most part the relationship has moved passed that as he is not only still here but is still investing. The day after Thanksgiving was what I believed was a turn for the better. I felt like he finally had "decided" that I'm the one and was now going to be more open and love me freely without holding back. Some of the things he did was give me a gift, totally splurge on me for my birthday including a Guess purse, cooking me breakfast, and fixed all my cabinets in my apt (I love that about the Taurus man). He also began to be open again with compliments as well as adding gorgeous and beautiful to things he would say to me. I was completely and utterly in love and in Heaven for about two weeks. The day of my birthday I received many texts, calls, etc from people wishing me well, but nothing from him. I do know his mindset is that he already went all out the whole weekend so he didn't feel he needed to call and say it. I don't agree. My teenage daughter picked up on this so she text him mentioning it and he ended up calling me and saying Happy Birthday. I sent him a text later that night trying to be cute/sexual by saying "Aww, no birthday d*ck" I also said I was ok with it. He text back saying "Are you serious right now?" I ended up calling him to explain that I was ok with it and we got into a little but nothing too serious. I know in his mind he was thinking "damn after I all I did for her" and it wasn't like we didn't have sex at all, just not on my birthday. The next night I received flowers from my bff at my doorstep. I took a pic and sent it to him saying "look what I just found on my doorstep" He replied "wasn't me" I told him I know and that they were from my bff (he knows who she is). We ended up hooking up that night but that's when I noticed things were weird. He seemed closed again and on defense and he was making insecure comments all night. I stayed the night at his place and we had sex. That was Wednesday night. We communicated here and there but Friday night he text me saying "My bed smells like you". Even the night after that he text me again saying "My bed still smells like you. mmm good." This is when things really get weird. He sent that text at 4 in the morning so early Saturday. I didn't think anything of it and we communicated throughout the day. That night about 10:30 I text him reminding him about the dinner I was going to cook for him the next day as a thank you for picking up a coffee table for me. I was specific and said "Hey I was thinking about tomorrow and the girls and I are going to eat around 6ish. The best plan would be to pick up the table, and join us for the game and eat after. Let me know what you think." He replied saying "ok". I didn't hear from him until I called him at 2:30 when the game was about to start. He answered and seemed really spacey about everything. He said he was planning on watching the game at his place but would come over later to eat. I say spacey because everything I had already told him he was asking about which is not like him. I will say in his defense he was starting to get sick at this point. He ended up coming over and I don't know if it was because he was not feeling well but we got into a fight. It seemed as though we worked through it and I reached out to him the next day and again got attitude. Again maybe it was due to him not feeling well but he made some smart a $ $ comments. I did some thinking and thought perhaps he feels like he's not enough because of my reaction around my birthday. I told him sorry and that he's more than enough and mentioned I'm a work in progress. He said we all are. I sent him a pic of me smiling cause I guess I don't ever smile in my pics so I've been told lol and he came back saying that he made it my contact pic. Now, I could go on and on forever as this is the pattern. He is a complete gentleman and sweet and is putting in work and then he is a complete jerk insensitive and acts as though I am a burden to him. Its back and forth like this and is driving me crazy. It has gotten worse lately in the past couple of weeks. I don't understand why he is distant and acts like he can't stand me but then comes over to cook me & my kids dinner. Or he will act annoyed with me but then cook me breakfast. One thing I've really began to notice with him that it unusual is his lack of touch. The other night I stayed the night at his place and it seemed like every time I tried to cuddle with him he would change his position within 5 to 10 minutes whereas before he would actually initiate the cuddling. I'm very sad because I really do love him, but I keep feeling like he is not happy with me and I am not enough for him. I want to walk away because I just want him to be happy even if that means me not being in his life. The other part of me wants to stay because I feel like if I left I would be betraying him or abandoning him and I don't want to do that. I know he has never been loved unconditionally and I want to be the one woman that succeeds in doing that. I know this is alot to read but if anyone can help I would appreciate it!!
